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4 Dating FAILS You Need To Avoid!

Dating doesn’t come without its share of failures, but you want as few of them as possible! Steer clear of these dating mishaps for guaranteed success.

Mistake # 1 – Taking Her Out To A Fancy Dinner

Yes, you read that right. A lot of guys think you need to take a woman out to fancy dinner in order to woo her. But I’ve actually found that it’s a HUGE mistake!

It’s one of those things that SOUNDS good in theory, but if you think it all the way through, it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. First off, women see dinner as a BIG time commitment. A super attractive woman leads a busy life. And it’s hard for her to justify giving up a night she could otherwise spend with her friends.

Because of this she is much more likely to say “No” when asked out to a dinner than she would be if you ask her out to lunch, or to grab a happy hour drink.

Or worse, she might say, “yes,” then flake on you the night of.

Why?

Well not only is it a night away from whatever else she could be doing, it’s also a lot of time to commit to spending with someone she barely knows. You see, since most guys are so LAME, she’s probably had a BAD dinner date in the past.

So when your date with her is coming up, she might remember a bad dinner date she had in the past, get cold feet and decide to flake on YOU! Ask any girl you know and she’ll tell you – this happens ALL THE TIME!

Also, if you offer to take her to a “name” restaurant, you look like you are trying to “lure” her into hanging out with you because of WHERE you are taking her, and not WHO she is going with! And yeah, some girls might say yes just because they want to get a free fancy meal, but is that what you really want?

So save the trendy restaurant for a night out with your friends, and offer to meet her for lunch, or for a quick drink at a cool, eclectic spot. You’ll not only save yourself from looking like you are trying too hard, you’ll also increase the chances of her saying yes, and the chances of her showing up! Not to mention saving some dough!

Mistake # 2 – Being Too Eager To Hang Out

There are few ways to turn a woman off faster than being TOO eager to hang out with her.

We’ve all seen the movie Swingers where the guy calls the girl the same night and leaves her 6 messages in a row (go see it if you haven’t!) but there are other less extreme ways guys do this that turn a woman off just as fast.

A few examples are:

Calling her or having a text conversation with her more than twice a week
Changing your plans around for her
Showing up at places where you know she’ll be (so many guys do this that women are totally on to it!)
Any type of behavior that says you will drop everything to hang out with a woman makes her see you as DESPERATE and turns her off instantly.

Mistake # 3 – Trying Too Hard Impress Her

Another MAJOR mistake men make that sends women running is when they try too hard to impress her.

Any type of bragging about your job, your car, your business, trips you’ve taken, or name-dropping just REEKS of insecurity. In fact, too much bragging can cause even a confident guy to look bad in a woman’s eyes! It makes her think that you don’t feel your personality is enough to attract her… which no matter how confident you are, makes you look absolutely not confident to her.

Not good!

Mistake # 4 – Being Too Friendly And Not Flirty!

We all know about the dreaded “friend zone,” but do you know what makes a woman put a guy there?

Well, it’s usually because he is too friendly and not FLIRTY! So avoiding it is simple – flirt whenever possible! The above example is a good one, and here’s a couple others:

If she asks you how your day is going, say, “Well it would be better if you and I were at a secret make out spot but other than that it’s okay.”
If she asks you what you are doing that night, say, “I’m going to XYZ restaurant – why, are you going to surprise me with flowers there?”

Don’t be afraid to be over-the-top! You’ll be amazed at just how much women love to play along with these flirty conversations – and best of all, you’re letting her know right away that she should see you as more than just a friend.

How To Meet Singles In YOUR Area!

By romymorgan

Singles are becoming more and more resilient and finding love. Going through traditional dating services, online dating services or friends are the primary means of finding a date fast. I

f you don’t feel comfortable with these means of getting a potential date, there are things that you can do in order to meet people in your area without having to reduce yourself to being set up by a friend or website. Here are a few methods of finding single people in your area.

Trivia Nights

Trivia nights are a big draw for singles and couples. Look through your local publications or through local websites in order to find out which bars and restaurants are having trivia nights throughout the week. Trivia nights are basically designed to allow teams to compete against each other through various aspects of trivia questions. Go to the trivia night and look for a friendly group of people that are assembling themselves as a team.

Tell them that your group of friends were not able to make it and that you need a team. More than likely they will welcome you with open arms and you can get to know them. You don’t have to be great at trivia in order to participate in these events. However, knowing different aspects of trivia can help you and your team win throughout the night.

Join A Sports Team

Sports teams tend to have a lot of singles. Whether you played basketball in college, tennis in high school or you were the captain of your intramural kickball team, joining a sports team is one of the best ways to meet other people in your area and find a potential date. Even if there are no single people on your team, everybody has friends and they might be able to set you up with someone nice.

As with trivia, you don’t have to be that great at a sport in order to join the team. Most adult leagues are more interested in having fun than winning. It is recommended to join a sports team where you have a little bit of experience so that you’re not the oddball who doesn’t even know the rules or regulations. You should be able to find sports teams within your area through local websites.

Clubs

Clubs are another great way to meet singles in your area. Do you have a green thumb? Do you know the ins and outs of the hiking trails around your area? Joining a club can easily put you in touch with single people in your area that have the same common interests. Local clubs are also notorious for having monthly or weekly events as well as their meetings. Being a member of a club can take your mind off of being single while also giving you a fun way to spend time with people who share your passion.

Websites like Meetup.com specialize in connecting people with common interests to form groups for events and get-togethers in your area. Remember that clubs might have monthly or yearly dues in order to sustain themselves so you should be financially prepared for this. Talk to the different club members to find out who is seeing somebody and who is not. If you meet somebody that you like, feel free to ask him or her out on a date.

Singles Events

Although this is one of the most obvious choices you can make, an event that is especially designed for single people can take some of the pressures off of knowing whether or people are attached. There are different singles events in your area through speed dating, Internet meet ups or business based promotions. Some businesses that specialize in people, such as bars or restaurants, will have singles nights during certain hours. For instance a bar might run a singles event from 5 PM to 7 PM.

One of the best things about these events is the fact that if you get there and you do not see anybody that you like you can pretend you are not even attending the event. However, meeting some of the people within the group is a great way to make new friends and find a potential date. Events for single people usually render people who have just moved to the area, people that work from home and normal people who may just be a little shy and have trouble finding somebody to date. Choose a couple of single events throughout the month and attend them accordingly. You never know who you might meet until you follow through.

4 Rules For A Relationship With A Stripper (And When To Move On)

By deancortez

A stripper isn’t the typical girl you have a relationship with – it’s a bit more difficult. Here’s what you need to do, and how to know when to move on!

Rules To Follow If You Want A Relationship With A Stripper

1. Have Sex With Her Often

Women literally get addicted to your penis when you’re able to give her orgasms every time you’re with her. And don’t only bang her at night before bedtime. Be unpredictable.

2. Don’t Tolerate Any Crap

If she’s late, you leave. Next time she won’t be. If she gets in a snotty mood about something, punish her by not having sex with her for a week and let her know about it. Spending time with you (and enjoying your cock) is a privilege, not her right. (This is a harsh approach, but it works for many women.)

3. She’s Not Your Life

Have a life that she is a part of. Don’t make her your life.

4. Never Get Jealous

Don’t ask her for details on the guys she did a striptease for tonight, or why she’s got business cards in her purse from a bunch of different dudes. She’s a stripper, remember? This is her job. If you can’t handle it, break up with her and go date a school teacher.

When To Move On

Some strippers—and remember, they’re professional salespeople—regularly give out their phone number to customers because they want to cultivate “regulars.” She might expect you to start showing up a couple of times a week and buying dances.

This is not part of your game plan. Once you’ve got her phone number, you should not return to her strip club until one of two scenarios happens:

Scenario 1

You call her, she tells you she has to work every night this week, and you stop in the club once more to hang with her, buy her a drink, and keep the connection going. But you will not buy dances, and you will not return a third time to see her. The next time you see her will be outside of the club when she’s not working, or not all. (Hey, there are a lot of fish in the sea – and other sexy, more available strippers in your area, I’m sure.)

Scenario 2

You got her number, you’ve tried calling her to arrange a meet, but she’s being evasive. She’s playing games with you. Once you determine this, you are free to return to the club and apply your tactics on different girls. You can expect the stripper who was evasive to give you rude looks when she sees you flirting with other women. So be it. Ignore it. She had her chance. You’ve moved on and she can keep hustling the chumps.

Don’t keep returning to the club, time after time, spending money on buying her drinks (or even worse, lap dances) without getting results.

It must be noted, some dancers have a firm rule about not seeing customers outside of the club. She might be paranoid about being “found out” by the management, and fired. You might cause her to reconsider this rule, but if she holds firm, just respect it and move onto other prospects.

You’re never going to verbally convince a stripper to break her own rules in order to see you. She has to want it. And if you lay the proper groundwork and build a real connection with her, she will.

How To Stay OUT Of The Friend Zone!

By loveandsex

Dating tips are essential if you want to keep yourself away from a woman’s friend zone. THIS is what you need to know if you want to date her, not be her buddy!

The friend zone is not a place that you ever want to find yourself when you are interested in a woman. This aspect of dating can easily change you from a potential date to a person that gets the occasional hello.

Avoiding the dreaded friend zone is essential to keeping the spark alive in your budding relationships. If a lady only wants to be your acquaintance, then you need to cut her loose. However, there are ways that you can keep yourself from falling into this familiar path in the future. Here are some dating tips to help you stay out of the hated friend zone in the future.

Accept The Fact That She Is Not Interested

There are women out there that will never be interested in pursuing a relationship with you. Accept the fact that she is not interested. While this is not something that any guy wants to do, it’s a one of the best dating tips out there for finding a woman that is interested in having a relationship with you.

If you are clinging to a woman who has put you in a friend zone, you are wasting your time trying to woo her back. This is one aspect of life where being a quitter actually has its advantages. Nip it in the bud before you start begging and pleading for another chance.

Work On Yourself

Do you work out? Do you eat healthy? One of the best ways to gain confidence is to improve yourself before you try to date somebody. If you meet a lady that you like and you really want to impress her, give yourself a couple of weeks to improve various aspects of your life before you pursue her.

Two weeks can do a lot to somebody’s physique and eating healthier can give you the energy that you want throughout the day. Having more energy will show through your personality and the way that you carry yourself. Feeling good about yourself is an attractive quality for women, so act accordingly.

Meet New People

Getting stuck in a friend zone can occur when somebody knows you all too well. If you have been chummy with a lady for a long time, she might not think of you as a potential date. There is a reason that a staple of the most common dating tips is to meet new people. Meeting new people is exciting and allows you to play off of your own mystique.

Going out and meeting newer women will get you out of the friend zone and put into the hot seat of being a potential long term relationship. If you know the woman you like really well, this could also make her very jealous. While you should not do this with mal-intent, it is an effective means of getting her to think about you as a date instead of a “bud.”

Learn To Flirt

Some guys think that flirting is something that you’re born with, while others think that it can be learned through certain dating tips. The friend zone is dependent on being able to flirt. Teasing her a little bit about things that don’t matter is a great way to flirt with her.

Don’t tell her that her eyes are too far apart, but picking up on something little could get her laughing. Start small and work your way up to making more sexualized comments. Once you have achieved this properly, she should be looking at you in a whole new light. Be bold with her and you will never end up as an acquaintance again.

Slight Touches

Slight touches can be a great way to emphasize that you are not looking for a platonic relationship. Touching her arm as you laugh with her or putting your hand on the small of her back as she goes through a door are some of the best ways to show that you are sexually interested.

If she does not respond to these methods or responds negatively, back off immediately. The last thing that you want to do is make her uncomfortable. If she touches you back then you’re in the clear. Women do not touch guys that they don’t want to date.

Being in the friend zone can be one of the most frustrating aspects of dating. Getting out of it is tough and some methods work better than others. Turning yourself from a platonic relationship into a date is not always easy, but it is possible in most situations. Follow these guidelines and you should start to see a vast improvement of her perception of you.

Do You Suffer From The “Jerk” Paradox?

By bobbybradshaw

Dating tips don’t often tell you what to do with the woman you’re really into is dating a cocky guy. She’d be better of with you, but just what do you do?

What Is The “Jerk Paradox?”

Have you ever known a hot girl – maybe you had a crush on her – but she was dating a guy who was a complete ass?

Maybe you felt like she’d be better off you – you would have treated her like a queen – but she stuck with the mean guy no matter what he did to her?

I think we’ve all seen this happen – a lot.

We’ve all seen a beautiful girl who is CRAZY over a man jerk who don’t pay her much attention.

Heck, I’ve even seen beautiful girls who could have their choice of great guys stick with dudes who were downright ABUSIVE! I used to say, “why isn’t that girl with a fella like me? Or ANY other man for that matter?”

It just didn’t make sense.

But then finally, I realized what was going on.

Why Mean Men Get The Girls While Nice Ones Finish Last

Have you heard the famous Chris Rock comedy bit about guys “offering d*ck”?

It’s REALLY funny. Basically what Chris points out is that every woman in the world, since she was 13 years old, has had pretty much man she’s ever met offering her sex!

He goes on to say how every time a guy talks to a girl, he is really just trying to get into her pants.

“Can I get that for ya” translates into “How ’bout some d*ck?”

“Can I help you with that?” translates into “Can I help you with some d*ck?”

Too funny! And let me tell you, this is truer than all the dating tips in the world!

Every woman you know – especially if she’s attractive – has men THROWING THEMSELVES at her 10 times a day!

So if you approach a woman in the WRONG WAY – which is any way that DOESN’T make her work for it – she automatically throws you in the same category as every other wimp she has met, and she automatically forgets about dating you.

Why Cocky Men Never Have This Problem

The thing about guys who are mean is that they NATURALLY approach, talk to, and deal with women in a way that is TOTALLY DIFFERENT than the dozens of other guys trying to get into her pants.

It’s very subtle. You actually might not even see the difference unless it was pointed out to you, but the RESULT is very different.

It’s different because it sparks a woman’s curiosity, then creates a subtle challenge that makes her feel like she has to WORK for his attention, not the other way around.

This type of challenge is very addicting to a woman. Women LOVE games and solving puzzles – it’s the reason they read all of those mystery novels – so when they meet a guy who is a challenge they just cant get enough of him.

How To Get These Same Smoking Hot Women – Without Being An Ass!

If you can make a woman feel like she has to WORK FOR IT, it gets her chasing you. She starts to see YOU as the “catch” and gets very excited about the possibility of being with you.

It’s this simple little thing that separates the guys who get the 10’s from the guys who don’t.

It NOTHING to do with being full of yourself and being mean to women. And EVERYTHING to do with being a CHALLENGE.