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Blowjob Tips For Guys – Do You Put Your Hands On Her Head Or Not?

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Blowjob tips aren’t always for the ladies. Men – should you be putting your hands on your partner’s head while she’s going down on you or not?

Holding Her The Right Way

Believe it or not, this can be a big issue for both women and men when it comes to fellatio. It is important to discuss this aspect of fellatio with your partner before embarking on a fellatio session both partners will know what to expect. Remember guys, every woman is different and it is important to know what your partner prefers during fellatio – having hands on her neck while she is going down on you might make her uncomfortable and may even gag or choke her.

Make sure you know what she prefers and also keep in mind that her mood may change and one night she may be feeling particularly turned on and like the sensation of her face and mouth being guided or pushed down on your penis and another night she may be completely turned off or even repulsed by the idea.

Communicate Beforehand!

This is why it is so important to talk to your partner about this before each oral sex session! If talking about this particular aspect of fellatio before the session seems like a killjoy or ruins the spontaneity of fellatio, you and your partner may want to decide on some kind of hand signal or the like for your partner to let you know whether it is okay for your hands to be on her like that or if she dislikes the feeling at that particular moment.

A Secret “Signal”

One of the best blowjob tips to help you handle the “hands on the head” situation because a woman’s mood may change at any given moment during fellatio and if she is okay with your hands being on her neck at first but wants you to remove them later; she can do so without breaking her rhythm.

This is also great if a man begins to push her down on his penis a little too roughly – which can happen in the heat of the moment. A hand signal gives a woman the option to let her partner know if he is restricting her breathing, going too hard or gagging her. Many women will just take their partner’s hands off of them and some will even put them on if they are feeling that this would turn them on.

Similarly, a man may come up with his own hand signal or the like to let his partner know if he would like to do this. Something such as stroking her hair or neck may let her know that he is feeling like putting his hands on her head would turn him on at that particular moment. Just discuss what the “hand signal” will be before the fellatio session so that she will know what that particular movement means.

One of the most important blowjob tips is to never do anything you haven’t asked about beforehand. So this is almost like an unspoken question and your partner will appreciate you “asking” her if it is okay to do it. If the idea of a hand signal to let her know you’d like to put your hands on her head doesn’t do it for you, you can always just ask! No matter what you do, just go with the flow and make sure to communicate with your partner!

Why Some Women Don’t Want You To Control Their Movements

Well, as we said earlier, a man that puts his hands on a woman’s head and either unknowingly or knowingly pushes her down on his penis too hard or too roughly can easily cause a woman discomfort (both physically and emotionally) and even though you may like deep throating, this may gag or choke her or restrict her breathing.  Although this is one of the blowjob tips to avoid, it generally is not dangerous if this happens – a woman will usually just discontinue performing fellatio if she begins to gag, choke or feel uncomfortable but it is important that you preempt any discomfort she may or may not have by being careful when putting your hands on her head.

Disrupting The Rhythm

Many women do not like having a man’s hands on them like this during fellatio because it disrupts their “rhythm” or their “flow.”  They’ve read plenty of blowjob tips and can definitely get the job done and done well. A woman that is skilled in fellatio will most certainly develop her own way of doing things (somewhat like a routine) and will not appreciate you disrupting that! If this is the case, just sit back and enjoy the ride to orgasm – if she’s good enough not to need your hands on her head to guide her to please you, then you certainly are in for a treat! On the other hand, some women enjoy having a partner’s hands on her head – it may make her feel like his “guiding” her makes her efforts in pleasing him during fellatio more accurate. Either way, it is really up to the woman as to what she prefers while she is performing fellatio.

(For The Ladies) Why He Likes It

A man will often want to put his hands in a woman’s hair so that he can enjoy the feel of it’s softness and then pull it back a little so that he has the added visual stimulation of the best view of her lips wrapped around his penis, not just a mass of hair blocking his sight. Tussled hair is very sexy and being willing to let him get his hands wrapped up in it shows that little “naughty” side in the bedroom and your willingness to get wild with him when the two of you are alone.

Ladies, a clear way for you to let him know you want his hands on your head is for you to take his hands and put them there. He’ll appreciate the eagerness you are showing in letting him know it’s okay for him to engage his hands on your head and in your hair and be an even bigger part of the blowjob.

Fellatio & STD’s – What You Need To Know

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Fellatio is less risky for STD’s than vaginal or anal sex, but is it completely risk free? Not hardly. Here’s what to watch for when giving a blowjob.

Monogamy Is Safer

It is important to note here that most monogamous couples need not worry too much about the health risks and sexually transmitted diseases that are related to fellatio. If you begin becoming sexually active (whether this includes intercourse or not is irrelevant) it is important that both partners are tested for sexually transmitted diseases. If both partners test negative and remain monogamous, unprotected fellatio can be considered a fairly safe activity. However, sexually transmitted diseases can be contracted through fellatio, so it is important to practice safer fellatio with a condom if you are sexually active with a partner that has not been tested for sexually transmitted diseases and/or is not monogamous. Non-monogamous partners should be tested for sexually transmitted diseases regularly.

Yes, The Risk Is Lower – But It’s Still Not Zero

Generally, the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease if you’re receiving fellatio is considered fairly low, however, unprotected fellatio (without a condom) can put the receiving partner at a low risk of Hepatitis B and C as well as HIV. The receiving partner may be at a higher risk of gonorrhea, syphilis, Chlamydia, genital herpes and genital warts and in some cases, pubic lice and scabies.

More Risk To The Giving Partner

The giving partner, however, is much more at risk than the receiving especially if she takes her partner’s ejaculate into her mouth. It is important to become familiar with the various types of sexually transmitted diseases that one can contract by giving or receiving fellatio as well as becoming familiar with the ways to have safer oral sex.

STD’s That Can Be Spread Through Fellatio

  • HIV and Hepatitis C – both of these sexually transmitted diseases are spread through blood to blood contact, although, HIV can also be found in other bodily fluids such as breast milk, vaginal secretions and most importantly, semen. In addition, due to eating, chewing gum, brushing their teeth and the like, many people have small cuts to the inside of their gums and cheeks that would make the perfect reception site for a particularly deadly strain of HIV or Hepatitis C. As for your partner, the chances of him contracting HIV or Hepatitis C from your mouth during fellatio is slim, but remember, if there are any abrasions in your mouth or any abrasions on his penis, that risk increases dramatically. You may not be able to see microscopic cuts or lacerations from brushing your teeth and you may not notice a tiny scrape or something similar on your partner’s penis – but HIV and Hepatitis C will notice! For the safety of both the giving and receiving partner – if you are unsure of the other’s STD status, practice safer oral sex!
  • Hepatitis A and B – these diseases are a little less serious than HIV and Hepatitis C, for the simple fact that both can be prevented with a vaccine and if contracted, can be treated with medication. However, care should still be taken when performing fellatio to avoid contracting these harmful sexually transmitted diseases. Hepatitis B is contracted through the same types of bodily fluids as HIV, such as vaginal fluids, semen, and breast milk. Hepatitis A can only be contracted through oral contact with feces, therefore should always be guarded against very carefully if you plan on coming into contact with your partner’s anus.
  • Genital and Oral Herpes – this is perhaps the most commonly spread sexually transmitted disease through oral to genital contact. That’s because there are two types of herpes – oral herpes and genital herpes. That does not, however, mean that oral herpes can only be spread by mouth to mouth contact and genital herpes can be spread by genital to genital contact. A person with an oral herpes outbreak can transmit the herpes virus from her mouth to her partner’s penis while performing fellatio and similarly, he can transmit genital herpes to her mouth in the same way. Although genital and oral herpes generally cannot be spread while there is no outbreak (that is, there are no pimples or pustules on the skin) that does not mean that this sexually transmitted disease should be taken less seriously if the infected partner does not have a breakout.
  • Genital Warts (Human Papillomavirus) – This particular sexually transmitted disease spreads the same way as genital herpes does and can even appear in the oral area, making it a highly contagious and serious disease when considering performing or receiving fellatio. Again, follow the same safer oral sex guidelines as genital and oral herpes – don’t perform or receive fellatio from a person showing symptoms of genital warts (small, white and cauliflower-like pustules). Bear in mind, however, that a person can carry the human papillomavirus without ever experiencing an outbreak of genital warts and as far as mucous-membrane contact is concerned, this person can still spread the disease.
  • Bacterial Infections (Chlamydia, Gonorrhea and Syphilis) – although it is a fairly well known fact that if caught early enough, bacterial infections such as Chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis can be treated and most likely cured with antibiotics, this is no reason to treat these sexually transmitted diseases less seriously than one would treat HIV or Hepatitis C. To be honest, the partner giving fellatio is more at risk for these bacterial sexually transmitted diseases because these diseases usually infect mucous membranes – meaning anywhere soft, dark and wet. Isn’t a mouth soft, dark and wet? Many of these sexually transmitted diseases bear no symptoms (especially Chlamydia) and if left untreated, they can become very serious and even deadly (in the case of syphilis). If you are performing fellatio on a partner who has not recently had an STD test or a non-monogamous partner, it is best to utilize safer oral sex practices.

Oral Sex: How To Handle Semen During A Blowjob

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Oral sex for a guy will hopefully end in ejaculation – but when it does, what the heck are you supposed to do with his semen?

Communicate With Your Partner

This may single-handedly be THE biggest reason for communication! We all know that men ejaculate when they experience an orgasm and if they experience an orgasm during fellatio, then it is likely that the ejaculate will end up in your mouth. Depending on your preferences, this may or may not be a turn on for you, you may be indifferent to it, or the very idea may repulse you and send you running for the porcelain throne.

Swallowing

The easiest way to dispose of semen during oral sex is to swallow it. But if the idea just doesn’t do anything for you (or if it makes your stomach turn) read on for some different ways to handle his semen – and still make it sexy.

Spitting In A Towel

So you’re okay with it in your mouth, but actually getting it down? Not happening. Keep a towel nearby and when he’s done, discreetly spit his semen in it. You can also keep a glass of water or another drink nearby to swish out your mouth. This also works well if he likes to kiss you afterwards but doesn’t like the taste of his own spunk.

Finish Him Off With A Handjob Instead

This technique may sound less passionate or devoting than swallowing your partner’s ejaculate, but it doesn’t have to be. Enthusiasm makes all the difference in the world and as long as you continue to let him know that you are enjoying his orgasm (even though his orgasm is being finished with a hand instead of a mouth) and he may very well be so wrapped up in the pleasure that he doesn’t notice the difference.

Sound making or some dirty talk is of utmost importance here! You don’t have to get loud or wild but making some noises lets him know that you are getting off on him getting off and that will definitely enhance his orgasm! Verbally telling him how much it turns you on to see him cum might be just what he needs to hear to get him to finish strong as you watch.

Bad First Experiences With Oral Sex

A large number of women have had “BAD” first experiences with the first blowjob they ever gave, because they were either young and didn’t know what to expect, or some guy decided to not tell them when they were going to orgasm and they found themselves unexpectedly with a surprise mouth full of semen and that unpleasant first experience left them unwilling to ever try again.

Again, this is why communication and assurance are key factors to getting over an objectionable first experience and not letting it keep you from a very special and wonderful experience with your trusted partner.

Let Him Go “In” You

Guess where “else” is outside of your mouth?” You guessed it! Your warm, wet and waiting vagina. You can give your man the most wonderful blowjob (up to the climactic eruption) and when he says “NOW,” quickly remove your mouth and stick his penis deep into you, while letting your vagina provide that last few pumps to finish him off and capture every drop of his semen.

In the end, it really doesn’t matter where the semen goes during oral sex as long as both partners communicate before the fellatio session and are in agreement and as long as both partners stick to that agreement!

How To Give A Blowjob To An Uncircumcised Man

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Oral sex is the same from guy to guy, right? Wrong! If he’s uncircumcised, you need to have a few more tricks up your sleeve. It’s not that different (if you’ve never done it before, you’re still likely to rock the guy’s world, even if you don’t know what you’re doing). However, if you want to really be a pro at giving head, here’s what to do if he’s uncut.

Have A Shower First

Of course, having your man shower before oral sex is a pretty good idea whether he’s circumcised or not. However, if he’s uncut, you’re really going to want him to wash up first. The reason for this is that in between the head of his penis (called the glans) and the foreskin, there can be build up called “smegma.” Yeah, awesome name for it, right? This smegma is a white, cheesy like substance that has an odor (again, awesome!). It’s not harmful to you or your partner if you give him a blowjob before he’s cleaned himself up, but unless you’re pretty kinky, you’re not going to like it a bit.

What you don’t want to do is go down on him and tell him his penis stinks and to go wash it before you continue. That’s a mood killer if there ever was one. Work a shower into your foreplay. Tell him you want to see him wet and naked, and that you want to soap his body all up. Wash his penis for him. Make sure you do it lovingly and erotically – this is still part of the foreplay. If you’re scrubbing like you’ve got to get a stain out, you’re going to turn him off and washing that hard really isn’t necessary. Slide his foreskin back gently and wash his glans and his shaft. If his foreskin is slid back and stretched out, you should be able to clean it easily.

Be Gentle!

A circumcised man has about 10-20,000 less nerve endings than an uncircumcised male in the head of the penis. In a circumcised male, the glans (which is supposed to be wet, soft and tender like a clitoris) rubs up against underwear and clothing. It develops a tough outer skin, but has become very desensitized. Women who give head to circumcised men likely have to work a lot harder, because once a man is cut, those sensitive, orgasmic nerve endings are GONE!

So if your guy is lucky enough to still have those, you’re going to want to be very gentle. Something that might really get a cut guy off might hurt like hell for a sensitive uncircumcised fella! If in doubt, always ask. Don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, does this feel good? Are you enjoying this? What would you like better?”

Insert The Tip Of Your Tongue Underneath The Foreskin

Take your tongue and form it into a somewhat soft point. Stick it underneath the foreskin, against the head of his penis. Run it around in a circle, swishing your tongue over his entire glans, still while keeping it under the foreskin. This oral sex technique is incredible for him because not only does he get to feel your tongue on his sensitive glans, he also gets to feel it on the underside of his foreskin, where there are many more pleasurable nerve endings.

Use Lube!

An uncircumcised male isn’t used to having any “dryness” down there. You may think that because you’re giving him a blowjob, it’s really not going to be “dry” at all – which is true if you can produce enough saliva. When going down on an uncut guy, think “wetter is better.” If you can’t produce enough spit, consider using a flavored lube to keep things wet enough and going smoothly.

When Using A Condom

If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, or just want to have safer oral sex, consider using a condom. Condoms can reduce the sensitivity a man feels during oral sex, so you need to be careful when you go to put it on. Make sure that he’s erect first (duh – a condom won’t go on if he’s not!) and that his foreskin is slid completely back, exposing the head of his glans. Hold the foreskin down at the base of his penis with one hand while you put on the condom with the other.

This ensures that the condom covers the actual sensitive part of his penis instead of covering the foreskin. If the condom is covering the foreskin and the foreskin is covering the head of his penis, how is he supposed to feel anything?

10 Red-Hot Oral Sex Positions (For Him)

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Oral sex positions can make a world of difference during a fellatio session – it can make fellatio exciting, relaxing or even uncomfortable. It is important to find a few that both you and your partner are comfortable with and utilize those (and mix them up) on a regular basis. You can also try new ones to spice up your normal fellatio routine. Here, we’ll list several that you and your partner can try!

On Your Knees

This is perhaps the most versatile fellatio position that there is, and probably the most widely used. You can do this with him standing and you kneeling, or with him in a chair (or on the edge of the bed) and you on your knees in front of him accordingly. This is probably the one that you will want to use if you’re performing fellatio on your partner in different places, such as in the car or in the laundry mat, etc. He may enjoy the feeling of dominance he has over you.

The Captain Morgan

Have your lover stand and lift one leg, placing his foot on either a stool, or the edge of the bed. This slight change in the traditional position allows you access to his testicles and also opens the “breezes” so that when you lick and get him wet, he’s more exposed.

Upside Down

Any oral sex positions in which your head is facing your partner’s feet is ideal for deep throating. This one is most comfortable while lying on a bed or other flat surface and can be incorporated into mutual oral sex (69) or just oral sex for him.

Lying Down

This is much like the above; however, your head will be facing your partner’s head instead of his feet. This is a great one in which your partner can put his legs on your shoulders, spread his legs wide, and raise his knees to his chest or any combination of the above. This type of variation can bring him more pleasure and you greater access to his penis.

The Koala Bear

Remember photos of a Koala Bear hanging on to a tree? When you’re lying down, just shift to the side. He will have a great view of your mouth pleasuring him and you can throw one your legs around him and stimulate yourself against his lower leg. He’ll feel how wet and turned on you are!

Sideways

Or a sideways sixty-nine position – this one is exactly how it sounds. You both will lie on your sides facing each other, with your head facing your partner’s feet. You can use this for mutual oral sex or for pleasing only him. It’s also a good for deep throating!

Sitting (On Your Face)

In this position, your partner will sit mainly on your chest, bringing his penis downwards and into your mouth. Generally, his knees will be resting on either side of you on the bed to avoid putting too much pressure on your body. To do this, however, you and your partner will need some kind of signal that you can use to let him know if he is penetrating your mouth too deeply or if you are gagging or finding it difficult to breathe. This frees up both of your hands because he is controlling the speed from this angle. It gives you time to use your hands to stroke his buttocks and the backs of his thighs and to run your hands up his stomach and onto his chest.

Doggy Style Isn’t Just For Intercourse

Yyou can perform fellatio in a doggy style position too! You can lick your partner’s penis and testicles from behind, if both you and your partner are comfortable having your face so close to his anus and back end, or you can put him on his hands and knees and you work your body up under him and place your mouth where that your vagina would normally be. I call this one a “double decker doggy” since you are both on your hands and knees – but you are up under him facing the opposite direction. Most of the work is on the woman, but it makes for a ‘different’ blow job experience for the man. It is less visual than some of the other oral sex positions but ranked up there with the men surveyed who have tried it!

Him Sitting With His Knees Up

As he is sitting in the middle of the bed with his legs bent – your head is between his legs and your backside is up in the air. Place a large mirror off the bed so that he has a full view of you naked and can look down to see your head between his legs and so that he can see the visual of your naked backside. Arch your back and move as you are giving him a blowjob so that he enjoys the visual stimulation of watching your body move in front of him and in the mirror.

Lying On Your Back

This one is a little tricky, but if situated well, you are at a prime angle for deep throating. Lie on a bed with your head at the edge of the bed (this is important – other flat surfaces won’t do because you’ll need to be raised up a couple feet). Your partner will get on his feet or knees (depending on how far off the ground your bed is) and guide his penis into your mouth.

To successfully do this, you will need to hang your head off the edge of the bed just enough so that your mouth is level with your partner’s penis. In this position though, you will need to utilize that signal in case your partner begins thrusting too hard and you cannot breathe. If done properly, however, this one can be a lot of fun!

This also gives him free reign with his hands so that he can play with your breasts as well.

A great trick is if you are willing to swallow, it to have a glass of warm water on the nightstand. When he is close to ejaculating, have him tap your shoulder, quickly fill your mouth with the warm water and lie back down – the sensation of him ejaculating into your mouth filled with warm fluid and you swallowing it down is something he won’t forget.