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How To Look Really Good Without Your Clothes

Sex tips aren’t always what to do during sex. Here are some excellent sex tips that show you how to look AH-mazing in your birthday suit before getting it on!

When you look good without your clothes you feel sexy, but the actual process of looking good butt ass naked is anything but. That’s the number one reason people fail on their quest to look good naked. Everyone wants to be rich, but who really is willing to spend less than they make, and invest or save the rest? Not that many.

You Must Pay The Cost To Be The Boss

I myself used to be quite heavy, and I’ve lost a lot of weight. How much weight? Like two or three of those starving kids in Africa. People used to ask me how I did it, many of them looking to look great naked themselves. I would always ask them “are you prepared to go to the gym at 10:30 PM on a Friday night?” Every one of them would say no.

That told me they didn’t want to pay the price. I’ve been to the gym at 11PM on a Friday and Saturday because those were the only times I could fit the gym in and I refused to be derailed from my goals. If you want to get a sexy body that stops traffic you must have that level of dedication, even though I wouldn’t recommend actually doing that.

Have you ever wanted to look like a bodybuilder, fitness model, yoga instructor or your favorite celebrity? Can you imagine how good they look without their clothes? You probably have wanted that body and you can imagine them naked if you haven’t seen them that way in TV and film already.

Do a little research. It’s not hard to find out their fitness programs. Often they will discuss them in an interview or magazine article. Read the article. Then pick your jaw up off the floor. Still sure you want this?

Funny how things work.

There Are No Short Cuts Or Secrets

How do you look good without your clothes? Simple. If you want a great ass, you need to work the one you have off. Literally. You won’t get the ass you want by sitting on the one you have, someone once said. It’s true. If you want to look amazing naked, there is no way around hard, hard work. And most importantly, it must be consistent. There’s no point in going super hardcore in the gym once a month. Or training like a bodybuilder but eating like a sumo wrestler. You don’t have to be perfect, but you’d better be like clock work.

Most people never even make it this far, so if you’re still with me here, then it means you truly are committed to learning how to look good without your clothes and you have a great chance of actually pulling it off. You’re already ahead of like 90% of the population. Believe it or not, most of the people who have made it this far still fail. Why?

Take Action Immediately. Something Is Always Better Than Nothing

There are so many options out there. Yoga, crossfit, P90x, insanity, zumba, bodybuilding, swimming, you name it. We have two political parties in America, and yet 200000 kinds of orange juice in the grocery store. The sheer volume of choices can paralyze even the most dedicated person, because they are trying to find the program that “works.”

Here’s the hint. They all work. The trick is to find the one that works for you. This will require trial and error. Get a personal trainer if you need one. If you don’t, you don’t. Find what works for you by figuring out which type of diet and exercise program is up your alley. Do that. Do it a lot. You will have set backs, you will be subject to the learning curve, which is simply:

At first you suck, then you get better.

But if you are serious about looking good without clothes and you use these three action items, you will be successful. How fast is determined largely by how well you apply them. You will get there, you just don’t know when.

How To Play With Her Breasts

By loveandsex

Foreplay can be anything you want it to be, but must guys go after a woman’s breasts. Here’s how to do it so you turn your lover on even more!

Guys Love Breasts!

Call them boobs, knockers, tits, titties, jugs, rack, the twins, juggies, hooters, bazookas or bazongas – call them anything you want – they all refer to the magical pair of breasts that has an enthralling effect in every straight male. Who can fathom their mystery? Who can unveil the allure behind those twin peaks? They take our breaths away – and why can’t we stop talking to them?

Perhaps because they were once a source of life at a young and innocent past, breast obsession could just be a misunderstood homage to childhood. Well, perhaps not. I know of guys who were never breastfed as babies but still spend their evenings waiting for that 2-second breast exposure in those late night TV specials.

Breasts remain hot even when there’s a baby sucking and having a meal off it!

What’s up with that? What’s this fixation with bodacious peaks?

Even women don’t know why. “They’re just mammalian protuberances! Every human being has them, and ultimately, they’re just a lump of fat. So what’s the fuss,” they’ll say. However, it’s interesting to note that this hasn’t stop many of them ladies to visit their friendly doctor and have some work done – making breast augmentation a multi-billion dollar industry.

Don’t Ignore Her Breasts During Foreplay

A woman certainly doesn’t want to be man-handled by a sloppy and callused partner. They’re just breasts, but they’re HER breasts! So treat her knockers just like you want your balls treated – painlessly. She’ll cry foul if you get overly nasty with her tatas. Rummaging them like a pirate laying claim to some treasure, most guys immediately grab and suck – but believe you me, there many other ways of skinning the cat.

Pay attention to the areas around the breasts. Those zones ABOVE, BELOW & at the SIDES. Treat them as Base Camps. Begin your assault of the peak by giving them extensive amounts of oral and manual indulgence. Give them a breath of warm air, run your fingers around.

Why? Uhhh… Because it feels nice.

Here’s the thing. She knows where you’re going next – every man, after-all, wants to go on a nipple pilgrimage. But by kindling the areas around her knockers first, you’re not only signaling your intentions, you’re also heightening her awareness of it. She knows you’re going there, but she doesn’t know WHEN. And she can’t explain why the heck you’re not there yet. It’s a crafty tension building move.

Getting To The Nipples

There are several ways of doing this esteemed ascent to the nipple. You can choose to engage by licking or caressing in a spiraling course, imagining that her nipple is at the center of the spiral. You can execute backward and forward spirals, going back & forth, getting nearer each time.

You can also start from below the breast for example, and head in a straight line towards the peak, up to the Areolar Area (dark area surrounding the nipples), BARELY BUT PURPOSELY MISSING the nipple itself, and continuing up. Go very light, as if your lips/fingers are simply hovering over her areola. Do a reverse by plunging and barely missing the nipple once again as you continue downward. Well, you get the idea.

Details like this might make little sense to you, but to your lover, it’ll make for a wonderful foreplay experience. While others act like gluttonous babies diving for her nipples at first sight, it’s a little different with you, and a lot more exciting.

Every time you take a step back, you’re actually piggy-backing on what all the guys from her past failed to do, separating yourself from the rest. If she has given herself to several men prior to you she’ll be thinking, “Why isn’t my nipple in his mouth yet?”

Eventually, you’re going to have to ravage her nipple. You know you deserve to. So suck and lick it good. Suck and lick to your heart’s content. Flick it, go around and over. Bite it like marshmallow. Grab the other breast (there are TWO! Remember SYMMETRY?) and bring those raisins to a reunion. Lick between, suck them together, bite them both.

Dirty Tips For Great Sex!

By lloydlester

Foreplay is the cornerstone of creating an intense sexual experience for a woman. Use these foreplay suggestions for incredible sex!

Have you ever wondered how you could become a better lover in bed? Not the kind who seeks to pleasure himself, but one who goes out of his way to make sure his lover gets her sexual fulfillment first. So what are the secrets to becoming a sex stud that possesses this inherent, natural ability to pleasure any woman at will?

Emotions Are The Lifeline Of A Woman’s Sexual Fulfillment

Emotions play a vital role in ensuring that a woman is sexually fulfilled. So how do you leverage on her emotional repository and give her the most tantalizing sexual experience? The secret lies in building anticipation. This is where women are fundamentally different from men. Guys are ready to mount and thrust right away during sex and get off at a moment’s notice. Women are different. They prefer a slow build-up to sex. This is how they are biologically wired. And it is not their fault that most women take at least 10 to 15 minutes to reach an orgasm (compared to just 4 minutes or less for most guys).

So don’t jump the gun when it comes to sex. It is probably the worst thing you can do during lovemaking.

The Art Of Teasing Women Into Erotic Anticipation

Women loved to be teased. If you want to become a masterful lover in bed, you have to learn how to tease. Make her curious about what you are going to do to her next. Keep her guessing. This will keep her on her toes and bring her sexual emotions to an erotic boil. This makes sex far more exciting, titillating and challenging for the both of you.

Okay, Teasing Is Easy – Or So You Think!

The art of sexual teasing is based on the “push and pull” concept. What do I mean? This means you bring her to a state of heightened anticipation, and then pull away or strategically back off from what she would expect you to do next. For example, if you are undressing her, stop halfway and then proceed to kiss her. When she is expecting you to perform oral sex on her after some heavy foreplay, turn your attention to her breasts instead. Tenderly move AROUND her hot buttons, not ON them.

This sensual art of unpredictability will add plenty of sizzle and excitement in the bedroom. A slow sensuous build-up of sexual anticipation will soon turn into a frenzied sexual craving for you to perform the actual deed on her.

Guys, if you want her to have a genuine screaming orgasm during sex, this is the secret behind it! Your bedroom will never be the same again once you learn this.

Why A Woman Can Have More Difficulty Reaching Orgasm Than A Man

By loveandsex

Female orgasm isn’t always easy to achieve. There are many things that can stand in a girl’s way! Here’s why the female orgasm is more elusive than the man’s.

The truth is, it can be more difficult for a woman to reach orgasm than a man because of the way her body and brain work. Her body is wired differently from his and goes through the stages of sexual pleasure, orgasm and release in a different way. Her brain is also wired differently – sexual pleasure doesn’t just automatically shut off all thinking like it does for a guy. In fact, if she’s thinking too much, she won’t be able to climax. Here are some reasons she might have difficulty reaching orgasm.

She’s Stressed & Tense

A woman’s brain going 10,000 miles an hour will completely and utterly make it impossible for her to reach climax, while she’s having sex or masturbating. Doesn’t matter whether she’s using sex toys, you’re going down on her like it’s your last meal, whatever. It just won’t happen if she can’t get her brain to shut up. This is partly why women require so much warm up time before sex. She’s got to be able to stop thinking about everything that happened today, everything that could have happened, everything that will happen tomorrow as well as everything she should have done, could have done and didn’t do before she can start thinking about sex. This is a process.

The to-do list begins to fade as the sexual thoughts start to creep in, but at any time, the to-do list can rear its ugly head and make a reappearance. She’s got to be in full throttle sex mode to quash the stressful thoughts completely, and this takes some time and lots and lots of warm up. If she can’t banish these thoughts, she’s not going to orgasm.

You can try all you like, but she’ll be thinking about what she’s going to tell her boss tomorrow about the report that was due that isn’t finished while you’re thinking about how hot her breasts look naked and wondering why the hell you’ve been going down on her for twenty minutes and still, nothing. Fortunately, with time, patience, foreplay and some romance, you can slay the to-do list dragon and get her thinking about how good everything you’re doing feels until she’s coming like there’s no report due tomorrow and there is no tomorrow.

She’s Too Focused On Having An Orgasm

Another thing that will keep her from having an orgasm is being too focused on it. Yeah, it seems kind of backwards from a man’s standpoint, but it’s true for the gals. She’s worried about taking too long to come, what will happen if she doesn’t come, wondering if she’ll ever come, what she or you must be doing wrong to make her unable to come – oh hell, there’s those stressful thoughts again and she can forget about coming completely.

For a woman to reach orgasm, she’s got to be relaxed and she’s got to be able to go with the flow. Sadly, this is not something you can make her do or tell her to do – it’s something she’s got to learn how to do on her own. It’s kind of like finding your car keys – as soon as you stop looking, there they will be. As soon as she stops being so focused on having an orgasm and gives up the notion that she has to climax, the orgasm will find her. Until then, she can count on ending every sex session frustrated and this time, it’s not your fault.

She Feels Pressured To Have An Orgasm

This one may be your fault. She could be pressuring herself to have an orgasm (see above), but men often unknowingly pressure their partners without realizing that doing so will make it impossible for her to have one. How many times has this sentence killed your orgasm? “Are you close yet?” Yeah, that one. The sentence that pretty much says, “I’m tired of doing this, you’re taking too long, is this almost over?”

Unfortunately for women, that attitude can be conveyed fairly easily without her partner every having to say anything. (The same can happen for men, but men see things at face value so much that a woman pretty much has to say it for him to understand that’s what she’s getting at). A sigh here, complete silence there – there are a great deal of body language signs that you can give without thinking about it that will make her feel like you want her to hurry up or that you think she’s taking too long. Which will make her take longer or not climax at all.

If you want her to orgasm easily, be wary of conveying that you’re pressuring her to reach the finish line. Act like there’s no where else you’d rather be and that she can take as long as she needs or wants. “Wow, honey, I didn’t even realize I was giving you oral sex for forty minutes – it tasted so good and I love giving you pleasure so much that it felt like five!”

She Can’t Let Go

Many women have problems letting go right before orgasm, which can be very frustrating for her. Her brain is usually the culprit here, but there are likely some deeper psychological issues at play that you really can’t do anything about. She’s unknowingly and unconsciously preventing herself from crossing the finish line – even if she’s only a few steps away from it. To her, this feels like every time she has sex she’s “almost there” and right before orgasm, her body stops the action and goes back to square one. If this is the case for your girl, she may have trouble allowing herself to let go.

She may be afraid of silly things like losing control and passing gas (who cares, right?) or even squirting – like you wouldn’t think that was incredibly hot or something. Or, the issue may go deeper than that – a history of sexual abuse might be at play, or she may have had past lovers that didn’t care to give her an orgasm or thought she shouldn’t have one. She may have been raised to believe that women aren’t supposed to get sexual pleasure, or that if a girl orgasms, she’s “dirty” or doing something “wrong.”

Any of these things could be causing her to be unable to let go when she’s on the brink of climax, or it could be something else. This is where being sensitive to her feelings and being able to communicate with your lover about what she is thinking and feeling will come in handy.

She Doesn’t Know How

Even though during sex you are primarily responsible for doing the physical work to get her to reach orgasm, there’s a lot that she’s still got to do as well. If she’s never had an orgasm before or hasn’t had them very often, she may not know how to get up and over the orgasm hump. While orgasms can just happen, more often than not, it takes a certain degree of recognition and body response for her to go along with it and propel herself over the edge.

Women who rely solely on a man to make them come are usually disappointed. Women learn this skill during masturbation – which is why female masturbation is so gosh darn important if a girl ever wants to climax, either by herself or with her lover. If she refuses to masturbate or thinks is dirty or wrong, well, she can kiss her orgasm goodbye forever and that’s not your fault – not even a little bit.

She’s got to learn what an orgasm feels like and how to move her body and what to do to be able to orgasm consistently during different types of stimulation. If your girl has trouble reaching orgasm no matter what you do for her, she may very well not know how.

You Didn’t Spend Enough Time Warming Her Up

This is another one that unfortunately, is usually a man’s fault. You already know that women require a great deal of foreplay if they’re actually going to get into it, and many men fail at giving their partners as much foreplay as they need. Unfortunately, many women expect their lovers to automatically know what to do and how long to spend doing it without communicating what they want and need, but this is a different problem entirely.

Men and women are wired differently – men are like a blowtorch while women are like ovens. Men heat up fast and hard, and when they’re done, they’re off. No more fire. Women, however, take a while to preheat and they stay warm longer. It also takes them time to cool off and while the oven is hot, she can bake 10 batches of cookies without breaking a sweat. Allow your partner plenty of time to “preheat.” She’s doing lots of things during this time – allowing her body to relax, as well as killing those nasty stressful thoughts that take so much effort to get rid of.

Don’t put a time limit on her and make sure to pay attention to her body language. If you pay close attention to her, she’ll let you know when she’s ready to move on. If she seems disinterested in sex after foreplay, seems like she’s been let down or stops caring as soon as you switch to intercourse, it’s likely you didn’t spend enough time getting her warmed up. This, of course, makes it very difficult for her to have an orgasm.

Sex Toys To Increase Your Orgasmic Power

By dicksinthecity

Sex toys can be a lot of fun to play with and can help you have an even better orgasm. Here are the sex toys you need to try!

What She Said:

I know what people say about diamonds, but when it comes down to it, sex toys really are a girls best friend. A good sex toy, is always there for you, always available, never tires and most importantly never asks you if “it was good for you?” You can also find sex toys pretty much everywhere, and in every size. They are easy to buy, easy to store and a hell of fun to use! Finding the right one takes a little bit of research and some trial and error, but when you find the right one, or even the not so right one, its still pretty damn fun. I think a basic vibrator is the perfect sex toy for most women.

They are relatively cheap to buy and depending on the size, can be used for clitoris and vaginal orgasms. If you want to get high tech, and want something more than just a basic vibrating love rod, then the rabbit vibrator is a good choice. If you are embarrassed about purchasing a sex toy (although it is super hot and all women should have at least one) then you can find many vibrating options that are labeled “personal massagers.” One of those most praised is called the Hitachi personal massage wand. This guy is fantastic!

Not only will a simple vibrator send you through the roof, it can also be used with your partner and not come across as intimidating. You could use the vibrator to show him how and where you like to be touched, or he can explore your body with it. While having sex you can place the vibrator on your clit while he enters you, that way you both can feel the vibrations. A good vibrator can help a women reach a stronger orgasm, with her man or alone. Just don’t forget to get batteries!

What He Said:

As far as sex toys go, you really can’t go wrong with a liberator wedge or the tantric sex chair. Both are simple “marital aids” that allow you to position both you and your partner in new and exciting sex positions which make the intercourse better, and allow the man (or woman with a strap on) to get access to the vagina that they wouldn’t normally be able to hit from that specific angle, which allows for deeper penetration and better sex which of course results in the desired orgasm, but a way more powerful and intense orgasm than you are used to.

There are tons of different liberator models in every size, shape and price range. The number of options can be a little overwhelming, but there are a great number of videos on the site as well which can help you decide between the different models and, more importantly, show you the many exiciting applications of the liberator models.

The tantric sex chair is a bit more pricy. It’s a tantric sex chair which is really more like a tantric couch or love sex. It’s desired for amazing oral sex positions, anal sex positions and for intercourse that is anything but plain jane or average. It’s very expensive, but it’s custom made and shipped straight to you. It’s a wild ride, literally and figuratively. It’s a great sex toy that is worth it’s weight in gold, and the tantric sex chair website is chock full of naughty videos featuring beautiful naked people using the sex chair which can give you amazing ideas on how to use it.

You can’t go wrong with handcuffs and blindfolds. There’s something amazing that happens when a person is restrained and cut off from their sense of vision. It forces their other senses to be heightened and that increased sense of touch is what can lead to increadibly stronger and intense orgasms.

Hypnosis is another good tool as well. Sex and orgasms happen in the mind and if you’re a girl who things she cant have an orgasm, you’re right. Hypnosis can unlock the mind which will allow you to experience the intense mind blowing orgasms you’ve always dreamed of.

And yes, a girl needs her vibrator, but ease your man into sex toy play. Maybe give him the remote control to the vibrator and wear it out to dinner. Let him control the remote control and watch him enjoy things. Then move forward from there.