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The REAL Truth About The G-Spot (And How To Find It!)

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The g-spot is often considered the holy grail of sex – if you can find her g-spot and get her to orgasm with it, you’re in for a wild ride! Here’s how.

Who Invented The G-Spot?

Nobody! It has always been there, silently awaiting discovery.

In the 1950’s, Dr. Grafenberg (hence the term “G”-spot) discovered the zone. Of course, he was ecstatic to write about it, but like most great finds, his work has to undergo the painful process of gathering dust in the bookshelves. For the next 30 years, nobody paid it much attention. Then came 1982. Dr.’s Whipple, Perry and Ladas did more extensive study on the area, and it was with the publishing of their work on the G-spot that consciousness really caught on.

Where Is It?

The G-spot is located between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. That means you’re dealing here with the TOP WALL of her vagina.

Unlike the clitoris, the g-spot is stimulated INTERNALLY. Hunting for it is best done when a woman lies on her back, bringing her knees to her chest. Here’s what you do: Palms up, slowly and teasingly insert your middle and index fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina. Then point your fingers up, remember the area is behind the pubic bone. Now, imagine you’re beckoning somebody to come to you. Simulate that “Come Here” finger motion by curling your fingers back towards the wrist.

You’ll know you’ve hit the spot because the texture there is different from the adjacent areas. It feels rough and you may find a raised spot or ridge. On average, it’s the size of a pea. You’ll feel it become firm & engorged when the lady is aroused. She’ll know when you’re there because she’ll feel something different.

While performing all this hunting inside, position your other palm a few inches below her belly button. Gently but firmly press towards your fingers inside. This bearing down helps isolate the G zone and results in more intense sensations.

How To Find & Stimulate The G-Spot

Do not consider the it as merely a pea-sized locale – it’s better to think of it as a zone or region. Begin by fingering her and let your fingers play around and stimulate areas adjacent to the rough spot itself. This indirectly stimulates the g-spot and animates your partner as you go nearer and nearer the post.

You may utilize 1-3 fingers, but more than that, when it comes to curling, you could execute simultaneously or serially. Again, these will seem trivial to you, but these simple variations have profound effects on the woman whose core you’re invading. A woman notices the tiny details men couldn’t care less of.

Do vertical and horizontal firm sweeps of the area. Run circles around the spot. You may also execute a 2-finger squeeze using the forefinger and the middle finger.

But I Still Can’t Find It!

Let’s make this clear, the G-spot is not found inside the vagina, it is accessed through the vagina. And if you would have any chance of finding it, you need to apply FIRMER, DEEPER PRESSURE. Firmer than the ones you use for the clit – do not baby the G-spot.

Simply rubbing the area won’t work, as pressure is needed to get THROUGH the vaginal walls. No matter how many thousand curls you administer, doing it with insufficient pressure won’t result in any heavenly experience. Men who have been stirring the same zone without result suddenly struck gold just by making the wonderful mistake of increasing pressure. They were dead-on all this time, but the pressure just wasn’t enough.

You don’t want weak, tentative fingers curling back and forth. You want well-trained marines to get in and get the job done, troops that are confident and know exactly what they’re doing.

It’s not a cavity exam, but be firm with it.

Unfortunately, for women with very thick vaginal linings, access to the G-spot may not even be possible.

I Swear Man, My Girl Doesn’t Have One!

She has one, they all have one. You just expected her reaction to be “Oh Danny that feels so good. Don’t stop. Please don’t stop!”

All eyes may be for seeing, and ears for hearing, but stimulating the G-spot has DIFFERENT EFFECTS for DIFFERENT WOMEN. Some love it and orgasm only through it, some don’t. Some are very sensitive, others couldn’t care less.

When a guy plays with a woman’s G, she will typically feel the need to pee. Why? Because the area you’re dealing with runs alongside her bladder, that’s why. (Just to be sure, make her pee before proceedings begin). When you continue with the stimulation, that need to urinate will gradually turn into a feeling of pleasure. And that pleasure, nurtured will soon result into a raging, wet and possibly squirting orgasm.

OR, stimulation may get you nothing. A woman may simply feel NOTHING. That’s right, NOTHING. In that case, you stop and watch “Friends” reruns instead.

But that doesn’t mean you’ll go nowhere with her every time. Her sensitivity and your skill will improve as you clock in several sessions. For all you know, she may feel zilch that evening, but on a different night, it’ll be gold. She can have different reactions on different occasions, so don’t give up so easily.

OR, a woman will hate every irritating minute of it. That’s right, it can have a negative effect on her. In that case, stop stimulation, turn on the TV and watch “Seinfeld” reruns instead.

Women can have different G-Spot reactions. When people expect it to work in the same manner, for all women, every time, that’s when the debate on its existence and purpose really heats up.

People have been conditioned to think that G-Spot stimulation will always shoot her through the stratosphere. Truth is, sometimes it’ll work, sometimes it will work against you. Sometimes she’s crazy about it, sometimes not so much. There will even be times when you’ll think her spot has disappeared or will doubt if you’ve actually found the real deal when she’s not as responsive as before!

You may have to awaken and train her G-spot in the first place – over a period of several sessions. Such is the nature of the Grafenberg Spot. So when dealing with it, better check your ego at the counter.

6 Side By Side Sex Positions That Will Leave Her Breathless

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Sex positions will ramp up your sex life in ways you never thought possible! Try these killer “cuddle” sex positions that your girl will absolutely LOVE!

Sideways sex positions are more of a hybrid than a category of positions in their own right; they offer all the benefits of rear-entry without the physical taxation that most partners experience doing it doggy style. Side-by-side sex also offers unique angles for penetration and usually a strong G-Spot aspect, all of which are beneficial to your gal’s bottom line. The perfect time to try a sideways sex position is when either (or both) of you need a bit of a relaxing sex session, or have exhausted yourself before reaching the Big O.

1. Three Quarter Cross

Lie your partner down on her side with her hand supporting her head. Bend her knees and get her to lift one of her legs. Lie on your side and squeeze in between her legs so that your bodies form a T. Put yourself into her, and lean forward slightly. Hold onto her hip for support and thrust into her. She can move her upper leg to determine how much you can penetrate, and it’ll be easier for you if you use her upper leg to prop yourself up.

CLIMAX CUE

Both of your hands are free to play with her breasts or clitoris, so move around to make sure it’s comfy for you both before going to town. Your legs are also in a prime position to rub up against her mons pubis and clitoral hood, and she can tilt her groin towards you to increase the pressure. Because this is an easy position for both of you to perform, use it when she knows it might be a while for her to orgasm, or when either of you are in the mood for a long, languorous love session.

2. Just Chillin’

You’ll need a bench or the side of the bed for this position. Have your lover lie down on one side with her legs bent, right at the side of the bed or bench. Get her to raise up her top leg so her knee points toward the ceiling, and put your whole body in the hole her legs create. Put your outside leg on the ground and place your other leg on the bench or bed. Hook her leg in the air with your elbow and pull it tight in to your body before entering her. You can move by pushing with your legs or moving her captured leg under your arm, and she can rotate her hips or clench her buttocks for some extra tension.

CLIMAX CUE

Even while moving your penis inside your partner, you’ll still be closely connected in the most intimate of ways. This is a really snug position where clitoral contact is almost constant but it is definitely more of a grinding movement than a thrust. You can put a bit of power behind the movement if you like, really pushing her up and down along your penis, which will thrill many women immensely. Just make sure that your pubic bone is in constant contact with her mons pubis and labia, and you’ll be well poised for the kind of stimulation she’ll need for orgasm.

3. Leg Up On The Competition

Start with your partner on her side with her knee on top bent to face the ceiling. Have her grab onto the ankle of her bent leg for support. Lie down on top or beside your partner, depending on how your bodies line up, then hook your top leg over her bent leg and put your foot on the ground for support. Leave your other leg straight, and line it up with your partner’s outstretched limb, perhaps intertwining your legs if you so desire.

Put your hands above her head to use as leverage. In this position, you can move as you would if you were in missionary position, just at a slightly different angle. You have full control over the depth of penetration and the speed in which you do it in this position, so mix it up a little!

CLIMAX CUE

There’s a lot of depth to this position, and she’s wide open for the taking. You are raised up higher than you normally would be in plain ole missionary style, so you will be hitting her clitoris exactly where she needs it. She can control the angle of penetration by rolling from side to side and taking you along for the ride.

4. The Figure Eight Mambo

Your partner lies on her side with her knees bent, her ankles touching and her legs parted as wide as she can. Have her prop herself up on the arm beneath her. Lie down in front of her on your side and face her feet. Slowly move forward until she has to open her legs even more to accommodate your body, and your pelvic areas meet. Get her to wrap her legs around you, and do the same to her. Insert yourself into her. You may have to move down her body somewhat, press your penis down, and have her tilt her bum toward the ceiling to fit. Either of you can move by pushing forward, backward, or to either side.

HOW TO GET HER TO ORGASM USING THIS POSITION

The magic of this position, as with most sideways positions, is in the tilting of her body. She can rock back and forth to find the perfect angle, and you can thrust away while she’s looking. Both your hands are free to play with buttocks, nipples and other sexy parts, and you’ve both got a great view of the action. She can also grind herself on your leg or tuck her hips up for more clitoral stimulation.

5. Scissors

Lie down next to each other, with your feet at each other’s head. Have her spread her legs with her knees bent, and squirm your way over so that one leg is underneath her lower leg, and the other lies between her parted thighs. Join together by entering her, and hold onto her knee which should end up around your armpit or mid-torso so you can push against her. Her leverage comes from planting her body into the bed, and holding onto your bent leg closest to her. Move by pulling on her leg, pushing with your hips, or opening and closing her legs.

CLIMAX CUE

Quite a few of these sex positions look a lot more complex than they really are, and this is one pays off in spades, if you just give it a try. When you push your upper thigh down, you will rub up against her pleasure palace. Grinding and shallow movements are the name of the game, and the highly unusual angle offers some amazing sensations. She can easily play with herself as well, or move around to ensure she’s getting the clitoral stimulation required for orgasm, and can even make eye contact with she really wants to feel connected.

6. Reverse Snuggle

Lay down on your side with your body straight and legs together. Have her lay down next to you, facing away and also on her side, with her head at your feet and her buttocks pressed firmly into your crotch. Enter her from behind, asking her to move further down your body and tilt her bum towards her belly button if you have a hard time entering her. Move with either her pushing back against you, or you pushing into her.

CLIMAX CUE

It’ll be a tight squeeze getting into position, but one well worth trying out. With her legs held together, you’ll both feel every inch of one another, and there are few positions like this one for G-Spot play because your penis will push right up inside where it needs to be. Both of you can reach over and play with her clitoris, and she can also get some breast stimulation if she chooses to masturbate. Either of you can control how fast sex propels her toward orgasm, all without anyone expending too much effort to get there.

How To Give Her Great Sex And Make Her Orgasm

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An orgasm is sometimes elusive, leaving many men frustrated. Find out how to give her incredible sex and the best female orgasm of her life!

If you want to give your woman the most powerful orgasms that she has ever had, you have to understand how to seduce her to the point where she cannot take it any longer and begs you to take her. Many men never learn the art of teasing which is necessary in order to please a woman to the point where she quivers in anticipation and reaches an explosive climax.

Here are 3 hot and teasing moves that will enable you to get into a woman’s sexual psyche and help her reach the ultimate in female sexual ecstasy!

1. Tease Her Verbally

Drop hints on what you plan to do with her and start early, even during the day. This can be through a quick phone call or you can just brush up against her body during breakfast and tell her what you have in store for her that night. Women are “emotional beings,” so getting into her head is the KEY to getting her sexual temperatures soaring through the roof.

Women are also very much turned on by words – much more so than men. So start early by telling her a few naughty things and see where that gets you. Chances are, she will be hot before nightfall!

2. Tease Her With Caresses And Kisses

Instead of falling all over her with kissing and caressing, give her some of this necessary foreplay and then hold back. Continue to do this, going ever so close to her most erogenous zones such as her nipples and her clitoris before pulling back. This form of “strategic holding back” is extremely powerful, and creates a sense of heightened sexual anticipation that will make a woman hunger for more. Eventually, you will want to follow through what you are doing but not until you have teased her into begging you for more.

3. Tease Her With Your Manhood

Instead of plunging right into her during intercourse, take your time. By delaying your own gratification, you will reap greater rewards later on. Try teasing her by entering with just the head of your penis and then pulling out. Then do it again to build up the sexual anticipation within her. Shallow penetration will hit all the sensitive nerve endings located near the entrance of the vagina. Build up the anticipation and momentum. And pretty soon she will be arching her back towards you, beckoning you to finish what you started and priming her for the big “O”!

How To REALLY Eat A Girl Out

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Oral sex is something lots of girls love, but rarely get because many men just don’t know how to do it right. Here’s the truth about how to go down on a girl!

The long and short of it is this: A tongue on her vulva feels wonderful. Whatever your tongue does down there is almost always a hit. That’s how powerful that thing is. What parts of the vulva do you lick? Flick? Suck? The answer is: EVERYTHING!

Everywhere your tongue can take you, GO! You don’t focus on a few spots, you make a pass and provoke every single fold – she wants you to. Cover all her bases and make one juicy woman very happy.

So, you want to learn how to eat kitty? Let’s get to the trenches and be in on the action.

1. Start With Her Pubic Mound

The mound is a wonderful area to play with. Think: grazing goat – only the grass is black and you don’t have any horns. Go dive into her mound. Nuzzle and glide your lips around as if you’re tickling her. Feel the textures. Remember that with cunnilingus, both giver and receiver get sensual bombardment.

Blow onto the area and watch her shrubbery sway with every breath. Vary breeze temperature by increasing or decreasing the size of your mouth’s opening.

Try a playful nibble and bite.

2. Lick Around Her Large Labia (The Outer Lips)

Wet your lips and do lip glides. Glide over her fat lips. Then, lick them up and down – mostly up. A variation of this is moving your tongue rapidly from side to side whilst licking up and down.  If her labia allows, perform some nibbling or munching actions. This will initiate her into a happy rage.

3. Gently Nibble And Suck Her Smaller Labia (The Inner Lips)

If her inner-smaller lips could speak, they’d probably say, “Hey buddy, over here! Lick us, flick us, bite us… again and again.”

And that’s what exactly you should do – lick them good, flick them good. Use your hands to spread folds of skin and expose hidden surfaces. Then lick those lips. Let them have it. Bite on them with your lips, then gently tug. Stretch her labia around. Suck on them like a nipple. Bring them into your mouth, continuing to flick while inside. These will make her lose a little bit of composure.

Alternate between licks, sucks and bites. You know you’re doing great if you hear some moaning and heavy breathing.

4. Lick Her Vaginal Opening

Make sure this a wet and warm episode. First, lick around the vagina opening. Then spread her and lick the exposed sides. The most sensitive part is near the opening, so give it some good lovin’. She’ll start to well up so let her juices flow. Can you taste that? That’s her way of telling you she likes what you’re doing.

Lick up and down, side to side and go around and around her vaginal opening. Go soft, and then stiff. Use both pointed and flat tongue elements to create combos. Suck her juice if you want to, but whatever you do, never blow into the vagina.

Try extending your tongue as deep as you can. But don’t worry if you can’t venture very far, she doesn’t expect you to go frog or lizard on her. You can use fingering to take care of those corners.

5. Hone In On Her Clitoris

The clitoris is where it’s at guys. This is home, baby!

Listen. When she’s just starting to get warmed up, you can come and go with the clitoral excitation. But, when she’s on the verge of orgasm, you don’t ever, ever leave the nest. Continue clitoral stimulation, stay with it and forget the rest of her vulva. When you want to tease a woman, you do it while she’s on the build up stage. When she’s on the verge of an orgasm (or in the middle of it), you’ll have to be the biggest jerk not to finish the job.

Almost anything your wet tongue can do with the clitoris will feel good.

Attack and lick the surrounding areas first. Then lick through the hood. And when you lick the clitoral head itself, start with a flat, soft tongue. (Later, you can operate with the stiff and pointy version and seriously increase both speed & intensity.)

Be creative with your lapping. To induce variety, some guys imagine writing the Alphabet with their tongues. (It’s the tongue adaptation of that fine art of writing your name on snow when you pee.) And while you’re at it, “write” your age, address, heck, your whole resume, on her pleasure center.

That gives your tongue an assortment of combo’s. But as she’s nearing climax, hold off the variety and give her a rapid up-&-down or side-to-side stimulation she can count on.

Suck on her clitoris, but don’t suck it dry, suck it wet. Slurp on it like a baby searching for nourishment. Bring it and the surrounding area to your mouth – giving the zone a gentle tug. Then, electrify her senses by delivering flicking maneuvers while inside. Produce slurping sounds as you do. Before finally releasing the clitoris from your mouth’s blissful grip, let it pass through the smooth inner side of your lips.

THEN REPEAT.

In a very short while, her body will quake and enter an ecstatic orgasm!

5 Red Hot Rear Entry Sex Positions

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Sex positions are fun to play around with and many guys love rear entry sex positions. Here are five that are so hot, you’ll have to take a cold shower!

1. Rear In The Air

The rear entry position has long been heralded as one of the best positions to use to help a woman reach orgasm. However, you need to know the right positions to achieve maximum effectiveness. Here’s one way. Have your partner get in the “doggy style” position on the bed. You stand behind her.

Now before you begin, ask her to lower her top half and rise up her bottom so that her back is arched. When she’s comfortable, you can commence with penetration. In this position, you should be able to stimulate her G-spot (another sensitive area on a woman), plus you can reach below her and use your hand to massage her clitoris.

2. Fun In The Tub

If your foreplay began with you giving your partner a bath, then this may be a good way to take it to the next level when she’s ready. Keep the tub partially filled with warm water (and bubbles if you like). Your partner gets into the tub first and kneels down. She should be close to the faucet so you have plenty of room behind her.

When you get into the tub, you’ll kneel down behind her and penetrate her from behind. As you’re both enjoying this, you can use a showerhead to direct a stream of water directly on her clitoris or you can use a waterproof vibrator to stimulate her. Either method will work wonders, particularly if she has enjoyed masturbating in the tub before.

3. The Leg Clench

While most rear entry positions require the “doggy style” position, this one does not. In fact, if your partner is partial to the missionary position, this may be a good one to try. Your partner stretches out on the bed face down while you straddle her body from behind.

Once you’re deep inside her, ask her to clench her legs together and cross her ankles. This position will keep your bodies close together, which many women enjoy. Plus, she can add even greater pleasure for herself by clenching and unclenching her PC muscle in time with your thrusts. Another benefit of this position is that if you have difficulty preventing yourself from ejaculating before your partner climaxes this technique will slow you down and can buy you some extra time.

4. She’s In Control

One of the most erotic things for a woman to experience sometimes is being in complete control of the sex act during a session. This position can make that possible. In this technique, you sit down on the bed with your legs straight out in front of you. Your partner lowers herself down onto your penis by straddling your legs and facing away from you. You do not move; you allow her to move in the anyway she wants and to set her own rhythm. This gives her more control so she can determine what feels the best for her while you enjoy the view from your end.

5. One Leg Lifted

Women do tend to enjoy this particular position more than others in the “doggy style” category, so it’s definitely one you’ll want to try out. As usual, your partner will be down on all fours. However, one of her legs should be lifted up at angle. Since this position is difficult to hold for long, you should assist her by sliding some soft pillows under leg to prop it up. Instead of penetrating from straight on, you’ll want to position yourself at an angle to her body.

Now slowly insert your penis into her vagina all the way. Don’t stop until your testicles brush against her bottom. Just as slowly, pull it out and repeat. You can speed up a little, but the idea with this technique is to use long, slow strokes. The deeper penetration gives you a better chance of stimulating her clitoris and/or her G-spot, plus most men get off on watching their penis slide inside their partners. Maybe it’s a little like watching a self-made adult movie.