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Spiritual Sex: Reuniting Body And Soul For A Whole Body Orgasm

By mayasilverman

In today’s stressful modern age, it seems as though the practice of sensuality has slowly become a lost art.

Just think about it: with our fast-paced culture and hectic schedules, it’s no wonder that we have very little time for things that require us to slow down and take our time especially when it comes to our sex lives!

Everyday Life Gets in the Way

After all, each one of us is guilty of this behavior. Perhaps you had a long day at the office, or you’ve got a big meeting to prepare for in the early morning. Either way, when you engage in lovemaking with your partner, your mind is somewhere else completely.

You’re focusing on that big report or review at the office, or maybe you’re forming a mental to-do list. Since you’re mind is entirely occupied by distracting thoughts, you can’t focus on lovemaking, and you deny yourself the pleasure that you need.

It’s not that difficult to see why we let the stress of our daily lives negatively affect our sexual energy.

Stress Affects Our Sex Lives

While the act of sex may not require that much thought, achieving an orgasm takes focus which can be hard to do if our minds are focused on our day at the office! Yet if you’re looking to reclaim your sexual pleasure from the stresses of modern life, and to achieve that elusive whole body orgasm that you’ve longed for, follow these rules to max out your soulful sack sessions!

When you want to get your partner revved up for a bedroom romp, chances are you probably focus less on touching and caressing and more on the actual act of sex. Yet if you’re looking to reunite your body and soul for a whole body orgasm that will have you seeing stars, you need to take a step back and focus more on the pleasure that comes with erotic touching.

Max Out Your Partner’s Bliss

Not only can you max out your partner’s bliss by taking the time to caress him or her, but you’ll be heightening the anticipation for lovemaking – a key ingredient for that whole body orgasm!

Erotic touching is an intense and soulful experience, so be sure to engage in intimate behavior: stare into your partner’s eyes while gently stroking him or her along the length of the body. Use erotic touching as a means to explore your partner like never before.

Sure, you may know every nook and cranny of your partner’s body, but how well do you really know it? By using erotic touching, you’ll experience your lover’s body in a new and more spiritual way that will intensify your relationship, both in and out of the bedroom.

Erotic Touching Melts the Tension

An additional bonus: erotic touching can melt the tension that builds up in our bodies from experiencing the daily stress of our modern lives. After all, touch plays an important role in melting away stress and tension.

Just think of all the times that a friendly hug or gentle kiss instantly made you feel more relaxed. Well, this especially applies to your sex life as well, as intimate touching can make you feel relaxed and stress-free. Once that tension is sapped, your mind will be free to focus on your lovemaking which eliminates those pesky roadblocks towards achieving orgasm!

Ideally, erotic touching will build up that first layer of sensation in your quest for the whole body orgasm. Spiritual sex is a multi-layered experience, where sensations are built upon one another until finally culminating in a powerful and soulful orgasm.

Treat Foreplay as the Main Act

So don’t just rush through erotic touching and jump straight into intercourse; instead, treat foreplay as the main act in which you build up a strong foundation towards reaching the brink of sexual nirvana. This is a focal point of tantric sex, in which lovemaking has no final destination, but instead is a spiritual journey which must be enjoyed.

If you approach your sack sessions with this view point, you’ll not only free up your mind from tension and stress; you’ll be more likely to achieve a powerful orgasm because you’re taking the pressure off of it. Sounds a bit backwards, but the less you focus on orgasming, the more likely you will!

The layering of sensations is critical towards intensifying relaxation, arousal and eventually orgasm.

Think of each sensation as a pleasurable journey with no destination in sight; therefore, when you finally are at the brink of pleasure, you’ll easily achieve that elusive whole body orgasm, and what greater stress relief is there than an intense orgasm with your lover that has you seeing stars?

Tantric Massage: How to Give Your Partner the Ultimate Sexual Experience

By mayasilverman

Do you want to give your lover the ultimate experience in sheer pleasure? I’m not just talking about “oh, that feels good” kind of pleasure, either.

I’m talking about the kind of soulful, intense pleasure that will have your partner reaching the brink of sexual nirvana and seeing stars for days!

Not sure if this is possible? Or if it is, you need to be some kind of expert lover to do it? Well, put your doubts to rest, because there’s a type of method out there that will intensify your relationship both in and out of the bedroom, and it’s easy to do!

That’s right. I’m talking about the tantric massage.

What is Tantric Massage?

The tantric massage may sound complicated, but it’s actually not all that hard to accomplish. The tantric massage was developed centuries ago in Asia as a vital ritual that served to balance out a person’s physical and emotional energy, which eventually lead to healing, tranquility and the kind of sack sessions that would make Casanova jealous.

There’s also an additional bonus: tantric massage can free your lover’s mind from the stress of daily life and melt away tension, thus increasing your partner’s chances of achieving a bed-shattering orgasm.

While the actual practice taught in the tantras (the ancient texts from where Tantra comes from) can take a very long time to perfect – in fact, several followers of the practice have been at it for decades – there are a few tricks and tips that you can easily use tonight in order to give the kind of tantric massage that will have your lover purring with pleasure.

Set the Mood

First, before you can begin your tantric massage journey, you have to set the proper mood. You don’t have to sprinkle rose petals over your bed, but a few changes to your normal bedroom atmosphere will work wonders.

Dim the lights, light a few candles and play music that’s tranquil and soothing (try to avoid any music that has a rhythmic beat). If you normally make love on ordinary cotton sheets, try swapping them for a set with a luxurious thread count, or for a more affordable option, use sheets made from jersey material, which feel silky and smooth against bare skin.

Your lover will definitely appreciate the time you took to set the mood!

Grab the Massage Oil

Once you’ve set up your bedroom to max out your lover’s tantric experience, grab some massage oil, have your partner remove his or her clothing and lay face-down on the bed (if you don’t want oil on your sheets, place a towel between your lover and the bed).

Pour a few drops of oil in the palm of your hands and rub them together in order to properly warm the oil After all, nothing can break a sensual mood more than a few drops of too-cold oil!

Begin the Massage Gently

Take your hands and slowly begin to massage your partner’s shoulders and back. Remember, the tantric massage is very different from a typical back-and-shoulder rub, so try not to focus on loosening up knotted muscles.

Instead, focus on the feeling of your lover’s skin as you glide your hands back and forth along their back. Work your way down to your lover’s buttocks and legs as you gently rub your hands in an up-and-down stroking motion. Remember to ask your partner if your touch is too soft or too hard!

After massaging the back of your lover, have them turn over onto their backs. Begin to gently massage your partner’s chest and stomach. Pay attention to sensitive areas, such as your partner’s breasts or nipples, but don’t overtly focus on them, as this could lead to lovemaking too quickly.

Massaging the Genital Area

When you reach your partner’s genitals, be sure to softly massage them as well, but again, at this point, be sure to focus more on the act of the tantric massage and not on pursuing an orgasm.

Enjoy!

Once you’ve completed your tantric massage, your partner will be both relaxed and aroused, which is an ideal physical and mental state for achieving the kind of spiritual orgasm that will make your relationship unbreakable.

Yet remember, don’t engage in tantric massage with the expectation that intercourse will always follow. Sex should be a pleasurable bonus, not a final destination.

Most importantly, have a fun and positive attitude while giving your partner a tantric massage. Devoting yourself to your lover’s pleasure is a beautiful experience, so don’t take yourself so seriously.

After all, if you’re too busy focusing on whether or not you’re doing it correctly, you’ll cheat yourself out of the opportunity to engage in one of the most pleasurable and spiritual rituals of Tantra!

Erotic Massage: How Erotic Touch Can Turn Up the Heat in Your Bedroom

By mayasilverman

It’s no secret that when it comes to turning up some serious heat in the bedroom, nothing is more effective, or pleasurable, than erotic touching.

After all, the right touch or caress can arouse both you and your partner for some exciting foreplay, bring you to the brink of nirvana over and over again and even rev you up for a second bed-shattering round.

It seems like there’s nothing that erotic touching can’t do for a healthy sexual relationship!

The Benefits of Erotic Touch

Yet the blissful benefits of erotic touch doesn’t have to be limited to your between-the-sheets playtime; in fact, erotic touch can do wonders for your relationship outside of the bedroom – and even boost your mental, physical and emotional health!

Here’s the latest scoop on how erotic touch can be used to boost your individual health and well-being and max out your pleasure!

Hardwired to be Touched

Humans are hardwired to be touched. Even during our modern age of hectic schedules and impossibly long work hours, there’s nothing more satisfying or soothing than the caress of a lover at the end of a busy day.

Even platonic touching can go a long way towards boosting our moods; remember all those times when a comforting hug or a reassuring pat from a friend made you feel a million times better than before? Well, there’s a biological reason for that response.

Long before humans developed language we relied on touch in order to communicate or express feelings of joy, sorrow, pain or love. Touching is an ingrained part of how we socialize with others. In fact, scientific studies have shown that the more healthy touching that an adolescent or child is exposed to, the more likely he or she will develop into a well-rounded adult.

Touching also plays a vital role in our emotional development as well and not just when we’re children. Studies have shown that adults who are regularly exposed to touch, say the comforting hug of a friend or the soothing caress of a lover, often report themselves as being happier and more content than those people who are touched less.

So it’s easy to see how touching can not only spice up your sex life, it can also emotionally heal you and your partner as well.

So if you’re wondering how you can incorporate more of the blissful benefits of sensual touch into your relationship, here’s the scoop on how to soothe and emotionally heal your partner though erotic massage and bring him or her to the brink of pleasure again and again!

Incorporate Sensual Touch Into Your Relationship

While we may all enjoy a good back and shoulder rub from time to time, erotic massage is in no way similar to the typical massage. Massages are often used to release tension and relax knotted muscles. While this may be a pleasurable bonus to erotic massage, this should not be the ultimate goal.

Erotic massage is a slow and sensual activity that involves a great deal of intimacy and nudity. If you’re usually uncomfortable with prolonged nude activity,perhaps you’re too self-conscious of your own body or what your lover thinks of your sack skills, then take the time to set the proper mood.

Set the Mood

Light a few candles, play some sensual music or even swap your normal bed sheets for something light and silky. If you really want to turn the heat up during the massage, use massage oils in rich sensual scents, like sandalwood or jasmine.

When beginning your erotic massage experience, remember to communicate with your partner at all times. Remember to stare into each other’s eyes as you exchange gentle kisses and soft caresses.

This connection will not only make your partner feel more aroused and heighten his or her sexual desire during the erotic massage, it will reassure your lover of the strength and importance of your emotional commitment. This reassurance plays a vital role in the overall emotional healing of your lover.

Performing the Erotic Massage

When performing the erotic massage, remember to keep your hands on your partner at all times. Use soft yet rhythmic strokes as you slowly vary between gentle and deep touches (remember to ask your partner the type of touch that he or she prefers). While performing the massage, lightly brush your partner’s body with your genitals and/or breasts, as this will prolong your partner’s desire by keeping them in a sexually aroused state.

Continue with the massage until you feel that your partner is ready to move on to intercourse. Remember, erotic massage doesn’t necessarily have to lead to sex, and it only should when your partner invites it.

After the Massage

After giving the erotic massage, take the time to hold your partner and communicate how much you truly care for them. This non-sexual touch is not only a tranquil way to wind down from the intense pleasure, it’s also a great way to max out the intimacy for as long as possible.

This is truly one of the greatest benefits of erotic massage: it’s not only a pathway to intense sexual pleasure, but it can improve the quality of both your relationship and your own emotional and mental well-being.

Make erotic massage an important bedroom ritual and feel the amazing benefits of sensual touching in your relationship!

Great Sex Begins With A Sensual Massage

With today’s hectic and fast-paced world, it’s not a surprise that a lot of people don’t have great sex.

Everyone’s just too tired!

So how do you ensure that you and your partner are on your way to great sex without being discouraged by ‘all the work’ that lay ahead to ensure it? Indulge in a sexual massage.

A Sexual Massage Paves the Way for Great Sex

A sexual massage puts you and your partner in the perfect mood for a long night of great sex. Think about it. You’re not just jumping on each other, and subconsciously telling yourselves to ‘hurry up’ and get it over with.

A sexual massage actually tells your mind and body to RELAX; but because it’s a sexual massage, you can bet sexual tension will be there, making for a night of great sex after all!

Bathroom or bedroom?

Decide if you want to carry out the sexual massage while having a long, luxurious, warm soak in the tub or in your bedroom. Either way, just make sure you have the ambiance right.

In the bathroom, make sure candles are lighted and scent oils are burning.If you’re joining your partner in the tub, make sure everything is within your reach. And if you’re planning a long session, a bottle of wine and a few food items (cheese, crackers, etc.) are fine too.

If you’re having the sexual massage in the bedroom, then make sure you’ve cleaned the room and allotted a space for the massage. If you’re worried about staining your bed sheets, you can put another type of fabric over your bed. You can also just put thick blankets and throw a couple of pillows on the floor. Candles, music and scented oils should complete the look.

How To Give A Sexual Massage

Use your fingertips

Here’s a sexual massage technique using your fingertips: straddle your partner’s thighs. Rub warm massage oil on your hands and massage your partner’s back with long, soothing strokes. Don’t put your hand flat on his/her back. Just use your fingertips and ‘rake’ his/her back. Alternate your strokes. Apply hard pressure, and then light ones.

Use your palms

Without skipping a beat, massage his/her back using the whole width of your hand. This firmer technique helps the body relax. Remember to NOT massage ‘bony areas’. Place the palms of both your hands on his/her back and move them in circles, firmly outward and away from her spine.

Use your hot breath

Now it’s time to up the sexual tension in the room. Put some warm massage oil on your upper body. Put your arms on either side of your partner’s body (he/she should be lying face down) and then slowly lower yourself till your covering his/her body. Try to envelope his/her body as much as possible with yours. Now start to glide your body over his/hers… and if you get carried away now and proceed to having a long night of great sex, then so be it!

7 Tips For More Pleasurable and Passionate Lovemaking

Need some ideas to make your lovemaking phenomenal?

These 7 tips should give you plenty of ideas to make your midnight sessions more hot, steamy and passionate, starting today…

1. Become more sensual

While most men want to ‘get the job done’ and reach the goal of orgasm, for women it’s more about the journey. Women love to reach climax as much as men do, but they also love a sensual stroke from your hand across their leg.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner and can even intensify their orgasm.

2. Try positions proven to increase pleasure

For women: The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary position except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

For men: Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because they have full control over movement and pleasure.

3. Play bedroom games

Tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. They’re fun, sexy and have a lot of replay value.

Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!

And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you’ll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

4. Set a romantic mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of their lovemaking is too “cliché.” Are they kidding! Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

5. Give them a sexy massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner a sensual massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable. Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place.

And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget….

6. Please your partner with more oral sex

Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship? Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it’s great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who can’t reach orgasm from only intercourse. In short, it’s an important part of foreplay.

Here are some tips for both men and women.

Ladies: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

Gentlemen: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

7. Use household items

It makes sense that to spice things up you need to do something different. The more unique the experience, the more it fires up your lovemaking. Well, just recently I’ve found one of the very BEST ways to keep things passionate and exciting. It’s by using household items.

Huh? That’s right! There are literally 100’s of household items you can play with in your house. Everything from a rolling pin for a massage, ice for a cool sensation, cards for a naughty game or sheepskin that feels soft under your skin.

By dedicating time to finding new items, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking for longer, and keep it that way. And while positions and techniques get old quickly, these items add a NEW LEVEL to your lovemaking that normal lovemaking just can’t do. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

In fact, unlike all the other suggestions, using household items for foreplay and intercourse proves to be the most unique and powerful way to spice up lovemaking.