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5 Sex Games To Play When You’re Bored

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Sex games are great way to not only improve your sex life and intimacy but to also sure a common problem of boredom around the home. Many couples find that six games can be an excellent way to pass the time on rainy weekends or as a way to break up the monotony during the week.

If you would like to increase the intimacy in your relationship while also spicing up your sex life, these sex games are the cure you have been looking for. Here are 5 that you and your partner will love when you’re bored.

1. Meeting For The First Time

If you have ever had a one night stand you know the excitement that comes with meeting a new person. Building of the sexual tension between the two of you and not really knowing the other person can be a powerful aphrodisiac. If you’re looking for great sex game to play meeting for the first time can help you live out a fantasy of meeting your partner in a whole new light. Pick a local bar that you can meet each other at.

Have your partner dress-up and go to the bar at a specific time. Meet your partner at the bar and pretend that you’re both meeting each other for the first time. Try to pick up your partner and take her back to your place. Reenacting this one night stand scenario is an excellent way to live out fantasies that you have never explored before.

2. Power Control

Power control is a great game for couples who like to mix up the dominance in the bedroom. Get an egg timer and set it to 3 minutes. Determined which partner is going to be dominant first. Allow the egg timer to start and that partner will be the dominant one until the timer has reached the three minutes.

Once the timer has reached the three minutes, the dominance will shift to the other partner. Reset the timer each time. See how long each of you can last under this power struggle game. If you or your partner has an affinity for being the dominant or the submissive one in the bedroom, you will definitely find that this game will bring you out of your comfort zone.

3. Blindfold

The blindfold was made for sex. In this game, you or your partner will be blindfolded on the bed. They have to keep the blindfold on the entire time. The other partner must tease and caress their partner while the other doesn’t know what to expect next. This is a great game that you can play with each other and it incorporates trust and intimacy into the relationship. One of the features of this game is that it relies on the element of surprise and anticipation. The only rule to the game is that you can’t peek.

4. Master/Slave

It’s not the most original game, it’s a staple for a reason. The master slave relationship is usually found in the BDSM scene, but you can use a much more light version of the game for your regular romps in the bedroom. One of your is the master and the other is the slave. You can choose whether or not to blindfold, tie up or do anything else you deem appropriate to the slave. The slave must abide by all of your rules at all times.

If you are the master, make sure that you’re not pushing the limits on what your partner is going to feel comfortable with. The last thing that you want is for them to break character instead of being completely enticed with your sexual dominance.

5. Strip Poker

Strip poker has been seen in movies, TV shows and in the adult industry for a reason: it’s fun! Try your hand at strip poker with your wife or husband to really get a prize for winning. If your partner does not know how to play poker, teach them. Each time they lose a hand, they lose a piece of clothing.

If you really want to make things interesting, each of you can also bet sexual favors. For instance, you can bet a blowjob or an erotic massage on the hand instead of clothing. This is one of the best games to play on a rainy night or on a weekend getaway. Make sure that you have a proper deck of cards so there is no cheating and so neither of you has an unfair advantage over the other.

Are You Following These 4 Rules Of Foreplay?

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Foreplay is essential for great sex, but do you really know what you’re doing? Here are some before sex musts that you definitely don’t want to avoid.

Most men and women do not understand these rules and are, as a result, not as good at foreplay as they could be. These are important to learn now because when you and your partner are in the heat of the moment, you won’t have time to check back with each other. So let’s take a look at how the rules of it work.

1. No Genital Touching

Foreplay does not involve genital touching. Some couples I’ve worked with had the belief that if the woman was giving the man a handjob or if the man was playing with her clitoris, then they were engaging in foreplay. WRONG! It does not involve touching your partner’s genitals in any manner.

So when it comes to it, keep your hands away from your partner’s vagina until you know that she is well into the second stage (plateau). Also, if she tries to touch your penis, you should pull her hand away. By holding back, you’ll be increasing sexual tension in both of you.

2. Oral Sex Isn’t Foreplay

Foreplay is not the same as oral sex. Another problem I’ve encountered with couples is that they falsely believe that oral sex counts. While it’s true that some people would agree with that idea, the truth is that oral sex is just another variation of vaginal intercourse.

Also, refer back to the first guidelines and keep your hands (and your tongue) off of each other’s genitals.

3. Go Slow!

It should be slow. It is not meant to be a quick hurdle men have to jump over to get to the finish line. Instead, it is supposed to be a slow, gradual increase in sexual arousal and tension. When it’s done properly, women become so aroused that they will actually beg for penetration. Imagine how that would make you feel as a lover!

4. Foreplay Can Happen Anywhere!

It can begin anywhere. Another misconception about foreplay is that it must begin in the location where sex is going to happen. For example, if you are going to have sex in the bedroom, then foreplay starts when you get into the bedroom. WRONG!

Dirty Talk For Guys – What They REALLY Want To Hear

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Dirty talk will turn a man on like you wouldn’t believe! Here’s what to say to rev his engines and really get him going.

What She Said

Guys are visual creatures so it’s understood that once a lady is naked, he’s not listening to a word you are saying. Then again, even when women are fully clothed, guys have a hard time listening. All jokes aside, there are things women can say that men love to hear. A good place to start is with his best friend (and hopefully yours) his penis.

Praise him for how big it is and how it makes you feel. Regardless of the size, you should tell him it’s the biggest you have ever seen and even letting out a squeal of delight when you first lay eyes on it is a plus. While having sex you can exaggerate your moans and heavy breathing but be careful, there is a fine line between expressing your enjoyment and sounding like a porn star. Saying his name is also a super hot thing to do, as long as you remember what his name is.

Also throwing in some dirty talk is great! You don’t have to know that to say when it comes to dirty talk, you can just describe to him how amazing he is making you feel or even graphically tell him how bad or hard you want it. Words like “hot, wet, throbbing” are also good. Guys love to have their ego stroked and are competitive creatures and they want to know they can get you off and please you.

Basically the right things to say are anything that inflates his ego! Telling him he feels huge, or is the best you have ever had is a major win. Make your man feel like a superhero. If you really want to turn up the heat, saying, “Oh God, I am going to come,” will send him through the roof! So only, use that phrase when you have gotten what you want and are ready for your big strong stud of a man to come too.

What He Said

It be one part porn star, one part weather reporter. It should be hot and nasty (if you think you’re going to dirty or blue, you aren’t going far enough. This is where you tell him how amazing he and his baby maker are, in great, great detail. It’s almost too much to handle, feels so great, you may be sore tomorrow, you might walk funny tomorrow, it’s hitting your g-spot, etc.

Also, you should be like the weather channel: constant updates. If he’s doing it right, tell him. If he needs to touch your clitoris, be sure to let him know. He wants to rock your world more than you want him to, so give him the verbal cues he needs. Hell, draw him a map if you have to. Engraved invitations are good too. Remember to be careful how you phrase this. Don’t tell him he’s doing anything wrong, even if he is. Tell him it would be really hot if he did (fill in the blank).

Basically, your job is to make him feel like the most amazing stud lover on the planet, one that every woman wants but only you have (unless you’re in an open relationship or into swinging, and that’s another column). If you do a good job of it, you’ll be rewarded, day and night. Every man loves to feel like God’s gift to the vagina (gay men not so much) and I would encourage you to go into great detail about how he rocks your world like no other.

You don’t have to lie, that may not be the best idea either. Focus on what he’s legitimately good at and work from there. He’s really eager to learn to do you better. Focus on not just doing it during naked time but giving clues on how to improve in terms of comments you make during boom boom time. He’ll probably pick up quicker than you think and if he doesn’t, just keep dropping hints, and be less and less subtle.

Make him feel like the king of your castle. That’s really what all this boils down to. Men love to feel strong just as much as women love to feel safe and secure. You should do that, and use language that would make Prince blush.

The Truth About How Long You REALLY Need To Last In Bed!

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Premature ejaculation is surrounded by many myths. Most guys think that they need to have marathon sex to be any good – but is it really true? Find out now!

For many men, sexual endurance and self-confidence go hand in hand in the bedroom. If you are not lasting long enough, your sense of self worth and confidence are likely to plummet.

But first – exactly how long is long enough?

How Long Should Sex Really Last?

There is something about adult movies that gives men the misconception that sex should last for an hour or more. But the simple truth is, you only need to last as long as a YouTube clip!

While the debate about ideal sexual stamina has been ongoing for as long as mankind, sexual therapists have in recent years suggest that intercourse that lasts from 3 to 7 minutes is satisfactory. Anything from 7 to 13 minutes is considered desirable – not including the time reserved for foreplay.

Sounds surprising? Well it shouldn’t be. Considering that most women need about 7 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm, the suggested duration for “desirable” sex sounds logical.

Here’s the simple truth – great sex does NOT involve a stopwatch. Many men are so preoccupied about not wanting to climax too soon, that they ended up doing exactly what they fear most! Sexual anxiety will almost always impair your performance in bed!

Don’t Focus On The “Magic” Number

For a woman, great sex involves a slow, titillating build-up that envelopes both her mind and body. Use this to your advantage. Don’t view sex in terms of duration. View it in terms of quality. Such a mindset will do a whole lot of good to your confidence in bed.

You see, of all the “instruments” you can use to stimulate and arouse a woman sexually – your fingers, tongue and penis – the last one is ironically the one you have the least amount of control over.

Accelerate Her Sexual Anticipation

So, use your fingers and tongue to heighten her anticipation and arousal FIRST. Give her sensual hot spots some tender, loving attention. And I don’t just mean the obvious places. A woman is incredibly blessed with many erogenous areas on her body. The nape of her neck, her ear lobes, the underside of her arms are all great places to start with.

When a woman is sufficiently aroused before penetration, it actually lowers her threshold for orgasm, reducing the turnaround time for her to reach a climax during intercourse. And when that happens, your confidence will soar, performance anxiety will take a backseat, and you will naturally last longer too!

5 Weird But Awesome Sex Positions!

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Sex positions don’t have to be the same every single time you have sex. Here are five strange but totally erotic and orgasmic sex positions you can try tonight!

1. Comfy Cozy

Sit up with your legs straight while your partner lowers herself, facing you, onto your penis. Ask her to bend her knees so that her legs are tucked underneath and her ankles meet your hips, then sit up partially and hug her, slowly bending forward. As you move toward her she will naturally move back, arching her spine slowly so that her back rests comfortably on your legs.

Open up her chest even more to allow you breast access by putting her hands on your ankles and her elbows out to the side. Move by pulling her with your arms onto your penis, or bouncing slightly with your hips.

CLIMAX CUE

She is wide open and vulnerable in this position, while you act as the protector. Nurture her by showering her with kisses and telling her how amazing she looks impaled on your love-spear and you’ll get her even closer to orgasm. Slow and sensual is this position’s game, and the more you arch her back with your arms behind her, the more G-Spot action she’ll receive, along with plenty of clitoral coaxing.

2. The Creeping Spider

A challenging but intriguing position that plays on a man’s core strength and a woman’s sense of play, this move starts with you lying flat on your back and pressing your shoulders into the ground, arms at your side. Bend your knees as much as you can and place your feet firm and flat on the ground. Your partner should then squat down on top of you with her feet planted strong as well. Enter her while raising your hips off the ground so that you are in a straight plank position.

Your lover should still be squatting on your manhood. Once you find your balance, lift one leg so the ball of your foot faces the ceiling, and get your partner to hold onto it like she’s driving a stick shift. Movement occurs when she subtly bounces on you, with the tension and pressure flexing back from your hips, thighs and core.

CLIMAX CUE

If you can get the hang of it, this is a deeply penetrating position, and one that offers a lot of leverage for your woman to really grind into. It will be a lot easier for you if you keep your spine as straight as possible, and bounce only slightly during sex. She can hold onto your leg for balance, and grind herself into you as she feels necessary to get off. The lady is definitely in control here, so let her show you what works.

3. Choker

In my opinion, this is one of the most unusual sex positions I’ve found. I hadn’t heard of it before researching sex positions for this series, but as soon as I saw it I immediately had to try it – and with great results, believe me! Still, it’s a bit tricky to get into position correctly and then to find a rhythm that works well for both of you, but well worth the added time.

Sit down with your legs slightly bent and ask your partner to straddle your hips, facing away from you. Slide into her, pushing her forward onto your knees if need be. Have her pull her arms back and hold onto your shoulders or the back of your neck, whichever is more comfortable. She may need your help to get her arms back far enough, while leaning further forward to reach.

Get her to lift her feet at the knees so you can hold onto them for leverage, and you are in position! Move with her pulling on the back of your neck while you raise and lower your thighs, or have her push against your hands with her feet. It will be a subtle movement, but highly effective if she’s positioned correctly.

CLIMAX CUE

You are at a prime angle for deep penetration, G-Spot stimulation and symphysis friction: all three in one position is rare. Moving your legs will allow her different angles for clitoris pressure, so play around to see what direction she likes most. Giving her the ability to do most of the movement might tire her out, but she’ll get to choose the tempo and speed with which you have sex. If she needs a break, she can lean forward and put her hands on the ground instead, which may give her enough balance and strength to release.

4. Comfy Corner

Place a chair without arms perpendicular to the edge of a bed. Lie down so that your waist is at the edge of the bed and your calves and feet lie comfortably on the chair. Tilt your body to one side and lift a knee high along your body so that it faces the ceiling. Bend your lower leg so that calf and foot are flat on their side on the chair. Your hips and upper legs should lie free of the bed and chair, suspended in air. Have your partner straddle one of your hips and the leg that sits on the chair, facing away from you.

Both her legs should bend slightly so that her feet are on the floor, or prop up against the bottom of the bed with only her toes flat on the ground. Put your penis inside her vagina. Lean her forward so that she’s lying along the leg on the chair, with one breast on either side of your leg. Use her arms above her head as a pillow and to prop herself up so her back remains straight. Get her to push herself back and forth against your groin and watch her masturbate with your body.

CLIMAX CUE

An excellent, relaxing position for both of you to get exactly what you want: she gets tons of stimulation between her legs and there is a great view available for you. If the bed and chair are positioned close enough to one another, you should be able to sustain sex for an extended period of time. Moving the leg she’s draped over will help her grind against you, and may even enable her to find a sweet spot for clitoral and symphisis stimulation. Use this when both of you are tired and want a slow, comforting session together, or when she’s perfected her pelvic thrusting technique and wants to try it out for a mind-blowing release.

5. Sitting Pretty

Have your partner lie down on her stomach with a pillow wedged firmly under her hips. Get her to prop her upper body up with her forearms so she’s looking forward comfortably and only her breasts remain on the floor. Walk up behind her and sit down so that your bums touch. Straddle her body with your legs, your feet up against her elbows. Use your hands to put your penis inside her; she may need to move forward somewhat to angle her buttocks back and up for you to fit.

Once you’ve penetrated, lean back and put your hands on the floor, outside of her feet, and push your backside up against hers snugly. Move by rocking your body slightly and very slowly back and forth, thrusting from both your arms and feet; if you don’t go slow and gentle, you’ll likely fall out. She can help by arching her back and using her forearms to push back against you, and by opening her legs slightly so that her mons pubis gets some contact friction from the pillow.

CLIMAX CUE

Because you can’t take advantage of any symphysis in this sex position, you’ll want to use your hips to push her down into the pillow to creating a similar sensation to pelvic thrusting. Keep your penetration deep, yet your movements shallow, and you’ll play with her G-Spot and the most sensitive parts of her vaginal opening nicely. Tilting her pelvis will help with both penetration and arousal foreplay for her. Lying on a waterbed or soft, bouncy bed will add to the thrill.