Erotic massage can mean the difference between mediocre sex and mind blowing sex! Here’s what you need to know about erotic massage.

While a good back massage can be an enjoyable experience for many, those delightful feelings are nothing in comparison to the intense pleasure experienced physically and emotionally during an erotic massage—not just for the receiver, but the giver, as well.

What Massage Is All About

Massage is often used to relax tense muscles and relieve stress and tension. Although the sensual form can achieve these same results, this is not the ultimate goal. Erotic massage is both an experience of the body and mind. It’s as much about the way you touch your partner, as it is where and when you touch her. This is a slow and sensual process that entails a great deal of intimacy. With the receiver completely nude, the giver has not only their partner’s naked and vulnerable body in their hands, but their trust, as well.

Erotic massage is not just about sex. Instead, it’s about reconnecting with your partner through the power of touch, letting go of stress and inhibitions, meeting your partner’s need for affection, and discovering the true meaning of love and intimacy.

For a better understanding of the intimate nature of this type of rubdown, let’s take a look at some of its most important benefits:

• It is the ultimate stress reliever. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, her stress will subside. At the end of the session, she will have a much better outlook about her life, you, and your relationship.
• Like other forms of massage, erotic massage is therapeutic. It can help comfort physical pains and ailments, such as sore and knotted muscles, pinched nerves, aching joints, injuries, contracted illnesses, and disease.
• Erotic massage is just that—erotic! Not only does it tease the senses, it shows your lover that the two of you are capable of sharing unbridled passion. It also heightens intimacy, which can ultimately lead to release of all inhibitions, titillating each partner into the act of lovemaking.
• It can help couples let go of emotional conflict and encourage understanding and forgiveness.
• Erotic massage is perfect for setting the mood for a romantic evening or a sexy adventure.
• It can reduce anxiety about sexual performance and body image.

What Else Can It Do?

It can enhance sexual desire within both partners, even in women whose desire for sex seems to have burned out. Sensual and erotic massage is sometimes all that is needed to rekindle those flames of desire and keep the fire burning.

When allowed to blossom into lustful passion, erotic massage can bring about intense orgasms as your partner allows both her body and mind to unite with yours. Sensual massage is an expression of love and desire that never fails to provide your partner with the reassurance and comfort she needs.

Erotic massage can be used as another form of communication that is translated through touch, without any need for words.

Sex tips will only get you so far – if you don’t get how a woman is sexually aroused (it’s a whole process) then you’re going to crash and burn!

The Process Of Arousal

There’s a process to arousal, no matter if it’s with a man or a woman. Each step builds upon another, and without the ones that come before it, the next cannot occur. There’s a defined start, middle and end, with each item holding its own along the continuum. Each of the anatomical bits have a part to play in the process as well; some are small, others large, and yet others pop up at different times for different reasons. There is an ebb and flow of sorts to the process, where one thing slowly grows in importance and another falls away.

Step One: Foreplay

In the first part of female sexual response, foreplay is the main event, which propels a woman’s brain and body towards arousal. Some markers of this step are:

• Hormones start flooding a woman’s system as soon sex enters her brain. If the process continues, she becomes “emotionally stoned” by one specific hormone, oxytocin, as one author by the name of Theresa Crenshaw, M.D., suggests in her book “The Alchemy of Love and Lust.”
• Blood flow moves to focus more on the pelvic region of a woman’s body, and her genitals start to fill with blood. Some women you’ll be able to see the difference by looking at her vulva, as it’ll become darker the more excited and closer to orgasm she gets.
• The skin is also an organ of the human body, and as such, it becomes more sensitized during this process.
• Any breast play during this phase increases the oxytocin floating around in the bloodstream.
• Both the nipples and breasts swell during this stage of the arousal process.
• As more blood pumps through the vulva, the Bartholin’s Glands create thick lubrication to prepare for stimulation of the clitoris.
• The Clitoral Head peeks out from underneath its Clitoral Hood.

Step Two: Climax

During this stage, the body tenses up, breathing gets shallower and faster, blood pressure rises, and the heart beats more quickly than during stage one. Also:

• The vaginal opening gets smaller while internally it gets both wider and longer up to two inches difference
• The clitoris body gets longer and firm, similar to how a penis stiffens
• The G-Spot fills with blood and can easily be felt along the wall of the vagina
• The Clitoral Head hides again as the ligament that holds it in place firms up; both parts will remain like this until climax occurs
• Another ligament positioned along the uterus and ending at the Labia Minora tightens, thus involving the entire uterus during the sexual stimulation process

As sexual arousal continues, a woman:

• Blushes along her face and chest
• Breathes deeply
• Increases her heart rate to a staggeringly quick beat; and
• Has her Labia Minora flush with even more blood, until the whole area becomes dark purple.

Then, when she orgasms, all of this built up tension blows up during climax, where rhythmic contractions overtake her and then lessen in severity and speed as she releases.

Every second or so, the vaginal walls contract along with the pelvic floor muscles, and as the vaginal walls contract, the uterus also contracts because even more oxytocin is pumped into that general area. Each contraction provides a wave of pleasure, with some women ejaculating a small amount of clear fluid.

Step Three – Release

After the orgasmic event, a woman comes full circle to her normal, non-aroused status quo. This is where men and women differ the most strikingly during the arousal process. For the most part, men will lose their erections shortly after climax, and will enter into a stage of what researchers call the “refractory period” where they require a bit of down time before starting the circle again.

Also, women’s bodies don’t normally process oxytocin as a sleep-inducer (men do) their bodies aren’t extremely sensitive after orgasm (except for the Clitoral Head), and they can easily start the arousal process again without any waiting period.

The major difference between the genders with this downtime is that it leads to differing needs. Men want to roll over and sleep after sex, whereas women either want to go on and have multiple orgasms, or want to connect and snuggle before sleeping. Many a magazine articles written on the subject suggests a variety of tools to reduce the stress associated with these biological mandates, but in essence, the answer is simple: roll over and cuddle your partner as you fall asleep, and everyone is happy. It’s not asking either partner to stop what is natural to them, while still giving each what they need.

So, there’s female sexual arousal explained in a short, relatively simple manner, with a bit of comparison thrown in so you understand how it differs from a man’s.

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Complete & Total Connection

Imagine the pleasure you’d feel in being completely connected with your partner in terms of physical intimacy. This is what erotic massage can do for you! No matter what stage or condition your relationship is in, sensual massage can help take your relationship back to a reinvigorated state of excitement, as well as bring it to a whole other level. By touching your partner through the art of sensual massage, you can encourage your partner to bond and open up to you like never before.

The History Of Erotic Massage

Both royalty and commoners alike have practiced erotic massage for several centuries. It was practiced in many countries, including China, Egypt, and India, as well as in a variety of cultures around the world, such as by the Greeks, Egyptians, Celtics, and Aztec Indians. Over the years, it continued to develop into a respected form of art through which partners express both love and passion.

The Benefits Of Erotic Massage

The art of touch through sensual massage provides many benefits, not only for the recipient, but the practitioner as well—benefits that can greatly strengthen the bond between lovers. For men who complain of a lack of sexual desire in their female partners, sensual massage can bring about a great deal of positive change in their sexual relationships.

Sensual and erotic massage helps facilitate communication between couples through the simple act of spending quality time together in a caring and sensual manner. This helps to build greater trust and intimacy. Although the act of sex itself is a form of touch and intimacy, the problem is that it’s often over too quickly. For a man, sexual intercourse often results in focusing on his own performance and pleasure rather than his partner’s. As a result, the woman is often left dissatisfied.

One out of three woman is having difficulty achieving an orgasm. Even more women complain of feeling dissatisfied with sex. The reason for this is often due to men not taking the time to set the mood for their female partners. Instead, men have a tendency to move too quickly. As a result, for many women, sex becomes more of a chore than a pleasurable experience.

Women Aren’t Wired The Same

What many men don’t realize is that women are wired differently than men. While men are biologically programmed with an instinctive desire to have sex, women need to feel sexually aroused before they will want to have sex. Although it is easy for a man to get aroused by simply thinking about or seeing his female partner naked, a woman needs much more than that to feel sexually excited.

Some men who have learned this important lesson about women have tried turning to massage as a way to sexually stimulate their female partners. However, a lot of men have failed to achieve their desired results.

This is because many men don’t know how to give a massage. Instead of relaxing and sexually stimulating their partners, they wind up causing unintentional pain and discomfort, often times leaving their women with more stress than they had before the massage.

Improve Your Relationship

Incorporating sensual and erotic massage into your relationship is a great way to meet your partner’s innate need for physical touch. The blissful benefits of sensual touch can help relax, soothe, and even sexually stimulate your partner to the brink of pleasure.

By taking the time to learn how to perform these special massage techniques, you will know just how to go about providing a sensual massage that unlocks your partner’s desire for sex, unleashes her wild and playful side, and helps her achieve those mind-blowing orgasms she so desperately wants and needs!