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Fingering Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind!

By loveandsex

Fingering can be so much more for a woman than a prelude to sex. Here’s how to use it to give your girl intense orgasms! Sex for many involves finding a hole and filling it.

Why Fingering Can Be Better

Almost always, that hole happens to be a vagina, and the filler, a penis. Of course, fingers are always at your disposal, and we have already discussed their utility over the genitalia. First of all, you have ten of them – which is always a good thing. Second, they gyrate in ways and venture into alleys your jimmy never can.

The art of fingering is a vital element in your sexual repertoire and no man becomes great in bed without the ability to handle her core with finesse and flair.

Things To Keep In Mind

  • Getting fingered is a vivacious experience. But since you’re handling a very personal part of her anatomy, she’ll expect from you a certain level of consideration. So don’t ever get involved with a dry vagina, it’s an unwelcoming one. Stir her libido first and make her wet herself before you administer anything.
  • Since the walls of the vagina collapse on each other, it can easily grip your fingers to oblivion, extremely tight ones will test blood circulation to a point where finger movement becomes out of the question. So make sure you have strong and enduring tentacles.
  • When administering any maneuver, consider your fingers’ length & size, and her elasticity.

The Right Strokes To Use

In & Out

This is as pedestrian as it gets. Who in this wretched world hasn’t tried the classic in & out thingy? For the creatively challenged, it wholly defines the very art of fingering. It’s as easy as ABC. With elbow grease and some arm action, merely slip a finger or 2 in & out of your partner.

The fun begins when you induce variety. And this is achieved by creating combos for rhythm and speed. Orchestrate cadences that alternate fast and slow motions. Some examples:

  • Start slow then rapidly increase speed, then STOP! Then return to slow and rapidly build up again
  • Start slow, then rapidly accelerate. Then gradually decrease speed, then giddiyap again
  • Have sex music playing and let your fingers groove to it. Or hold a beat in your head and move accordingly.

Finger Plug

When women say they feel empty and want to be filled by a man – they mean just that. They want to feel the warmth of a male inside their vagina.

So do her a favor and fill that void by inserting a finger or two in there. And STAY THERE! Decline temptation to withdraw. Let her luxuriate in your presence, allowing her vaginal muscles to squeeze your fingers as tightly as she can. Add eye contact and you’re gold. And while you’re in there, feel the warmth and wetness of her insides, attend to the contractions she makes.

Circular Moves

For hygienic purposes, her walls collapse on each other, effectively closing out unwanted stuff. Comparing the vagina to a hollow barrel or cylinder won’t be accurate since it merely stretches to the mold of the object inserted up there. But for our noble purposes here, let’s picture the vagina as a barrel.

Finger Roll

With this maneuver, your finger rolls back and forth like a log. Insert a finger or two straight up, then rotate your arm clockwise as far as it can go, after which you rotate it counterclockwise as far as it goes. Vary the speed & depths of your rolls.

Finger Tornado

The Finger Tornado has 2 variations. The first is powered by circular motions of the finger itself, the second, which is the heavier version, utilizes circular movements of the whole arm. But ultimately, both are drawing circles or spirals inside her vagina. (This could be a challenge for extra tight ones.)

Start at the surface opening and run circles with your forefinger. As you penetrate, imagine you’re barreling a tunnel by spiraling into her. Slide one millimeter at a time and hold a sensual rhythm to it. Continue rotating ‘til you reach the farthest possible point for your puny fingers. Stay in the area for a while, after which you slowly withdraw – still continuing with the circular actions.

Vary the pressure to the walls and do both clockwise and counterclockwise moves. Imagine what it must be like for her.

Finger Tornadoes are designed in such a way that you engage every millimeter of her vaginal barrel – as far as your fingers can go. If she has unusually sensitive spots inside, you’re bound to find them. Instead of the textbook ramming, which is really the forte of penises, worm your way into her. Tunnel your way through and you might strike orgasm gold.

Finger Rake

The Finger Rake works like the garden tool of a similar name. It’s similar with the previous technique, but you excite her insides by pressing and sliding the fingers SIMULTANEOUSLY – scratching with 2-4 fingers. It’s like clawing the insides of the vagina, without intending to effect blood or pain.

This goes without saying, but clean, trimmed nails are an absolute must!

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Do you have any idea what you can do to your lady’s sanity when your penis is angled correctly at her G-spot? But instead of trying different sexual positions to correctly aim your equipment, try the Penis Emulator – it’s a powerhouse. With this technique, you will use your fingers like a penis to POKE! POKE! POKE! directly at her G-spot.

Instead of doing sets of “come here” gestures – poke into it directly and firmly. Watch her go crazy with this.

Poking, however, is often not enough. You have to bring your arm into the stroke by moving it up & down, hitting the top wall of her vagina. The technique is a simple UP & DOWN movement. The upward stroke bumps the spot, the downward thing is the recoil.

You can go hard and build serious speed on this one, with the added enjoyment of hearing her vagina sound-off as you operate. Your other palm should be pressed firmly on the area below her bellybutton. This is not simply to hold her pelvis down and restrict movement, the bearing down isolates the area and causes more intense sensations. This may even make your partner squirt!

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: ask a girl out, attract women, Dating Tips, female orgasm, fingering, flirting, foreplay, g spot, orgasm, sex tips

Q&A: How To Flirt With A Tomboy

By loveandsex

How to flirt with a tomboy is different from doing it with a girly girl – you’ve got to be careful about what you say and how you act, because the same types of things that work on more feminine women aren’t going to work on a girl who isn’t. Here’s how to flirt with these types of women SUCCESSFULLY!

Question: How do I flirt with a tomboy (who likes me too)? How do I know she’s flirting with me? What do I need to know about tomboys?

–YouTube Viewer

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The “Tomboy” Stigma

Just because a girl is more into doing “guy” stuff like playing sports, likes hanging out with guys more than girls and doesn’t do the whole “shopping and frilly dress” thing, it doesn’t mean that she’s any less girl when it comes to the way a guy can make her feel. She is still going to get butterflies in her stomach when you smile at her and she’s still going to be receptive to flirting. However, you do have to make sure your flirting style works with her personality. Cheesy pick up lines and standard seduction techniques may not work for these types of women.

Going Out And Having Fun

If you try to schmooze a tomboy, or try to be a really “suave” guy around her, she may hit you! The most important thing when learning how to flirt with a girl like this is to plan to do things with her that are a lot of fun. Take advantage of the fact that she’s not a girly girl, and plan dates that are super fun and keep you guys laughing and having a great time. Some great date ideas are:

  • Going to a ball game
  • Hiking
  • Hanging out and playing video games (if she’s a tomboy-gamer sort of girl)
  • See a movie (make sure it’s NOT a chick flick)
  • Instead of a fancy restaurant, have hot dogs in the park (and who cares if you get messy?)

How To Compliment Her

Complimenting a tomboy is where you can really get into trouble if you don’t choose the right things to say. You don’t want to compliment a girl like this on her looks – she works very hard to make sure that she doesn’t dress girly, because she doesn’t want to be noticed for the way she looks. Don’t compliment her makeup (if she wears any) or her outfit – instead, find things about her personality to compliment.

Tell her you love her smile and the way she makes you laugh, or compliment her hobbies. Tell her she’s really good at her favorite sport, even better than you! Compliment her accomplishments and the things she’s done that she’s proud of.

Be Yourself

With dating, it’s always important to be yourself and never try to be the person you think the girl you’re interested in would like. This comes off as fake and almost always backfires – regardless of the type of girl. Of course, a tomboy is going to see right through your charade a lot faster than any other type of girl and you’re probably not going to guess right on the type of guy she would be interested in – so she probably won’t like you at all if you try to be someone other than who you really are.

How Do You Know If A Tomboy Likes You?

Surprisingly enough, this is one of the areas where a tomboy is going to be pretty much just like any other girl. You’re going to be able to tell if she likes you the same way you might notice that another girl would like you. She’s going to be doing pretty much the same things like:

  • Making excuses to be around you
  • Getting in your space
  • Making more eye contact with you
  • Laughing and smiling at your jokes and things you say
  • A tomboy, however, may mockingly punch you rather than touch your arm or leg softly, but it means the same thing – she likes you!

She’s Not Going To Be Good At The Seduction Game

Unlike more girly girls, a tomboy isn’t going to know how to flirt or be very good at the seduction game. She’s going to be more laid back, casual and relaxed. So make sure you take things slow and don’t move too fast. If you do, you might scare her off! Aim to be more casual and relaxed yourself, and let the attraction unfold naturally. You’ll be able to tell if she likes you if she wants to spend more time with you, so after that, just let things take their natural course! Be yourself and remember to have fun!

Filed Under: Flirting Tips Tagged With: approach women, ask a girl out, Dating Tips, flirting

How To Pick Up Girls – For Smart Guys

By loveandsex

Dating tips don’t always give you all the answers you need. It can be tough if you’re an intellectual fella – because not just any girl will do. Smart men need a woman who will be able to carry on a conversation with them, as well as stimulate them emotionally, mentally and intellectually. Women like that can be hard to find – and even more difficult to pick up! Here are some excellent dating tips to get women with brains!

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Difficulty Relating To Women

Okay smart men – you know who you are. You’re the science guy, the IT guy, the accounting and finance fella. You’ve got brains and you know that if any women really got to know you, they would fall madly in love with you! Here’s the problem:

Most brilliant men are so left-brained that they have incredible difficulty relating and talking to women! So how do you overcome this?

It’s time to get in touch with the right side of your brain! Some dating tips may give you pick up lines that promise magical things will happen as soon as the words leave your mouth, but that’s just not the case here. You’ve got to get more in touch with the right side of your brain, so you can learn to relate to women better. This is not going to immediately snag you a date with the smartest (and hottest) woman, but it will help you get better at relating to women on a larger scale.

Thinking Outside The Box

To get the right side of your noggin’ more involved, you need to find some creative hobbies that allow you to get into that mode and away from the super smart, super analytical side of your brain. Poetry and art are awesome ways to get that going, but pretty much any hobby or activity that allows you to think “outside the box” will do.

It might be uncomfortable at first, or you may feel out of place, simply because your brain doesn’t work that way. You’re not an artsy-fartsy guy! But if you get just a little outside your comfort zone and start doing things that help you develop an artistic nature or engage your creativity, you’re already on your way to meeting women and being able to relate to them well enough that you can pick them up!

Be Yourself

Being yourself always works better to attract women, simply because the ladies can usually spot a fake a mile away. A lot of guys don’t understand that women want to get to know YOU, not the guy you think they want to get to know. So many men put on a fake front because they think that will help them attract more women and in the beginning, it may. But it won’t be long before she realizes that you’re not who she thought you were and she’s out the door.

Be yourself and take pride in the fact that you’re an intelligent man! Ladies love this! They want to be able to have a real, amazing conversation with a guy! So have the confidence to put yourself out there – the REAL you.

Strong Masculine Energy & Eye Contact

Having a strong, masculine energy and having the confidence to make eye contact makes a big difference when trying to get a date with a smart chick. In fact, this is one of those dating tips that applies to pretty much any woman. Ladies don’t want to be with a wimp – and unfortunately, a lot of really brilliant guys come off as “wimps” simply because they’ve never had the confidence or practice to have a strong masculine energy about them. They may have grown up as “nerds” or were made fun of for being so smart, so they sink into that persona over time – without realizing that it IS possible to be uber-smart and great with the ladies.

Your Mindset Is Important

It’s very important that you have the right mindset when it comes to attracting intelligent women. Don’t think that these smart women are beyond your reach – they are just people too! A lot of times, guys are so intimidated by hot women, they don’t approach them – but in reality, these girls really don’t get many dates because men are too intimidated to approach them! Have the mindset that these women are real people and you can connect with them – just start that conversation! Hot women are often the most friendly, down to earth people you’ve ever met.

Don’t Focus On Looks

Don’t be so focused on a woman’s looks that you fail to see the amazing personality within. Have a conversation with her, ask her intelligent questions and give intelligent answers. Get to know who she really is! It’s critical to be open and real with a woman if you want a shot at having a true relationship.

Basic Tips For Talking To Women

  • On average, women say about 15,000 words per day and guys say about 6,000.
  • Make a goal to start talking more, period!
  • Learn to relax in social situations
  • Practice talking to women! Even if it’s not the girl you’re interested in, just get more comfortable talking to women in general.
  • Learn something new every time you talk to a girl! Women are people too.
  • It’s not a failure if you don’t get with a girl, but you learn something that will help you in the future.

Filed Under: Dating Tips Tagged With: approach women, attract women, Dating Tips, flirting

How To Win A Woman’s Love

By loveandsex

Love can be fickle – but it doesn’t have to be. The keys to getting a lady to fall head over heels for you isn’t all that difficult to understand – the emotions of a woman are complicated, however, with the right outlook, they’re easy enough to understand and influence. Employ these effective strategies to get the girl you’re after to fall in love with you.

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Slow And Steady Wins The Race

It’s important that you approach the girl you’re interested in slowly, especially if she doesn’t know you or doesn’t know you well. A very strong come on in the beginning isn’t going to work well for you – in fact, it’s very likely to backfire. What you don’t want to do is come off as a creep, because then you could very well be scaring her off for good!

Understand that for a really strong connection to build, it has to start somewhere. It takes time for attraction to build, and if you ever plan on wanting to be in a relationship with this person, you want to make sure your taking the time to build a strong foundation in the beginning. Don’t be afraid to take it slow and let the attraction build naturally. Make sure you get to know her well, and make sure she at least knows that you exist!

If You’re Inexperienced With Women

If you’re shy and inexperienced talking to women, take that first initial step and go out there and start meeting women! Even if they aren’t the “one” that you want to be dating, getting practice talking to women and being comfortable around them will help you to be more smooth and confident when you’re around the lady you really, really like.

Don’t Lose Sight Of Your Own Passions, Goals And Interests

A lot of times what will happen when a guy becomes interested in a girl is he will begin to become obsessed with her. Thoughts of her will end up taking over his mind, and everything he does will somehow be related to her, what she’s doing or where she is. If you want to have any shot with the girl you’re pining over, you have to forget that completely!

Make sure you still have your own goals and passions. Don’t lose yourself when trying to get a girl! That almost never, ever works. She’s not going to be attracted to you if you’re completely obsessed with her. Having your own passions and goals in life (and participating in them actively) is actually the best thing you can do to make her notice you. Concentrate on living your life to the fullest and taking part in things that make you happy. If you’re happy all the time, she’s going to start taking an interest in you. If you’re fun to be around, you’ll really start to attract women!

Get To Know Each Other

In the beginning stages, it’s important for you and the lady you’re interested in to start getting to know each other. You may think you know all about her and you’re madly in love with her, but the truth is, until you’ve really spent some time with someone and have gotten to know them well, it’s really hard to tell if those feelings are genuine. Our brains are excellent at filling in the gaps when it comes to having a crush on someone, so we walk away thinking they’re the love of our lives when in reality, we don’t know them very well at all.

Search for things you and the girl you like have in common. Find out if she even likes you! You cannot force a woman to love you – if you don’t have anything in common or if she doesn’t even really like you “that way,” you can’t force a relationship to come out of it. However, you can “win” a lady’s love if the spark is already there by playing your cards right!

Invest In Yourself

Take some time to make yourself more attractive to women overall. You’re not going to get anyone if you look and feel like a bum! Exercise, eat healthy and nutritious meals and take part in activities that give you confidence and self-worth. Being more confident in general about yourself will automatically make you more attractive to women (including the girl you like). If you don’t love yourself and feel good about yourself first, no one else will either! Also, you ensure that by becoming more attractive in general, you’re leaving the door open for other women – who may be better for you.

The Less You Need Her, The More She Will Like You

You don’t want to be that needy, clingy guy that needs to be around her, be talking to her or be thinking about her to be happy. If you make her your sole source of happiness, she will run for the hills as fast as she can! No girl wants to be the “be all and end all” for a guy. So make a point to “need” her less. This goes back to not losing yourself for a girl and making sure that you still have activities and things that you’re passionate about and enjoy doing. Make time for your guy friends – go out to the sports bar and watch the game with your buddies, or do something else that doesn’t involve her. This will make you way more attractive to her – and it will give her room to chase you a little bit!

Respect That She Can Decide Who She Loves On Her Own

Give her some space. Let her chase you a little – if she feels smothered, she’s going to kick you to the curb in short order. If you’ve done everything you possibly can to win her love and she still doesn’t love you, you’re going to have to recognize when it’s time to move on. If you keep pushing forward when she’s pulling back, you’re going to make yourself out to seem like a stalker! (And you can forget a possible relationship with one of her hot friends if you seem like a weirdo who won’t let go).

She can decide who she wants to love and who she doesn’t all by herself – you cannot force a girl to love you! If this happens to you, concede defeat gracefully and with dignity. Move on, continue improving yourself and doing things that make you happy, and the right one will come along soon enough.

Filed Under: Love & Romance Tagged With: Dating Tips, love, romance, seduction

How To Use Sexual Tension To Get Immediate Results

By loveandsex

Sexual tension is an amazing way to get a girl so turned on, she’s practically ripping your jeans off. If you do it right, you’ll create sexual tension that is so thick, you could cut it with a knife! This is the kind of stuff that will get you INSTANT results! Get laid TONIGHT with these incredible seduction tips.

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How To Create Sexual Tension That Feels Natural

Many guys attempt to create sexual attention when they’re not already sexually aroused – this can actually backfire, because it comes across as completely fake. If you want to create that natural feeling, crazy sexual tension, you need to make sure you’re “in the mood,” so to speak, so that you can convey those feelings to the girl you’re with.

Uncertainty and anticipation is the core of what it’s all about, and if you’re not really experiencing those feelings, the girl you are with isn’t going to either. You really want to be feeling true anticipation that something sexual may happen, and you want to feel that real uncertainty that you may or may not get lucky tonight! The girl you’re with is going to pick up on those feelings, and they will intensify her own.

Getting Into A Controlled Sexual State

So you want to be sexually aroused when you go to create sexual tension, but you don’t want to be so aroused that you’re humping her leg or that you orgasm within just a few minutes if you do actually get to have sex. What you want to do is get yourself into a controlled sexual state – where you are feeling aroused but not too aroused. You can do this a number of ways:

  • Imagine her naked.
  • Think about what you want to do to her.
  • Imagine what she’s going to do to you.
  • Gaze at her lips while licking yours and imagining kissing her.
  • Make soulful eye contact.
  • Touch the back of her neck softly.
  • Don’t be afraid of awkward silences – use them to your advantage!

This will all help you get psyched up and into that mode of creating sizzling sexual tension – just be careful not to take yourself over the edge and get yourself too psyched out.

The Push/Pull Of Sexual Tension

It’s is kind of like a dance, or a game of tennis. There’s a lot of push/pull there that you can’t fake. You’ve got to be into it and she’s got to be into it – and you both have to go in a little and pull back a little to really create those intense feelings. Really great sexual tension will leave a woman feeling just a little confused, because you’re going to be giving a few mixed signals on purpose.

When you start feeling like she’s really into it, you want to back off just a little bit, to give her room to push. She’s not going to be interested in you at all if you don’t give her that room and make her question whether you really like her or not. That’s when she’s going to test you by getting in your space a little and contributing to the push/pull.

Make Her A Little Uncomfortable

Once you get to the point where one or both of you have just passed the feeling of being a little uncomfortable, you know you’re in a great spot and you don’t want to back off right away. Feeling a little uncomfortable (not the creepy kind, the good kind) is what fuels the fires of sexual tension, so once you’re experiencing that, you want to keep the flirting going for a little while before you back off and let her come to you.

Have Fun And Enjoy It!

If you’e afraid of talking to women, or if you aren’t confident enough in yourself, you’re not going to be able to create really great sexual tension. You’ve got to be confident, but you’ve also got to be relaxed enough to know that it’s a really fun game that you can enjoy – but not something you have to take completely seriously. Relax and have fun experimenting with different moves and seeing what reaction you get out of them!

Practice Getting In Touch With Your Feelings

Sexual tension is a feeling – and while most girls are already in touch with their emotions, a lot of guys aren’t. This may make it difficult for men to spot it. Practice by getting in touch with your emotional side by participating in activities or hobbies that require you to use your emotions. This will help you relate to girls more, so it will be easier for you to sense what move to make next.

Flirting Is Key To Sexual Tension

Flirting is a big part of creating sexual tension, so if you don’t know how to flirt, it’s time that you learn! Practice by getting out there and talking to women. Flirt with them and see what kind of reactions you get! Practice your eye contact, body language and conversation skills so that you can really master your game before you ever meet a girl you really like and want to make sure you do everything right with.

Practicing will also help you learn how to keep from overdoing it, because just like with anything else, it’s easy to overdo the sexual tension. You need to learn how to spot when it’s time for you to move on (if she’s just not feeling it) or when it’s time to move things along and get more intimate. When it feels right, you’ll know when to move on to kissing, touching and foreplay! This comes with time and practice!

Filed Under: Seduction Tips Tagged With: body language, Dating Tips, flirting, seduction

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