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How To Get Him Clean Before Oral Sex – The SEXY Way

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Oral sex can be awesome, but it can also be gross if he’s not fresh down there. Here are some sexy ways to clean him up before oral sex without him knowing!

When you’re talking about hygiene, it’s easy to get too technical with it. You want to scrub him all over and make sure he’s clean around his scrotum, his perineum and underneath his foreskin if he’s uncircumcised. If your lover sees you washing him up like a doctor washes their hands before surgery, he’s not going to be very turned on and in fact, it might just offend him. You want to make the hygiene process as fun, relaxed and sexy as you can. So here are five things you can do tonight to get him clean and turned on!

1. Join Him In The Shower While Wearing A Wet T-Shirt

This is probably a favorite of most men. You can guarantee he’s had sexual fantasies about seeing half naked women wearing soaking wet white t-shirts, with their voluptuous breasts and erect nipples peeking out from underneath. Seriously, this fantasy rates just below the Princess-Leia-In-The-Gold-Bikini fantasy for most men.

Take advantage of this instant turn on and use it to get him squeaky clean before you go down on him, without him ever knowing. Next time he’s in the shower, get completely undressed, and then put on one of his white undershirts, or a white t-shirt of your own. No pockets, no designs, no nothing. Just white, with sleeves. As he’s washing his hair, slip into the shower with him, allowing the front of you to get soaking wet. When he turns around and sees you in all of your wet glory, don’t be surprised if his eyes pop out of his head!

When he’s had his visual fill, take the shirt off and allow him to feel you up and get your breasts all soapy. Then, take his hard penis in your hands and soap it up while he moans with delight! Congratulations, you’ve just killed two birds with one stone and he has no earthly clue what you were really doing.

2. Surprise Him With A Sexy Smelling New Shower Gel

Next time you go to the store, find a shower gel that you find utterly scrumptious and erotic. Don’t hesitate to buy one or two bottles, especially if it’s on sale. Again, surprise your man next time he’s in the shower by slipping in with him, bottle in hand. Smile sexily and say, “I got you a new shower gel. I think it smells really good. Can I rub it all over your naked, wet body?”

You probably won’t get a “no” and if it has a great scent, he’ll like it too. Once he’s clean and you’ve got him toweled off and in the bed, make a big deal of how awesome he smells before enveloping his penis in your mouth. You’ll probably find that he uses your new shower gel a lot more often!

3. Let Him Catch You Masturbating In The Shower

This one is fun, but can be difficult to do if you have a notoriously unobservant husband. Grab your fave sex toy (or use your fingers) and head for a wet and wild masturbation session. You’ll start out solo, but with any luck, your man will join you before too long. Don’t be afraid to drop subtle hints about where you’re going, what you’re doing and how hot it will be for him to take a peek.

Once you’re in, make a big but convincing show of how good what you’re doing feels. Make lots of sexy noises, but don’t go over the top. If you sound like the girl in the porn movie who gets banged from behind, you’re not doing a good job. Make it sound sexy, but totally natural. If you get into it, that shouldn’t be too hard to do. Just don’t stifle your moans of ecstasy – you definitely want them to reach his ears.

Once he drops in on you, look appropriately abashed but don’t immediately close your legs or stop what you’re doing. Let him get an eyeful of the action going on before you look deeply into his eyes and tell him how much you wish it was him doing it do you. It won’t take much convincing for him to de-robe and hop in the shower with you, giving you both the opportunity to soap each other up and get clean before oral sex. Who knows, he might go down on you too!

4. Draw A Romantic, Candle Lit Bath

After your man has had a long, hard day at work, draw him a hot bath with candles. You can do rose petals too, but depending on what kind of guy you’re dating or in a relationship with, that may be too over the top. But don’t assume that just because he’s a man that he can’t enjoy a nice bath.

Let him have a few minutes to relax, perhaps with a cold beer or a nice glass of wine. Come into the bathroom naked, holding a shower pouf and either some of your new sexy smelling shower gel or your normal soap. Offer to wash his back and his hair to relax him. As you’re massaging shampoo into his hair and working the lather down his back, he should become more and more relaxed. Allow your hands to drift to his penis, which will most likely already be hard and waiting for you.

Make washing his penis part of your erotic soap down. Allow him to finish his bath for as long as he wants and enter the bedroom to find you ready and waiting. This is an excellent time to give your man a blowjob while sitting on the edge of the bed with him standing!

5. Try Some Shower Only Sex Toys

This tactic is similar to the shower gel tactic, but you’re going to use some shower only sex toys instead. Splurge on a waterproof couples vibrator or some specially designed sex handles that help couples achieve different sex positions in the shower. Make sure you’re getting a toy that you both can use. It’s really no good if you get a waterproof rabbit vibe or a clitoris vibrator – it’s like him buying a fishing pole for you. He’ll know who the “gift” is really for.

You can suggest trying them out before he gets in the shower, or you can give them to him in the shower. Do whatever feels right at the moment. As you’re trying out the new toys, make sure to get nice and soapy. Rub him up and down while using the soap as a lubricant, thereby washing his penis thoroughly and making him hard and turned on at the same time.

You may want to give him head or have sex right there in the shower depending on what sex toy you chose, or you can finish off in the bedroom. Again, do what feels right when it feels right and both you and your partner will have a lot of fun!

How To Get Him To Reign In His Pubic Hair

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Shaving for a guy can often be an afterthought, but if you’re giving him head, he needs to keep his pubic hair under control. Here’s how to get him to do it.

While being clean is the first step to preparing for a great blowjob, you don’t want to completely overlook pubic hair. Wild, unkempt pubic hair can ruin fabulous oral sex, so make sure you and your partner agree on what kind of down there grooming he needs to do.

While you don’t want to have a conversation about how much he stinks and needs to take a shower because this can put a big nick in his self esteem, the same is not true of the pubic hair conversation. It is perfectly appropriate to discuss how pubic hair affects you when you’re giving him head and your opinions on how he can handle his bush.

Talking To Him About It

Don’t broach the subject right before sex. Even though it’s fine to talk about what to do with his pubes, it’s still not a conversation you want to be having right before you’re about to get it on. So talk about it after sex, or while you’re having breakfast the next morning. Choose a benign time to bring it up and don’t be critical about it. Simply tell him that it would make giving oral sex easier for you if he had more control over the growth of his pubic hair.

Remember though, you’re only offering opinions on what he could do with it that would make giving him a blowjob better for you. You are not the decision maker, nor can you force him to shave or wax if he’d prefer to go au natural. The end decision is his, but you certainly have the right to weigh in, considering it’s your face down there, not his.

Trimming

Trimming is probably one of the most popular male pubic hair grooming options. Trimming is easy and fast, and makes a guy feel less vulnerable than shaving or waxing does. To be honest, most men trim. All he needs to do is take a beard trimmer (works better than a hair trimmer because it is smaller and can more accurately trim angled areas) and use an attachment that will trim the hair at the length he wants. If he likes a lot of hair, you can compromise by using a longer trimming attachment that still keeps his mane under control without making him feel like he’s getting ready to slide into a Speedo.

If you would like his penis completely bald but he says there’s no way he’s going there, compromise with a close trim. A close trim is actually a favorite among couples, because it’s virtually impossible for a woman to get a pube stuck in her teeth during oral sex if he’s trimmed almost down to the skin, and men like it because the closer the trim, the larger his penis looks. If you have trouble convincing him to groom, let him know that it’s a proven fact that a penis looks smaller when it’s drowning in pubic hair.

If he gets his bush under control, he could easily add 2” to his visible penis length. This is usually all it takes to sell a guy on keeping his pubic hair trimmed. While many men are going to prefer trimming themselves, there are going to be a few hard to reach places. Offer to trim for him, but don’t be surprised if he turns you down.

Shaving

Shaving is another option, one that many guys couple with trimming, depending on how they like their pubic hair to look. Shaving is totally up to him – because many guys don’t like it. Shaving can cause wicked shaving bumps (sound familiar?) and it can be super uncomfortable when it grows back. And no, men won’t consider what they prefer on a woman during cunnilingus when they’re taking their own pubic hair status into account. He’ll never sympathize with you on shaving bumps, razor burn and itchy regrowth. He’ll still want you to shave.

If your man does shave, it’s unlikely that he’ll shave it all off, although some guys do prefer to do that and like the completely bald look. Or, he may shave everywhere except for a patch of hair in the front, like a woman’s “landing strip.” Either way, shaving is a lot of upkeep for a guy and doesn’t make that much of an impact on giving head, unless you want to lick and suck him from top to bottom and plan putting everything from his cut lines to his anus in your mouth. Then, you might want him to shave. But it’s still his call.

Waxing

Almost no guy will wax his pubic hair. Guys aren’t usually into taking pain for the sake of perceived beauty the way women are. Women are raised to believe that if it makes you look better, it doesn’t matter if it hurts. Not so with guys – they’d rather look like Chewbacca than pull all their pubes out by the root in one fell swoop.

So don’t suggest waxing to your guy – just don’t. He’ll probably look at you like you’re nuts or think you get off on causing guys immeasurable pain. However, if you are with one of the few guys who do prefer waxing as their means of pubic hair grooming, good for you. Be thankful he cares that much.

Once your man has completed his grooming ritual, do not forget to let him know how much his newly manscaped genitals turn you on. Lavish them with lots of attention, and don’t skimp on the praise. And of course, make sure you’re groomed too when he goes to return the favor. If you want him to trim or shave, you’d better not look like you stepped out of a time machine from the 70’s when he takes your pants off.

How To Prep Him For Amazing Head

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Blowjob tips are often for you, but there are many blowjob tips apply to guys. Here’s what to do to him before you head south to make sure he’s clean and ready!

It’s unarguable that it’s essential for a man to have excellent hygiene if he wants to get good head. It’s much more difficult for a woman to give, let alone enjoy, a great blowjob if he’s filthy downstairs! There are a few things that cause a man to have poor genital hygiene, and these are the things he needs to pay attention to before you go south.

Pubic Hair

Long pubic hair can really get in the way during fellatio. It’s easy for a woman to get hair in her teeth or on her tongue while she’s going down on him, causing her to stop the action to try to get the hair out before it lodges itself in her throat. This is not only a huge mood killer, it can also trigger her gag reflex. Not to mention that when she stops the action to remove the hair, it will nix his arousal and if he was even remotely close to orgasm, he wouldn’t be afterwards.

Long pubic hair will also trap sweat and bacteria, causing the odor of a man’s genitals to become quite pungent and overwhelming. There are many girls who won’t even go down there because they’ve had a bad experience with a man’s genital odor! Needless to say, long and unkempt pubic hair can wreak havoc on good head!

Sweat

Sweat hangs on to long pubic hair better than it does short pubic hair or shaved skin, but that doesn’t mean that men who groom their pubes suddenly don’t have sweat problems down there. Even with regular showering, if a man has a very physical job, he’s naturally going to sweat more down there, causing bacteria and odor to go haywire. A little baby powder goes a long way here, as does a shower right before oral sex. If a man doesn’t make an effort to control his sweat down south, he’s not going to be on the receiving end of a blowjob anytime soon.

Clean Underwear

For women, fresh, clean underwear is a must right before oral sex, even if they’re just going to come off again in ten minutes. Dirty underwear can again, hang on to odor, and let’s just say that some men aren’t all that great at wiping since they only have to do it every once in awhile. You’d think that changing into clean boxers or briefs would be part of a man’s pre-oral sex routine, but it’s not always. Just imagine how horrifying it can be when a woman slides down her lover’s underwear, only to be slapped in the face with his “manly” scent before she lays eyes on a skid mark?

She will never want to go down on him again! If you want your man to have clean underwear on before you go down on him, simply gift him with a new pair of sexy boxers or briefs. No, you can’t pull a pair out of a Hanes package and call it a “gift.” Make sure they’re something to write home about. Pair that with a shower before sex as part of foreplay and you’ve got a fresh, clean man who has no idea you’re fixing him up so you can suck him off!

His hygiene is extremely important before oral sex, but unfortunately, many guys just don’t consider the need for it. They never have to put their face down there, so they just don’t get it. Other men are super clean, so you don’t have to worry about it. If your man struggles keeping his undercarriage clean and fresh, there are some ways you can skirt around his bad hygiene without telling him that he needs to take a bath or change his underwear.

2 Orgasmic Blowjob Sex Games That She Will Love!

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A blowjob is something lots of girls don’t like to give – but with these orgasmic sex games, she won’t mind giving a blowjob (or two or three) to you at all!

“Do You Want Me To Do You?”

Step 1:

Set a timer for 5 minutes and have her lay on the bed.

Say to her “For the next 5 minutes I will do whatever you want me to do to you.” (Note: Some women will panic at being given control like that. Make some suggestions. “I can massage you. I can touch you all over. I can kiss you all over. I can finger you.”)

When my girlfriend and I play this game she usually asks me to spend time sucking her breasts or focusing on something that I (I’m a horny dude and have a tendency to want to get in there and get to business) don’t usually take the time to do long enough when we’re having sex.

Whatever she asks you to do DO IT. In fact, do it with GUSTO. Let her know you’re ENJOYING giving her pleasure.

The great thing about this game is that it takes all the pressure off of her to perform or to do anything to you. She can just relax and enjoy what you’re doing to her. It creates a great sense of gratitude and reciprocity. (Taking penetration off the table can actually do wonders for your sex life in general, by the way.)

Step 2:

SWITCH!

After the five minute timer is up, ask her if she enjoyed that. Look her in the eyes and kiss her. Then ask her if she wants to switch places. She’ll probably say yes, but if she doesn’t, just go with it. Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint.

If she does say yes (she probably will) DO NOT jump the gun and ask her to give you head. In fact, don’t ask her to do anything overtly “sexual” at all.

Whatever it is, make it something SENSUAL instead of sexual. Bringing her mouth into things is a GOOD idea at this point, but you need to make sure you’re not rushing to oral sex.

By telling her NOT to touch her cock (do it with a smile, not a bark. She needs to know she won’t be punished if she does) you free her up to make the DECISION to touch your cock or give you blowjob on her own. Expectations suck. Remove them and great things happen.

OK, that note wasn’t quick at all, but it was really important.)

“Do You Want Me To Do You? – REVERSE”

Reverse the rules.

Game two is essentially the same thing with reversed rules. Have her lay down on the bed. Say, “OK, now I’m going to spend 5 minutes doing whatever I want to do to you.”

It’s important not to act predatory or weird here. If you have some fetish she’s NOT into, this isn’t the time to bring it up. This isn’t a dom/slave thing or anything like that. Instead pick something you really DO want to do to her for 5 minutes, tell her what it is and stick to it.

The first time you do this you probably want to keep it pretty basic. Touch her all over. Give her a massage. Feed her your fingers. Massage her butt. (Butt massages turn women into jello, by the way.)

WORSHIP HER BODY. Make her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. Show her how much you adore her and even TELL her how much you adore her while you’re doing it. If she gives you signals that she really wants you to touch her clitoris while you’re doing this, go ahead and do it. But make sure it’s her idea.

NOTE: SHE GETS VETO POWER. If she stops you from doing something RESPECT HER. After you’ve worked on her for 5 minutes (the timer is important) reverse things again. Lay down and say, OK, now you get to do whatever you want to me for five minutes.

Ask her what she wants to do and let her TAKE CHARGE and be in control. Your only job is to LAY there. Keep your damn hands at your side. Only move if she tells you to move. She’s in charge and you’re there for her to do what she pleases to.

From experience I can tell you that if you’ve seeded the idea of a blowjob being a positive thing in her mind she may well take the initiative here.

How To Prep For An Amazing Blowjob (For Her)

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A blowjob not only requires hygiene for him, she also needs to do a few things to get ready as well. Ladies, here’s what to do to get ready for a killer blowjob.

You might think that hygiene during a blowjob only applies to your partner being showered and trimmed or shaved down there. While his hygiene is important for both you and him, your hygiene matters too. There are a few things you want to observe before you go down on him, and many of these things may already be in your grooming repertoire. However, keep these things in mind before you go down on your lover and the blowjob will be that much sweeter.

Brush Your Teeth And Make Sure Your Breath Is Fresh

While a surprise blowjob in the morning can be lots of fun, morning breath isn’t. But dragon breath isn’t only present in the morning – you need to be aware of how your breath smells throughout the day. Most people are already concerned with this and keep gum or mints handy, especially if they have a profession in which they talk to people often or are in close quarters with others. You certainly don’t want to give your man head after you’ve just eaten garlic bread or had fresh onions on your sandwich!

To ward off bad breath before you go down on your man, consider carrying a toothbrush with toothpaste with you, tucked in your purse or pocket. There are actually travel toothbrushes out there that only require only water – they can typically be found in gas stations and grocery stores where you would find the gum. If you can’t carry something to brush your teeth, at least carry with you a pack of mint or cinnamon gum (fruit flavored gum will rarely kill dragon breath) or breath mints. Altoids are excellent because they’re small and travel friendly, but do an excellent job of fixing bad breath!

Make Sure Your Lips Are Soft

You don’t want to give your partner head if your lips feel like lizard skin. If your lips are dry or cracked, they can make your lover uncomfortable when you rub them up and down the skin of his penis when you’re giving him head. You want your lips to be kissably soft – because you’ll likely be kissing him on the lips too!

A great way to soften your lips on the fly is to use a toothbrush with plain water (another reason you should have a toothbrush handy). Dip the brush in water and “brush” your lips like you brush your teeth. You don’t want to do this as hard as you brush your teeth – make sure you’re using soft, gentle strokes. This will exfoliate your lips and remove the flakes of dry, dead skin that are responsible for rough lips.

When you’re finished brushing your lips and they’re soft and smooth, apply a good lip moisturizer or lip balm. This is something else you want to keep handy. Apply it regularly to keep your lips soft and in fellatio ready condition.

Have Clean, Soft Hands And Trimmed Nails

You’ll likely be using your hands at some point on your lover’s genitals when you’re going down on him, whether you’re just holding his penis in place for you to work on it, or using your hands as part of the action. Keeping your hands clean and soft is just as important as brushing your teeth and keeping your lips soft!

First thing’s first – you’ll want to make sure your nails are clean and trimmed or filed. Hangnails or ragged nails can be exceptionally uncomfortable if you accidentally end up poking or scraping your man when you’re giving him head. It’s an excellent excuse to get a good manicure! Exfoliate your hands with a good scrub and lotion them up afterwards, so you have the most gentle touch possible when you put your hands on your partner’s genitals. If you do get a manicure, they’ll cover the exfoliation and the lotion as well – so getting pampered with a manicure means you’ll actually leave the salon with blowjob and handjob ready hands!