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Winning Phone Flirting Techniques

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Flirting can be intimidating when you’re on the phone, because you can’t see the other person’s face or read their body language. Here’s how to pull it off.

Remember, flirting on the phone only allows you to use 45 percent of your potential flirting power, so the quicker you end the phone call and see the woman in person, the better.

The best strategy is to create a sense of occupied urgency. This is not manipulative, but rather a favorable situation to end the phone call and allow the attraction to grow by flirting with her in person.

Create A Sense Of Urgency When Flirting On The Phone

Let her know that you don’t have much time to talk because you’re busy. This way the conversation is short, sweet and to the point. Take control of the conversation and direct it towards your intention of seeing her again. Here’s an example of a phone conversation using the occupied and urgent technique:

John: Hey Sarah, how are things?

Sarah: Good.

John: Great, I’m glad I got hold of you. Listen, I don’t have long to talk. I’m just calling to see if you want to get together this Thursday at 5pm for coffee at ___.

Sarah: Sure.

John: Great, I’ll see you Thursday then. See ya Sarah.

Sarah: Bye.

Although this is a very simple conversation, it works. There is no need to talk for longer than a few minutes.

Keeping the phone conversation short shows you have a life and other things to do. Men who linger on the phone until the woman gets bored project that they have nothing better to do than talk all day. And, these women might be doing important things and find you annoying because you’ve kept them from their activities.

Even if the flirting during the first encounter went really well and the woman was attracted to you, by lingering on the phone without flirting you run the risk of her thinking that you faked the first encounter and communicating that it wasn’t the real you.

Of course most conversations won’t be this short, but keep them as close to this guideline as possible. If she starts asking you about your day you can comment, but don’t get into details because before you know it you’ve just used all your “Mr. Interesting” ideas on the phone, rather than during the actual date.

If you want to build some emotion on the phone with flirting, that’s fine. If you decide to talk a little longer, just make sure you end the conversation at the peak of your emotionally intense flirting, and not when you run out of things to say and it dies down.

Woman’s Phone Call Interpretation

HE JUST: Called, invited me on a date and hung up.

SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He’s confident, independent, directed and has a life. He’s got other things to do than just talk to me, and even though I wanted him to talk to me longer I respect him more and feel even more attracted to him now.

RESULT: She’s attracted.

Text Messaging

RULE: Never set up dates by text message.

Even if she already shows interest from the message, only send one text message. It saves lots of time. Here’s an example of a back and forth text message battle.

YOU: I’m free Tuesday and Wednesday.

HER: Sorry I’ve already got plans then.

YOU: Ok… What about Monday night next week?

HER: No, but I can do Monday day.

Can you see how frustrating this would be? If she delays before replying to each and every message, this could be a long pointless process. The man would get paranoid and start thinking that the woman is making up excuses not to see him.

This assumption could be completely unfounded, but it is difficult to be sure without hearing her voice. Because you’re limited to words, women can often misinterpret what you’re saying. You might ruin a perfectly good dating opportunity by a stupid misunderstanding.

4 Reasons A Woman Won’t Have Sex With You

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Sex tips tell you how to get it on, but what if you’re not doing it at ALL? What if she’s not putting out? Here are some clues as to why she might not have sex with you.

There are a lot of reasons that woman will not have sex with you. It doesn’t matter if you are the top salesman at your marketing firm, a high paid lawyer or the best neurosurgeon in the world, you can always be outperformed and outwitted by a guy that lives at home with his mother.

They are certain key characteristics to every guy that knows how to get a woman in the bed. Hollywood has you believe that women are only interested in men have money or power. While there are women that are only interested in money or power, you don’t need either of these in order to get them into bed. Here are some key characteristics of men that will never be able to get a woman into the sack.

1. You Have ZERO Confidence

Confidence is a key ingredient to getting all women to not only respect you, but to also want to go to bed with you. It doesn’t matter if you work as a clerk at a grocery store or you own a law firm, if you don’t have confidence in yourself, no woman is every going to see you as more than a friend.

Confidence can be gained by looking at the key characteristics that you have to offer a woman. Whether you are a nice guy or you are financially secure, every woman wants a guy that is sure of himself. Women are naturally drawn to men that have confidence in themselves.

2. You Dress Sloppy

It’s one thing to run out to the grocery store in a pair of Iraqi jeans and a torn shirt, but it is a whole other thing to meet a girl in this kind of clothing. A guy that doesn’t know how to dress himself for a date will never get a girl to go to bed with him. Women like guys who respect the traditions of a date and guys who respect themselves. When you go out to something as important as a date, you MUST dress for the occasion.

If you do not take the time to pick out something slightly trendy, the girl is going to assume that you don’t care enough about her to put something together. Go to a decent department store and buy at least 2-3 different dating outfits so that you are prepared for the first couple of dates that you go out on. Girls also don’t want to have one night stands with guys who don’t know how to dress, so keep that in mind.

3. Your Hygiene STINKS

You would think that this goes without saying, however, there are some guys that can’t get it through their heads. Hygiene is one of the most important aspects of getting a girl into bed. If your breath smells or your have dandruff, they are going to assume that your junk stinks. Furthermore, this just isn’t attractive. Make sure that you have clean hair, hands and that you have brushed your teeth. If you have a breath problem then carry mints or gum.

This should be number one in your arsenal to getting a girl to go to bed with you. Invest in a body wash that actually works. Old Spice and Right Guard are great. These will leave you smelling good for at least a couple of hours after you have taken a shower.

4. You Don’t Know How To Sexualize The Interaction Properly

There are a lot of guys that either don’t sexualize a conversation at all or they over-sexualize a conversation. There is a fundamental difference between friends and guys that girls want to sleep with. A friend will not flirt with a girl. A guy that wants to sleep with her will. While this might seem like an easy concept to grasp, there are a ton of guys out there don’t know exactly what to do in order to properly flirt. Making fun of her in a flirty way is great to get some rapport going. Even telling her that you like her shoes or dress can go a long way.

However, you don’t want to lay it on too thick. Breaking the touch barrier early on is also a good way to show that you aren’t afraid to take control. Don’t do anything that is going to make her uncomfortable though. Don’t touch her leg or even her hand unless you know that she won’t pull back. Girls can tell when a guy is nervous. You have to be calm and cool in order to gain her affection.

The Worst Dating Advice EVER!

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Dating advice can be both good and bad. Here is some of the most awful dating advice you can get – so be sure to steer clear of these!

What She Said:

For women, the worst dating advice is anything that has to do with the book “The Rules.” There should never ever be rules when it comes to dating. When you allow rules and try to have them you just end up not being yourself and you end up playing games. Last time I checked, we aren’t in elementary school, so stop it! If you want to ask a guy out, do it! If you want to call a guy, ext a guy or sleep with a guy, DO IT! Pay no attention to what you think others thinking you should do Dating is fun, so have fun!

For guys, I think the worst advice is the idea that they should be super sweet. Yes, you should be a gentleman but don’t let her control the date/relationships or make all the decisions. That being said, don’t be super cocky either. Respect her but respect yourself first. There is a fine line between dorky and cocky. Hopefully you are man enough to know how to be yourself.

What He Said:

Worst dating advice ever? Anything ever said on Oprah, or anything ever written in a book by women. Ever notice that most women who write dating books are single and or have a strong “I hate men” vibe to them? Well, you should’ve. Cause they do. Not only that, they have no idea what they’re talking about.

They’re trying to make sense of men from a female perspective. That’s stupid. Those “the rules” chicks are man hating evil demons from hell. I’m being too nice, I know. I should really say what I think, but seriously. They should be stoned to death by women everywhere, because they make men run like hell. We’re not afraid of commitment, we’re afraid to committing to those women.

Know what else is stupid, all those sell out men, who are lying to women under the guise of “telling it like it is (Steve Harvey and that “Men Are from Mars” dude, I am looking your direction.) They make us seem like dogs and that we need to be trained or fixed, or whatever. It’s not true. You don’t need to fix anyone, and you shouldn’t wait an arbitrary number of dates in order to get a guy to stick around or be faithful. That’s the worse dating advice ever heard.

Truth is, you should have sex with someone when you feel like it. When it feels right is when it’s right to sleep with someone. Could be seven dates in, could be seven minutes in. When it’s right, it’s right. There’s some sort of myth out there that if you withhold sex from a man, somehow you’ll get him to stick around longer. That’s like saying starving people will stay somewhere where they know there is no food.

The opposite is true. The sooner you sleep with a dude, the better in terms of keeping him around. Maybe he won’t stick around, but that is on him, and has nothing with when you sleep with him. If he’s going to bolt, he’s going to bolt and why not get some anyway? He might be really good at it, and it’s never really that bad.

For guys, don’t buy into feminism. There’s nothing wrong with women earning more and being equal, but at the end of the day, it always boils down to “Me Tarzan, you Jane.” All women want to be led, whether they know it or not. That’s why they love bad boys, at least for a while. They take charge, they know who they are, they make no apologies for it, they are exciting and unpredictable. They usually wind up treating girls crappy, so don’t model that part, but model the rest. Women want a man to do all those things and rock their world.

They say you should be yourself. That’s loser talk. Nobody ever got laid “being themselves.” You can only get some “being your best self.” You should be true to yourself, but always be at your best, inside and out. Make it easy on yourself too. The worst dating advice a guy ever got is “it’s whats on the inside that matters.” Yes, that’s important, but she’s never going to see if it if you look like a morbidly obese serial killer. Get nice clothes, get your hair did, get in the gym, make your outside a reflection of the inside. Women love a great visual as much as men do. (Don’t believe me? Two words: Magic Mike. I rest my case).

How To Get Her Phone Number

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Dating tips are essential if you want to score with the ladies. Here are some excellent suggestions to snag any girl’s phone number you want!

There is a misconception that you must talk to a woman for a long period of time before you’re allowed to get her number. There is nothing wrong with asking women for their phone numbers after only a very short conversation. After conversing for five minutes you could pull out your phone and say, “What’s your number?”

Be Confident

Don’t say submissive things like: “You’ve probably got a boyfriend, right? No? Well, then can I maybe please have your number?”

You may be thinking, “If she really likes me she’ll give me her number, won’t she?” Well, no. As you may remember, women are always checking to make sure you’re the confident, masculine man you project yourself to be. It’s part of the “the test.”

FACT: Masculine men know what they want and know how to get it

Masculine men don’t beg or plead for what they want. They command respect and expect everyone to comply with their requests. The simple mistake of asking humbly for her number gives her hundreds of opportunities to avoid your request and to figure out that you’re not the man she thought you were.

Instead, when you expect her number, you communicate that you’re a man who knows what he wants, and knows how to get it.

What If She Doesn’t Give It To You?

When you start putting your new knowledge into practice you’ll make mistakes – everyone does. Resistance during the initial meeting is normal. When you start to use this information, by understanding the excuses women might give, you can be prepared with your own responses and possibly save many hours.

There are only two reasons why a woman would avoid giving out her number:

  1. She’s in a relationship.
  2. She isn’t attracted to you.

Understanding the reasons, let’s look at the four major excuses women use.

Excuse #1 – “Why You Don’t Give Me YOUR Number?”

Don’t buy into this common trap. Women almost never call men first because, as discussed before, men are supposed to be the leaders. They should control every step of the dating process. Continue to ask her for her number. If she doesn’t want to give it to you, don’t give her your number, because you’ll just be wasting your time.

A woman says, “Why don’t you give me your number?” To the misguided man this means, “She’s interested and will call me” But it actually means, “I don’t feel a connection to you and want to get out of this situation as quickly and as easily as possible.”

Excuse #2 – “I’m Really Busy With Work/School/Commitments At The Moment”

This can be her subconscious mind really trying to stay away from men she doesn’t know well or feel comfortable with. The best way to deal with this is setting up a date on the spot. Say something along the lines of: “That’s OK – I understand, I’m really busy myself, but everyone’s got 20 minutes for coffee, no matter how busy they are, haven’t they?”

Excuse #3 – “I Have A Boyfriend”

This excuse can mean two things. She actually has a boyfriend and is happy with her relationship, or she doesn’t have a boyfriend but wants you to leave her alone. This is usually a lose–lose situation, because if you persist in asking her out, it reinforces her choice by telling herself you have no respect for a woman already in a relationship. Take the excuse “I have a boyfriend” as a sign to thank her, have a laugh and move on, no hard feelings.

Excuse #4 – “Why Don’t We Swap?”

Why would a woman want your number in return? Most likely so she can see who’s calling and avoid answering the phone if she doesn’t find the caller interesting. Let’s say you successfully get the woman’s number, now it’s OK to give her your number in return, right?

Wrong! You don’t want a woman identifying your number. Although this may seem strange, the fact is a woman doesn’t need your number. If you call her three times while she was working she’ll see: “three missed calls from John.”

Letting her know that you’ve called three times doesn’t look too good if you want to appear as an independent, strong and masculine male. Instead it makes you seem clingy and desperate. Women would rather wait for you to call again. So remember not to offer her your number at all. If she asks for it, just say she doesn’t need it, or say, “Na, just give me yours.” It’s that simple. If you don’t want to give her your number – and I recommend you don’t – just let her know.

Women don’t really want to lie. But after years of experience with boys they aren’t attracted to, they’ve engineered an under-the-radar method to avoid socially awkward situations they’d rather not deal with.

While some of these dating tips seem tricky and complicated, just understand that what women say isn’t always what they mean. Identifying the common responses and resistances lets you know whether you should invest your time further, or whether she isn’t interested at all, but is just being nice to avoid an awkward confrontation.

3 Online Dating Rules You Must Follow

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Online dating can be harrowing at times. Don’t stress though – follow these simple guidelines and you’ll soon have online dating success!

While I highly recommend that you acquire the skill of approaching women without fear in real life, online dating is another way you can start meeting women without the fear and stress of walking up to them and risking rejection.

One great way to meet women is to join some dating sites – and with millions of people worldwide looking for that perfect match, why not? Here’s the beauty of online dating sites.

  1. You join a dating site
  2. You post a profile of yourself
  3. You watch the emails come rolling in

In the past I’ve used online dating sites with great success. It’s actually pretty easy to get women to respond to your profile. You can go along with your busy life and check your emails once or twice a week, and contact the women that have already shown an interest in you. It’s a great system and one I heartily recommend, especially for men just starting out.

  1. She sends you an email
  2. You check her profile
  3. You decide if she’s someone you’d like to meet

I bet you are wondering if there are any attractive women on these sites? You’d be surprised. The Internet isn’t just for techno-whiz people any more. Nowadays, millions of people are trying out online dating services – yes, even beautiful women. There are tons of beautiful women hiding out on these dating sites.

Now, from my past experience, there are a few rules you must follow if you want to succeed with online dating sites and meet interesting women.

Trust me when I say these 3 rules are a must for online dating. I would know – I once got 3 women (all rated above 9.8) to respond to my profile in 7 days.

1. You Must Get A Paid Account

These days everyone wants something for nothing. The same goes for online dating sites. Most men think they can join these sites for free, set up a personal ad and watch the responses come flying in. Wrong! To illustrate this theory, I once did a test with two different accounts. One paid. One free.

  • The paid account got more than 7 replies in two weeks.
  • The free account had 0 views. (That means that no one even saw my profile!)

The reason you need a paid account with dating sites is because they always list the paid accounts first. Then all the free accounts show up afterwards. In fact, you’ll be lucky to get a woman to even see your free profile, let alone reply to it.

2. Never Use “Adult” Dating Websites

Thou shalt not use adult-based websites. Okay? From my own experience, these sites are full of women that seem “really” interested, but once you send them an email, you never hear from them again. You just begin to get spam emails.

I’ve found a few of these sites that actually have real women on them. So which ones are the best? The two dating sites I recommend to all guys are www.Match.com and www.AmericanSingles.com.

Match.com

Match.com is simply the biggest and most established online dating site on the entire Internet. It’s professional and it’s affordable. What I really like about Match.com is the advanced search capabilities.

AmericanSingles.com

AmericanSingles.com is a really cool site. And no, you don’t have to live in America to use this site. (Anyone around the world can use it.) What’s great about this site is the ability to see how many people have viewed your profile, and actually search through and see who each person is. With this system in place it makes it really easy to test different headlines and aspects about your profile, and after a month or so you can see which changes received the most responses – a very cool feature.

3. You Must Include Photos Of Yourself

Always include a great photo of yourself when you create your profile. It’s interesting to see how different two photos can represent you.

The problem is, guys think they know which photos women will like the most. This is a big mistake. Only women know which of your photos look the best. So why not ask them? There’s a great little site that I’ve been using for profile photos called HotOrNot.com Basically all you do is create an account, upload your photo and watch women rate it. Over time you’ll get a great indication of your best photos.

A few guidelines when choosing photos:

  • Smile in your photos. If you check out HotOrNot.com you’ll notice that most guys in their photos aren’t smiling. Get a great genuine smile that really makes you glow and look like you’re passionate about life. Confident men smile.
  • Keep your shirt on. Please! Unless you look like a super model and have an amazing 10/10 body. Don’t dress down. Most women find this hilarious not sexy. I know, I’ve asked them.