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3 Simple Steps To Orgasmic Anal Sex

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Anal sex can be fun, naughty and super hot if you do it right. Here are three easy ways to make sure your anal sex experience is completely incredible!

1. Start With Just The Tip Of Your Penis

Once she’s lubed up and ready to go, start by inserting just the tip of the penis. First, press your penis against the anus, applying pressure. Slowly slide the tip up to the first joint. Stay still. You’ll feel the ring of muscles around the anus tighten and relax. Don’t move your penis, just let the muscles work.

When they relax again, remove it slowly and then insert it again. Tell her to try and open her anus by pushing her anal muscles outward while you penetrate. She should also make sure she’s breathing deeply during the insertion.

Using just the tip is a way to tease and build arousal before further penetration or engulfment. You can explore this with slow or quick movements, and everything in between. Try different angles and sex positions to find out how this feels best for both of you.

2. Move Gradually And Slowly

Gradually working your way to full penetration is a much more skilful and exciting way to approach this. Thus you increase sexual tension, get your energies and emotions more in touch with each other, and delight in the subtleties of the bouquet of sensations. Going slow and gradual also creates a sense of safety, which helps immensely with arousal and lubrication for women, providing a much more luscious experience for you both.

Advance centimeter by centimeter, slowly pulling out and pulling in after each move forward. Don’t go all the way in at first, in fact, many people don’t ever go all the way in. It all depends on her response, naturally.

3. Begin To Go Faster (When She’s Ready!)

If she’s not tired or resistant and she wants you in completely, grab the chance. Once you’re all in, stand motionless for a few seconds, giving the muscles time to relax and become accustomed with their foreign guest. After they do, it’s time you surrender yourself to the dance of thrusting motions.

However, keep in mind that the anus is not the vagina’s twin sibling, and go at it with careful consideration, paying attention to how her body responds. Hard action isn’t for everybody; she must be emotionally and physically ready for that kind of sex play.

Hot Tip: Experiment with the penis in the anus and a thumb or a sex toy in the vagina. Double orgasm is on the menu!

How To Unleash the Amazing Power To Make Sex Last Longer!

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Premature ejaculation sucks! But you don’t have to suffer forever – here’s how to gain enough stamina to make sex last as long as you want it to!

There has been a lot of research aimed at preventing premature ejaculation during sex with conclusive proof that there are natural hormones within the human body that actually make sex last longer. These hormones will strengthen your mental control and help keep off the urge to ejaculate prematurely. Curious about what these hormones are and whether you have them? Well, read on then!

The Power Of Serotonin

Serotonin, naturally released in our bodies when we are emotional, helps in calming the nerves and prolonging ejaculation. When your body experiences the effects of serotonin, you are better able to handle the stimulation you receive during sex. What does that translate into? Greater lasting power, because you don’t peak too soon.

You can ensure the natural production of serotonin in your body just by doing one thing during sex – RELAX. It is the opposite of the wild and high emotional state you get with the release of dopamine – the opposing hormones that cause quick ejaculation. Serotonin induces a sensuous-like feeling – exactly what keeps your ejaculation at bay during the throes of pleasure.

Do I Have Take A Pill To Keep Going?

There has been a lot of talk about introducing serotonin in the form of a pill. Personally, I do not recommend the use of artificial pills and tonics simply because you do not know what ELSE they are putting in there.

You don’t need a pill when Mother Nature, in its abundance, has provided you with just the things you need in the most natural form. There are a number of foods that contain natural serotonin too. You can just as easily consume these and enjoy the benefits, without subjecting your body to artificial substances.

What Are These Magic Foods?

Well, take a look at these! Butternut, english and black walnuts, hickory nuts, both shagbark and mocker nuts, as well as fruits like kiwis, pineapples, tomatoes and bananas!

If you are wondering about the exact effect each has, let me tell you that walnuts are the most powerful of the lot. In fact, the sexually beneficial aspects of walnuts have been known throughout history! You can include these foods as a part of your healthy foods regime, or take them as a part of your premature ejaculation treatment. Whichever way you take it, the benefits will be evident in a few short weeks. Try them out today and see a difference in your stamina. Remember, delaying ejaculation during sex is also about using science to find natural cures that work for your body!

3 Standing Sex Positions That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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With most standing sex positions, at least one of you will require a fair amount of strength and/or stamina to execute it properly. Most that I came across were either ridiculously difficult or they didn’t provide enough stimulation for the female partner to conceivably orgasm.

That’s why there are only a handful of positions in this section but all of them are great ones to try out and come highly recommended from my clients, fellow experts and readers alike.

1. The Door Is Ajar

Have your lover stand with her back against a door jam and lean her head back. Stand upright and facing your partner, so that your legs are between hers and your back is against the other side of the door jam. In tandem, scoot your legs forward until your penis and her vagina meet; you’ll likely need to bend your legs, and she’ll sit on them slightly. Enter her and grasp her bum firmly. Have her hold onto your shoulders or put her arms around your waist or neck if she’s feeling off balance or wants some support.

Have her push her back firmly against the door jam while you thrust up and push her back and forth along your pelvis. To get out of this position, as it’s a bit trickier than the others, bend your knees until you’re squatting down. When her legs reach the floor again she’ll be able to hop off effortlessly.

Climax Cue

This is a hard position to sustain for any length of time. If her legs come off the ground because of a significant height difference, you can make it easier on both of you by squatting down more. You can also have her bend one leg and drape it over one of your elbows, then lean to the opposite side slightly and put her foot on the ground. It will open her up more as well so you can penetrate even more deeply.

Whatever you do, don’t let on that the position is a difficult one for you. If it is, move on to another position after you give it your best shot for a short period before you try something else. The feeling of weightlessness is a huge turn on for most women, but knowing that you’re struggling will bring her back into reality when all you want is for her to let go. If she wants to move around more, or feels like she’s not getting enough clitoral or G-Spot stimulation, suggest she lean back even more and move her hips in a circle, grinding herself into you and rubbing around to find more G-Spot pleasure.

2. Kneeling Face To Face

Face your partner and kneel on the floor together. Scoot forward so that you are extra close to one another. Place your opposing legs flat on the ground with your knee bent, and slowly inch forward until your privates touch. Lean forward to connect your penis to her vagina. To move, take turns lunging forward.

Climax Cue

There are few better positions than this one to even out the odds between you. With this move, you are both in the exact same position, performing the same moves. Provided you are about the same height and are both doing the same amount of work, plus both your arms are free to roam and play, perhaps to tweak nipples, coddle her clitoral head or pinch her buttocks. There won’t be a lot of heave-ho in this position, but because you are so snug against one another, she’ll get tons of clitoral stimulation grinding up against you, and even better eye contact to slide towards orgasm.

3. Get A Leg Up

Are you ready for this? Get your partner to do the splits mid-air, so that one leg is on the floor and the other is lifted as high toward the ceiling as it can go. Walk up to her and hold the outstretched foot, bending down slightly to enmesh your bodies. When you start having sex, you can use the one hand on her hip and the one on her leg as leverage to move. If her leg gets tired, have her bend it at the knee and lock it over your elbow instead for a rest.

Climax Cue

She’ll be off balance in this position, which isn’t a bad thing if you want to catch her arousal off guard. Just make sure that she’s supported well enough so she doesn’t fall over, and she’ll be able to enjoy the unusual angle and experience. Pull her close when you want to rub up against her clitoris, or ask her to finger herself if she’d prefer. Make sure your knees are bent to offer her enough clitoral and G-Spot stimulation, as you won’t thrust terribly deep in this position.

When You Actually Need To SKIP Foreplay!

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Foreplay is something that is essential for every sex session, right? Or can you forgo it and get busy right away?

DEFINITELY NOT!

Acts of foreplay don’t have to come before anything as they can be enjoyed in and of themselves. And so, there will be times when F can be the worst thing.

In these situations, it’s best to simply tear her clothes, pin her against the wall and do her right then and there. Don’t delay – do her immediately. Ravage her at will because she definitely wants you to.

When is that feasible? When is teasing not even funny?

Know When There’s Urgency

It is during the week-long honeymoon when couples are rabid hot. Passion takes the form of intense, fanatic longing and the moment the lovers’ shadows meet, they commence sexually harassing each other. The slow, gentle, “Take your time” nature of foreplay doesn’t work in situations where passion is in the form of “Take me, right here, right now” – there’s just no time for that, not enough brain cells even to light scented-candles. No chance for slow dancing in this case.

That’s ok, the couple is on the same page and they know what they want.

Such couples get to enjoy acts associated with foreplay, only after some serious sex. It’s that calm after the storm as lovers bask in the ambiance of their orgasms – the only real opportunity to luxuriate and slow things down.

Another time to definitely skip foreplay-smorplay is during quickies. There’s just no time. No time to heat the oil, or find that R&B CD. No time to gloat over your partner’s hot body, or engage in any talk. Just get those orgasms, put your clothes back on, fix your hair… then go back to work!

Part of the turn-on is the boldness of simply doing it without thought for feelings. There’s something so animalistic and intense about it – such rawness that finds its way in many of women’s fantasies.

These situations still make for great sex as foreplay becomes unnecessary delay, both partners don’t want it.

When NOT To Engage In Quickies

First, make sure it doesn’t become a pattern. Quickies are exciting, but they lose punch when it’s quickies all the time. Pretty much the same thing gets old pretty fast.

Second, make sure both of you are on the same page. You wish to do her now? She wants you to do her now? Fine, run like the wind. Of course, the situation’s a lot different when the other just wants to lie there gazing at the stars. Then you’ll probably have to take full advantage of foreplay’s side-effects to jump-start things.

6 New Places In Your House To Get It On

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Sex tips can improve your sex life and make it hotter than ever before, and you don’t even have to go out your front door to do it!

Having sex in your house can easily get monotonous when you are married or have been together for a while. The bedroom can seem like a hamster wheel of the same old same old. Your sex life doesn’t have to be like this. You can easily mix things up by utilizing the other rooms in your home.

Some couples find that they have better sex in other rooms than they do in their bed. The other rooms in your house can also be a great source for different positions and better sex. Here are some new places in your house to get it on.

1. The Bathroom

The bathroom is one of the best alternatives in your home to have sex in. There are a lot of different possibilities in your bathroom. The most common use of the bathroom is having sex in the shower or bathtub. These are great because there is no mess to clean up. A lot of couples start out with a massage in the bathtub. This can be great foreplay for sex. If you are going to have sex in the shower, you should invest in some silicone based lubricant.

The shower can wash away the natural lube on the woman and this is a great way to keep both of you comfortable. The bathroom sink is another great place to have sex. Put your girlfriend or wife on the bathroom sink and enter her. The angle that you penis goes in will naturally massage her g-spot.

2. The Living Room

While the living room might not be the best place all the time, it can prove to be an excellent alternative to your bedroom. The living has some great pieces of furniture for different positions. The couch can allow the girl to get on top or get into doggy style fairly easily. The couch does not allow as much movement as a bed, but there are other significant advantages.

The couch is a great for the spoon position. You will have a backrest that you can brace yourself up against. This is also great for standard missionary style with the guy standing and the girl lying down. Make the guy get on his knees and give you oral sex without him having to lay down himself.

3. The Guest Bedroom

While you might find it eerily similar to having sex in your own bedroom, the guest bedroom can be another great alternative. Guest bedrooms are not as familiar as your very own bedroom. They often resemble hotel rooms, which can be extremely kinky. The next time that you want to have sex, drag your partner into the guest bedroom. This change of scenery can definitely lead to some very kinky experiences.

4. The Kitchen

The kitchen is one of the most frequently used rooms in the home. This is where meals are prepared, eaten and then cleaned up. If your kids aren’t around or if you don’t have kids, the kitchen can also be utilized for some hot and heavy action. Put your wife or girlfriend up on the kitchen counter and give her oral sex.

Lick and suck on her inner thigh while she braces herself against the cabinets. Push her up against the countertop and have sex doggy style. Just make sure that you are wiping down every part that your body touches. The last thing that you want is sex juice on your food or countertop.

5. The Dining Room

There will definitely have to be some cleaning after this one, but the dining room can be a lot of fun too. Some houses don’t have a dining room, however, if your home does, don’t miss out on this. Dining rooms tend to have very formal themes. The formality of your dining room can be the aphrodisiac that you’re looking for to put some spice in your relationship.

If your dining room table will hold you, engage in some missionary or girl on top. If the table will not hold the both of you, try doggy style oral sex while your partner is sitting or lying down.

6. The Basement

Need a little kink in your sex life? Go down to the dank, dark basement for some fun middle school style. Remember when you were in middle school or high school and you played spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven? Use the basement for the adult version. Depending on your basement’s furniture, there are endless possibilities to what you can do.