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Manifesting A Soul Mate – Is It Really Possible?

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Getting back into the dating game after a divorce is not always easy, especially when you have kids.

Dating as a single parent is not the same game you played before you were ever married.

Many of the things you used to do to meet members of the opposite sex no longer have the same appeal!

And all of the parents at the PTA meetings are already married!

What is a lonely single parent to do?

Are you wondering if you will ever meet someone? Especially if you are not “out there” trying.

Well, here is some inspiration for the hopelessly romantic single parent, Karen Lynch from LiveThePower.com.

Read how one woman attracted the Love that she wanted without even trying!

Manifesting a Soul Mate, by Karen Lynch 

High School Sweethearts In Jeopardy – Are We Growing Apart?

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It’s hard enough for grown adults to stay together and have a happy, long lasting relationship… but that’s nothing next to the challenges faced by high school sweethearts.

These young lovers have the odds really stacked against them, and yet many stay together for the long run. But put yourself in a very young woman’s place…

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I have been dating this guy since I was 15 and now we are 19. We were absolutely perfect for a year until we separated for a while to see what else was out there. During that time I dated no one and he did stuff here and there that he kept on the low.

It has been 2 1/2 years since our break and because of our separation it is hard for me to trust him. After graduating high school, I thought college was going to be our only issue but in fact college is not an issue at all. He has his own business and I’m just commuting from college.

Our problem is that we are both changing and it has been a struggle. I also was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, which also made it hard.

I have matured quickly, not wanting to party much and all he wants to do is drink and party. I feel like he wants more then just me but when I discuss wanting to still be with me he says that he never wants to let me go and doesn’t want to break up. We love each other more then life offers, but we are going through a bumpy road and sometimes I feel distant from him – but he’s the man I want to spend the future with.

I don’t know what to do; how can we get through this? Is it possible that we will make it? Please give me advice?

— Ashlee, New York

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What can you do to save your relationship and actually stay together through these turbulent years?

The biggest challenge you face is at that age you’re both changing so fast. We don’t believe that any of us begin to settle in and know who we until our late 20’s.

Young women face special challenges with their young partners, since they tend to mature faster. And at that age, all most guys seem interested in is drinking and partying, and having fun. From the guy’s standpoint, he can easily start feeling held back and trapped. This interaction can be very frustrating and can certainly put a strain on the relationship.

Sure, he’s enjoying his fun. But is that really so bad? Seriously. Consider yourself lucky if he ever matures. But be thankful if he doesn’t. Mature turns into “stuffy” surprisingly fast. BORING! And there’s nothing like boredom to kill the magic in a relationship.

On top of that, there’s the pressure of picking the right college, keeping those grades up so you can graduate, and entering the workforce, whether it’s a job or starting your own business. Wow, nothing stagnant here.

Where does all this change leave you? Will you still be together in a year or two?

It doesn’t matter! Really, it doesn’t. IF you spend all your time worrying about the future, you’ll never enjoy today. Focus on where you are right now, today, and worry less about the future. Today is ALL that is real. Yesterday is just a memory, and tomorrow is a promise, a hope, a dream…

One guarantee… your life and relationship will change. Don’t try to keep things the same, allow room to change and grow.

“Hold on loosely”… You can still hold on to each other and love each other, just not so tightly. Understand that in a period of extreme change, not only are YOU changing, but so is your partner. Respect and embrace that change, and your chances of staying together are much higher.

You’re both young. In time, as you both grow and evolve, you may grow together, or you may grow apart. Either way, it’s OK.

Was your time together wasted if you break up after a couple of years?

Absolutely not! This is where so many people get stuck and keep themselves miserable for years. Fact is, people either grow together or they grow apart. Regardless of where your relationship ends up, the time you spent together is treasured and magical.

After all, you don’t spend your life with a person only to reach that last second before you die. This is a perfect example of how life is truly about the journey, not the destination. Life IS the journey, and you’re very lucky if you have a partner with you, to share the experience, for as much of your journey as possible.

Enjoy and treasure what you have, and appreciate the joy it brings you. Focus on today and how you can still be happy tomorrow, instead of spending your days worrying about what might someday be.

Here’s a dilemma from two young lovers in New York facing the dire prospect of growing apart…

First Date Dilemma

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Singles muddle through mixed messages, fuzzy intentions, and changing social mores. 

Gone are the days when a man and a woman meeting over a drink knew the outing was undoubtedly a first date. With lines blurring between the platonic and the romantic, defining what constitutes a first date has become a guessing game, as maddening as catching a gnat with chopsticks.

The various intentions behind a first date, from finding a mate to bedding a casual-sex partner, has forced many singles to define exactly what it is.

Check out First Date Dilemma, a great article from Mark de la Vina of the San Jose Mercury News. Not only is Mark’s article entertaining and well written…

It also features extensive quotes from your favorite Dating & Relationship advice columnists, Dan and Jennifer. Yes, we’re biased. :-). Go check it out.

Easily Attract Women Without Sleazy Seduction Tricks – TheModernMan.com Review

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You’ve heard it all from various pick up artists, but now it’s time to take a different approach.

“Modern Men”, Dan, Ben, and Stu have become Australia’s Top Dating Coaches.

Fate brought them together through life experience and circumstance, and now they are helping thousands of men learn how to easily attract women without using any tacky ‘seduction tricks’ or false behavior.

They believe that women are attracted to certain things about men other than looks. These certain traits and behaviors can be developed by any man. It doesn’t matter what you look like, what race you’re from, or how little experience you’ve had with women.

Why?

Because women are naturally wired to be attracted to men who have the following qualities:

Confidence: This includes your social confidence, your confidence around her, confidence about yourself in general. However, if you can’t approach a woman because you fear rejection, or don’t feel very confident, then it will be almost impossible for you to attract women and get a girlfriend.

Social skills: Your ability to get along with others and get somewhere in life. Just imagine a beautiful, single woman looking for a boyfriend to get into a relationship with. One night, she gets approached by a guy who sucks at making conversation and isn’t very socially confident. What does that communicate to a woman? Can you say ‘loser’?

Masculinity: Whether or not you can be an alpha male who is not afraid of the world…or her! For example: Are you sometimes overly-polite and cautious around people, so as not to offend? Do you sometimes hesitate about making a move, because you’re unsure about yourself and what you want?

Sexually aware: Your ability to flirt with a woman and make her feel the emotions of sexual attraction. A woman craves to be with a guy who can make her feel the emotion of sexual attraction. If you don’t know how to do that, you’ll be dumped in no time!

We couldn’t agree more! Learning to attract women, and keep them coming back for more, is about so much more than the quick fixes that are offered by some of the internet pick up artists. You need real confidence that comes from within.

At the TheModernMan.com you’ll discover:

  • How to build and maintain true confidence.
  • How to approach women and start conversations.
  • The ins and outs of starting & continuing fun & interesting conversations.
  • How to attract women.
  • How to flirt and use flirting body language.
  • How to be an alpha male.
  • The art of social vibing.
  • The fail-safe, 4-step process of meeting women and moving things forward towards a successful dating relationship.
  • And much more!

They offer two main products, in addition to a personal coaching program, to help you on your journey to becoming a confident and attractive man.

1.  “Build Your Confidence, Naturally Attract Women & Start Dating Now!: Become a Man Who Naturally Attracts Women” – e-Book.

2. “Modern Man Lifestyle Course: How to meet and attract women in real-life situations” – This is a 2 to 4 day seminar.

They also offer several free articles with Advanced Dating Advice.

Here are our some of our favorites.

* This review is sponsored by SponsoredReviews, but all opinions are our own. *

Top 10 Ways To Boost Your Sexual Confidence with Women

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Hey guys. Do you ever wonder how the seduction guys do it? How do they have such Incredible Confidence With Women when some of them are just down right ugly and fat?

Confidence has little to nothing to do with looks. Confidence comes from the inside. Our readers are always making comments like, “You say to have confidence, but that’s not so easy for me. How exactly do I get this confidence that you speak of?”

Once you know the secret, you’ll wonder why you didn’t figure it out on your own…

Our definition of confidence is simply “not caring what others think about you”. Only YOU can determine what’s right for you – your looks, your style, your personality… When you stop letting other people judge you by their personal standards, you will have true internal confidence.

Here’s a great article on improving your sexual confidence from one of our favorite guys in the Dating Coaching and Seduction arena, David DeAngelo.

Top 10: Ways To Boost Sexual Confidence

Most guys lack confidence in their ability to physically turn on a woman and “rock her world” when it comes time to hit the sheets. A woman knows right away if she’s dealing with one of these “boy-men” and runs for the hills as soon as she realizes it. If you want to make sure she sees you as a Sexually Confident kind of guy — the kind of guy who can ignite throbbing sexual passions deep inside her — you need to become a master at giving women an incredible sexual experience. Here are 10 powerful tips to get you started.

Number 10 – Uncover the source of Sexual Confidence

Sexual Confidence comes as a result of knowing how to give a woman mind-blowing pleasure. It’s the confidence that the woman you’re with will have a once-in-a-lifetime experience with you. It’s knowing all the steps — from the first eye contact all the way to the “end game” — and knowing how to build ANTICIPATION at every step along the way. Start by practicing my “two steps forward, one step back” technique by escalating things, then backing off, then escalating further, then backing off again. The anticipation and arousal this creates will drive her INSANE. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

Number 9 – Get out of the manipulation mindset

Guys are always curious about how to “trick” a girl into bed — what the magic words are, etc. I personally know a few guys who do this… and I can tell you it does NOT lead to fulfillment. Avoid this whole “manipulation mindset,” and stop trying to figure out what the magic bullets are to get a woman to do what you want in a dishonest way. It’s much better to work on becoming an interesting guy who knows what to do to build attraction in a natural, non-manipulative way. If what you’re doing feels wrong or unethical, stop it. There are better ways to get what you want.

Number 8 – Stop idealizing beautiful women

Most guys get fooled into believing that just because a woman is unusually attractive, she’s also usually honest and would never consider taking from you, cheating on you or lying to you. The reality is that people are never 100% “good” or 100% “bad.” There are situations where ANY person would lie, cheat, steal, or be disloyal. When you accept the reality that people are people, a beautiful woman is still human, and that the woman you feel strongly for is just as likely to be dishonest or disloyal as any other, you’ll take her off that pedestal you put her on. And that’s an important step toward achieving Sexual Confidence.

How important are looks when it comes to being confident in bed?…

Number 7 – Looks don’t matter when it comes to Sexual Confidence

Nothing about how you look, how old you are, how tall you are, how much you weigh, how much money you make, or whether or not you’re her type has ANYTHING to do with how you can make a woman feel once you’re in bed with her. A key to remember is that AFTER a woman has experienced a mind-blowing intimate experience with you, that experience alone will render all of that other stuff irrelevant. It just won’t matter. Picture yourself in this future ahead of time and it’ll help make it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Number 6 – Delay your gratification

Delaying gratification becomes more profound the more you think about it — and when it comes to sex, it’s absolutely critical. It not only allows you to build the sexual tension and make her want you more and more, but the teasing and anticipation act as amplifiers to HER arousal. Bottom line: You are more likely to turn her on — and more likely to take things to a physical level — if you’re cool and calm. Lose your need for instant results, and you’ll drive her CRAZY.

Number 5 – Act like sex is normal

A lot of guys get nervous when it comes time to have sex; they think they need to start acting differently when it’s time to “do the deed.” But sex is normal, so keep acting normal as things heat up. Don’t make a big deal out of it; keep having fun; keep teasing; keep acting light. Smoothly, confidently, comfortably progress from one step to the next, all the while enjoying yourself and acting like all is normal — because it is.

Number 4 – Put sex into perspective

Instead of positioning sex as the ultimate goal and the center of your purpose, move it so it’s simply one of your many goals. Make it a natural outcome if you like a woman and if you choose to spend the time and effort to get to that point. Take the “pinnacle value” out of sex, put it in perspective, and your relaxed attitude will make you much more likely to get it.

Number 3 – Tame the fear of rejection

As you progress from one step to the next with a woman — from a casual date to touching, kissing and beyond — the stakes get bigger and bigger. Men typically feel more apprehensive as they progress from one step to the next, and feel less confident moving to the next step as things get more intense. The fear is not of being rejected or stopped, but of losing all the ground that has been gained, and going back to ZERO. Fortunately, the more involved you get, the more likely it is you’ll succeed. The next step involves less risk, and it makes the sexual act more likely. Remember this.

Number 2 – Interpret her actions

If she stops you, it usually doesn’t mean that she wants you to stop FOREVER; it means that you didn’t get her turned on enough. Interpret it as “I’m not ready yet,” rather than “Go away, I don’t like you anymore.” Stop, lean back, talk casually for a while and just relax. Then get her even MORE turned on than before. Feel free to make her ASK you for sex… or even beg. “Please” is a great word — teach her to use it, and she’ll LOVE you for it.

Number 1 – Get in touch with the animal inside

A woman wants a man who’s in touch with his inner ANIMAL. If he’s overly logical, overly analytical, overly controlled, overly educated, it shows a woman that he cannot let the animal out. At an instinctive level, a woman knows that this means she won’t be able to FEEL anything strong toward him, and she knows he won’t be able to arouse any sexual feelings inside of her. Study, get to know, make friends with, and DEVELOP the animal inside you. Educating yourself in this area is one of the most important things you can do to take your Sexual Confidence to the next level.