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What You Need To Know About Social Media Dating

Online dating usually involves using special websites – but can you utilize dating tips for popular social media sites such as Facebook?

I had a lot of guys interested in online dating asking me when MySpace was hot, “How do I meet women on MySpace?” Now that Facebook is hot, it’s “How do I meet women on Facebook?”

The reality is I use online social networking sites for that—social networking. Not online dating. I use them to build up a connection with just guys and girls for when I want to throw parties. I don’t really use these sites exclusively for dating because when I’m on Match.com and PlentyOfFish.com I meet more women who are on the lookout for dates.

Why Social Media Sites Aren’t Your Best Option

The other thing is I always look for is the low-hanging fruit, the path of least resistance. What does this mean? A woman on a social network is there because everyone else is. It’s free. She doesn’t have to pay a membership fee to put up a proﬁle and idly browse her friends list for photos or anything else that might interest her. On the other hand, a woman who’s paying $25 a month to receive e-mails from guys is deﬁnitely looking to date. Who do you think will be more receptive to my advances? The second one, obviously.

“But Dave, I REALLY want to date girls on Facebook and MySpace!” Alright, I hear you. And, I can’t say I haven’t tried it. In fact, I got dates through social networks frequently enough to develop a good strategy for it.

Social Media vs. Online Dating Websites

The big difference between these sites and dating sites is they’re not really traditional dating sites, so some of the rules don’t apply. For example, a good-looking girl on Facebook may not be looking for a boyfriend right now, which means she might freak or “unfriend” you if you try to pick her up the way you would in a traditional dating site. The trick: be discreet.

A lot of women are on social networks and they might want to meet guys. However, they’re not going to blatantly come out and say, “I’m on here to date somebody!” You have to play the same game. When you’re emailing these women, and when you build your proﬁle, be mindful not to be too obvious that you’re on there for hooking up.

How To Structure Your Profile

On your profile, remove anything that has to do with dating, and basically just talk about yourself—things you’re into and how great life is, etc.

Have some pictures of you and your friends. That’s what is important. If you just remove all the romantic stuff and all the needy type of stuff, you’ll do just ﬁne with that.

Keep your proﬁle description very short. Keep your e-mails friendly, but short. Here’s why. You don’t want to come off like you’re trying to pick them up initially.

One thing that works really well on social media websites is requesting to be included in a girl’s friends list before you e-mail her. This way, she’ll check out your proﬁle ﬁrst. Once you e-mail her a day later, she will already be a little bit more familiar with you so you’ll have a much better response.

3 Keys To Erotic Massage

By loveandsex

Erotic massage will get a woman warmed up for sex, but you need to do it right. With these three tips, you can give your girl an outstanding erotic massage!

It’s not about targeting deep muscles as it is simply adoring lover’s skin. As such, you really have great autonomy going about it. Sensuality is not found on the strokes, but in YOUR PRESENCE – it’s in the vibes you give off.

1. Be In The Moment

For the commercially available masseur, touching her is a job, and they have done it to several other clients that day. But for you, touching the beloved is a delight, you don’t count minutes during foreplay as you’re not being paid by the hour.

Effect slow, leisurely motions and take in the sensual bombardment.

Make no mistake, giving the sensual massage is just as blissful as receiving it. In spite being the giver, notice how your senses get bombarded with stimulation, feel through your palms the softness and suppleness of her body.

Delight your eyes at the curves of her of illuminated form. Smell the tingling scent of oil or lube rising from her skin and be attuned to her breaths and moans of rapture. Take this all in and you’ll find that giving the massage is just as great.

2. Have Confidence

Don’t go touching your partner’s body as if it’s the first time you’ve held a girl. The worst thing is to give off that vibe of uncertainty – she’ll catch it. Instead of melting and succumbing to your touch, she’ll get self-conscious and uptight. Not good for your cause.

Lead with confidence, move with control. You’re not putting on a show. Women know it if a guy has confidence. In sex, SLOOOOW is how confident and controlled men execute. This is not yet the time to gallop like a run-away pony. Don’t worry, she’ll feel your kick later.

3. Breath Regularly & Deeply

Yes, breathing is an attitude. And a pretty important one at that.

It does sound like the most basic thing, but breathing is also the most important. Everything starts with the way you breathe. When you take in oxygen, you’re replenishing life forces in your body, and if there’s one thing I want you to learn about erotic massage, and sex in general, it is to breathe regularly and deeply. Observe how a sleeping person does it, that’s the kind of relaxed and leisurely affair we’re gunning for.

The arts of Tantra and meditation have proper breathing as their cornerstone. Good luck being sensual and confident while panting delirious. (Many today live on shallow and quick breath cycles – and they still wonder why their days are always tense and nervous.)

Respiratory rate affects the rest of your body, getting fresh and ample amount of oxygen relaxes your muscles, for example. And observe how slowing down movements becomes really easy when you also slow down your breathing. Emotions, like anger, are held stable through regular and deep supply of air – as it’s very difficult to get mad when your breathing is as steady as a Uranium clock.

Strip Clubs – Befriending The Doorman, Manager And Bouncers

By deancortez

Strip clubs can be a great place to date hot women, but you’ll never get in good with a stripper if you don’t make friends with other club employees.

Working Your Game

Strip clubs are an excellent environment in which to practice. In this environment, a power shift takes place – it’s the guys who are the commodity, who have the power to decide which women they want to spend time with. This means no matter what the outcome of your trip to the place, you’re going to benefit as long as you take this opportunity to work on your game.

This is also why you should never be intimidated about going alone. As long as you project a relaxed, confident vibe, strip clubs give you opportunities to chat with hot chicks, engage them in conversations, and develop your conversational skills and confidence.

Practice makes perfect, and strip clubs are an awesome way for guys to work on their game, test out new conversational techniques, and become at ease around beautiful women.

Getting To Know Staff Members Other Than The Dancers

If there is a particular club you hang out at, or intend to start hanging out at, make sure to befriend other staff members besides the doorman. Introduce yourself to the bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJ’s, and the managers and owner, if you get the opportunity.

Meeting the manager is easy. If this is one of your local clubs, you should go ahead and do this. Tell your waitress you need to ask the manager a question, and ask her to point him out. (The manager is usually hanging out in the area, keeping an eye on things.) Approach him, introduce yourself and shake his hand, and tell him you recently started coming to the club and love the place.

What To Say

Stroke his ego a little. Tell him you’re impressed with how well-run the place is, and how the dancers and staff are a lot of fun to hang out with. Then tell him you’re interested in possibly hosting a bachelor party at the club. Ask him if they offer any special “party packages” – if you might be able rent a private room and some dancers, etc. He’ll gladly tell you about your options.

This simple, short conversation will ensure that whenever you come to this club in the future, the management is going to remember you. If you come back in the future and the manager ever inquires about your bachelor party plans, just tell him your buddy caught his fiancée screwing around with another guy and the wedding is off—but you appreciate him giving you the info.

When you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value in the eyes of the dancers; again, nothing about you should indicate that you’re a typical customer.

When the doormen greet you by name, and then the manager stops by your table to say hello – that is huge social proof in a strip club. If you’ve got one or two in your area that you like to go to, you must build this social proof. (Plus, when you bring your buddies there, they’ll be totally impressed.) It’s free, and it’s easy to do. Make those connections!

Getting To Know The Bouncers

Befriending a bouncer is easy, too: say, “Bro, you’re the envy of every guy—hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women and getting paid for it. You make me want to consider a career change. By the way, my name’s ______.”

Or, “Dude, I envy you. You must see some crazy shit. Hey, what is the craziest thing you ever had to kick a guy out for?”

Have a short chat. You’ve just made a new friend who could probably bench-press a Volkswagen, and will give you massive social proof the next time you arrive.

Getting To Know The DJ’s

I especially like to make friends with the DJ’s. These guys are total “insiders.” They know all the strippers and can provide you with all sorts of info. All you need to do is pay them a compliment and show some interest in what they do: “Hey, what was the last song called? That was crazy. So do you DJ anywhere else?”

You can also throw in some terminology that is easily learned on the Internet, but be careful if you do because if you’re just throwing fancy words around and don’t have a decent grasp on the subject, you’ll get outed as a phony pretty fast. You might say something like this:

“This one of the tightest sets I’ve ever heard in a strip club. The last place I went to, the DJ was trainwrecking left, right and center. The beats were all over the place. He didn’t know a crossfader from a cross-over dribble.”

The REAL Reason You’re Single

By david

Dating tips are often more like a band-aid than an actual solution to your dating problems. Here’s the reality about why you’re still in the singles group.

I’m going to ask you all a tough question today.

Are you dating based out of need because you don’t want to be alone or are you dating to add somebody to your already wonderful life?

I want you to re-read that once again and ask yourself if you consider things to be wonderful, amazing, and incredible.

“I really think everything is going to be much better this year. I want to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I really truly believe that my life is going to be more complete when I have somebody. I want to go on vacation but I’m not going to go on vacation until I get somebody because I won’t have fun unless I’m with somebody.”

Do You Love YOURSELF?

Are you tired of being single? Do you think about it everyday? Here’s the deal – you’re already complete and nobody else is going to ever complete you. If you believe that you is going to be more complete with somebody in it, then basically you’re not practicing the biggest lesson that I ever teach anybody when it comes down to dating – self love.

Why Needy, Clingy Dating Won’t Work

If you don’t love and respect yourself and if you don’t enjoy your own company, then you’re going to go out dating in a very needy way. You’re going to meet other needy people, and when two needy people get together, they have a relationship that is based solely on need, solely on two lonely people meeting each other.

It becomes dysfunctional. It becomes very co-dependent. And a co-dependent relationship is not healthy in any way, shape, or form. Co-dependency is one of the reasons why so many relationships end up unsuccessful.

Enjoying Things As They Are

If you’re serious about meeting somebody great this year then you need to start embracing the beauty of your own life right now. You need to make a list of all the things that are amazing about your life. You need to start writing down all the things that are amazing about you as a person. More importantly, you need to make a list about how amazing it’s going to be when you finally feel all that with somebody else.

We’ve all been dating wrong for so long. It’s not about needs. It’s not about wanting. It’s about how you feel when you’re around somebody and when you’re around yourself.

The Law Of Attraction

Ever since I started really going out there and loving myself and doing the things that I love, I’ve learned the ultimate attraction. I learned the law of attraction. I started attracting great women into my life because I was doing everything that I love. I was going out. I was eating in places that I liked. I went to places where I had things in common with people. I was my own best friend.

Once you master this, you’re going to start bringing all the right people into your life. It’s like magic, and it works. But you need to trust it. You need to believe that people are going to be coming into your life. You need to start having fun, whatever you do, because that’s what attracts everything else.

Have you ever gone out with your arms folded, angry and pissed off? Guess what? Nobody wants to talk to you. Nobody wants to meet you when you behave that way. You’re giving off a very unattractive energy.

It’s time to change the way you think about dating. And it’s time you change the way you thought about meeting people. Learn the law of attraction and life will be so much better.

How To Ask A Girl Out – The EASY Way!

By loveandsex

Dating tips will help you keep from making mistakes and choking on your words. Never again will you flub up! Here’s how to do it EASILY!

Ask a girl out once and you should be able to do it a million times, right? Although it may seem simple, various aspects of asking a girl out can rattle a guy to his very core. Concepts like approach anxiety are common with a lot of guys.

It doesn’t matter if you’re shy, nervous or you feel like she’s out of your league, it doesn’t have to be a catastrophe when you ask a girl out. At one point or another you’re going to have to step up your game, and be bold. Here are a few dating tips to get you through the process.

How To Approach Her

Approaching a girl that you like is one of the most difficult aspects of dating. As a guy, you’ve been cursed with the expectation to always initiate contact with the girl. For women, approaching a guy is liberating and can show confidence.

However, the threat of rejection is enough to cripple most men. When you are approaching her, make sure that you have a smile on your face. No girl wants to be approached by a guy with a frown. Don’t rush over to her like a hungry dog looking to be fed. Move a little slower than normal so you draw her in with your approach.

Starting A Conversation

There are a lot of dating tips out there that will tell you to use a specific routine. While these might work for some guys, they aren’t recommended. Routines are a “one size fits all” game that rarely works with girls that you’re actually interested in. Most of these routines are made to get girls to have one-night stands with you.

Simply saying “Hello” or “Hey can easily start a conversation with her. Introduce yourself, but don’t offer a handshake. This is a mistake that a lot of guys make when they approach girls. A handshake is not romantic; it’s business oriented. Wait until you can break the touch barrier before you actually touch her. Keep the conversation to questions about what she does and where she went to school. Judging by her body language, you should be able to tell whether or not she’s interested in you.

Breaking The Touch Barrier

The touch barrier is essential when you’re trying to ask a girl out. The touch barrier is basically the first time that you touch her. This doesn’t mean that you’re going to get to second base, it simply means that you touch her on the arm or the hand. If the approach has gone well then you should have her laughing. Breaking the touch barrier is not very difficult if you are good at flirting.

There are a lot of guys that know how to flirt, but don’t know how to approach. If you have her laughing, she might break the touch barrier before you get a chance to. Wait for her to start flirting back with you and then touch her shoulder or arm when she says something teasingly. Breaking the touch barrier is an essential of many dating tips when trying to get a woman to date you.

Ask For The Number

Asking for her number is much easier than asking her out. The best thing about asking for her number is that you aren’t definitely going to call. Although most guys do call when they the number, there is as much doubt in a girl’s mind as there is in a guy’s mind.

If the conversation is going well and she has broken the touch barrier, ask for her number. More than likely she will give it to you. Be ready with your phone when you do so you’re not fumbling with it while she’s trying to give you the number. A girl is more likely to give you her phone number than to agree to a date right then and there.

Prepare Yourself For Rejection

As with any aspect of dating, there is a chance that you could get rejected. When you go to ask a girl out, make sure that you are prepared for rejection. More than likely she will make up a story of a boyfriend or that she’s dating somebody rather than giving you a fake number. If she says that she has a boyfriend, brush it off and move one.

Don’t question her if she tells you that she has a boyfriend or if she’s not interested. You’re not going to change her mind and you’re wasting your time. Rejection is a part of dating and you need to be able to handle rejection in order to grow as a person.