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How To Last Longer In Bed Starting TONIGHT (This is Embarrassingly Easy!)

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Premature ejaculation is a problem for a lot of guys. Learn how to last longer AND give your woman amazing orgasms for bedroom success right now. But is this possible? If you’re anything like most men reading this, sex is probably a quick-fire affair for you, lasting just an embarrassing couple of minutes.

Improve Your Endurance Easily

What most men do not know is that improving sexual endurance takes just a simple tweak to the way they have intercourse. You see, most men simply go “thrusting right out the gate” when intercourse begins. The truth is, quick and relentless penetration creates a lot of friction and stimulation to the penis glans.

This is a surefire way to climax quickly, and because women typically take FAR longer to reach a climax, it can leave them totally unsatisfied. Focus on her emotional “hot buttons” first to make it easier for them to reach a powerful orgasm.

Pay Attention To Her Body

Men skilled in female pleasure know that women take significantly longer to warm up before you make love. Thus a great way to make sure she is adequately aroused is to first pay attention to the sensuous areas on her body. Most women get incredibly turned on just by being touched and stroked on their arms, neck, lower back and inner thighs.

Start Slow!

By starting slow, you are actually helping to speed up her climax during intercourse. The way you thrust also affects how long you last. Once you get her aroused, vary your thrusts during intercourse. Start with slow, shallow strokes, entering just the first three inches of the vagina, and then progress into deeper penetrations. The shallow part of the vagina will stimulate her the most as this area contains thousands of sensitive nerve endings.

Vary Your Strokes

On the other hand, the vagina opens up the deeper you go and creates less stimulation on your penis. Thus varying between shallow and deep penetrations will help you last longer. At the same time, move your hips in a circular fashion. This causes your pubic mound to rub and further stimulate her clitoris – the nerve center of the female orgasm.

Use Positions To Your Advantage

There are many more ways that can help boost your sexual endurance, including the positions you use during sex, as well as adopting the correct breathing and relaxation techniques. For a start, focus on heightening female arousal and tweaking your thrusting movements and you should last significantly longer that you used to!

Are YOU A Good Lover? Find Out NOW!

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Better sex is completely reliant on you. Making the same mistakes that so many other men make is not going to help you. Learning how to separate yourself from the rest will give you the confidence you need when pleasing a woman. Here are some ways that you can immediately improve yourself in bed.

Don’t Put Too Much Focus On Intercourse

Being a great lover you is about being able to please a woman. It’s all about her orgasm first. You must be able to bring her to climax before you. Then she’s going to want to bring you to climax and the sex is going to be that much better.

Too many men focus on the intercourse. They’re all about being good in the intercourse part, you know, good in the dynamic part of sex. A lot of men spend too much time researching sexual positions: how to flip a woman over and how to do it from behind and what the best missionary positions are.

And that’s all great. Understanding all the different positions and different moves and how to stimulate the g-spot are all fantastic. These are all things that you need to know to be a dynamic lover.

It’s All About Mindset

If you haven’t figured out by now, life is 100% mindset. When a man meets a woman for the very first time and there’s sexual energy between the two of them, it’s not just about what you’re going to do with them physically, it’s all about the foreplay ahead of time that really drives a woman wild and actually drives the man wild too.

When you’ve got a lot of mental foreplay with somebody, it opens up a whole new world of sexuality. A lot of men and women don’t understand the art of talking dirty, or how important it is to really bring somebody to orgasm. But more important, a lot of men don’t realize the emotional connection that women need to have. Because men tend to think with their little head, and women, well, they have a little head too, but their little head is so small they don’t really think with it.

Use Her Emotion

In order to massage a woman, in order to get her to really open up sexually to you, you need to be able to understand the way that she is wired emotionally. I’ve said so many times that women are like giant a giant clitoris. If you go in for the kill right away, they’re basically going to be shut down.

You’ve got to learn how to open them up. You got to learn how to really become a dynamic lover, because that is what they’re looking for. It’s like licking an ice cream cone. Spend the time to savor each and every drop.

Becoming the most dynamic lover is not just about physical. It’s about understanding her emotional core for then seduction and teasing her. Learn how to control your mindset, learn how to influence hers, and you’re already on your way to becoming the best lover possible.

5 Female Orgasm Myths Men Believe That AREN’T True!

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Female orgasm myths are said time and time again. Some men think that there are women that simply can’t have one. Others believe that their penis size is the root cause. Here are 5 myths that simply aren’t true.

1. A Woman Can Reach Orgasm More Easily If Her Partner Has A Big Penis

If you think your penis size has something to do with a woman’s ability to climax, you need to think again. The truth is that size really doesn’t matter all that much. Look at it this way: just as large breasts may be fun to play with and look at, they really don’t have anything to do with whether or not you climax.

Just as they say “more than a mouthful is a waste,” the same holds true for penises, except our saying goes “more than a vagina full is a waste (and sometimes painful).” Since only the first two inches of a woman’s vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from a woman’s physical perspective.

2. A Woman Doesn’t Enjoy Sex Unless She Has An Orgasm

Listen up: NOTHING COULD BE MORE WRONG!!!! Although a majority of men believe that the only way a woman enjoys sex is if she orgasms, nothing could be farther from the truth.

For many couples, sex is generally a physical and emotional expression of love, intimacy, and trust. Because women thoroughly enjoy being close to their partners, many enjoy the physical aspect of feeling their partner’s naked body against theirs during sex, even when it is not accompanied by climax.

The physical touch of her partner helps satisfy a woman’s need for affection, so sex can be very satisfying both physically and emotionally even if she doesn’t climax. An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman.

3. There’s Nothing Wrong With Faking An Orgasm

A lot of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is that there’s A LOT wrong with a fake orgasm. Although faking an orgasm may benefit the woman in one way or another, it does absolutely nothing for her partner. Faking an orgasm is nothing more than a lie.

It doesn’t matter if her reason for doing so is to spare your feelings or to get the act of sex done and over with. Allowing you to believe something that isn’t true is lying. While faking an orgasm may help a man feel good about himself in terms of his ability to satisfy his partner, the truth of the matter is that he is not satisfying his partner.

4. Some Women Just Can’t Have An Orgasm

While there are a percentage of women who have never had one, there is no evidence to suggest that some women are physically incapable of climaxing. One of the reasons some women have never had the pleasure of experiencing an orgasm is because they just don’t know how.

While men have a lot of practice pleasing themselves through masturbation, many women lack the same experience. As a result, they don’t understand what the big deal is about sex and give up trying to learn how to reach climax. The main reason behind this failure to achieve an orgasm is improper genital stimulation.

Contrary to popular belief, a woman requires clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, not vaginal stimulation. Without proper stimulation of the clitoris, orgasm is unlikely for most women.

5. Women Take Longer To Orgasm Than Men

This is another common myth, which has not been supported by research. The reason many men and women believe this to be true is because of their lack of understanding sexual arousal.  A woman’s pattern of sexual arousal is much different than a man’s.

As a result, it takes women longer to “want” to have sex than it does men. Once a woman is fully aroused, she can have an orgasm just as fast, if not faster, than her male partner. But should she fail to reach that optimum level of sexual arousal, it can appear to take her longer to have an orgasm than a man.

The key is to learn how to get your partner hot and horny first. Because men often don’t know how to sexually arouse their partners, they often engage in sex sooner than their partner is ready for. As a result, achieving orgasm can be difficult for the woman, if not impossible. Not only will that help her to climax faster, it will also help her to climax more often.

What Is The Symphisis And How Do I Use It To Make Her Orgasm?

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A female orgasm is one of the hardest sexual concepts for men to understand. Gaining knowledge of the anatomy behind the female orgasm can give you a deeper understanding of how women respond to touch during sex. Here are some techniques and anatomical features to help you bring your girl to orgasm.

Understand The Female Anatomy

The clitoral head – the bud that you see poking out when a woman is aroused – is actually just the tip of a large, interconnected network of nerve endings.

As the clitoris moves from the outside of a woman’s body to the inner workings of her genitalia, it expands into a complex network of nerves and tissues. Starting just under the fatty layer that surrounds this entire area, the network starts off with the clitoral shaft – similar to a man’s penile shaft – and then separates into two shafts and does a U-turn. The turn, called the clitoral knee, wraps back around to extend to the G-Spot at one angle, and the labia minora and majora at another.

Basically the entire network hub meets up at the clitoral hood, almost like a flower in wait to bloom. When in its normal, non-aroused state, the clitoral head seems much like a budding flower waiting to bloom, and when a woman gets aroused, it opens up its petals internally, expanding in both directions down and out.

As the clitoral hood reacts and expands very much like the head of a penis, it is able to increases in size and becomes erect. When it fills with blood, the internal U-turn straightens out somewhat, and lies suspended even closer to the woman’s skin because of its engorgement.

The Key To Female Orgasm: Symphisis

For most women, the head of the clitoral network – the clitoral hood, head and shaft – sits underneath a padding of fat and skin around the bottom portion of the mons pubis. Doctors call this area the symphysis, and it’s identified in X-rays as a small, thin oval-shaped bone.

The symphysis sits under the clitoral knee and shaft internally, with another cushion of fat, muscle and skin over the top. When a woman is aroused, you can feel the shaft with a delicate touch, as it swells and presses up against the symphysis. Men also have a symphysis at the base of their penis, and it is also covered with a small layer of fat, muscle and skin.

Therefore, to enhance the chance of a woman’s sexual release, make sure that every time you have sex, your symphysese are pressed up against one another. As well, make sure that each thrust into your partner ends with a grinding of these areas together, thus stimulating the shaft of her clitoris and giving her the friction she needs to orgasm. Additionally, if she can tilt her pelvis up towards the root of your penis, she’ll further enhance the sensation.

The Symphisis Connection

Depending on your partner’s individual anatomy and how excited she is, you can effectively stroke her clitoral shaft up to two inches while performing this maneuver. She’ll instantly know that it’s working because she’ll feel the difference in stimulation, and will probably liken it to how she feels during her own masturbatory sessions.

In time, she’ll be able to maneuver her pelvis exactly so she can achieve the right angle of friction, and you’ll know when you’ve hit the right spot at the bottom of your thrusting because you’ll feel your symphysese press up against one another. For side or rear-entry positions, you may both have to alter your angle of thrusting and grinding, or use your hands, to achieve the same results.

Some women find that once they’ve mastered this technique, they orgasm quite quickly, and can control the speed of which they achieve climax as well. If she thinks she’s about to come and wants to prolong the pleasure, all she has to do is move her bum out and stop letting your symphysis rub up against hers. She’ll remain aroused, but won’t receive the stimulation that was pushing her too far too fast.

For men that find they orgasm too quickly for their partner to join them in the bliss of release, choose positions that don’t allow for a tremendous amount of thrusting, but instead focus on your partner’s grinding of her symphysis into yours. This way she’ll still get what she needs, and you won’t get the shaft rub that excites you too furiously. When she feels like she’s getting close to orgasm, you can change sex positions into one that offers you both the thrusting and grinding required.

The easiest way for both of you to learn how to perform this ‘symphysis press’ is to start practicing with woman on top positions. This way she can choose how deep you penetrate, how much grinding and pressing she receives, and can decide which angle works best for her physiology.

What All Guys Should Know About The Clitoris

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A girl’s clitoris is a complex yet fascinating sexual organ, one that provides many comparisons to your penis! While containing a similar shaft, with many differences in regards to how it looks and where it’s placed, but with comparable functionality. For instance, few men can orgasm without direct stimulation to their shaft.

Sure, it’s possible, but it isn’t the norm. The corresponding body part for a woman is her clitoris – the whole thing, not just the clitoral head. Therefore, trying to get a woman to orgasm without ‘stroking the shaft’ so to speak is possible, but not probable.

The Vagina Isn’t That Sensitive, Guys!

The vaginal opening holds the most of a woman’s nerve endings along the vaginal canal, other than that small disc-shaped space an inch or so up the shaft called the G-Spot. The vagina does feel pressure, but most of its sensitivity lies where the vaginal canal connects to the clitoral network: the G-Spot, the A-Spot further back which controls lubrication, and the exterior contact points in the vaginal opening and the clitoral head/hood.

Normally, men orgasm when they are aroused from direct penile stimulation. The comparable act for women then is when their clitoral head, or somewhere else along the clitoral network, receives direct stimulation. So let’s talk a bit more about this clitoral network, and the clitoral head.

Tip Of The Iceberg

The clitoral head is what most folks call the clitoris, love nub, skittle, button – you get the drift. Many feel that this little exposed piece of flesh is all there is when it comes to the clitoris, but scientists can now prove that the truth is a much bigger story. The clitoral head – the tip of the clitoral network – expands and fills with blood when a woman is aroused, just like a man’s penis does.

The clitoral head even has a foreskin, called the clitoral hood, which protects it from infection and too much stimulation, just like foreskin. When a women gets exited, this hood slides back for better stimulation, and hides the clitoral head again just before climax.

One of the more difficult aspects of a woman’s anatomy is that the clitoral head and network aren’t easily reach – you certainly don’t want to reach out and grab your girl’s clit in the heat of the moment! The clitoris is also connected on both ends. A good analogy: if the top of a man’s penis was attached to his stomach, how would he thrust? He couldn’t.

He’d be dependent on his partner to rub up against him or touch him to receive direct stimulation during intercourse. This is exactly what a woman needs during sex. The fact that hers is buried so deeply makes the challenge a bit more interesting, but by absolutely no means impossible.

Why The Clitoris’ Design Rocks

While it may be difficult, there are some serious benefits to the layout and design of the clitoral complex. For starters, any stimulation to the network affects the entire clitoris. This is why some women are able to orgasm during intercourse with only the movement of a man’s penis thrusting inside of her: because the vaginal opening does have a few nerve endings hiding out there, and the in-out motion pulls the labia down, thus rubbing the clitoral hood and in turn, indirectly the clitoral head.

Basically, even if your wife is able to orgasm during intercourse without direct clitoral stimulation, just thrusting in and out gives her a taste of the indirect stimulation she needs to make it all the way.