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The Right Way To Give Her A Sex Toy

Sex toys can make an excellent gift for special occasions like anniversaries or for Valentine’s Day, but getting the right thing can be trickier than you originally anticipated. It’s easy to select something that your girl wouldn’t like, or even something that would upset her or offend her. This is even easier to do if you and your lover don’t communicate regularly about what she does and doesn’t like during sex.

However, you needn’t shy away from gifting your girl a sex toy all together, because if you choose something she really likes, it can be key to jump starting your sex life! Here’s how to choose a sex toy that your girl will like, and how to give it to her as a gift without upsetting her.

Pay Attention To What She Likes During Sex

Think about what your girl likes when you have sex with her. Think about what brings her to orgasm the fastest, or makes her go completely wild! Does she like a lot of clitoral stimulation to take her over the edge? Does she like a “full” feeling in her vagina? Does she like both clitoral and g-spot stimulation at the same time? Decoding what she wants during sex is going to be your biggest clue to selecting a sex toy that meets her needs and satisfies her desires. It will also let you know what to stay away from.

If she doesn’t reach orgasm very well with vaginal stimulation alone, getting her a sex toy that doesn’t stimulate the clitoris (and only stimulates the vagina) is a bad idea. This will tell her that you a) don’t pay attention to what she likes during sex and b) that all you really want to do is shove stuff inside her. So think about what she really, really enjoys during sex and go for a sex toy that stimulates that area of her body. If she totally digs nipple stimulation when she’s ready to climax, gift her with a sweet pair of nipple clamps or nipple vibrators – but don’t go for the crazy, BDSM looking ones.

Go For High Quality, “Luxury” Toys

When giving a sex toy as a gift, a cheap rubber toy from that one store in the mall is just going to disappoint her. That’s honestly something she could have gotten herself if she wanted it. Many of those toys are cheaply made and can actually cause allergic reactions and can even increase the risk of cervical cancer due to the materials the toys are made out of. Many of those toys are also designed as “gag gifts” – so giving her a toy like this can only be bad news.

Instead, shop for a high end, quality luxury toy either online or in your local adult store. This is one of those times that name brand actually matters – most “name brand” sex toy manufacturers (for example, LELO or Jimmy Jane) make their toys out of body safe silicone or hard plastic, and they not only feel great, they look incredible. They’re sleek, chic and totally high end – which will impress any woman. Take the time to select something really nice and damn the cost. She’s worth it!

No Dildos, Period

No matter how close you are with your partner, gifting her a dildo in the shape of another man’s penis is just awkward. Besides, dildos don’t do much of anything for a woman who likes clitoral stimulation (which is just about every woman to be perfectly frank). You might consider the solution to that is one of those clone-your-own-penis kits, where you make a rubber dildo using a mold of your own penis. This can be a fun novelty activity for both of you to do together, but it does not make a nice gift. No dildo makes a nice gift. So stay away from those, period!

Skip Anal Toys Unless You KNOW She Digs Anal Stimulation

Gifting a woman an anal sex toy without knowing for sure whether she’s into the anal action or not is a huge mistake. She’ll assume all you’re trying to do is get busy with her back door and she’ll be offended. It’s almost like if you give her a fishing pole for her birthday – she knows it’s not for her, it’s really for you. And that’s just plain insulting. To be safe, steer clear of any anal stimulation toys unless you’re totally sure she likes it and you’ve had success with it before.

If you do decide to get her something for her bum, make sure it’s something very pretty and very nice. A gorgeous glass plug (on the smaller side, thank you!) is okay, but a huge black thing is totally not okay. Think demure, sweet and sensual. Not nasty and hardcore. This should help lead you in the right direction if you’re sure an anal toy is the right way to go. If you’re not sure, don’t do it.

A Clitoral Vibe Is Almost Always Safe

If you’re not really sure what she likes during sex and you’re nervous about getting her something she’ll like, go for a clitoral vibrator. This type of sex toy is designed only to stimulate the clitoris and doesn’t go in the vagina – it’s a safe bet for almost any woman. The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s anatomy, and it often doesn’t get enough love during sex. Many women can only reach orgasm with clitoral stimulation! Giving her a clitoral vibrator as a gift says “I care about your pleasure more than my own. I really want you to feel good!” This is a toy she can use during sex with you, or on her own.

Select something high end and discreet, that looks nice. An excellent choice is the LELO Nea! You pretty much can’t mess up if you select a gorgeous, luxury clitoral vibrator. She’s almost guaranteed to love it.

Get Her Another Gift Also

Even if you’ve chosen a really nice, high quality sex toy to give to her as a gift, consider getting her another gift as well. While a super luxury sex toy is nice enough to be the gift, if you’re not sure how she’ll react, give her another gift as well. Don’t make the sex toy her only gift. Get her something that isn’t sex related, such as jewelry. You really can’t go wrong with jewelry. Chocolates (of the high end variety) are an excellent choice as well, as are gift certificates to her favorite restaurant, or a gift certificate for a full body massage or a pedicure.

Giving her something that you know she’ll like in addition to the sex toy gives you a buffer if she ends up being disappointed. If she likes the toy – and you’ve gotten her something else she’s ecstatic about – she’ll be more inclined to feel like having sex with you (and using her new toy in your presence!)

2 Phenomenal Ways To Have EXPLOSIVE Sex!

By lloydlester

Sex can be boring or it can be incredible – and most people prefer the latter. Here are two simple suggestions to make sex absolutely UNFORGETTABLE!

Let’s face it. For most men, sex is something that can give him pleasure, anytime, anywhere. Men are just turned on visually and can head into intercourse right away. For women, it is a different proposition altogether. If you want to spice up your sex life and satisfy her, you need to fulfill her emotional needs first. It can be a challenge, but not exactly a tall order. You just need to do things a little differently to tease out the wild side in her. Keen to learn more? Great! Keep reading for 2 tips to take your sex life up a sexy notch!

1. Titillate Her Sensory Awareness

Women have this inherent ability to amp up their alternate sensory awareness when one of their senses is inhibited. For instance, when you blindfold her, her sense of touch, smell and hearing will suddenly become amplified. You can use this to your advantage and create a sensual build-up or anticipation during sex. She will try hard to hazard a guess what you are going to do next, or which part of her body you are going to venture upon. Her sense of touch will become doubly sensitive when she cannot see, so pay your attention to those sensuous spots where she normally loves to be touched. These will send her temperatures racing very quickly.

2. Ask And You Shall Be Given!

When it comes to sex, there are simply a thousand and one things you can try, but most men simply stick with doing what they THINK their women will like. Chances are, there is a lot more things she likes you to do to her that you are not even aware of. While most women are passive during sex and accepts whatever their partners serve up in bed, if you do make the effort to ASK her, you would be surprised by the things you will LEARN about her! When she knows that you care about what she truly wants and seek to deliver these, you would have fulfilled her key emotional needs.

This is what you can do: ask her to write down 3 things she would like you to do to her during sex. It can be the type of foreplay she wants; the position she prefers or the role play she fantasizes about. Then go down the list and grant her wishes. The freshness and excitement of what you are going to give her will make sex truly out-of-this-world for her, as it will for you!

The key to having great sex is to make time to learn new things to do with each other in bed. She will be erotically and emotionally fulfilled, and you will be amply rewarded with wondrous sex you never had imagined!

3 Moves To Heighten Her Arousal

By loveandsex

An orgasm is the icing on the cake for a woman – here are some easy ways to increase your lover’s chances of having an orgasm during sex.

These next moves are specifically designed for increased stimulation when she has become aroused and lubricated, heading toward orgasm. If your wife is not naturally lubricated but is clearly aroused and ready for more intense sensations, it’s time to break out the bottled lube. Lube is definitely a worthy investment for these landmark moves.

If your wife is not naturally lubricated but is clearly aroused and ready for more intense sensations, it’s time to break out the bottled lube.

1. U-Turn Again

This move stimulates the urethra and prepares your wife for the possibility of a squirting orgasm. Spread her labia using the thumb and forefinger from above, and use your other hand to gently stroke a lubricated finger over the delicate spot between her vagina and clitoris.

Don’t stimulate her clit directly, unless she asks you to, and don’t penetrate her just yet either. You may have to use the thumb and ring finger of your other hand to hold her inner labia apart and spot her urethral opening. Once you do, you can use just the very tip of your index finger to tease and tickle the little bump and get her ready for intense orgasms.

2. Rollie-Pollie

Another great massage technique, this move is excellent as you get closer to penetration. It ensures maximum blood flow to her outer genitalia, which will help increase the overall stimulation levels that lead her to orgasm.

Using the pad of your thumb against the side of your index finger, grasp one of her outer labia in each hand and roll them back and forth. Work your way down from her mound to her perineum and then back up again. Vary your speed and pressure based on her response, and get ready for a wet and wild ride coming your way.

3. Heavy Petting

Turning things around again, this move is a great return to a position where your wife can pleasure your penis a bit as well, either with her hands or her mouth. Whether you are on your knees or lying on your side, face her feet, close enough to her groin that the heel of your hand can rest comfortably on the top of her mons.

This is a great follow up to the cupping, drumming and rumbling techniques above in this same position, but again, is best once she is lubricated, so use this as a cue to add a drop or two, if she isn’t already wet.

Let your hands drape down over her vulva and with your index and ring fingers holding her outer labia, slide your middle finger between them, and run it through the folds of her inner labia from top to bottom. Be sure to keep your hand on her pubic mound, and don’t be too forceful or exuberant with this one, unless she asks you to up the ante. Her inner lips are fine and delicate, so they will feel even the lightest touch.

4 Ways To Prime Her For POWERFUL Orgasms

By lloydlester

The female orgasm is often considered the holy grail of sex – you want to give her a female orgasm that leaves her legs shaking. Here’s how to get her ready.

Many men fantasize about their women calling out their names during their private moments in bed. However, most guys are not aware of how to give women the ultimate sexual excitement and make them quiver in orgasmic ecstasy. Below I have 4 definite ways that will turn her on sexually and earn you the sound of her begging for (yet) another gratifying climax in bed. Let’s read on!

1. Touch Her Hands

Let your fingers run along her hands and wrists. A woman’s hands and wrists are very sensitive to touch. You may do an experiment by letting your fingertips cross the area of the skin of her palms, to her wrists, then towards her elbow. You will be surprised at how ecstatic she will be. You may expect this to create a sensual atmosphere for another wild moment in bed.

2. Whisper In Her Ear

It is a fact that the ears are more than just an organ for hearing because it is also one of many erogenous zones on a woman’s body. The ear is also the main bridge towards the body’s organ that is most sensitive to sexual stimulation – the brain. Now you can try speaking softly against her ears and let your breath tenderly touch her sensitive skin. This will allow her to feel a momentary sense of pleasure that will be heightened once you engage in a little dirty talk.

3. Don’t Forget The Neck

The most sensitive part of a woman’s neck is the contour where it meets the shoulder and the back. What you can do to excite her is to simultaneously give gentle touches along the surface of her neck while whispering into her ear all the pleasurable things that you will do only for her. Afterwards, you may allow your lips to work wonders on her neck.

4. Touch Your Lover’s Hair

The scalp of a woman is also highly-sensitive and each strand of her hair has a corresponding nerve ending attached to it. It means that once you touch her hair, you are already giving her thousands of sexual stimulation. Women enjoy the feeling when they touch and fix their hair. As a man, you love the way your woman’s hair smell after bath and the feel of her tresses draped all over the skin of your chest during or after a mind-blowing sex. And yes, she will truly appreciate it if you gently brush her hair with your fingertips. This will set her erotic passions on fire very quickly.

5 Great Sex Positions If You Want To Pull Out

By loveandsex

Sex positions for pulling out can be handy if you don’t want to ejaculate inside of your partner. Here are five that you definitely should know about!

Pulling out is a essential if your girlfriend or wife is not on the pill and you’re trying to prevent pregnancy but aren’t at risk for STD’s. Although pulling out is not a 100% effective method of birth control, new studies show that it’s on par with condoms.

If you are worried about getting her pregnant, there are a few ways that you can avoid an orgasm inside of her, but have it be hot. A lot of guys don’t like to pull out, even with a condom on, but pulling out can lead some very kinky fun. Having your girlfriend finish you off her in her mouth or masturbate you to orgasm can be a nice change of pace. Here are the top five sex positions for if you want to pull out.

1. Missionary

By far the easiest sex position for pulling out is missionary. While mission can be seen as very boring by the sexually elite, there are a lot of couples that love the intimacy that comes with this position. Add to the fact that this is an excellent position for pulling out and we have a winner.

When you are having sex in missionary position, your girlfriend or wife will have access to your penis. This means that they can reach your penis when you start to orgasm. Other sex positions do not give you this access. Once you feel your orgasm coming up, she can either masturbate you or you can move up so can perform oral sex during your climax.

2. Doggy Style

Doggy style is another position that will like if you need to pull out. Doggy style allows you to get away from her faster if she doesn’t want your semen all over her body. Some girls think that it’s kinky to have you orgasm all over their butt, breasts or even their face. If your girl isn’t into this, doggy style can give them a chance to get out of the way while you climax into a towel or something else. If you want your girl to masturbate you or give you oral sex during your climax, she can simply turn around.

3. Girl On Top (Facing You)

Girl on top is another sex position that you can utilize if you want to pull out. When the girl is on top, she has access to your penis at any time. This is a great position for giving her more control during sex. She will be able to control the amount of penetration and the amount of movement.

Once you give her the signal, she can either start to give you oral sex or she can jerk you off while your having the orgasm. Girl on top can also set you up for climaxing into a towel if your girl doesn’t want any of your semen on her. This is one of the best sex positions for her to give you oral sex during your orgasm because she can just hop off and go to town.

4. Spooning

While spooning is typically used for intimacy after sex, spooning is a great position for pulling out during sex. Line up for the spoon and enter your girlfriend. This sex position allows you to enter her at an angle for better penetration and for massaging her g-spot.

This is also a great position for kissing her neck and massaging her breasts during sex. When you start to feel your orgasm coming, you can pull out and she can masturbate your penis while you climax. Be sure to have a towel handy or you can orgasm onto her pelvis area.

5. Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse cowgirl is a great position for your girl to take control. This can also be a pretty good position for pulling out. Have the girl sit on top of you facing away. Enter her and allow her to take control of the sex. She will be moving up and down and probably grinding on your penis.

When you start to feel the orgasm coming, Slide back and pull your penis out of her vagina. You will probably have to finish yourself off as this doesn’t leave much choice for her to finish you off. She will either have to turn around or reach back, leaving her in an awkward position. This isn’t the greatest position for pulling out, but it can still work.

Pulling out is not a fool proof method of preventing pregnancy. However, consider pulling out even when using a condom or other contraception to ensure that you don’t have any surprises. These 5 sex positions will surely give you just as much pleasure as staying in when you have an orgasm.