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9 Mistakes That Will Make Her Never Want To Have Sex With You Again

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Sex isn’t as cut and dry as you might think it is. Make any one of these nine sex mistakes and you can guarantee she won’t want to do it again – EVER.

You just had sex with her. Congratulations! You got laid! But will you get laid by her again? The answer is, it depends. On what? How well you rocked her world and how many sexual mistakes you made. What kind of mistakes?

What She Said About Bad Sex:

It’s really not fair what women put men through. I will admit we are a lot of work, and a lot of foreplay but when you get us, you got us and we can make you feel like King of the World. When you don’t get us, we will easily pack up our little self and walk out the door because we are women and there are other men. Some mistakes men make that lead women to never want to have sex with them again are:

  1. Jack hammer her from beginning to quickly reached end. Unless she says to you verbally, “Give it to me like you are 17 and don’t know what you are doing.” Don’t go at her all rabbit style. The huffing and pounding is not good for anyone. It will be hard for her to get into it and will most likely lead you to coming way too quickly.
  2. Skip foreplay. Why, why would you do this? If you want her to think you are the man then you need to warm her up! Take the time and kiss her, feel her, lick her all these things are good things and hell while you are at it, go down on her! She’s more likely to return the favor.
  3. Orgasm too soon. I know sometimes men can’t help themselves and lets face it, us women are pretty damn hot, so it makes sense that they sometimes lose control but guys should last longer then one Bruno Mars song. This is when foreplay comes back into, well play. If you think you are going to blow your load, why not slow down and focus on her. Or switch up sex positions. If none of that helps then think about baseball or your aunt whatever.
  4. Orgasm too late. By this I mean the rare (but they exist) guys that can go on and on for hours without the help of drugs. Don’t get me wrong we are super impressed that you can have hours of sex but after a while (and after we have come a few times) things start to chafe and sometimes we would rather have a sandwich.
  5. Don’t shower. A smelly guy is never ever a turn one and we will not be putting our mouths on anything that smells like sweat, dirt or a port a potty. Irish Spring yourself!
  6. Remind us of our fathers. Enough said.

What He Said About Bad Sex:

Women should give it up more, just for the sheer about of crap we have to go through just to get you naked. I mean seriously. All’s fair in love and war, my ass! Anyways, here are some other mistakes you should avoid making:

  1. Not cuddling. Even if you’re just hooking up with her, women like to feel a certain level of intimacy after sex, even more so if you’re in a relationship. Pumping and dumping will make her never want to screw you again. I know there are reasons you might have your orgasm and then not cuddle. Maybe you have a leg cramp and need to walk it off. Maybe you just have to pee. Hold it. Or you won’t get to hold on to her again.
  2. Not calling the next day. You should always leave a woman better than you found her. Part of that is what I call “the art of the dismount.” That simply means how you end the relationship or the interaction is as important or more important than what you did during the interaction. Always text or call the next day, even if you never want to see them again or if you just didn’t have a good time. You never want to leave her feeling cheap, easy or used, even if she spent her sexual encounter with you bound, gagged and begging to be treated like a whore. (That’s only fun in the moment.)
  3. No oral sex. There’s no excuse for not going down. IF you need tips, and tricks, just tell her. Most women are ecstatic to meet a guy who wants to get better at going down. But not giving her oral sex is a huge way to guarantee that you’ll never get to go down on her again.

Sex Positions He Likes Best

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Sex positions can change up in your sex routine, but what does HE like best? How can you make sex better for HIM (and have him drooling all over you)?

What She Said About Sex Positions For Him:

I’ve always assumed that guys would like “woman on top” best because it offers them a great view of a sexy naked lady, her glorious breasts and her blissful face. Plus with her on top, the man can just lie back and relax a bit. But, I recently came to find out that some men find “woman on top” emasculating! Not emasculating enough to kill the mood, but being ridden by a woman is not always a favorite among men. (I know, I was shocked too!!!)

Naturally, I then assumed the missionary must be a favorite for men. In this position men can control everything and just go buck wild on their women, or so I thought. Turns out lots of men do not like this position due to the large amount of work and effort they have to put into it. One guy told me it was like “Doing push ups constantly.” YIKES! So I am officially done assuming. And yet, I can’t help but make an educated guess that maybe men like doggy style. In doggy style they can rest on their knees and not have to exert so much energy and they don’t have to look at their partners face.

What He Said About Sex Positions For Him:

So, it’s true, dude on top requires quite a bit of upper body strength, especially tricep strength, which I’m sure you are endless fascinated to learn. I prefer the woman on top, not so much because it’s a nice view (it is) or because women get off way easier (they do), but because so many women are lazy when it comes to sex, but they can’t be when they’re on top.

I can’t tell you how many girls just lay there when you’re on top or they expected you to do all the hip action in doggy style. It’s like they just go “okay, here’s my vagina. Now begin dispensing out the multiple orgasms.” Last time I checked, this was a team sport, right? It does take two to tango, yes? Apparently millions and millions of women have not received this message. I blame feminism and Sex In The City. And of course, Oprah, because we all know every woman on the planet is powerless in the face of Oprah and they just do whatever the hell she tells them.

That’s why woman on top is so great. She has to do all the work, she has make the orgasms happen. Reverse cowgirl or reverse woman on top are more great sex positions, especially for ass men. It’s great stimulation (mentally and physically) for both parties.

Doggy Style

It’s hard to beat doggy style as far as sex positions go. There’s something so raw and primal about it. I think all men love the “me tarzan, you jane” aspect to it. It allows deeper and more intense penetration which is a plus for both parties. And there’s something about that position, simply because it allows you to hit it like a home run in the bottom of the ninth, you know? You feel like a god, because you’re tapping it with a vengeance, she’s penetrated like in no other position, and so she’s screaming in ecstasy, which makes the guy feel like a rock star who screws like a porn star, and there’s just nothing wrong with that.

Missionary

Missionary can give many men the same primal power, but as I mentioned earlier, it does require quite a bit of upper body strength and many men find they don’t last as long because their body gets tired, and when that happens, the breathing gets shallow and then before you know it, it’s over and that may not be what you both had in mind. You might want to consider other sex positions.

Standing

If you can handle it, another one of the hottest sex positions is when the man sits on the edge of the bed, the woman sits on his baby maker, wraps her arms and legs around him and then he stands up and they do the horizontal mambo while standing up. A lot of men can’t hold that position for very long, for obvious reasons, so you can either, pick her up and lean up against the wall or do it like that for a while and then sit down on the beg again. You don’t need to hold that one long, women love that one for many reasons! It takes a bit of practice, but is well worth it!

8 Basic Strokes For Erotic Massage Down South

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Erotic massage doesn’t have to be limited to her back. Instead, make your way to her vulva and massage her down there to get her totally aroused!

Here, you assume the role of a giver. For best results, place a pillow or two under her buttocks. Position yourself beside her or between her legs, in such a way that you have maximum access to her vulva.

These strokes deal largely with the Labia majora, and to the giver, it may seem there’s not much difference among strokes – but to your lady, whose eyes are closed, fully intent on savoring every minute, the trivial variations become different adventures. You’ll be amazed at how simple modifications alter her experience significantly.

You will also notice that none of the strokes intend to penetrate the vagina.

1. “Hello” Technique

Always start with this one. It’s not really a stroke as it is a way to get things rolling. Position your hand like a panty covering her vulva and cup your palm to her shape. Do not move your hand. Not yet. Feel the heat emanating from her. Add eye contact for better results.

“Hello” has a two-fold purpose. One, it’s a getting-to-know-you time. You gain familiarity of her curves & musculature, her soft and fat parts. Molding your palm on her equipment affords you prudence later in the erotic massage. Two, it’s a comfort building technique in that it introduces your hand to her thing. Remember that you’re about to man-handle what women consider as their core, the innermost sanctum of their being.

2. Palm Circulars

Maintaining the “HELLO” position, move your palm in circular motions. Think: Karate Kid “Wax On, Wax Off” motions. Easy, isn’t it?

Here are a few things to consider:

  • You may go Clockwise or Counterclockwise. (She may prefer one over the other)
  • Palm circulars go at different intensities. The soft variety is when your palm merely hovers around her vulva, the hard version is when you grab the fleshy parts and move it in circles.
  • Regarding speed, start the erotic massage slow. Most women prefer RHYTHM over jerky movements, so let your circles flow.

3. Palm or Thumb Glide

Spread your lady’s legs and see how the slit divides her vulva into a left and a right side. Place your palms on her labia majora. If they’re too big, use your thumb or any of the fingers instead. They have the advantage of inducing more focused strokes.

If in the previous technique you were concerned with circular movements, the Palm Glide is all about UP and DOWN movements. (Glide UP even as high as her belly area, and DOWN, near the anus.)

4. Spread & Squeeze

This time, it’s TO THE SIDES.

The Spread & Squeeze part of the erotic massage teases the vulva to open up. You may use your palm, thumb, or any of the fingers for this. Slowly spread the vulva by stroking to the sides, away from the central slit. Stroke to the sides, (not too far or she’ll feel vulnerable and self-conscious.)

For the Squeeze, go the opposite direction by slowly gliding towards the central slit. Let the two inward strokes meet at the center as if mending a torn dress. Join the two sides of her majora.

Now, with your thumb and forefinger, pinch and hold,  then release. The ladies would appreciate a gentle pulling or tugging at this point.

5. Thumb Circulars

This is one of those erotic massage strokes that really get women going. Using the flat of your thumb, employ circular strokes while gliding UP & DOWN her Labia majora. The combination of 2 movements results into spiral strokes on her vulva. Nice!

Vary the size and direction of the circles you make.

6. Finger Walk

Use the flat of your fingers to walk around the vulval zone. Point to an area and then PRESS… and RELEASE. Then repeat. You’re not just brushing or tapping but generating pressure. Imagine you’re playing the piano and you’re masterfully pressing her keys.

A variation is the Finger Moonwalk. Do the press, but before releasing, add a slide element to it. Slide your fingers back towards the wrist, continuing the pressure as you do. Your fingers make possible different variations, experiment and do random press and slides. The multipoint stimulation would make her purr like a cat.

7. Pinch & Slide

This one’s not recommended for sensitive vulvas.

The fleshy areas or those skin folds are homes to the Pinch & Slide. Assuming you’ve employed ample lubrication, pinch an area using your thumb and pointer finger. Hold for a second. That’s the ‘pinch’ part. The ‘slide’ happens when you do a little bit of pulling. As you pull, let the patch of skin or flesh slowly slip from your grasp and pop to freedom.

After releasing, target another area and repeat.

8. The Labial Tug

Her Labia minoras will always be screaming for action during an erotic massage like this.

Using your thumb and pointer finger, tug on her minoras. Not too much but with enough force so she can feel the pull on her clitoris. Tug at different directions and find out what angles work for her. Release by letting it snap off your grasp.

TUG, then RELEASE. Repeat as desired.

After acing the massage, look at your woman and notice how horny she already is. Give yourself a mental pat on the back and proceed to Phase 3 – stimulating the clit itself.

How To Talk To Her About Masturbation

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Masturbation can greatly improve your sex life, especially if she masturbates. It will be much easier for her to orgasm and the overall quality of sex for both you and your partner will increase dramatically. However, not all women masturbate. This can be due to a number of reasons, but if you want to broach this subject with your girl, you’re going to have to talk about it. Here’s how to talk to her about it comfortably, without letting things get weird.

Why You Want Her To Masturbate

Female masturbation is so important is because it helps women learn what feels good to their bodies. When women can experiment in privacy and can learn their bodies better, they become more responsive lovers who can guide you in your quest to bringing them greater sexual satisfaction.

The problem is that a large percentage of women who have masturbated are ashamed or embarrassed to admit they do it. While society pretty much accepts male masturbation, it still views female masturbation as somewhat taboo. Plus, women today were probably raised in households where such things were simply not discussed. Many adult women are shocked when they finally discover that their mothers were also masturbating all that time.

Knowing this is important because you may face difficulty when it comes to talking about masturbating with your partner. Now, of course, some women have no problems broaching the subject. Others, however, are more timid. To be successful, you’ll have to feel your way through the conversation.

Sample Conversation About Masturbation

This sample conversation should give you some idea of how to begin the discussion and how to steer it in the right direction. Of course, the conversation might not go exactly like this and your lover may have different responses than the one here. However, this sample can at least give you the gist of where to take the conversation.

Also, keep in mind that while not all sex conversations should take place in the bedroom, this one may be a good one to have on the bed while both of you are feeling a little amorous. That way it will make what comes next a little easier.

You: “Can I ask you something, baby?”

Her: “What?”

You: “Do you ever get yourself off?”

Her: “What do you mean?”

You: “You know, do you ever masturbate?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you that.”

You: (keeping the conversation light and playful): “Come on, why not?”

Her: “It’s private.”

You: “I masturbate. Sometimes when I see how hot you look I, get so turned on that I can’t help myself. Don’t you ever feel that way?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you.”

You: “I think it would be really hot to watch you get yourself off.”

Her: “Really?”

You: “Absolutely! But since you don’t do that . . . “

Her: “Maybe I’ve done it a couple of times.”

You: “Does it feel good?”

Her: “Not as good as being with you.”

You: “Maybe you could show me how good it feels.”

Her: “You want me to masturbate in front of you?”

You: “I think it would be really sexy.”

At this point, your partner may or may not agree. If she does agree, sit back and watch quietly. Don’t try to get involved or to offer words of encouragement. Pay attention to how she pleases herself. For example, does she use a toy or her hand? This can be very useful information for you because if you want to provide added stimulation during intercourse then you can use whichever method she normally prefers.

What If She Doesn’t Want To?

Of course, there’s a good chance that your partner may not be eager to pleasure herself in front of you. If that’s the case, you can always offer a compromise. Instead of you watching from inside the bedroom, ask her if you can tape her masturbating. You’d be somewhere else in the house or gone completely, but the videotape or DVD would record her masturbating in private. You’d be able to see her in action without her feeling as if she’s invading your privacy.

If she doesn’t go along with that idea, then you may need to drop the subject for a little while. That doesn’t mean you can’t go ahead and start experimenting with methods of clitoral stimulation. You may also have a partner who has honestly never masturbated. In that case, she may not be able to give you much feedback about what feels good to her because she probably won’t know. That’s not a bad thing; it just means you’ll be doing a lot of trial and error.

It also means that you’re going to need good communication so when you do hit upon something that sends pleasure racing through her body she lets you know.

5 Sex Tips From Couples Who Do It All The Time

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Sex doesn’t have to get boring when you’re in a relationship. Here’s how couples who do it all the time keep sex fresh AND hot!

Having sex a lot during a long-term relationship can be a sign that you’re doing something right. However if the sex has suddenly stopped working as been on the decline for a little while it’s hard not to wonder what happened. Couples around the country judge their relationship based on how many times they have sex in a week.

While a lot of sex could be sign of a healthy relationship, there could still be problems. Having a relationship that is solely based on sex is never healthy. If you would like to have a healthy relationship with your wife or husband, as well as have more sex, there are a few key ingredients to making this work. Here are five tips from couples who do it all the time.

1. Open Communication About Sex

One of the hardest things to deal with as a partner who will not express what is making them angry, sad or discontent with the relationship. If you’re wondering why the sex in your relationship has suddenly stopped one of the easiest ways to find out is to simply ask if your partner is feeling reservations about what the two of you have together.

Open communication is extremely important so that nothing is bottled up. Keeping things from your partner is never a good idea and will only prolong the unhappiness that you are feeling. Talk to your partner and get the lines of communication open before you start to have major problems. That way when problems do start to occur you will feel comfortable talking about them openly and honestly.

2. Be Honest

There are a lot of instances were partners will lie to each other in order to detect their feelings. While this is harmless for if your wife or husband asks you whether or not you like something that the wearing, this can evolve into a big problem when they start asking about things that affect the relationship.

No matter how bad or good things are, you should always be honest about a situation. If you don’t like the way that something is, be honest about it with your partner and yourself. You’re never going to have a great relationship or a great sex life until you are honest with yourself and your partner. It doesn’t matter if the sex is great, good or horrible, you cannot improve anything until you address the fact that there is a problem.

3. Admit Your Mistakes

There are too many instances of partners who are too proud to admit that they made a mistake. Have the guts to admit when you have screwed up and you will see that your partner not appreciates this, but will also forgive you much more easily. Having pride can ruin a relationship from the very start. Most couples only need to meet each other halfway to see an amicable end to a problem.

Keep this in mind when you are judging whether or not you are having enough sex the relationship. Your partner might resent something that you did. If you simply apologize for it, you will start to see a vast improvement in communication, trust and other issues that affecting the sex life in your relationship.

4. Quality Time

Quality time is a big one. Whether you are doing something that the both of you love, something that your partner loves or something that you love, having quality time together is essential to building the relationship even more. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together for two months or 20 years, no relationship can survive without quality time together.

Remember that quality time should be spent between the two of you equally. No partner should be getting more quality time doing what they love than the other partner. Doing something that you both love is great, however, compromise must be used when something comes up that one partner does not particularly like. Spending quality time together will bring you closer and create more intimacy, thus leading to a better sex life.

5. Reject Mainstream Expectations

It is very easy to get caught up in the hype that the entertainment industry has laid out over the last couple years. You turn on the television and see that your favorite TV character is having sex with their wife or girlfriend constantly. In order to have a healthy relationship you need to recognize that this is simply entertainment and that real couples do not have sex 3 to 4 times a day.

Talk with your partner so that you know how many times a week they would like to have sex versus how many times a week you would like to have sex. Make sure that you are not getting swept up in the media’s interpretation of a healthy sex life.