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Orgasm Tips: The Technique That Will Make Your Partner Orgasm Like Crazy!

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Orgasm tips can often lack what you need to REALLY make your girl have a powerful orgasm. However, this “triple play” technique just might make your partner SQUIRT!

I hope you’re excited, because today I’m going to reveal what is perhaps my VERY BEST technique for making your girl orgasm like crazy!

It’s called the “Triple Play” – because it involves stimulating her in 3 special spots at the same time – and creating a “pleasure trifecta” that will have her squirting like crazy in no time!

How To Do It

  • Using techniques to build ANTICIPATION, get to the point where you have her panties off and are about to go down.
  • Begin gently licking her clitoris VERY lightly! Remember, you WANT to be a tease!
  • Take the middle finger of your right hand, and begin touching her below where your tongue is, getting your finger nice and wet. Then, gently put your finger inside of her while you continue the soft, light tongue stimulation. Your hand should be facing upwards, so your finger is rubbing on her upper wall, towards the back – right on her g-spot.

Here’s Where The “Magic” Happens!

  • Take your left hand and put it ON TOP of her public bone, and using the fingers of your left hand, rub the spot on the OUTSIDE that is directly on top of your fingers on the INSIDE – so both are hitting the same spot! Rub in a soft, circular motion. You are now stimulating 3 of her hottest spots at once!
  • Go light at first, and pay attention to her body and her breathing. As she gets more and more exciting, slowly increase the pressure of your fingers (both hands), along with the speed and intensity of your tongue.
  • Now for the Grand Finale!!! Once her body is quivering and she is moaning and thrusting her hips, put your mouth OVER her “love button” and gently suck on it while still stimulating it with your tongue. Then, WATCH HER ORGASM LIKE NEVER BEFORE!! I guarantee you have NEVER seen your girl orgasm like this!!!

After she’s had an amazing orgasm – or 2, 3 4, or 5 (she’ll let you know when she’s had enough by motioning for you to come up), give her a passionate kiss, and lay down next to her. After experiencing the intense orgasms this technique creates, she’ll need to rest a bit before she’s ready for anything else.

But once she’s rested up – WATCH OUT! A girl who’s just had some VERY intense orgasms is going to be VERY ready and eager to please you!

So there you have it, my very BEST orgasm-giving technique! Go try this TONIGHT while it’s fresh on your mind – but be warned: After you get your girl off like this, it’s very likely she’s gonna want to have sex ALL THE TIME.

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Vaginas

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Sex is something lots of guys they think they know everything about. They assume they know everything there is to know not only about how to please a woman, but also about her anatomy and how it plays a role in sex.  You may think you know a lot about the body of a woman, but you probably didn’t know these ten things about a woman’s vagina!

An Orgasm Is An Excellent Pain Reliever

Next time your girl gives you the excuse that she doesn’t want to have sex with you because she has a headache, you can tell her she’s full of it. An orgasm is an excellent pain reliever, and can work as well as over the counter medicines or even some pharmaceutical grade pain relievers. You just have to actually make sure you give her a great orgasm!

The Vagina Cleans Itself

A woman’s genitals are designed to clean itself – meaning, douching is completely unnecessary and can actually do more harm than good. After menstruation, it cleans itself out and continues to do so throughout a woman’s monthly cycle. It also will clean itself out after sex! This helps prevent yeast or bacterial infections. However, if more bacteria or yeast are introduced than the body can handle, an overgrowth can occur. This usually can be easily treated with over the counter creams or doctor prescribed antibiotics.

It’s Not All About The G-Spot

The g-spot gets all the credit for giving women amazing orgasms, but there is another spot – called the A-Spot – that can be just as effective at giving a woman an earth shattering climax. The A-Spot is located deeper within the canal than the g-spot (right in front of the cervix) and it can be stimulated using the same “come hither” motion with your fingers that you would use if you were stimulating the g-spot. Just remember that since you’re going very deep inside a woman, you need plenty of good lubrication and you need her to be aroused first so it’s not painful or uncomfortable.

You Are What You Eat

A healthy vagina has an odor, but it is usually not very pungent. A yeast or bacterial infection can make it smell more pungent, but a funky smelling peach doesn’t always mean an infection. Many of the things a woman eats will affect the way her genitals taste and smell. For example, eating lots of pineapple and sweet fruits will make it taste and smell sweeter (which can be great for oral sex), but vegetables such as cabbage or asparagus can give it a more off putting scent.

The Vagina Can Actually Fall Out!

Vaginal prolapse is when the uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes or vagina (or a combination of all of these) moves downward from its natural place in the body. This condition is common following surgeries such as hysterectomies, but can also happen without any prior event. In severe cases, this medical condition will cause the inner tissues to protrude through the vaginal opening.

Female Ejaculation Does Exist

Women – in addition to men – can ejaculate varying amounts of fluid during orgasm. Many women are able to produce very large amounds of fluid! Some skeptics report that the “ejaculate” that comes from a woman isn’t actually ejaculate at all, but urine. However, science has found that the components of female ejaculate are separate from the components of urine are very different and while the fluid does come from the paraurethral ducts, it does not come from the bladder.

The Vagina Can Double In Length When A Woman Is Aroused

How long a vagina is varies from woman to woman. Some women have very small, short canals while others have very long ones. The average size in an unaroused woman is 3-4 inches long, but during arousal, this number can increase and may even double! So guys, make sure your lady is aroused before penetration, because you’ll go a lot deeper and she’ll be a lot more comfortable during sex.

Having Sex Can Keep The Vagina Young And Healthy

Like the rest of your muscles, the vagina needs to be used and exercised or it will become weak and brittle. During prolonged periods of abstinence, especially when a woman goes through menopause or reaches old age, the delicate tissues inside will thin and can begin to break down. Regular sex, however, will help keep a woman’s genitals in peak form.

Vaginal Secretions Contain A Component Found In Shark Livers

Upon microscopic examination of the ingredients found in female vaginal secretions, scientists have noted that these secretions contain a component actually found in shark livers. This is called squalene, and can also be found in vegetable oils. It can be used in cosmetics, because it is an excellent moisturizer that doesn’t leave the skin feeling greasy! Squalene is most likely what makes natural secretions good for the health of the genitals, because it keeps the tissue moist and supple.

The Vaginal Muscles Are Extremely Powerful

All women have the ability to use their vaginal muscles – also called the PC muscles – during sex. These are also the same muscles a girl uses to stop the flow of urine, and they can be strengthened through exercises like Kegels. You might not think that these muscles would be very powerful, but they are! The world record holder for the strongest vagina is a Russian woman who was able to lift 31 pounds with her vaginal muscles only!

The 9 Types Of Orgasms – And How To Give Them!

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Orgasms for a man are EASY to understand. You simply thrust, get aroused, finish, and go to sleep. Most men can only have one type of climax – after which they usually lose their erection temporarily before they can get hard and have another.

Women however, can have MANY different kinds!

These range from those that are barely noticeable to her man, to SCREAMING, TOE-CURLING, even bed soaking squirting orgasms (Woo!) There are also many different ones in between those extremes! Unlike men, the TYPE of climax a woman has is often 100% CONTROLLABLE by her sexual partner (you)!

One of the first steps to giving your girl the strongest orgasms of her life is RECOGNIZING that YOU have control over them.

Lucky you!

You should never blame your girl for not coming. Always be honest with yourself, and ask yourself if you are really sexually satisfying her. Let’s talk about some of the kinds of climaxes women are capable of having.

Foreplay Orgasms

These take place during foreplay (or “pre-penetration.”)

Foreplay orgasms are so important, because they allow your lover to “warm up” and have multiple orgasms later when you penetrate her. Every GREAT lover should have the following in his playbook:

Nipple Climax

Not all women can have a climax through nipple stimulation alone, but since a personally know a few who can, so I had to put it in here to make the article complete!

Clitoral Orgasm

This climax concentrates on the clitoris. Not as intense as the deep spot and other vaginal orgasms but still a great warm up and relatively easy to do.

“Deep Spot” Climax

The “deep spot” climax is often the first time many woman have a true “internal” orgasm, as it’s usually easier for a woman to have one of these than it is for her to have one during sex.

“G-Spot” Climax

The g-spot climax is similar to the deep spot but not quite as intense. Still a great orgasm to have in the bag of tricks to get her “primed” for multiples during sex.

Now let’s talk about some of the orgasms women are capable of having during PENETRATION:

Penetration Orgasms

Vaginal Orgasm

Normal climax while you are inside of her, much like the “deep spot” orgasm. Usually more intense than any foreplay orgasm but for some woman very difficult to achieve. Far easier to achieve AFTER a foreplay orgasm.

Anal Climax

This occurs when you have a clitoral or vaginal orgasm during anal sex. It feels very different to a girl than a clitoral or vaginal orgasm alone.

Multiple Orgasms

Multiple orgasms are when your lover has an orgasm and you give her another (or many) orgasms right after. This is different than the continuous orgasm which is described next.

Continuous Orgasm

This is when your girl has an orgasm but instead of letting her sexual excitement come down (as many women think they have to because they are sensitive) you INSTEAD keep going and often even harder. This causes her to start climaxing UNCONTROLLABLY and over and over. With a continuous climax she will often be EXHAUSTED after and will always say she had not idea how many orgasms she had. 99% of women need to be verbally talked through a continuous climax as it is rare that previous lovers have EVER done this to her. She also has no way to do this herself through masturbation. If you make your girl have one of these, she just might become sexually addicted to you, so only do this with a girl you REALLY like!

Squirting Orgasm

Ah, the mysterious one! Well first of all I will tell you, squirting orgasms are VERY REAL and every woman has the “equipment” to have one! Let’s just say they’re a lot of fun!

So there you have it. Being a girl does have SOME advantages!

6 Amazing Sex Tips From REAL Women!

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The best sex tips come from women themselves – because they KNOW what they like! You can get some good suggestions from guys on how to please girls, but it just isn’t the same as hearing it from a girl. Check out these foolproof sex tips to bring her to orgasm over and over!

Give Oral Sex Or Finger Her In A Pattern

There’s a reason that those vibrators that have multiple settings – and do different things in a pattern over and over – are so popular among the ladies. Women enjoy lots of different sensations, but not necessarily in a random order. The best way to coax a woman to an orgasm is to touch her softly and then progress to a more firm touch, then backing down to a softer touch after several seconds.

You can use this technique during oral sex if you want to give her a climax she’ll never, ever forget. Switch between flicking her clitoris lightly to firm, broad licking from the bottom up. The key here is to be persistent and avoid any temptation to change it up and do something different unless she’s giving you cues or telling you to do so. A huge complaint about men is that they change up what they’re doing at exactly the wrong moment! If she seems to be enjoying what you’re doing, don’t change a thing!

Advanced Technique

Do a pattern of three and alternate between flicking her clitoris with your tongue, sucking on it for a few seconds and then licking her with a flat tongue from the bottom of her vagina to the top of her clitoris. This move will have her clawing at the sheets!

Finger Her G-Spot While You Give Oral Sex

Another thing that really gets a woman off is multiple sensations on different areas of her body all at the same time. This is why so many women love the idea of having sex with two guys at once – the feeling of double penetration and experiencing both sensations at the same time is really powerful for a woman.

Give her intense sensations during oral sex by fingering her g-spot while you lick and suck her clitoris. If you can manage to rub and lightly pinch her nipples while you’re doing this, you’ll really drive her wild!

Advanced Technique

Combine fingering your lover’s g-spot with oral sex using the pattern technique. Be prepared for a sheet soaking, squirting orgasm!

Grind Your Pelvis Against The Clitoris

A common misconception that guys have about sex with a woman is that they think simply sliding in and out of a woman’s vagina is all they need to do to make it feel incredible for them. It’s what feels good for a guy, so it has to feel good for the girl too, right? Wrong! This couldn’t be further from the truth! Aside from possibly stimulating the g-spot, this isn’t going to stimulate a girl AT ALL.

Instead, while having sex with your girl when you’re on top, move your hips in a circular motion and grind your pelvis against the clitoris. This move will also help you feel bigger inside her because you’re putting friction on all sides of her vagina.

Advanced Technique

Take a lubed up finger and rub her clitoris instead. Make sure your finger is lubed, because it’s not going to feel good at all if you do it when your finger is dry!

Don’t Forget About The Nipples

A lot of guys forget about a woman’s nipples as soon as he heads down south. However, stimulating her nipples while you’re going down on your girl or having sex will make your partner feel incredible. This goes back to the fact that women enjoy feeling different sensations on different parts of her body all at the same time.

You can use all different kinds of techniques here, from light rubbing to firm pinching depending on what your lover enjoys. You’ll want to increase pressure as she gets closer and closer to orgasm, but don’t change what you’re doing when she gets close.

Advanced Technique

If you’re giving your lover oral sex and fingering her g-spot, you may not be able to hold yourself up and pinch her nipples at the same time. If you have trouble doing this, try a set of vibrating nipple clamps to give her intense pleasure all over her body.

Touch Her Backdoor

Many women shy away from anal sex, and they may even get upset if a man tries to stick anything in her anus without her permission (and rightly so!) However, that doesn’t mean that these women don’t enjoy anal stimulation at all. There are tons of nerve endings around the anus and you can give a girl intense pleasure simply by laying your finger or rubbing lightly around her anal opening.

Advanced Technique

Do this while you’re giving her oral sex. If she seems to dig it, let your tongue slip down there for a few seconds too.

Talk Dirty During Orgasm

Dirty talk can intensify a woman’s orgasm ten fold if used in the right way at the right time. You may have even noticed that a lot of girls will start talking dirty when they get really, really turned on and get closer to orgasm. Surprisingly, some really nasty things can come out of their mouths that you wouldn’t have imagined would!

Join in with her and start talking dirty when she gets closer to reaching climax. Tell her how hot she is, and feel free to get as graphic as you want. Make her feel like she’s the hottest, best lover on the planet and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.

Advanced Technique

Describe to her exactly what you want to do, what you’re doing and why you’re doing it explicitly. Make her feel like she’s the only one who could give you an incredible orgasm will make her feel incredible and make her orgasm that much intense.

Female Masturbation – 5 Shower Favorites!

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Female masturbation exists and the tub is one of the ladies’ preferred places because it’s so easy and private. Here are five ways women masturbate in the tub!

With A Detachable/Massage Showerhead

This is perhaps the easiest female masturbation techniques for the bathtub. A detachable showerhead is perfect, because it allows the girl to aim the stream of water wherever she wants it – either on her whole vulva or directly on the clitoris. A massage showerhead is even better, because it features several different pulsating patterns. A detachable massage showerhead is pretty much a water squirting vibrator.

A massage showerhead that doesn’t detach is still a female masturbation fave, because a girl can still lie on the bottom of the tub underneath the water, and let the water pulsate on her vulva. She can angle her body any way she likes to get the sensations she desires.

Under The Bathtub Faucet

This works well for women who either have only a tub or can’t use their showerhead for female masturbation for one reason or another. A woman will scoot her bottom up all the way to the front of the tub, so she can place her vulva directly underneath the running tub faucet. This works better for smaller women or ladies who are more flexible, because the position required to get adequate stimulation to the clitoris can be quite difficult to get into.

With A Waterproof Sex Toy

Having a waterproof sex toy on hand is probably the easiest way to get off in the water. Female masturbation has endless possibilities when you use sex toys to reach orgasm. A waterproof sex toy can be used while standing in the water or submerged in the tub.

A few tips for buying sex toys for the tub:

  • Look for rechargeable ones that don’t require batteries. They are longer lasting and much easier to use.
  • Pay attention to whether it is “waterproof” or “splashproof.” “Splashproof” generally means that bodily fluids and some splashing won’t bother it, but it’s not really suitable for the tub. Don’t assume anything is waterproof just because it looks like it is – make sure the box or toy specs state that it is.
  • Invest in silicone lube. It works much, much better in the water and doesn’t rinse right off like water based lube does. Yeah, you’ll need soap and water to get it all the way off, but it lasts longer in a wet environment. Just make sure any sex toys you’re using with silicone lube aren’t also made out of silicone as this will degrade your toy more quickly.

Good, Old Fashioned Fingering

Some girls are incredibly discreet about their female masturbation habits. For this reason, many of them choose not to use any sex toys that could get them caught. This is also why the bathroom is such a great place for masturbation – you can do so under the ruse of washing up and usually no one will bother you.

Many women will simply use their fingers when masturbating in the bathroom. Fingers are readily available and covering up what you’re doing should someone walk in the bathroom is much easier since you don’t really have anything to hide anywhere.

Electric Toothbrushes, Shampoo Bottles, Etc.

Many ladies get creative when it comes to female masturbation in the bathroom. If they don’t have any sex toys on hand (which many girls don’t because they don’t want to spend the money or are afraid someone will find their stash), they can use a variety of things that are already in the bathroom.

For example, some girls use a spinning toothbrush on their clitoris instead of a vibrator. While a sex toy is much, much easier to use (and better) than a toothbrush, you can’t usually leave your sex toys out on the counter next to everyone else’s toothbrushes without getting caught. Slick shampoo bottles and even bars of soap can be used to slide around the clitoris during a bath.

Investing in a great sex toy to use in the bath is probably your best bet, but if you’re in a pinch, look around – you probably have something you can use. Just steer clear of razors of any kind (ouch!) and make sure you have another toothbrush on hand you can use if you end up getting yours “dirty.” In fact, buying a brand new one from the store so you can distinguish between the two is probably a really good idea.