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6 Sex Positions That Make You Look Good

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Sex positions come in all varieties, but not all of them will flatter your best body attributes. In fact, many women avoid certain sex positions because they’re afraid their lover will see the cellulite in their backside or the wrinkles in their tummies. Rest assured women, that guys aren’t usually picking apart the girl they’re scoring with. But if you really want to hide your least favorite body parts, here are six sex positions that you’ll want to try.

Doggy Style

If you have a flabby tummy, or your tummy just isn’t your favorite part of yourself, doggy style is one of the best sex positions to hide your flaws. You may only think that doggy style is good for anal sex, but it’s actually great for g-spot stimulation too. Your partner will only be able to see your butt, your thighs and your back. Your stomach isn’t in view in this position, so you can “let it all hang out.” Doggy style is also great to use if you’ve just had a big meal or feel a little bloated. You can also arch your back and push your buttocks out a little, giving you a feminine and enticing curve that is very attractive to a man!

Cowgirl

Cowgirl is also one of the sex positions you can use to flatten out your tummy, but it requires a little bit of strength in your thighs since your thigh muscles are what you will be using to move yourself up and down on your partner’s penis. Straddle your partner and face him, but sit up tall and stretch your midsection out. Square your shoulders and flex your abdominal muscles to flatten out your tummy and make you look like a sex goddess!

Missionary

You may not think of the missionary position as being one of the sex positions that will make you look fantastic, but it is actually very useful for camouflaging your upper and inner thighs, as well as your butt. If these are your “trouble areas,” you can wrap your legs around your partner’s waist during intercourse, keeping them out of his view completely. He will get a good glimpse of your breasts and tummy if he’s up on his knees a little bit, and even less if he’s stomach-to-stomach with you. Mostly he will be looking at your face to see how much you are enjoying it (especially when you have an orgasm), not paying attention to your body flaws!

Spooning

Spooning is among the best sex positions to hide your tummy, your breasts and the front of your body. Lay on your side facing away from your partner, and have your partner come up behind you, also laying on his side and facing your back. He will enter you from behind, and can reach his hand around to stimulate your clitoris. Since men are visual creatures though, you might want to have a porn flick playing to give him something to look at – or else he’ll probably be staring at the wall!

Sixty-Nine

If your partner is going to perform oral sex on you, you might be nervous about him checking out your thighs and upper body in all its glory. As far as oral sex positions go, there are a few you can use to put your partner’s attention elsewhere. Sixty-nining with him on top will keep him from staring at your least favorite parts of your body (namely because all he’s going to see is your legs if he lifts his head out from in between them) and he’ll also be blissed out from the blowjob that you’re giving him at the same time.

Standing

Not only are the standing sex positions awesome for the “I-need-you-right-now” quickies, but they’re also great for making you look your best when you’re in your skivvies – or your birthday suit. Standing up while having sex allows your body to stretch out, so nothing is bunched up or wrinkled where it shouldn’t be. If you have excess skin that creates “rolls” when you bend over or lift your legs up, you’ll definitely love the standing sex position.

Remember that sex is all about having fun – not worrying about what you look like. Your partner most likely isn’t looking at your every flaw – they’re enjoying having sex with you! If you do get a guy that picks apart your least favorite parts of your body, ask yourself if he’s really someone you want to spend time with. There are lots of guys out there that will enjoy having sex with you and think you look great, even if you have a little cellulite!

The Best Sex Positions To Make A Woman Orgasm Quicker

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Most any woman is able to orgasm quickly when she’s being fondled during penetration. Sensations from penetration and fondling combine, leading to an intense orgasm that will leave her stunned. So where should a man touch a woman to get her off fast? Some women prefer breast stroking, while some women like torrid kissing, but the true secret to a quick orgasm is clitoral touching during sex.

However, doing this is easier said than done. The usual sex positions (like missionary) require you to use one or both hands to balance. Some men also find it difficult to do another task when foreplay is over and sex is in full swing. A remedy to this is to get into sex positions that allows touching of the clitoris without much effort on the guy’s part. You can also get into a sex position that will make it easier for the woman to reach her clitoris and stimulate herself without getting too tired.

Here are three sex positions that will do the trick.

Coital Alignment

Despite the technical term for this sex position, it’s pretty simple. The man lies directly on top of the woman and penetration angle is similar to that in the missionary position. However, in the coital alignment position, a man’s pubic region is pressed against the woman’s. This makes it seem like he’s grinding or rocking to and fro, rather than pulling in and out. The rhythmic grinding on the woman’s clitoris will induce orgasm quickly. One more benefit to this technique is that you can kiss her lips and moan into her ear while you’re in this position.

Woman On Top

This position will do more than help a woman to reach climax faster, it will increase the intensity of her orgasm. This is much like the coital alignment position but instead of the man being on top, the woman stays on top. The woman can lean her torso forward, arch her back, and keep her crotch in constant contact with the base of his penis or his pubic region. In this position, she can control the rhythm as well as the depth of penetration. Moreover, she can press down on the man’s pubic region so that her clitoris is sensitized by rubbing on his skin.

Doggy Style

In this position, a girl can play with her clitoris all she wants while you penetrate her. Doggy style is a sex position that lets the girl touch her body herself with one hand while balancing with the other. She can also free up both hands by balancing with her shoulders and head. If you really want to give your girl the best orgasm of her life, these sex positions I mentioned will help you find a way to touch her clitoris during sex. The clitoris is very sensitive, and any girl will tell you that the clitoris plays a big role to inducing orgasm during masturbation.

4 Red Hot Hotel Sex Fantasies That Will Re-Ignite Your Sex Life!

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Hotel sex is always on fire! There’s just something about hotel sex that makes it hotter, naughtier and leaves you gasping for breath – a certain je ne sais quois. If sex with your lover has become boring and unfulfilling (for either of you), head to your nearest lodge to act out these incredibly juicy hotel sex fantasies tonight!

Honeymoon Sex

Imagine how great the sex was on your honeymoon. Wasn’t it fantastic? Re-create that by booking a room (preferably the honeymoon suite or similar) in a nice hotel in your town. Here are some great tips on how to bring the “honeymoon sex” fantasy alive.

  • Make sure the room has a Jacuzzi and have some nice bubble bath or salts on hand.
  • Have champagne and strawberries ready. Chill the champagne in a silver ice bucket. Sure, it seems cheesy and a little cliché, but this will really bring that “honeymoon romance” feeling out in you and your lover.
  • Engage in lots of foreplay. Take it slow and really savor the experience. Pretend you are on your honeymoon and it’s the first time you’ve had sex – enjoy every touch and every sensation.

Dirty, Raunchy Sex

For this hotel sex fantasy, you’re going to want to book a room in a seedier motel-style place. Of course, make sure it’s a fairly clean and safe facility (you don’t have to get that deep into the fantasy).

  • Dress for the occasion. Have your lover dress a little more provocatively than usual.
  • Book the room during the day and arrive separately. Make it feel a little more “naughty” by pretending you’re having an affair or that one partner is an “escort.”
  • You can really bring this fantasy to life by your attitude and with certain sex positions. Feel free to be a little rougher during sex, or to use the doggy style sex position.

Business Meeting Sex

Hotel sex often happens when one partner is away on business – and unfortunately, this often happens as affairs. Still, the sex is almost always incredibly intense! Forget the affair and re-enact this type of hotel sex with your partner. Here’s how:

  • Guys, you’re going to want to head to the hotel first, perhaps after dinner. If you can, try to plan it on a night where you actually have some kind of business engagement, such as a company party or dinner.
  • Ladies, you will arrive later, perhaps after a naughty phone call or a dirty text.
  • Draw the blinds. Make it seem as though you’re not supposed to be seen doing what you’re doing!
  • Ladies, if your men travel a lot for work, think about a way to surprise him at the hotel he’s staying at. It may or may not be possible, but if it is, you could surprise him when he finally heads back to his hotel after his business meetings wearing something super sexy!

Hotel Maid Sex

Another way to have really hot hotel sex is to explore the “maid” sex fantasy. This is easy enough to do, but does require a maid costume of some kind if you really want it to be effective.

  • Call your partner for “maid service” after you’ve checked into the room. They have to be in on it though, or you might end up offending them!
  • Ladies, don the maid costume under a trench coat and head to the hotel room. Knock, knock. “Housekeeping!”
  • Play out your maid fantasies together, getting as involved as you want.
  • If you want to keep the role play going, let her leave before he does. The exhilaration of a naughty maid meet up can be super exciting for a woman, and letting her go home alone will give her time to reflect on how hot what happened was. Later, snuggle up to her in bed and kiss her sweetly, letting her know how great you thought it was and how much you love her (this also works really well with the dirty, raunchy sex fantasy).

Whatever it is that makes hotel sex so much better than regular sex at your house – whether it’s the excitement of doing it somewhere else or living out a business affair, prostitute or maid sex fantasy – try to harness that and use it to make the mood come alive. Let yourself go and really get into it. Don’t worry about what your partner will think – chances are, if you’re really into it and put some good effort in setting the stage and the mood, they’ll be responsive and get into it as much as you do. Relaxing and having fun are keys to making hotel sex fantasies work!

8 Sizzling Oral Sex Positions (For Her)

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Oral sex can get boring for women if she’s always laying down to receive. While oral sex is great in just about every shape or form, you can really heat things up with different oral sex positions. In fact, when your partner is going down on you in a variety of different ways, the same moves and techniques can actually feel totally different. Try these new oral sex positions to make him going down on you a lot more fun!

Standing Up

Guys will often get a blowjob standing up – but because a woman’s genitals don’t “stick out” like a man’s does, a woman doesn’t often get to stand while receiving oral sex. Next time your man goes down on you, suggest that he goes “up” on you instead! Stand over his head and let him come up underneath you to pleasure you with his mouth.

Variation: Prop your leg up on a table or a chair to allow him full and total access to your genitals. He’ll love being able to really see what he’s doing down there!

Down And Dirty Doggy Style

If your guy doesn’t mind being close to your back door entrance – or if he enjoys giving you analingus at the same time he’s going down on you – doggy style is definitely right up your alley. Kneel on all fours just as you would if you and your partner were going to have sex and he’s going to enter you from behind. Instead of penetrating you with his penis, he’ll actually bring his face down there and lick and suck you from behind. Seriously though, if your guy is back door shy, stay away from this one.

Variation: Have him flip over on his back and slide up underneath you, facing your genitals. He can give you oral sex this way, without being so involved with your behind.

Sitting With Legs Spread Wide

Sit up on a couch or chair and spread your legs as wide as you can, making your entire genital area open to your partner. Have him kneel down or sit on the floor, about eye level with your vulva. He can reach you easily this way, both with his mouth and his hands – which comes in “handy” for fingering. This is actually a very comfortable position for both you and your partner, provided that you’re both at the right level. If either of you is stretching up or hunched down to get in this position, try to find another chair or place to sit where you can be more comfortable.

Variation: Try spreading your vaginal lips with your fingers while your partner goes down on you. Not only will he love having full access to your lady parts, he’ll also love how unabashed and naughty this move is.

On The Side

This too is one of the most comfortable oral sex positions both for the giver and the receiver. Lie on your side on the bed or couch and have your partner lie upside down behind you. He should be facing your rear. Lift up the leg that is not on the bed and hold it high either with your hands or with some kind of restraint (which could be even more fun with a little bondage!) He’s going to slide his head in between your legs, bringing his face around to meet your genitals. He can rest his head and neck on your thigh while he eats you out.

Variation: Once he’s going down on you, release your leg and rest it on his shoulders. This gives him less access to your vulva, but it does give your leg a rest!

A New Twist On Oral Sex “Missionary”

The “missionary” version of oral sex positions is where the woman is lying down and the man lies on his stomach with his face buried deep in between her legs. While this is an excellent way to reach orgasm during oral sex – after all, there’s a reason it’s considered a “classic” – there are different things you can do with it to make it even more fun. After you lie down, bring your legs together and then raise them up, bringing your knees close to your stomach. Your legs should still be together. This allows your man to come up underneath your legs and lick your vulva. Have him bury his tongue deep in your folds, because light licking isn’t going to do the trick here with your legs pressed together.

Variation: Rest your legs on his shoulders when you get tired of holding them up. This will make it easier for him to go down on you, and it will be more comfortable for you when you get closer and closer to orgasm.

Sitting…On His Face

You’ve probably heard of this one, but it’s not played out just yet. Sitting on a man’s face is incredibly erotic for a woman, especially if she’s into domination and he’s into submission. After giving your man a blowjob with him lying down, crawl up his body and plant your genitals right on his face. He’ll love the idea of you grinding against his face while he’s eating you out.

Variation: Do a “reverse cowgirl” sort of move and face his feet instead. This is a great way to do it if you both love anal play, or at least don’t mind it.

On The Edge Of The Bed

You can use the edge of the bed during cunnilingus easily. The bed is a great tool to use if you want to get into different oral sex positions, because it’s height, size and shape is perfect. However, remember that you don’t always both need to be on the bed to utilize it. Have your partner lie down on the bed with his head as close to the edge as possible. In fact, he may need to scoot up enough so that most of his head is actually off the bed. You’re going to come in and straddle his face while standing!

Variation: Prop one of your legs up on the bed and lower yourself down onto his face. This may be a little difficult for you to do, but the end result is worth it! He’ll love the full view of your vulva above him!

The New “Woman On Top”

While sixty-nine is a great way to both give and receive oral sex at the same time, if a woman just wants to receive (or a guy just wants to give), this is probably not the way to go. Instead, the woman will lie on top of the man facing the ceiling, scooting her genitals up to his face. Her head will probably rest on or close to his penis, but this one is all about her!

Variation: Lift up your legs to expose your anus to your partner for anal play!

Sex Positions: He Wants Doggy Style And I’m Done With It!

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I love different sex positions and I loved “doggy style” when my boyfriend and I first got together, but now it’s my least favorite. My boyfriend still tries to initiate sex this way, but I really don’t enjoy it. How do I let him know our doggy days are over?

What She Said

Speak With Him Honestly

The sooner, the better! While there are compromises in relationships, doing something you really don’t enjoy physically isn’t necessary. For whatever reason, your body’s response to pleasure in doggy style sex positions has changed. Sex should be fun and spontaneous, but if you know something doesn’t work for you anymore it should be off the menu. He’ll surely understand, once you express that this position no longer feels good to you.

Take the sting out of delivering this news by adding a few new sex positions that you are interested in trying. It’s not the end of the world – in fact, it’s an invitation to a new one!

What He Said

You know what? It happens! Some people can eat ice cream all day, every day and never ever ever get bored. Some people eat it for a week and then get bored with it. You have gotten bored with doggy style as far as sex positions go. It’s time to find a new flavor.

Perhaps you’ve gotten bored with it because it’s physically uncomfortable or doesn’t hit your g-spot like it used to. That my friends, is what the liberator is for.

Go to their website, check out the different models and positions they can be used for (they have very “informative” video demonstrations with the super sexy sex educator Jaiya) and order one. That may be all you need to get things going again.

Then again, maybe the position isn’t for you. There are dozens of books on sex positions, like Kama Sutra, that offer new and exciting sex positions for the two of you to try. The options are as limitless as they are magically delicious.

Bring Sex Toys Into Play

Maybe you need to bring some sex toys into play instead of trying different sex positions. Again, do an Internet search for sex toys, find some you like and order them online or go to your local sex shop and buy some if you don’t want a paper trail (just remember to pay cash!) That will add some new toys to your sexual sandbox and that can occupy you for hours upon hours.

Of course, I don’t think any of this will really help as long as he’s the one doing the sexual initiation. You really can’t let him know his doggy style days are over. What you can do is offer him new and exciting positions and avoid the doggy style sex all together simply by beating him to the punch. You should be the one to initiate sex and lots of it. In the new positions you want to try. You’re bound to find one that he likes just as much if not more than doggy style. Then he will be constantly harassing you to do it that way instead of doggy style, but that however, is a whole other column. Enjoy and you’re welcome!