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The #1 Secret To Flirting

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Flirting is often discouraged because of our insecurities. We want a better job, we want more money, we want to be more attractive to the opposite sex, we want to be thinner and we want a great partner. We constantly want more and more out of life, which is healthy and natural for human beings.

So, it is also natural that once you have what you want, you don’t obsess about it the same way.

If you were dreaming about having an amazing sports car and finally bought it after 10 years, the desire to want the car would disappear as soon as you get it.

All of us have the desire have more money, or to even be rich. Well, everyone except rich people.

Wealthy people constantly explain to others that being rich is “not all it’s cracked up to be” and that they want more from their lives too.

In this example, even rich people want more out of life. They’re usually unhappy because they crave a long term relationship, which they may find difficult to achieve because of their heavy involvement in building wealth for themselves. This is a core concept that is very important to understand, and one that is heavily linked to flirting.

UNIVERSAL LAW: People Want What They Can’t Have

Now, think very carefully about how this scenario could be relevant in the dating world. Very feminine beautiful women are shown interest from eager and horny men every day of their lives. By the time these young women reach adulthood their experience with men, dating and relationships is considerably higher than the men who don’t date often.

These women are approached countless times a week by men communicating their interest in them. This may be flattering for awhile, but like everything else, after a while it gets “boring”. If she could have any man within five seconds of meeting him, where is the challenge in that?

People want to lead spontaneous, wild and unpredictable lives. But in order for this to happen, people need opportunities to experience the unexpected, the challenging and the mysterious.

So if a woman is 100% sure she can have a man, because he communicated this in some really obvious way, how much effort is she going to put into calling him, making an effort to talk to him or begging him to catch up?

Of course she wouldn’t chase him, because she knows he’ll be there for her whenever she wants. This encourages her to take him for granted. You must have confidence that you are a challenge to her.

Don’t Suck Up To Women

Women are constantly interpreting men’s actions and the words they say. Their minds are always analyzing your moves in order to better understand your intentions. But if you can keep a woman guessing by being playful, challenging, fun and mysterious, you are much more likely to engage her very quickly.  Observe how these two situations compare and differ.

Negative Interpretation

HE JUST said:, “Wow, you’re really beautiful.”
SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s only interested in me physically because he doesn’t even know anything about me. I don’t like him.
RESULT: She’s repelled.

Woman’s Positive Interpretation

HE JUST: Poked his tongue out at me!

SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s very confident, mysterious, funny, secure, in control, hard to get, playful, and really fun! He’s not just interested in my looks because he’s not sucking up to me like all the other guys. In fact, I’m not even sure if he is interested in me. I’m going to keep flirting with him and get to the bottom of this.

RESULT: She’s attracted.

Do you see how challenge attracts women? Now that you understand why this type of flirting is necessary, let’s look at more examples that can help you attract the sort of woman you are looking for. By learning verbal techniques and body language that works, other aspects of your personality will develop automatically, and transform you into the irresistible man women want to meet.

Woman’s Positive Interpretation

HE JUST SAID: “You look like a dork in that hat.”
SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s confident and independent. He’s not kissing up to me like all the other guys and he isn’t trying to get anything from me – or is he? I like him.
RESULT: She’s attracted.

Can you see how telling a woman that she looks like a dork can work so well? Why don’t women date men who desperately want them? Women don’t find these men challenging. They don’t find them “worth it.” What is not earned is not valued.

How To Have Better Sex RIGHT NOW!

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Better sex comes with consistency. A lot of guys have a real tendency to swing from one extreme to another, thinking that the farther left or right of the continuum they go, the better sex becomes. When a girl asks you to go slow do you not only quit the breakneck speed, but swing to the opposite and equally annoying extreme. This mindset is no good. Instead, hone one of the most important sexual skills.

Pay Attention To Her Body Language

A woman’s body language (and her moans and groans) are your best guide during sex. When you pay attention to her body language, she will show you the way and tell you if you’re doing her right, instead of swinging from one extreme to another. Keep an eye and an ear on what she’s doing and how she’s responding, so that when you’re having sex you can tell what she likes and what she doesn’t.

Look For The Optimum Point

This is home. It’s where things simply flow and sex is “WOW!”  The OP is the zone of leverage – the zone of perfect sensations. Below OP, you get meager result. Beyond it (when you’re doing too much or stay in the same spot for too long), you have diminished effectiveness. One might think that things get better beyond OP. No it doesn’t, in fact the opposite happens, you get diminishing returns. Just because you’re pumping faster and harder doesn’t mean she’s getting happier. Stay at OP – no more, no less.

Be Just Right

It’s the point in clitoral stimulation for example, where you don’t go too slow or too fast. It’s the duration of hot sex where it’s not a quickie but also not a death-defying marathon – it’s what women refer to when they say “just right.”

Discover Her OP

OP’s vary not only from woman to woman but even in the same woman. That doesn’t make your job more difficult, it only makes it more challenging. I’m sorry to tell you that finding OP is not something you can read on a page. To cater to YOUR woman and give her better sex, you’re going to have to learn HER specific OP.

Play around and try different speeds, different strokes and different things on your girl. Since you’re the one in the room with her, you can observe her reactions – her body will talk to you, so listen to it!

This is never automatic, and like many things in life, it’s not mastered by simply sitting around and reading e-books, it’s honed by reading bodies. That means you actually have to dive to the trenches, commit the mistakes and learn from them, only then can you become a master. People have a word for it; I think they call it PRACTICE!

How To Flirt With A Shy Guy

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Flirting isn’t always easy, especially if the guy you’re trying to talk to is an introvert. Here’s how to flirt with a guy who isn’t as outspoken as the rest.

Flirting with a shy guy can be intimidating, but shy guys normally make the best boyfriends. Shy guys are usually caring, quiet, intelligent and funny. If you have your eye on a shy guy and you want to bring him out of his shell, there are a few things that you can do to accomplish the task at hand. Shy guys can be intimidating because you will need to guide the conversation. Once they feel comfortable with you they will open up and you can see the type of person they really are. Here is a short guide on how to flirt with shy guys.

Approach Him

Shy guys are not going to approach you. He might try to start a conversation if you have mutual friends, but in general you are going to have to approach him. If you’re not comfortable with approaching guys then you need to be the one that comes out of your comfort zone. Shy guys are usually shy for a reason, so don’t be too aggressive when you approach him. Start off with an easy conversation to break the ice.

Make Him Feel Comfortable

Chances are that the shy guy is not going to be comfortable with you flirting with him at first. Make sure that you aren’t making him uncomfortable with aggressive tactics. Ask him simple questions and see how well he reciprocates. If he’s not asking you questions about your life or what you do then he might not be interested. In most situations a shy guy can spring to life when a girl approaches him, but this isn’t always the case. Go slowly with him, but make sure that he knows you’re interested.

Touching

Touching him is a good way to show interest, but don’t fall all over him. Shy guys love a girl that will touch his shoulder or arm while she’s flirting. Make the touches subtle. Brush against him or touch his arm when you laugh at a joke. Even the subtlest touches will not go unnoticed. Wait for him to touch you back. Usually touching begins with the guy. He will put his hand on your back or touch your arm lightly. However, with a shy guy, you probably need to make the first move when it comes to physicality.

Give Compliments

Compliments are essential for flirting with a shy guy. Compliments work well because they are a quick boost of confidence. Shy guys aren’t looking for girls that are self-involved so when you compliment them you show that you are interested in them instead of yourself. Complimenting their job, appearance or taste in music is easy for breaking the ice and bringing him out of his shell.

Don’t Ask For A Date

Shy guys like women who are upfront, but don’t ask him for a date. Wait until he asks you or make an excuse to give him your phone number. Shy guys are notorious for letting great girls slip through their fingers, so you want to put the ball in his court without making it seem like you are. Use mutual interests as a way to get his phone number or as a way to give him your number. For instance, if you’re both into basketball, say something like “Let me give you my number so we can watch the game together this weekend.” Watching a basketball game together is not a date, but it is a way to get together.

Don’t Play Games

As stated before, shy guys are usually shy for a reason. Whether the reason is a tough childhood or being hurt in the past, shy guys are quick to drop a girl that plays a lot of games. If you are a game player, you need to put all of your nuttiness on hold. Not responding to phone calls in a timely manner or lying to him are off limits. If you really want to flirt with a shy guy and have it go somewhere, don’t play games with him. If he picks up on the fact that you are playing games with him he will probably never call you again.

Learning how to flirt with a shy guy is not difficult, but it does take a different approach than with other guys. Shy guys can be a lot of fun once they feel comfortable enough with you. Approaching shy guys and using the best tactics to flirt with them is vital to establishing a healthy relationship they feel comfortable in. Don’t be too aggressive and you should see an improvement in your flirting abilities with shy guys.

Body Language That Turns Women Off

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Body language is an important tool to use to attract ladies. But are your actions actually sending girls the other way?

Body Language That Women Don’t Like

It has been said that 80% of all communication comes from body language. This is a form of non-verbal communiqué that has the ability to instantly turn women off. When you use the right actions, you send a message to women telling them you are confident and available. When you use the wrong actions, the thought of dating you can go out the window in just a couple of seconds.

If you are not completely aware of your non-verbal communication, you could easily lose her. When you implement the right kind of non-verbal communication, you will be able to instantly show your qualifications as a potential date. Here are some examples of body language that women don’t like.

Eye Contact

Eye contact is essential to showing your confidence. When you make eye contact with a woman, the most natural thing to do is look away. If you instantly look away, the amount of confidence being conveyed goes through the floor. The best way to overcome this is to make contact with the woman and then keep the eye contact until she looks away. This will usually occur within a couple of seconds. When she looks away first, it shows submission.

Here is a guideline:

  • Make eye contact with her.
  • Wait for her to reciprocate.
  • Maintain the eye contact.
  • Wait for her to look away.
  • You look away.

Posture

Posture can be a magnet to women. Do you remember your teachers showing you how to properly sit in a chair during grammar school? Regress back to the 3rd grade and implement this back into your life. Posture is non-verbal communication that can turn women off from a distance. Slouching while sitting or standing does not convey confidence. Posture can convey power. The best way to overcome bad posture is to suck in your stomach a little and hold your head up. Arch your back slightly to pull back your shoulders.

This might feel a little strange at first, but it works. Try to make yourself look as big as possible. Women are not attracted to men who slouch. Just think, how attractive was Al Bundy?

Fidgeting

Fidgeting is definitely something that turns women off. When you fidget you suggest nervousness. Women don’t want a man that is nervous when they are talking to them. This can apply to when you approach her and during the opening conversation. Making really fast movements and playing with your belt or zipper instantly shows that you are submissive to her power. The most frequent signs that a girl is into you involve HER playing with her hair, playing with jewelry or any other nervous tick.

So when you think about it, this role should be reversed. Instead of you making these movements, you should be making her fidget. When you are talking to a woman, have a mental picture of a hypnotist. A hypnotist makes very slow and calculated movements. These are there for a reason. These movements make the person being hypnotized anticipate the movements. This brings mysteriousness to your personality and will convey dominance.

The Tone Of Your Voice

The tone of your voice is technically “language” but it’s also a form of body language that can turn women off. There is a certain tone that must be applied when talking to women. If you have ever taken a public speaking class, you should know that your voice sends a message. This is applicable to talking to women also. Weak and squeaky voice tone is not attractive. There is a breathing exercise that will help you out. Breath in to fill your stomach instead of your lungs. Talk as you breath out to achieve a deeper voice.

Body language is essential to showing that you are a confidence man with a lot to offer both sexually and from a personality standpoint. When you use body language that turns women off, you aren’t getting the message through. When you fully implement the right actions, you could see a rise in the amount of women that respond to you in a positive manner.

Eye contact is your first point of interaction. Once she has submitted to your eye contact, you can approach with confidence. Use the correct posture in your walk when you approach her and she will be instantly open to a conversation. Make slow movements while you are talking to her and watch for the signs of fidgeting. Implement your deeper voice tone and she will be putty in your hands.

Kissing Do’s And Don’ts (Avoid THESE & Make Her Melt!)

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Kissing can make or break sexual tension – and if you mess up, you could risk not getting laid! Make sure you’ve got everything right with these kissing tips.

The First Intimate Contact

Nothing can make or break you as a lover like kissing. It is the first real intimate contact you have with your partner, and the way you kiss can alter her feelings for you completely. If you’re too aggressive, too sloppy, or just too much, you could end up killing whatever attraction she had for you to begin with. However, kiss her just right, and she will be putty in your hands. What makes a kiss spectacular really depends on the couple, but here are some do’s and don’ts that are pretty universal.

Hygiene Is Essential

Don’t fall victim to sewer mouth. You could have lips as luscious as Brad Pitt, but bad breath will ruin the moment. Cigarette smokers especially have to watch the halitosis.

Do take care of your teeth. Brush, floss, and rinse with mouth wash daily. Popping a breath mint right before making out helps, but it won’t get rid of festering gunk already up in there. Nobody wants to make out with a guy who has teeth like a meth addict.

Use Tongue Sparingly

Don’t jam your tongue down her throat. It is the most common kissing error made by men. Once things get heated up, the feel of your tongue will set her ablaze! Ramming your tongue into her mouth before her lips are even parted will bring everything to a screeching halt. What, are you fifteen?

Do tease her with the tip of your tongue. Once you’ve been kissing for a bit, feel free add a little tongue, but think of it more as a lick than a jab. Keep your tongue soft for maximum pleasure.

Don’t Assume You’re Having Sex

Don’t assume a kiss means you’re getting to have sex. For a woman, kissing can just be kissing. Physical contact with you helps to build her feelings of intimacy toward you. If every kiss leads to your putting your hands down her pants, she will begin to feel objectified, and a rift will form. Translation, you’ll never get any.

Do learn to love what she loves about kissing. There are a lot of nerve endings in your lips, allowing for sensations you may be ignoring. Close your eyes, and let the kiss be about the kiss.

Kiss Her When She’s Naked!

Don’t forget to kiss her when she’s naked! Kissing shouldn’t be just a tool to get into her pants. It’s an act of intimacy, and will make her feel relaxed and cared for during penetration. Plus, when you’re in the throes of passion your sense of touch is heightened, and this kiss will be felt through your entire body.