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Top 3 Erogenous Zones Of The Torso For Excellent Foreplay

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Foreplay is vital before sex. Learn the top erogenous zones of a woman’s torso to make you’re job exponentially easier when trying to seduce a woman.

1. Neck & Shoulders

The neck and shoulders, a well-known erogenous zone – tickles at first, but when she gets the hang of it, she’ll demand a kissing trail. Manual or oral stimulation is good, both is even better.

Nuzzle her neck with your snout or chin. That’s what some fellows in the animal kingdom do to suggest sexual motive. Occasionally, blow her a warm sigh – which slowly blows all her inhibitions away.

Give her neck and shoulders a good dosage of kissing, licking, sucking and some Transylvanian biting. No wet, sloppy ones please. Manage the slime, spit and slush.

The area could use a relaxing erotic massage. Give her shoulder blades firm squeezes. Use thumb circles especially at the base of the neck, where it’s connected to the shoulders. Stroke it sensually but firmly. Plant pointy kisses when you finish kneading, then gently caress the area using the back of your fingers.

2. Belly Area

See how large it is? How can you let such huge space miss on the action?

Her front torso is a canvass – like her back. And just like her back, it can be a productive playing field. So stop treating this patch of skin as that boring space between the breasts and the vulva during foreplay. It’s a major stop over, so camp there for a while.

Plant generous amounts of light, quick and gentle kisses on this canvass, purposely avoiding the breasts. There’s so much fun to be had. Take the belly button, for example.

It’s a handy place for depositing stuff like ice cubes, grapes, strawberries, syrup or choco drops. Not to mention the fact that women respond well to tongue on their buttons. Even a finger goofing around its outer edges can get her really going.

Do not follow a straight line from the lips down to her garden. Tease her. Let her simmer and hang for a few minutes. Naturally, she’ll want you to heed the call of the vagina and continue down. Which you will… but only in your own terms.

By staying on the area, you fire up specific questions in your partner’s head. It gets her thinking: Will he go all the way down?

That possibility excites her and makes her anticipate the moment when you finally cross Vulval territory. It’s an “almost there, but not quite there yet” anticipation building move – reminiscent of the excitement she encountered when you went higher and higher her inner thighs.

3. Arms

Fingers are your earliest tools for engaging another human being. We shake hands to bridge the physical gap between strangers, for example. Hand holding is commonly the first intimate expression between man and woman – it’s your tip and her tip coming together.

Simple hand holding is always a big hit for women, and it’s always nice to begin this way – no matter how cheesy it may seem. It may be the most mundane thing, but it could very well be the sweetest, most reassuring act this side of the bed.

It indicates warmth, affection and connection – showing her you’re not just there for the lay. When you communicate these things to a woman, an emotional bond waves through the act.

You may then do the classic hand massage. With edible lubricant, drive your thumbs onto her palm in a fanning/circular motion. Perform the same movement, but with less pressure, on the bonier back. Remember, massage is about meat and flesh, don’t knead fragile bones in the hope of relieving tension – you’ll break them.

Up the ante by indulging your girl with some oral sex. Lick those digits in a blowjob manner. Ravish her fingers and flicker your tongue over her columns. Playfully bite and suck all the goodness in that sweet thang.

Lead her hands somewhere nice. Like the naughty parts of your anatomy. Bring them to your stacked chest, and down to your even more well-endowed crotch. Delight her with the variety of textures. Let her feel the benevolence of your face and the suppleness of your behind. Teach her how you want to be touched.

Another favorite is planting kisses on the length of the lady’s tentacles. Beginning from the tips and worming your way towards her body. There’s always something about having someone go nearer, nearer, and nearer you that makes a girl’s heart beat a tad faster during foreplay.

Kissing from the fingertips towards the center means you’re reducing distance between the heads, making it increasingly more intimate and personal. The other way around just creates some sort of a going away psychological distance.

Why A Handjob Can Be Better Than A Blowjob!

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A handjob might take you back to highs school, but it can be better than a blowjob. The touch of a soft ladies hand stroking our rod and lightly caressing our scrotum and nearby regions is divine.

Most men who have been the fortunate recipient of a magnificent handjob will attest that it is often be more thrilling than a blow job.

Why A Handjob Makes Him Feel Special

While great intimacy is found when you make love, sex is a two-way street and there are times when focusing all your sexual energy on him and giving him a glorious hand job will pay back dividends for years to come.

I know that I’ve gushed compliments and favors and extra love and attention on my wife after she has brought me to a glorious climax after an exquisite hand job.  I’m often on a handjob “cloud 9” for a day or two after the special attention.

If you aren’t giving your man a healthy dose of handjobs then it is almost certain that he is resenting it in some way.

What The Stats Say

Here is what one of my subscriber said when I asked what they most liked about handjobs: “Wish I could give you anything – not something that I’m lucky enough for my wife to be willing to do. So you if you have any advice on how to get her interested in taking matters into her hands, I would appreciate it.”

In a different survey I sent out to thousands of my male subscribers.  I asked that only those who have received amazing blowjobs and handjobs reply.  I asked these men how many of them would prefer an amazing hand job over a “good” (not amazing) blow job.  82% said they would want the amazing hand job.

That is great news for all women.   Almost any women can learn the skills and techniques that will have their men in hand job heaven with the right teaching.  Blowjob skills are much harder to master and quite frankly we men realize that for most women sucking on a guy is not always the most pleasant experience.  Loving – yes.  Enjoyable – not for most women.

Your Hands Do More Than Your Mouth

Obviously a woman does not have a penis.  So either she can ask her man to teach her exactly what to do or she can read one of the most thorough guides ever written that will give her confidence and skills to take any man to moments and heights of pleasure he certainly has never reached before.

There are times in which your hands can do much, much more to a penis than you could dream of doing with your mouth or vagina and therefore, sometimes two hands are better than one mouth or one vulva!

Here, we’ll discuss plenty of techniques that you can use for male genital massage to get your partner aroused and to climax in a matter of minutes – or if you feel like it, seconds or hours!

Generally, a well performed hand job works better than fellatio and gives you a break as well ladies – keep in mind that it is easier to prolong a male genital massage for extended periods of time than it is to give your partner ultra-long, ultra-sensuous fellatio.

That doesn’t mean, however, that you should always replace fellatio with a genital massage. There’s just something about a hot mouth on your partner’s penis that really gets him going. But by learning the tricks and techniques of giving a great genital massage, you can be sure that you can always take matters into your own hands!

2 Steps To Prepare Her For An Orgasm

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An orgasm doesn’t just happen. But a lot of men think they do. So they sit and wait like a woman expecting the train to chug its way to the girl. But it doesn’t work that way. Orgasms don’t just happen and a woman has to work for climaxes – she is not a passive agent in this drama.

Up to this point, we spoke of an orgasm as if it’s something  men GIVE the ladies. But the truth is, men can only do so much, we can only give the stimulation, women have to give the O’s to themselves.

1. Help Her Relax

Free the mind and bring your girl to a place where she can enjoy the moment, loosen up, and let go of her worries. We didn’t go through all that trouble just so she can lie passively, stare blankly at the ceiling, and do nothing but wait for the climax.

Of course not! She has a part in this dance. We went through the trouble of relaxing the mind & body so she can actively FOCUS on the sexual sensations. It’s the girl’s job is to take all stimulation, heighten awareness, and use that to power the climaxes.

An orgasm is not a passive thing; she has to feel the intensifying sensations of an unfolding process. She has to close her eyes, stop worrying about bills or anything fishy, block everything else.

2. Switch To Sexual Rapture

She has to recognize your hand and attend its gig on her vulva. She has to feel your fingers inside her, threatening to enflame her G -spot. She has to follow your tongue as it scintillates her clitoris. She has to feel every thrust and be enveloped with your blissful moves.

But as she’s doing these, she shouldn’t drive for an orgasm, but simply ride the journey to it. If she gets worried with cumming, she’ll merely undo everything in Step 1. Here, she’s not pressuring herself, she’s just enjoying the process, being in the moment. She’s not thinking about the big O, but reveling in the ecstasy you bring each other. She’s just playing around.

And then,  just when she’s not expecting it, at a point when she’s just messing around, at a moment when she’s lost all track of time… she begins that familiar writhing. It’s those unmistakable contractions. They’re starting to come in. She moans. Her body thrashes and her head swings side-to-side. Ding. ding. ding!

That’s the two-step process of sidestepping the paradox. First, clear her head. Second, fill it with erotic bliss.

3 Seated Sex Positions To Give Your Girl AMAZING Orgasms

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Sex positions offer a lot of flexibility and comfort in a couple’s repertoire. They allow for (at least) one partner to relax and sit up comfortably, and can offer tremendous clitoral stimulation for your wife as well.

The first time I ever came during intercourse, my partner and I used a seated position that offered both clitoral and internal G-Spot stimulation like no other, and it’s still my go-to position when I want to orgasm quickly while looking in my lover’s eyes. Every woman is different so why not try some of the under-appreciated seated positions to see if any can offer up just what you’re both after.

1. Hot Tub Squat

This position is best in a hot tub or pool with a seated ledge, although it’s possible to perform in a comfy, firm, high-backed chair. Try to keep your genitals out of the water if possible, as chlorine in the vagina can lead to a nasty infection. Get into the tub (or the chair) and sit comfortably with legs bent and your feet flat on the floor.

Have the girl squat on top of you with her knees bent and tucked under your armpits. Plant her feet on the seat beside you and ask your girl to hold onto your shoulders or the back of the chair for support. The movement of the water will determine how frenzied of a sex session you’ll have, but that’s not a bad thing since most women prefer a little bit of a slower experience while building to climax anyway.

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In this position, she can control the speed and depth of penetration, and has lots of leverage to grind her clitoral head into you. If she wants more of a thrill, get your girl to tilt her pelvis towards you, and she’ll feel the G-Spot stimulation almost immediately. Or, turn on the water jets in the hot tub and sit on one, spreading your legs.

The flow will hit every girl right where she needs it, like a makeshift water vibrator. Avoid grabbing the hips and trying to push/pull. Trying to control the thrusting from this position will just be plain annoying, so don’t bother.

2. Lotus

Sit down with your legs crossed in the middle of a bed or on the floor. Your partner straddles your lap so that the girl’s legs wrap around your back and she supports herself with your arms, shoulders and torso.

Gently enter the vagina, rocking back and forth in slow motion to increase pleasure for both of you. If she finds this position to be filling her too deeply, get the girl to move back slightly on your upper thighs so she has more control over the penetration.

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Of all the positions in this eBook, this is the one that received the gross majority of the thumbs-up votes from sex experts and couples alike. In fact, most of the educators I spoke with suggested starting with this position before trying any others, as it’s almost guaranteed with enough time to get her in the right head space and body position to cum.

The rocking movement allows for long, gliding penetration, covering the entire length of the vagina. The G-Spot receives lots of attention too, as does her clitoral hood and head because of the angle and speed. She can also press her breasts up against your body to increase the heat, and make intimate eye contact for mind-blowing bliss.

This is one of the tamer positions in this eBook, but don’t let it fool you can hold this position for hours if need be, and it’ll provide most of the stimulation she craves to get off.

3. Lie Back Lotus

Yoga aficionados will appreciate this intricate sex position. Find a comfortable spot on the floor and sit down with your legs crossed. Invite your lover to sit on your lap with her legs wrapped around your body and have her lay back on the ground, supporting her with your crossed legs.

Penetrate her, making sure that your pelvises are tightly pressed against one another, and your bodies are snug in an embrace. Grasp each other’s wrists and arch both of your backs slowly, leaning back until both of your heads touch the ground. If your penis falls out (and it may if you weren’t tightly enmeshed before you moved backwards) scoot your bum forward and slowly sit up.

Put yourself back inside her, and slowly lie back again. Your knees should prop her up mid-back, and hers should do the same for you. Move with gentle thrusts toward each other, with pelvic lifts, or subtle leg movements.

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It might not seem like a doozie of a sex position, but this little number is something that especially that comes to mind when tantra or yoga fans talk about ‘yoking’. No, that’s not the yellow part of an egg, but rather the word that yoga aficionados use to describe an inseparable connection between two things.

In yoga this refers to the spirit and the body, but in tantra it refers to two people coming together. By lying in this position, you’re choosing to connect with your partner on a higher, more spiritual plane which for some women is crucial to sexual release.

If she tells you she doesn’t feel connected to you or that the spark is somehow lacking, try this position and see if she feels the same way afterward. My guess is that you’ll be coming together in more ways than one!

3 Rear Entry Sex Positions To Make Her Orgasm FASTER!

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Sex positions offer a lot of benefits for you and your wife to make the Big O all that much easier to achieve: G-Spot stimulation, easy access to both partner’s genitals, and the possibility of great body contact depending on the position and angle of penetration.

Most men don’t need a lot of convincing to try doggy style sex, but some women require a bit of encouragement because of the lack of face-to-face contact which can, at times, lead to a disconcerting disconnected feeling. Try out some of these rear-entry positions that will allow your lady lots of body contact, some unusual positioning, and a little extra bang for her buck!

1. Superwoman

If your partner has ever expressed an interest in flying, this might be a go-to position in the near future! To get into it, seat yourself on the edge of your bed with your feet planted firmly on the floor. Ask your partner to sit down on your lap with her back to you, straddle your legs with her knees on the bed.

Enter her, making sure that she’s flush up against your pubic region, then put your arms around her firmly and push her gently forward. Her legs should kick back so that they lay straight on the bed, with your arms stopping her from falling on her face. If either of you struggle to get into sex positions, try having her in doggy position at the edge of the bed, and then crouch down behind her before entering her.

It shouldn’t be too hard from that angle for you to sit down, put yourself into her, and then encourage your lover to stretch her legs out behind her. Movement occurs both with her toes pushing back against the bed to thrust, and your hands pulling her into you with your arms either around her waist or grasping tightly to her upper arms, just above the elbow.

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There’s a lot of friction inherent in this position because of her body position and the angle of penetration. As well, you’ll have a front row seat to massage her G-Spot, and could even attempt anal sex in this position if either of you so desired. To ensure she experiences enough tension to climax, get her to grind her pelvis into your penis, and squeeze her legs around your torso.

If she gets tired, have her lean forward to prop herself up with her hands on the ground or your thighs, and use that leverage to pump into her with even more force. This position is all about rhythm, so find the right position and you’ll find her sweet spot. Just don’t go so far overboard that you launch her off the bed and flat on her face!

2. Let’s Do The Twist

Best performed on the floor, or near a couch / sturdy chair, this half twist, half hitch rear-entry position works well for women who like to grind themselves into their partner for clitoral stimulation, and for men who don’t mind lending a helping hand.
To get into position, start in standard doggy with both of your knees on the ground and her bum flush up against your genitals.

Get her to raise one of her legs with her knee bent, and stick your leg on the same side of your body underneath it to prop her leg up. She’ll need to lean over to get to the right angle, so have her bend forward slightly at the waist and hold onto whatever nearby stable piece of furniture there is.

Your partner should then scoot back so that you can enter her easily. Pull her leg back as far as it can go with your arm, so she’s really snug. Using your arm and leg as leverage, she can now rock herself on your penis and stimulate her clitoris with your leg, her free hand, or both.

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There may not be a lot of thrusting inherent in this movement, but it will certainly set off most of her orgasmic triggers. You have G-Spot action, ample clitoral stimulation, plus an added bonus of putting her in a position that feels restrictive. This is definitely a great pose for women with submissive tendencies, maximizing the the chance of orgasm.

Holding this position for any length of time shouldn’t be too difficult for either of you, so it’s a great go-to when you want a bit of a change from normal doggy, plus it’ll give her more of what she needs to climax.

3. The Rear Snuggle

Lay down on your back with your entire body relaxed and your arms loose at your sides. Have your wife come over to you and gently lay on top of the length of your body, with her back to your stomach. Get her to bend one of her knees so that it’s off to the side, with her ankle touching your hip area, while leaving her other leg straight and ready to use as leverage. She should be resting comfortably against your torso.

Next, slide yourself into her and have her lean further back until your heads are side-by-side, cuddling into each other. Her arms should reach around the back of your head for more support, which will also arch her back in turn, giving both of you a better angle for penetration and G-Spot stimulation. With your right hand, reach over her body and stimulate her clitoral head. Once she’s really excited, start rocking back and forth in a relaxed manner to increase the friction.

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There won’t be a lot of movement with this sex position, but that’s okay because she won’t need it. Keep yourself fully inserted into her as much as possible. If you fall out, simply ask her to arch her back more, or push against her bent leg to find a better angle. Gently stroke toward you, or have her show you with her own hand how she likes to have her clitoris stroked, and you’ll both be rocketing to orgasm in no time.