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Why Can I Only Reach Orgasm With Clitoral Stimulation?

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An orgasm isn’t always something that is easy for a woman to achieve. Getting to climax for a girl isn’t at all as easy or quick as it is for a guy – for a guy, it’s pretty much guaranteed that he’s going to orgasm during sex but not so much for a woman. In fact, many women can only have a climax by stimulating the clitoris. Why is this?

Question: I can’t orgasm while having sex with my partner. I have to help him by playing with myself. I cant orgasm by just having plain sex with him. I’m not saying that I don’t enjoy it, I love it. But I can’t seem to get into the “zone.” Some history about this is: I was a virgin about one year ago and lost it with my partner that I am with now. He is a little worried about my not being able to reach climax without clitoral stimulation. Please help!
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Needing Clitoral Stimulation To Orgasm Is NOT Uncommon

Over 65% of women actually require stimulation of the clitoris during sex to have a climax at all. This is the vast majority of women, and this doesn’t even count the number of girls who have never even experienced climax at all! Only a few women can have a climax with vaginal intercourse or g-spot stimulation alone. Usually, if a woman is going to have a g-spot orgasm, it is in conjunction with a clitoral orgasm.

Why The Clitoris Is So Important

The clitoris is actually one of the most important – if not THE most important – part of a girl’s anatomy when it comes to sex. The clitoris has over 8,000 ultra sensitive nerve endings in it alone, which is more nerves than are present in the entire penis! It is designed for female pleasure and pleasure alone, meaning that this part of a girl’s anatomy actually has no other purpose whatsoever that to provide a woman with sexual pleasure and bring her to climax!

G-Spot Orgasms

Having an orgasm through g-spot or vaginal stimulation is going to take a lot longer than having a clitoral orgasm and a woman has to be extremely aroused and mentally and physically “into it” for a climax to happen this way. A lot of men just don’t give a girl enough warm up time through foreplay to get her really good and turned on first, so then it seems like it’s impossible for her to climax through vaginal intercourse.

In reality, it IS going to take longer and a woman needs to be FULLY aroused before starting to stimulate the g-spot. Give yourself enough time for foreplay in the beginning, and give yourself enough time during sex to actually have a g-spot or vaginal climax. Many couples assume that just because it is taking a long time or that it’s not happening as fast as it does when stimulating the clitoris that it will never happen. Relax, have patience and have fun with it!

Why She May Not Be Able To Have A G-Spot Orgasm

As a woman becomes more and more aroused during sex, her g-spot is going to swell up and become engorged with blood. When this happens, the g-spot can feel friction during sex more and sex is more pleasurable. However, the enlarged g-spot also pushes against the bladder and for a girl, it can feel like she needs to pee. Thinking that she’s going to wet the bed during sex is enough to turn her off completely and make her want to stop.

Avoid this by having her go to the bathroom before having sex. Then, when she starts to feel like she has to urinate, you can both be confident that this isn’t a real urge to use the restroom – it’s simply the g-spot enlarging and pressing on the bladder. You can be reasonably sure that when she starts to feel this way, a g-spot climax isn’t far off. Encourage her to relax through the feeling and ride the waves of pleasure!

Bring In The Sex Toys

Lots of women put pressure on their partners to learn how to please them sexually, but they don’t have the slightest clue how to pleasure themselves. You’ll never be able to teach your partner to push your hot buttons unless you’ve figured out where they are first, so take some time to hit the sheets with some of your favorite sex toys and learn what you really like in bed.

If you want to have a g-spot orgasm, try out a few g-spot massagers or vibrators. A Rabbit vibrator is always a great choice, because it stimulates both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time. A lot of the time, having a blended orgasm first (both a g-spot and a clitoral climax at the same time) will bridge the gap between having just a clitoral climax and a g-spot climax separately.

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises are a great way for a girl to strengthen her vaginal muscles and create more friction during sex. Practice squeezing your PC muscles (the same muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when going to the bathroom) when you’re just sitting at your desk at work or while walking around. No one will know you’re doing them! By strengthening your vaginal muscles, you can squeeze your partner’s penis during sex so you both experience more friction during intercourse. This will increase your likelihood of having a g-spot climax!

Can A Man Restore His Foreskin After Circumcision?

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Circumcision is a commonly performed surgery in the U.S. on male babies. As more and more information becomes available about circumcision and its after effects, less and less parents are electing to have this done on their male children. However, there are hundreds of thousands of boys and men out there that have been and continue to be circumcised. What happens when a boy becomes a man and decides he wants his foreskin? Can he get it back?

Benefits Of Having An Intact Penis

You might wonder why a man would decide, after being circumcised his whole life, would decide he wanted to have an intact penis. While the U.S. has made a circumcised penis the “social norm” over the years, circumcision surgery is actually not commonly performed in other parts of the world. Studies have shown that the procedure is extremely painful for male babies and carries a high risk of infection when the wound is exposed to urine and feces in a diaper.

Sexually, there are many benefits of having an intact penis. For example, the penis is much like the clitoris in how the tissue is. The tissues of both the head of the penis and the clitoris are moist and packed with hundreds of thousands of sensitive nerve endings. In a clitoris, the hood of the clitoris protects it from chafing, which can be extremely uncomfortable because the tissue is so sensitive. The foreskin (also called the prepuce) functions much the same way. It protects the moist head of the penis (called the glans) from chafing and when an uncircumcised man has an erection, the glans is exposed and he can experience sexual pleasure and orgasm.

So what happens to the glans once the penis has been circumcised? The exposed tissue rubs up against a diaper or clothing, chafing it. The glans is designed to stay moist, but without the foreskin, the skin of the glans dries out and becomes tough like the outer surface of the skin on a person’s arms. The sensitive nerve endings become less sensitive, and in some cases, a man is unable to achieve climax because the head of the penis has lost so much sensitivity due to being exposed to air and clothing instead of being protected by the foreskin.

What Is Foreskin Restoration?

Foreskin restoration is the process of restoring the prepuce on a circumcised penis. This can be done a number of different ways and although none of them provide a man with his true foreskin back, they help provide a protective covering over the glans so the penis can regain its sensitivity. Successful restoration will also provide a man with a natural, uncut looking penis. If successful, it would be very hard to tell the difference between a penis that has never been circumcised and circumcised penis that had underwent foreskin restoration. Men who have had this done report that sex and oral sex feel better.

Non-Surgical Restoration Methods

Non-surgical restoration methods are more popular than surgical restoration, simply because it is less invasive (a huge plus) and there isn’t any chance of infection or malformations after surgery. However, the drawback of non-surgical methods is that it takes a very long time for the foreskin to actually be restored. This can take several months or even years depending on the method used.

Basically what happens here is a device or tape is used to stretch the skin on the shaft of the penis up and over the glans. The device or tape will hold the skin there, allowing it to stretch. There are actually some devices made for this, such as the Dual Tension Restorer, that are available on the market for men to purchase. The stretching is usually done for several hours at a time and it is a similar concept to surgeons who use skin stretching techniques to create more skin to use for a graft. Studies show that stretching the skin stimulates a process known as mitosis, which will help regenerate new skin with similar properties of the old skin.

If you wish to restore your foreskin using a non-surgical stretching method, patience and determination are required. This is something you will need to be dedicated to, since it may take several months or even years to see results. However, with non-surgical methods, you are able to continue having sex as you normally would.

Artificial Foreskins

Artificial foreskins are available for purchase as well, which are simply placed over the penis and help cover and protect the penis from chafing like a normal prepuce would. The most notable model is the SenSlip, which comes in a variety of sizes and natural looking colors. It is worn almost like a condom would be, and can be moved back and forth just like a normal foreskin. This keeps the glans moist and protected, while still allowing the wearer to retract the device to use the restroom or to clean the penis. Manufacturers of the device report that after several weeks of wearing the SenSlip, sensitivity during sex is restored.

Surgical Restoration Methods

Surgical prepuce restoration is not desirable, but has immediate results. Unfortunately, procedures to surgically restore the foreskin leave undesirable results and are extremely invasive. The procedures are usually followed by pain, swelling, inability to have sex for an undetermined period of time and a significant risk of infection.

Usually what happens during a surgical foreskin restoration is a skin graft is removed from somewhere on the body (usually from the scrotum) and stitched on to the shaft of the penis, covering the glans.

Foreskin Regeneration

Regenerating the prepuce is a possibility, but not something routinely done in the medical community. This would be done surgically, under anesthesia. An incision would be made at the scar of the circumcision and the scar tissue would be surgically removed. After this, a special chemical solution would be applied to stimulate the penis to regrow its own, true foreskin. Presently, this procedure has not yet reached the clinical trial phase.

After Restoration

Men who have had successful prepuce restorations report that not only are sex and masturbation better, but they also feel emotionally satisfied that they now have their foreskin back after having it taken from them without their consent as babies. It can give a man a sense of feeling like he’s gotten back something he’s lost. Female partners of men who have had this done are also pleased with the results, because sex feels better for them too.

Rethinking Circumcision

Choosing to be circumcised or having your child circumcised is a difficult decision to make. Ask your doctor questions, but remember that a circumcision is a completely elective procedure. It is not required and an uncircumcised penis will remain healthy and will function normally. Men who have been circumcised report:

  • 33% have prominent, noticeable scarring
  • 27% had too much skin removed, making getting and keeping an erection uncomfortable or painful
  • 16% report curvature of the penis due to an uneven amount of skin being removed

If you’re considering circumcision, rethink it. Ask questions and get information. Whatever decision you make is up to you, but be sure you’re making an informed decision.

10 Ways To Become An Oral Sex Master (For Men)

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Oral sex is something she loves, but isn’t going to always ask for. She may be too shy to tell you how much she craves oral sex from you, but no matter how much she wants it, she’s not likely to let you know just how hot it makes her to have your mouth down here. Instead of making her beg for it, learn to be the best at it and give it to her without her ever having to ask! Here’s how to give your lover amazing oral sex and be the best she’s ever had!

Lick Slowly

Most guys lick fast when performing oral sex, assuming that a woman likes it that way because that’s what he likes when he’s getting a blowjob. Women are different though and many of them enjoy slow licking, especially at the beginning when she’s just starting to get warmed up. Lick her clitoris and labia slowly, as though you are savoring her taste and the way she feels in your mouth.

Take Her All In

Instead of focusing on just one area – such as her clitoris – when you’re going down on her, let your mouth wander all over her vagina. Don’t leave a single fold unexplored by your tongue. A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that a woman is sensitive only in that one area, when in reality, she has sensitive nerve endings all over her vagina. Her inner and outer labia are very sensitive, as well as the skin around the entrance to her vaginal canal.

Show Enthusiasm

Just like you don’t enjoy getting oral sex from a girl who is bummed out about having to give it, a woman isn’t going to enjoy receiving it from you if she feels like you think it’s a chore. Show your woman some enthusiasm when going down on her and let her know that you really enjoy giving her pleasure this way. Don’t lean your head on one thigh and lick lazily as though you’d rather be doing something else – because she won’t be fooled for one minute.

Use Your Fingers

A woman can have an orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris alone, but you can give your partner an even more powerful orgasm by stimulating her g-spot with your fingers at the same time you’re giving her oral sex. This will either help her to have a g-spot orgasm or it will help her to have a blended orgasm – which is a clitoral and g-spot climax at the same time.

Penetrate Her With Your Tongue

Most men don’t bother using their tongue around the entrance to a woman’s vagina because why bother if he can’t stick his tongue all the way up there, but the truth is, there are hundreds of sensitive nerve endings just around the opening to her vagina. Even just slowly licking all around the entrance will have your woman grabbing the sheets with desperation, but if you slip your tongue inside, it’s likely to send her into a complete frenzy.

Lick Her Anus

Lots of women don’t like anal sex, but they may enjoy the idea of analingus in conjunction with oral sex. Often, anal sex is painful, but analingus is not and can actually be very pleasurable for a woman. If your girl is clean and you don’t have a problem with it, lightly lick her anus a few times while you’re going down on her. You don’t have to stay down there for long to have the desired effect – just a few licks will send her out of this world with pleasure!

Don’t Rush It

A huge mistake that men make during cunnilingus is rushing through it so that they can get to the main event faster. They’re more concerned with their own pleasure than hers, and a woman will be able to tell right away if you’re rushing through oral sex so you can get to your own climax. Instead, take your time and let your partner reach orgasm naturally, without feeling rushed or pressured to do so. This will make her climax much, much more powerful and keep her coming back for more!

Make Noise

Don’t lick her in such a way that you produce hardly any noise. Get sloppy! Allow your partner to hear your sucking and licking sounds, and don’t be afraid to let a moan of pleasure escape from your own lips as well. Give her the idea that you absolutely love everything about giving her oral sex by letting her hear every bit of what you’re doing to her – and how much you’re enjoying it.

Use Different Sex Positions

Don’t just stick to letting her lay on the bed while you go down on her. Try different sex positions for oral sex, such as licking her from behind or letting her sit on your face. This will add an element of variety to giving your lover a climax orally, making her want more and more. She’ll always be ready for sex if you make sure she not only gets a great orgasm from you, but also that she feels like your sex life is really wild and amazing.

Go Different Places

Break out of the bedroom and give your partner oral sex anywhere else. Move from the couch to the kitchen, then to the car and out of the house. Next time you go on a road trip, pull over and lick her clitoris right then and there. Or, next time you have dinner out together, slip underneath the long tablecloth and perform cunnilingus on her while everyone goes about their business, having no idea what is really going on. Even if you have great oral sex technique, going down on her in different places is all you need to make her think you’re the best on the planet.

How To Have An Orgasm In 60 Seconds

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Orgasms can sometimes come quickly, when you least expect them, and they can also take forever to achieve if you’re not 100% in the game. If having an orgasm consistently takes you awhile, you’re probably wondering how to speed your body up and reach climax faster. Here are some great tips on how to have an orgasm – sometimes in less than a minute!

Relax

The first step to getting your body ready to have a fast orgasm is to relax. Most women (and some men) tense themselves up completely during sex, and when your muscles and body are tensed up, you’re actually going to have a harder time reaching climax than if you were relaxed. This also applies if you’re trying to have sex after work, or when you’re stressed out about something. Day to day life such as work, bills and kids can definitely wreak havoc on your sex life and make it take much, much longer for you to have an orgasm.

Take just a few minutes before you get started to relax. Breathe in and out deeply, and concentrate on relaxing your body from head to toe. Relax your mind as well and imagine all the stresses of the day just melting away. Have a glass of wine to help you along if you’re of age, or take a hot bubble bath with a scented candle. Anything that you do to relax before you start masturbating or having sex will help you to reach orgasm faster.

Foreplay

Foreplay is a huge precursor to having a quick orgasm. If you’re not completely, 100% aroused before you get started, you’re either not going to climax at all or it’s going to take you a long time to finally reach your peak. To make sure you have an orgasm faster than ever before, start with foreplay. Whether before masturbation or before sex, give yourself some time for foreplay and allow yourself to get aroused.

Have your partner stroke your clitoris (or you can do this yourself) slowly, while imagining things that really, really turn you on. A woman’s imagination is one of the most powerful tools at her disposal to help her reach orgasm quickly and easily. If you’re sitting there thinking about the bills while you’re partner is performing oral sex on you, he’s going to be down there for a long time before you’re even halfway to the finish line.

Instead, imagine whatever turns you on most – whether it’s something naughty you haven’t shared with your partner or even another person. This works especially well during masturbation, since you have the freedom to imagine whatever you want without feeling guilty like you might if you were imagining questionable things when you’re with your partner!

Sex Toys

Don’t be afraid to bring sex toys into the bedroom for yourself and for you and your partner. Most women can’t reach orgasm in less than a minute by just using their fingers, but it can happen easily for you if you use a vibrator. Sex toys are easy to use during masturbation, but a lot of women (and men as well) feel that sex toys are for solo play only and not for use by couples. This couldn’t be farther from the truth!

When you’re having sex with your partner, bring out your clitoris vibrator and let your lover use it on you during foreplay. This will help stimulate you and may even cause you to have a fast orgasm before you and your partner even get started having sex! You can also use g-spot vibrators or dildos to help you achieve climax faster during sex if you prefer deeper penetration.

Change The Time Of Day You Get Busy

Whether you’re flying solo or you’re with your partner, having sex at the wrong time of day can significantly impact your ability to orgasm quickly and easily. For example, if you’ve worked all day, come home and cooked dinner and then put the kids to bed, you’re completely exhausted before you and your partner ever get to look at each other and think about sex. If you try to have sex then, it’s going to take you a very long time to reach orgasm and you may find that you’re unable to reach climax at all.

Instead, wake up several minutes early before you have to get ready for the day. Your mind and body will be relaxed, well rested and refreshed, so you will be more ready for sex at this point than if you wait until later in the day!

Top Erogenous Zones For Men And Women

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Most sex tips cover instructions on how to stimulate areas on both men and women that are well known to create pleasure, but there are actually lots of pleasure points that many sex tips and advice manuals don’t cover. Here’s a list of spots on a woman’s body (and a man’s) that when touched, licked or tickled will drive them absolutely wild!

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Best Pleasure Points For Women

Lips, Neck And Ears

Women love the soft, sensual feeling of kissing, so their lips are a huge pleasure point. Her neck and ears also contain lots of pleasure receptors, and you can use them to your advantage when kissing your girl. Kiss her softly on the lips, letting your tongue slide ever so slightly across her mouth. Then, kiss and lick softly down her chin, up her neck and behind her ears. Draw her earlobe into your mouth for a light suck and she’ll melt.

Breasts And Nipples

The breasts and nipples are obvious pleasure points on a woman (they’re mentioned in almost every sex tips manual), but few mean really know how to use them to get a girl warmed up before sex. A lot of men will tweak or pinch a woman’s nipples expecting her to become turned on, when in reality, she craves a soft and gentle touch at first. Spend time caressing your lover’s breasts with your hands and kissing softly and rubbing your lips across her nipples. Use your breath to blow warm or cool air on your partner’s wet nipples to send shivers down her spine.

Inner Thighs, Behind The Knees, Crease Of The Elbow

These pleasure spots aren’t ones that you normally hear about, but they’re powerful ones nonetheless. When you’re kissing and licking up and down your partner’s body during foreplay, don’t skip her inner thighs, the back of her knees and the crease of her elbow. These spots are packed with nerve endings and pleasure receptors and when these spots are caressed, it will drive her wild.

Clitoris And G-Spot

These are obvious hot points and you definitely don’t want to skip over them when getting your partner turned on! When licking her inner thighs, let your tongue brush lightly over her clitoris to tease her and bring her closer to orgasm. When you’ve had enough foreplay and are ready to get the main event started, start giving her oral sex. Slip one or two fingers gently inside her vagina (make sure that she’s either wet enough or you have a generous amount of lube on hand) and find her g-spot.

Best Pleasure Points For Men

Neck And Ears

Both men and women enjoy having their neck and ears stimulated. When making out with your lover, kiss him softly on the lips and then move your way to his neck and right behind his ear. When licking and sucking this sensitive skin, breathe heavily and make sure he can hear the delicious sounds you’re making as you savor his skin.

The “Happy Trail” And His “Cut Lines”

The “happy trail” is the area between the navel and the start of a man’s groin. The “cut lines” are areas on either side of the groin where the legs come meet the abdomen. Both of these areas are very sensitive and you can use them to your advantage as you’re licking and sucking all over your partner’s body.

The Head Of The Penis

When you feel like you’ve had plenty of foreplay and are ready to take things to the next level, begin giving your lover a blowjob – but don’t put your lips all the way down his shaft! Instead, you’re going to focus all of your licking and sucking on the head of your partner’s penis while you hold his shaft in place with your hand. This area is extremely sensitive (the most sensitive part of his penis) and he may not be able to tolerate a lot right away, so start slow. This is definitely one of those sex tips that will get him squirming!

Perineum And Prostate Gland

A man’s “g-spot” is considered to be his prostate gland and when stimulating it, you can give him some of the most amazing orgasms he’s ever had. If your man is anal shy, try rubbing firmly or pressing a vibrator against his perineum (the area between his scrotum and anus). This creates indirect stimulation to the prostate gland. If your guy digs anal play, lube up and slip your fingers (or a prostate massager) in about two inches and make the “come hither” motion. He’ll love it!