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How To Establish A Rhythm During Oral Sex & Drive Your Girl CRAZY!

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Oral sex isn’t a “lick twice” affair and you won’t ever make a girl climax if you mix up your moves too much. Find out how slow and steady wins the race.

However you’ve started your oral sex escapade, you’ll want to leave her begging for more after that first touch. This is where you want to slow things down even further, focusing on your rhythm and building pressure and tension, rather than trying to run to the finish line in an all-out sprint.

Before starting, make a point of having each of your tongue strokes stand on their own, meaning, they should be a wave in and of themselves that don’t crash or run into the others before or after them. Later on, as she gets more excited, the tongue strokes will run into one another, but for now, they need to be distinguishable from each other.

Get Into A Groove

Find a rhythm that alternates between a flat tongue with licks that encompass her entire vulva, and a flat tongue that just focuses on one place. Repeat each of these licks, combined into one ‘set’ for several minutes, or until she starts pushing her groin into your hand. To make it easier for you to tell, keep one of your hands on the upper part of her vulva (above the clitoris) and pull back gently each time you lick the length of her vulva.

Now Tease Her

When she starts reacting to your tongue strokes, it’s time to tease her a little bit. Avoid the clitoris completely, and start licking with shorter, more pointed tongue strokes that tickle more than they do cover her labia. See how much of her labia you can explore with just your tongue, keeping it light and flirty without a lot of pressure.

During this time, although you’re avoiding her clitoris, you’re still watching to see what it’s up to. When you start the shorter, pointy licks, the clitoris should still be covered and hiding, but as you continue playing with her labia, it should peek out slightly. When you can see it, it’s time to move to the next rhythm.

Then Cover Her Head

When her clitoris peeks out to see what’s going on, and if it can finally get a bit of attention from your tongue, indulge it and give it a soft, tender lick. If you’re using a dental dam, make sure she’s got enough lube before you do this, and if you’re not, engulf her clitoris with your saliva or lubricant, and feel her whole body react to you as you do it.

As an aside, try using all of these techniques while she has her legs on your shoulders. Not only will it allow you some extra room to really get your tongue into new places, but it will give her the leverage she needs to get to orgasm.

Numbers Routine

Continue on again with the half licks, with five of these that are punctuated with one of the soft, wet placements on her clitoris. Then do six half licks with one soft wet placement, then seven and one, and so on until you reach a ratio of ten to one. If you think she’s predicting what you’ll do next, change up the numbers a bit, but allow for the same amount of licking time for her clitoris  to get used to your ministrations.

Repeat this whole series, starting from five and moving up to ten, but this time add some rhythm to your licks. See if you can match the music that is playing, or if there isn’t any, have some in your head that you can lick along with to create even more sexual tension between her legs.

Oral Sex: Safety Considerations When Going Down On A Woman

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Oral sex is mostly safer than intercourse when it comes to STD’s, but the risk is still there. Find out how you can make oral sex as safe as possible.

Will She Really Enjoy It If You Use Precautions?

What are the proper precautions when practicing safer cunnilingus and other sexual foreplay involving the vulva? Well, they’re no fun. Safer sexual contact during these activities involves lots of latex and frankly, most women will be completely turned off by the mere suggestion of a dental dam.

Why use one then? If the woman is not going enjoy cunnilingus, why bother?

Well, for starters, if she’s that uptight about it, then don’t bother. Just think of it this way – men wear condoms. Men hate condoms. Why do they wear them? That’s easy – to keep from having children and contracting STD’s. Most men will sacrifice the extra pleasure of intercourse without a condom considering the alternatives. Certainly, a woman should be willing to sacrifice some pleasure for the sake of keeping both parties safe and STD-free. If there are valid risks associated with performing oral sex for a particular partner and she will not oblige to practicing safer sex, again we say: don’t bother.

Tools For Safer Oral Sex

But for those who are interested in practicing safer cunnilingus and other foreplay, there are a slew of tools that can be used at your discretion – you may even have some in your kitchen drawer right now. You may have heard of dental dams – you know, those little latex squares they use at the dentist’s office to isolate a tooth. Those are great for using during oral sex, but adult toy companies have started making what they call “lollyes” or “dental dams” – the same concept, but labeled specifically for oral sex.

If you’re in the heat of the moment and haven’t got anything else on hand, plastic wrap will work just fine (see, we told you it might be in your kitchen drawer). If you haven’t put two and two together yet, the dental dam/lollye/plastic wrap goes in between your partner’s vulva and your tongue. Lubrication is very, very important if you’re using any of these items during cunnilingus. Just imagine a very dry latex condom. Uncomfortable, right?

Plus, having lube on the vulva-side of the latex or plastic will mimic the feeling of a wet tongue more closely. Remember though, oil-based lubricant can cause latex to break down – always use water-based lubricant.

Gloves, Etc.

If you plan on engaging in foreplay of the vulva using your hands, you may want to consider using a latex glove if you’re concerned about the risk of transmitting STD’s. Truthfully, infections such as gonorrhea, Chlamydia and the like generally aren’t going to be transmitted through hand-to-vulva contact. If, however, there are open sores or cuts on the hands, fingers or vulva, you do run the risk of possibly transmitting or contracting an STD.

Unlike with cunnilingus, using a latex glove does not hinder the pleasurable feelings in the least – in fact, when properly lubricated; a gloved finger may feel more heavenly than one with calluses and hangnails. Just keep in mind that a dry latex glove doesn’t feel good – remember to use plenty of water-based lube. Although some of these ideas may seem like no fun, it really is better to be safe than sorry.

A caring partner will happily oblige if you request protection for both her and yourself if you are concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. And if she doesn’t happily oblige? You may want to reconsider sexual relations with this person entirely.

Oral Sex: Bring On The Sex Toys Too!

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Oral sex can be even more fun when you put sex toys in the mix also. Here’s how you can vamp up oral sex with vibrators, dildos and more!

If You Already Have Sex Toys

If your partner already has a vibrator, by all means use it. But if you need to go shopping for one, do it together so that you can both enjoy the myriad of shapes, sizes and specialties. Plus, you’ll get a better idea as to what she likes and is used to, while still interjecting your needs into the picture as well.

If You’re New To Sex Toys

So what kind of vibrator to choose? Foremost, you want one that performs well for the service you require, rather than one that merely looks good. As well, you want something that isn’t meant to penetrate or be inserted like a penis would be, but rather one with a long handle that makes getting it in between your bodies easier. Variable speeds are also important, as is something that offers a firm softness, much like your fingers or tongue would. You could also go for a G-Spot toy if you want to as it can serve other purposes as well. But no matter what you choose, find a vibrator that is easy to hold for long periods, doesn’t turn either of you off, and is simple and straightforward to use.

How To Use Sex Toys During Oral Sex

To use the toy, introduce it anytime after you’ve made first contact with your tongue. Having said that, you’ll both probably enjoy its use more if you wait until she’s heading towards pre-orgasm. Use it in place of your fingers until then, and make sure it’s on it’s lowest setting for starters; all you want to do is build tension and offer her rhythmic pulses for now.

Then, take the vibrator and place it just inside her vagina. If it doesn’t go in smoothly, put some lubricant on the toy and try again. Don’t delve too far into her vagina, as most of her nerve endings are right around the opening.

Gently pulse the vibrator in small, defined motions in and out of her vagina. You aren’t looking to treat the toy like a penis, but rather are trying to massage the first inch or so inside the vaginal opening. Use the tip of the toy for the most part, and allow it to rest at times so that her pelvic muscles can build tension and stiffen around it.

After a few minutes, try putting your finger inside of her while the vibrator is still moving too. Push the toy up towards her belly button to really get at her g-spot.

Oral Sex Positions That Will Make Your Girl Beg For More!

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Oral sex positions can make cunnilingus even hotter for your lover. Try these oral sex positions tonight and watch out – she won’t be able to get enough!

Legs Up

This is probably the most popular and widely used cunnilingus position. Your partner lays on a flat surface and you place your head squarely between her legs. This is absolutely excellent for uninhibited access to her vulva and this is one that most women find extremely comfortable. The only drawback of this particular one is that it is very hard on the man’s neck to continue to pleasure his partner in this way.

Any person with neck problems or a neck that easily gets cramped up if in one position too long should try another way to not only maximize his comfort but to allow her uninhibited oral sex. If you are one of the latter gentlemen and this particular arrangement tends to cause your neck to stiffen up but your partner really enjoys it, you can try placing a pillow or two underneath her buttocks to help raise her vulva to a comfortable level for you – one in which your neck is not quite as bent.

Legs On The Bed

This is another popular move and honestly, is not quite that different from “Legs Up” with the exception, of course, that the legs are never “up,” however, they are always touching the bed. Although there are not as many variations on this move as the “Legs Up” move, it is an excellent move for women who prefer to feel more in control of the cunnilingus session. This generally is not a better angle for the neck, though, so if your neck is bothersome, continue reading to the other oral sex positions.

Your partner will lay the same way on the bed (or other surface such as a mat on the floor or the couch) and you will kneel and place your mouth squarely between her legs. This is one where you can easily lie down, if that is more comfortable to you. Keep in mind, however, that lying down in this position as well as “Legs Up” as opposed to propping yourself up with your elbows creates more of a bend in the neck and can increase neck pain and discomfort.

Backwards

This is by far the most comfortable arrangement for those of you who get stiff necks with most of the other oral sex positions. Sometimes known as the “69,” you will invert your body so that your legs are on the same end of the bed as her head and her legs are on the same end of the bed as your head. This is great for the neck because the neck retains a much more natural angle – such as staying straight or bending downwards ever so slightly – and is great for men who like to take a long time on their ladies or ladies who take a long time to orgasm. There are plenty of variations on this one as well – just use your imagination!

Generally, in this arrangment, you and your partner can choose whether or not to simultaneously pleasure each other orally by just moving your pelvis directly in front of her face or by moving it off to the side. If both partners enjoy simultaneous orgasm this way, it can be of great benefit to both of them by allowing them to feel more emotionally and physically connected. Don’t suggest simultaneous pleasure all the time, however, because while she is pleasuring you, she has less focus on the pleasure she is receiving and cannot fully appreciate your cunnilingus efforts. One of the best benefits of this arrangement is that facing her vulva downwards naturally allows for a downward tongue stroke.

Remember earlier when we said that some women (and almost all women when they’re not aroused) can find an upwards tongue stroke on the clitoris uncomfortable? This is the greatest way to combat that! The tongue naturally strokes the clitoris through the clitoral hood and in a downward motion – therefore eliminating any straight on the clitoral head discomfort. As with the closed-leg position, the backwards one does not allow for much more than clitoral stimulation as the tongue can’t reach quite to the back of the vulva and all the way to the vagina, however, it does allow more access than the closed-leg position.

Doggy Style

Yes, this particular cunnilingus position takes its name directly from the popular intercourse variation – but it does not need to be associated with the same negative connotations and criticism that the intercourse version of the “Doggy Style” position can sometimes get. With this one, your partner will place herself on a solid surface (such as the floor or a bed) on all fours, tilting her hips slightly towards the ceiling.

You will angle your face within licking and sucking distance of her vulva. The variations on this  arrangment is what make it so unique – while the woman generally stays the same way, her partner can alter his placement in regards to her vulva any which way he chooses, making each doggy style cunnilingus session different. This one is great if you and your partner are feeling especially randy – it can feel a little more “dirty” or “kinky” than a traditional cunnilingus position.

Sit On My Face

This is a great one to try if a woman is confident about her body and herself, although we wouldn’t recommend it for every cunnilingus session as it can be somewhat daunting to the male partner. Generally, you will lie down on the bed face up and your partner will “sit” on your face by setting each knee on either side of your head and her vulva just above your mouth, giving you only enough distance to breathe on and suck and lick her vulva.

A woman must be confident with her body and confident in herself to be comfortable with this arrangement because as the man is positioned beneath her, he will be looking up at her and get a very good view of her entire body, including the undersides of her breasts. Of course, for many couples this is an extreme turn-on but for some, this kind of uninhibited view can make one or both partners a little uncomfortable. Be sure and discuss “Sit on My Face” with your partner before trying it.

Of course, there are plenty of wacky, uncomfortable oral sex positions out there for you to try and you can use your imagination to think up anything you might possibly desire! Keep in mind though; you don’t have to try all kinds to impress your partner. Find a few that really work great and stick to them, unless both you and your partner are feeling particularly turned-on and the mood – then you can try some of the more kinky oral sex positions.

Oral Sex: How To Kiss The Clitoris

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Oral sex is the best way to get your partner turned on and ready for sex – but first impressions matter. Here’s how to start oral sex by kissing the clitoris.

First impressions are always of high importance, but few more so than the first moment that your mouth touches your partner’s vulva. If done correctly? It’ll take her breath away and leave her primed for arousal.

Take It Slow And Enjoy It!

Try to view your first mouth-to-genital kiss with a woman as something to be savored, not devoured. Like an expensive wine or caviar, its first blossom in your mouth is something special and memorable. Allow yourself the time to smell its bouquet, swish it around to see how it reacts, let it breathe or move on its own, and then, with delicious anticipation, take the first dip. Avoid chugging it (metaphorically) in one fell swoop; instead, appreciate every moment that leads up to your first clitoral kiss.

Here’s how to get her craving it:

  • If she chooses not to remove her pubic hair, run your fingers through it gently, or, if she has no pubic hair, tap her labia gently with the pads of your fingers.
  • Tease and tantalize the flesh surrounding the whole genital area. Kiss her thighs, lick her Mons Pubis, nuzzle her folds. Make the first contact more sweet than sexy, more tender than pressing.
  • Use your breath to warm up her privates, making sure not to blow any air inside her vagina.

NOTE: We’re talking more a gentle kiss of warm air that hits her nether regions than a forceful fan blowing. Blowing air into her vagina can be very dangerous, and can do a lot of harm. So instead, breathe on her, blow lightly, but never blow into any of her orifices.

What To Do If She’s Still Clothed

If she’s still got her panties on, lightly kiss her from her vaginal opening all the way to where her labia meets the mons pubis. Then, look her in the eye as you take her panties into your teeth, and tease her with removing them. Prolong the tease, without hurting her or ripping her panties. You can get rough another time, today is just for her pleasure.

Next, pull apart the skin surrounding her clitoris, and with incredible softness, breathe on it from mere centimeters away. Let her feel you right up against her clitoris, without actually touching it.

Peel off her panties, and look appreciatively at her vulva. Now is an excellent time to remind yourself of the pleasure you plan on bringing your partner to, as well as any mental notes. This is all about assisting your partner from arousal to orgasm – keep the focus.

Incorporating Dirty Talk

If it helps, you could also tell your partner:

  • How much going down on her turns you on, and that you are as excited as she is about the process.
  • To relax and feel like she has all the time in the world. That this is meant to pamper and savor her in full.
  • That she smells divine, will taste even better, and that you’ve never seen her look more beautiful or alive than you do at this moment.

Of course, if you don’t feel any of those things, don’t say them but then perhaps take a few more moments to get into that head space, because bringing a woman to climax with oral sex is more about both of your mental states than anything else.

Imagine if you can, that you’re at an event that you’ve been looking forward to for weeks. What do you say to the hostess? These are the same kinds of things you’ll want to say to your partner now: how beautiful she is, how much you’ve been looking forward to the event, how excited you are. Use this time to really tease the senses and mind. Make her think you’re going to extend this part of the evening forever, that you’ll never actually touch her clitoris at all. That all you’re doing is teasing her, leaving her frustrated – it’ll make her go mad for you, and turn her on even more. Then, when she’s almost at the brink of losing it because of the pent-up passion!