An orgasm is easy for some girls to fake, and fake it they do for various reasons. This can really hamper your sex life. Here’s how to get her to stop.

A woman is sexiest during those precious few seconds when she has an orgasm. But, did she REALLY, or was it something else?

Here’s news for you – if you’re not a virgin, chances are, you’ve been faked a couple of times. You can accept that and be a little easy on yourself, or you can continue on the path of denial. “Oh, she came man, I swear she really did!”

Whatever!

Did She Actually Fake Her Orgasm?

I’m saying that IT happens and you most probably have been an unwitting recipient – that’s just how the cookie crumbles. A lot, and I mean A LOT of women fake pleasure and orgasms, they’ve done it for millennia, and they’re quite excellent at it. They own it! They own the character, and have all the moans, whines and pelvic thrusts down to an art. They know exactly how to flutter those dreamy eyes – all in the name of “Let’s get this over with.”

Oh, those women! They deserve an Emmy on a nightly basis. ($200 says you’ve fallen for it a few times.)

Of course, men play a part in this grand conspiracy. With their lame moves and misguided notions of great sex, how can guys expect a woman to orgasm? And it doesn’t take much effort from a tired woman to make any guy believe he’s the king of the world. I mean, how hard is it to ooohh and ahhhh? Even a drunken, demented kitty can do that. Women are amazed at how easy it is to fool guys, most can’t tell the difference between a screaming elephant and a faking woman.

Not only that it’s easy, the motivation for faking is pretty high. Imagine a sleepy woman, with a numb vagina, expecting to drive two hours across state for a big meeting first thing in the morning. Think about her motivations to fake her clueless stud.

She won’t likely school him into an all-night discussion on how to do her. She’ll simply get into a moaning routine, a little thrust of the pelvis here and there, a little swing of her head from side-to-side then BINGO! Some peace finally.

Why She Really Does It

Granted that it’s so easy, so tempting, and more than being sleepy & bored, why do women fake orgasm? Why?

It’s because there is pressure on all sides to have an orgasm.

First of all, men expect their woman to cum – yes, even at totally sub-par methods. No matter how shallow it may be, making a woman reach her peak gives us a sense of accomplishment. “I made her orgasm. Ha!”

Failing to do so causes the opposite emotion and strikes a blow to male ego. He’s lost – no matter what he did, no matter how hard he tried, it seemed to have no effect on her. In our “Who’s Your Daddy?” world where men bet their masculinity not only on the number of women they bag, but on the number of orgasms they give, a woman’s climax can be a pretty big deal.

So women, bless their souls, fake to protect men’s egos – especially for the man they care about and the man who pays the bills. The choice to fake is easy to make. They want their man to feel like The Man. As one woman would comment, “Men like it when they think they’re in control.”

But this is no altruistic act.

Women also fake it for their sakes. Besides the fact that they want the poking to end, and their heads have nudged the headboard too many times to recall, women also bet their femininity on orgasms.

When she fails to climax, she not only blames his small penis but also her defective equipment. Why couldn’t she orgasm? Something must be wrong with her! Women could easily blame their bodies, treating it as if they have an anatomical problem. “My clitoris must have been broken from overuse during my early years.”

So she fakes it – not only for the man but also for her sake. There are in fact times when she doesn’t know if she really had an orgasm or not. It felt good, but it wasn’t a definitive orgasm, she wasn’t sure. “I sort of came.” When this happens, she often consciously decides that she did indeed came, and so leave both the man and herself secured.

How To Avoid Getting Faked

If you’re asking for a definitive method so you can be 1000% sure that your lady came, there is nothing of that sort. Nobody is under any messianic delusion to make every woman cum every time, or spot every faker on the face of this earth.

Sure, there are signs of an orgasming woman. But know that all these things can be faked, yes, even the very contractions of the vaginal walls. You can’t avoid getting faked! Quit making it your night job to catch fakers. If you do catch her, then what?!

Instead – learn, practice and master how to effect powerful orgasms. Run with what you’ve learned in this series and trust that women won’t need to fake with you. As you develop better sexual skills, you’ll realize that spotting fakes becomes a useless affair.

The woman has, of course, a say on this – you can only do so much. If she does fake you, then it’s one less orgasm for her. She’s got more reasons to worry than you. But if she’s honest, then you two could begin an interesting journey of discovery, learning each other’s ropes. No matter how bumpy the ride is at first, through clear communication, the ball can start rolling.

As a final word, why don’t you do something very sensible. Stop tying your self esteem and masculinity with the number of orgasms you give. Secure your self-esteem somewhere else – where it’s more stable, not tossed to and fro depending on an evening’s performance.

How ludicrous it is to let one’s sense of worth hang on something that doesn’t even last more than 20 seconds.

An orgasm is something guys want to give to their lovers, but don’t know how. Are you missing out on these things that will give her an incredible orgasm?

Who wants to know about scintillating secrets to please your woman in bed? If you are anything like the hot-blooded, testosterone-driven men reading this, you probably have your hand raised up high, don’t you? When it comes to understanding female sexuality, most men are woefully clueless. But all you need to know are these 4 facts about the female sexual arousal, and you are on the way to sexually fulfilling your woman like you have never done before!

1. Know The Different Stages Of Sexual Arousal

Men and women both need to go through 4 different stages of sexual arousal before they reach an orgasm – excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. The difference is the stage at which they are ready to engage in intercourse. For guys, we are ready right at the onset at stage one when we become erect. Women are only ready for sex when they reach the end of stage two.

2. Foreplay Is Essential For An Orgasm

Women need to be adequately aroused and stimulated from sufficient amounts of foreplay before they are ready for sex and orgasms. Contrary to what most men believe, touching and caressing her private parts and engaging in oral sex are not really considered proper foreplay. These are really sexual acts on their own, and not the sexual prelude that woman generally needs. Foreplay should involve mental activities that will heighten her arousal (such as talking dirty) as well as physical acts that target her non-sexual erogenous areas (e.g. massaging her back).

3. Always, Always Use Lube. Even When You Think You Don’t Need It

Just because her genitals are lubricated does not signify that she is sufficiently aroused to have intercourse. When she is not mentally and physically ready for sex, she will not derive as much sexual pleasure as she deserves to, and an orgasm is far more difficult for her to achieve. Use lube every time.

4. Last Longer To Give Her An Orgasm Every Time

Most men last only 2 to 4 minutes in bed while women need at least 15 minutes on average to reach an orgasm. The key to lasting longer and giving her multiple orgasms is to delay your own ejaculation. This can be achieved by strengthening the muscles in your pelvic area.

Pay heed to these four essential facts and you will emerge a far better lover than most men will ever be. And your woman will certainly relish every moment that you are in bed with her!