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3 Super HOT Techniques For Any Sex Position

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Sex positions are a great way to spice up your love life – but it’s time to go outside the “box.” Here are three tips you can use with any of the sex positions!

1. Angles & Reverses

Have you ever noticed that almost all sex positions have reverses? They’re not always performed face-to-face, they can also be done back-to-face or butt-to-face.

The Woman-On-Top for example, has the ‘Reverse Rider’ Position where the lady rides with her back to you. The Man-On-Top has two reverse versions, the male ‘Reverse Rider’ – where the gentleman rides with his back to the lady, albeit a difficult one. And of course, the classic ‘69’ Position.

Not all Side-by-Side Positions are executed face-to-face, one may penetrate coming from the back – which can also be classified under Rear Entry. (Like when it’s late in the evening and your lady is sleeping with her back to you, and you suddenly get the idea for a quickie. You simply slide her undies half-way and wiggle from behind – hoping she won’t wake-up before you’re done.)

These variations are not for aesthetic purposes. The feel for each is unique as the strokes come from unique angles – it’s a different set of sensual experience.

2. It’s All About Legs

Your hot rod hangs between the legs, the vagina resides between her legs – and the objective is to acquaint these two so they can do each other some good.

So guess what – those legs (yours and hers) play one of the most principal roles in determining variations. If you think about it, positions have a lot to do with how the limbs are configured. And it’s usually the woman who has legs shifting and flailing about. (Are they spread, crossed, raised, wrapped around your body?) The man, affecting the strokes, often needs leg support for balance and stability.

Changes in leg poses can create a variety of sex positions. One may not be aware of it, but a simple shift in limbs could result in many different configurations.

But more than that, seemingly innocent limb placements do affect the dynamics of penetration, and therefore, the resulting sensations. Leg configurations affect how your penis approaches her vagina, even the nature of the stroke itself. It’s not just for the sake of pose variety; it carries consequences that modify shape, size, depth and tightness of the vaginal barrel because internal changes take place in consonance with those leg movements.

For example, every time a woman brings her legs together and brings both her knees to her chest, like in a fetal position, she’s actually shortening and tightening her vaginal barrel. Thrusting in this position results in maximum penetration. The position is therefore advised for gentlemen with tiny weiners. This way, his penis feels bigger and longer in a shortened, tightened and tensed vaginal barrel.

Conversely, the knees-to-the-chest thing is not prudent for men with a big penis. Theirs will just drive straight into her cervix, and that’s way too intense for comfort. Not good.

3. Pelvic Positioning

Just as minor shifts in limbs create different sensations, simple adjustments of the pelvis also bring distinct delights. This is caused by the change in how the penis approaches the vagina. As said before, the penis can penetrate the vagina in different angles and sexual variations align the thrusting & receiving pelvises in different ways.

In some sex positions, a woman’s pelvis is tilted up. But every time she raises or lowers her pelvis, she changes the angle of entry – causing different vaginal areas, such as the g-spot, to be targeted.

In the same manner, a man leaning backwards or forwards while inside a woman varies the tension between his erect penis and the vagina. (Twitching his rod while inside also has the same effect, but to a lesser degree.)

The idea here is for the couple to move their pelvises around, experiment, even gyrate them sideways or in circles, and find that specific angle that leads to greatest enjoyment.

What To Do When She Won’t Talk To You About Sex

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Sex tips are thought of as a road map for sex, but they are more than that. It’s about communication, and here’s what to do when your partner won’t discuss it.

When it comes to sex, communicating with your partner is absolutely essential. You’re not a mind reader – unless you’ve been with your lover for many years, you just won’t automatically know what she wants or needs in bed. Even if you have been with your partner for a substantial amount of time, it’s still a bit of a guessing game because let’s face it – you’re not a mind reader.

You can’t know what she’s thinking about, or what she wants next or whether she wants you to move a little to the left or to the right. While some women are very up front and straight forward about what they want during sex, many women are not. This is because many women grow up believing that sex should only be pleasurable for the male partner, or that it’s “dirty” and “wrong” to derive any sort of pleasure from sex. Although this couldn’t be further from the truth, their belief systems lead them to never speaking up during lovemaking.

These women aren’t going to say, “That doesn’t feel good, here, I need you to do it like this.” They’re going to smile, act like they’re into it and possibly fake their orgasm. So because communication is so important for a healthy and mutually satisfying sex life, you may very well have to take the initiative in that department.

What Happens When You Don’t Communicate

When you and your partner don’t communicate about sex, it leads to one or both partners being unsatisfied. You’ve got to talk to each other about what you both want and need, and what you like when you’re in bed together! She won’t know what you like and you won’t know what she likes if you don’t talk about it, so you’ll both be a couple of bumbling idiots in the sack, stumbling around blindly, hoping you hit the jackpot and being disappointed when you don’t. Neither of you can expect the other to know exactly what you want and what turns you on, so you have to tell each other.

When you expect your partner to know what to do during sex and they inevitably don’t do it, you’re going to be left sexually frustrated and possibly orgasm-less. The same goes for her! If she expects you to know what to do (and you really don’t) and she doesn’t tell you, you aren’t going to give her the kind of pleasure she wants and needs.

This is going to leave her very unsatisfied and possibly resentful! The problem is, it’s partly her responsibility to communicate with her about what she likes and doesn’t like during sex. Unfortunately, for the reasons mentioned above (and many other reasons) she might not want to talk about it.

Why A Woman Might Not Want To Communicate With You About Sex

Many women don’t like to talk about sex. There are many reasons for this, and if your lover doesn’t want to communicate about intercourse, it may be more than one reason! This can leave a guy feeling confused and wondering what to do. First, take a few minutes to understand her point of view. You already know that some women grow up thinking sex is wrong and that they shouldn’t get pleasure out of sex. However, that’s not the only reason a woman might not want to discuss doing the nasty.

  • She’s never masturbated before and doesn’t know herself what feels good and what doesn’t, so she can’t very well tell you
  • She’s scared of being judged or criticized for what she likes or doesn’t like
  • She’s not confident enough in herself to assert what she wants and needs in the bedroom
  • She’s more worried about your pleasure and you getting off than she is about herself
  • She doesn’t know how to put into words what she wants (or is too shy to use the words that she will inevitably have to use when discussing this type of thing)
  • She has other emotional baggage

These aren’t all the reasons a woman might not want to talk about sex – in fact, since every woman is different and has lived different experiences, the possibilities of a woman being shy about discussing lovemaking are really endless! Take heart though, because even if your girl doesn’t take the initiative to tell you what to do or how to touch her just the right way, you can still glean the information in other ways.

Non-Verbal Communication

Women will almost always give non-verbal cues about what they like and don’t like during sex. Unless you’re having sex with a statue, you’re bound to get some kind of non-verbal feedback on what you’re doing – you just have to be paying attention. Body movements are probably you’re biggest clue here, because even some women who are shy will be too shy to be very vocal during sex. But body movements are often involuntary, so you can use these as sort of a “compass” to tell you if you’re going the right way. Here is some body language that will tell you if you’re on the right track:

  • She bucks her hips towards you and grinds her pelvis against you (either against your face during oral sex or against your penis during intercourse)
  • She begins to breathe heavy and seems as though she is concentrating
  • Her skin turns pink and flushed, particularly in her face and neck
  • Her legs begin to shake
  • Her eyes close or roll back in her head

Her body will also tell you if you’re doing something wrong, or aren’t in the right place:

  • She’ll move slightly to help position you in the right spot (if she does this, go with it! Don’t fight it thinking you’re in the right spot, because you’re not! This movement is very different from what she will do if she’s enjoying it and bucking her hips)
  • She’ll shrink away from you (this usually happens if you’re hurting her in some way – for example, if your facial hair is chafing her or rubbing too hard against her sensitive clitoris)
  • She isn’t breathing heavy and can even talk or carry on a conversation
  • She doesn’t seem as though she’s concentrating or is very into it
  • Her eyes are open and she’s looking around, possibly watching television or checking out photos on the vanity

Apart from body movements, you can use her vocalizations as a clue, although many women won’t make any noise during sex whether they’re enjoying it or not. Here are some ways to tell if she’s enjoying it by listening to what comes out of her mouth:

  •  Again, breathing heavy is a big indicator of pleasure. This may be accompanied by sharp intakes of breath or moans and groans
  • She screams your name, or says, “Oh God!” (This is almost always a winner unless it sounds totally fake)
  • She says disjointed things like, “Yes, Yes!” or “Yeah….right…uh….good…yeah….”

You can also tell if you’re totally bombing it by what she’s saying or how she sounds:

  • She’s screaming your name or other things in a way that sounds less convincing than a porn star in a low budget film
  • Her breathing and vocalizations seem to be on an even keel. For example, a regular “Mmmm” sound that doesn’t seem to be at all connected with what you’re doing or how you’re changing your techniques

Also pay attention to your instincts! As naive as you may be about a woman’s pleasure, if your gut is telling you she’s just not into it, she’s probably not!

What Is An Anal Orgasm & How To Give One

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Anal sex can be extremely pleasurable, but you have to know what you’re doing. Here’s how to give an orgasm through anal penetration alone.

You might think that an orgasm is an orgasm, no matter which hole was being penetrated, but let me tell you that is not the case.

What Is An “Anal Orgasm?”

The anal orgasm is, as you’ve already figured out, an orgasm brought on by anal stimulation, such as from an inserted finger, penis, or sex toy. All women are able to achieve it, but only a few have the luck to actually experience it. The sexual climax can be either complete or incomplete, depending on your ability to touch, and thrust her at the right moment. Some lucky ones may come to experience an anal orgasm without even stimulating the anus, but by stimulation of the buttocks and anal cleft with the tongue.

How it actually happens: typically, through stimulation of the G spot, through the wall shared between the vagina and the rectum. Yes, it’s an indirect stimulation, but perhaps that’s why so many women (and men!) praise its intensity. As a matter in fact, anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or vaginal orgasm.

So yes, anal orgasm is not just a ‘convenient’ theory promulgated by men who want to get their respective girlfriends to try it. It’s real, it’s happening and it can be taught.

There are probably three different sources of sexual stimulation produced by anal intercourse: sensation from the anus, the rectum, and the G spot. Each of these tissues send sensory signals to the brain through different pairs of nerves- the anus through the pudendal nerves, the rectum through the pelvic nerves, and the G spot through the hypogastric nerves.

The orgasm thus achieved is described ‘deeper’, more global and intense, longer lasting and associated with greater feelings of ecstasy.

How To Give An Orgasm During Anal Sex

  1. Start with a firm/soft massage of her buttocks. Use contradictory moves- to enhance pleasure- light vs. firm, teasing vs. real pinching, etc.
  2. After separating the buttocks a little bit, start massaging the area near the anus, but this time use gentler moves
  3. With a well lubed finger start by circling the anal opening with light moves.
  4. Try the analingus technique called Rose Petals, in which you move your tongue in tiny circular loops, as if you are tracing the sepals (the small green leaves at the bottom) of a rose, and then move your tongue in a circle around the rim of the anus (this is known as rimming).
  5. 5. Once you insert a whole finger or a penis and you reach the rectum, another set of pleasures are involved. The outer portion of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to pressure. Rectal pressure is particularly important to enthusiasts of fisting, a form of anal sex in which several fingers or even the entire hand are inserted into the rectum and sometimes into the lower colon.
  6. 6. When you feel she’s ready to come, if you want to facilitate its appearance, additional manual stimulation of the clitoris is advisable.
  7. Also, for women who love a full feeling, try simultaneous penetration of the anus and the vagina, pairing it with clitoral stimulation, as mentioned above.
  8. The intensity of the anal orgasm can be achieved by psychological aspects as well as physical. The anal taboo adds to the thrill of the forbidden. The most common myth against anal sex (it’s dirty!) sometimes returns as a source of kinky excitement. Rimming enthusiasts may enjoy the feeling that they are being delightfully perverse. Other people regard the anus as a secret, special place. Sharing it with a partner is an act of openness and giving.
  9. The easiest way to NOT have an anal orgasm is to become determined to have one. Seeking it will create new pressures and disrupt the pleasure.
  10. Diet also contributes to the feeling of anal pleasure. Regular bowel movements and a sufficient amount of fiber in the system prevents irritation of the bowel tissues, which causes discomfort and adds up to muscular tension.

Are You Following These 4 Rules Of Foreplay?

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Foreplay is essential for great sex, but do you really know what you’re doing? Here are some before sex musts that you definitely don’t want to avoid.

Most men and women do not understand these rules and are, as a result, not as good at foreplay as they could be. These are important to learn now because when you and your partner are in the heat of the moment, you won’t have time to check back with each other. So let’s take a look at how the rules of it work.

1. No Genital Touching

Foreplay does not involve genital touching. Some couples I’ve worked with had the belief that if the woman was giving the man a handjob or if the man was playing with her clitoris, then they were engaging in foreplay. WRONG! It does not involve touching your partner’s genitals in any manner.

So when it comes to it, keep your hands away from your partner’s vagina until you know that she is well into the second stage (plateau). Also, if she tries to touch your penis, you should pull her hand away. By holding back, you’ll be increasing sexual tension in both of you.

2. Oral Sex Isn’t Foreplay

Foreplay is not the same as oral sex. Another problem I’ve encountered with couples is that they falsely believe that oral sex counts. While it’s true that some people would agree with that idea, the truth is that oral sex is just another variation of vaginal intercourse.

Also, refer back to the first guidelines and keep your hands (and your tongue) off of each other’s genitals.

3. Go Slow!

It should be slow. It is not meant to be a quick hurdle men have to jump over to get to the finish line. Instead, it is supposed to be a slow, gradual increase in sexual arousal and tension. When it’s done properly, women become so aroused that they will actually beg for penetration. Imagine how that would make you feel as a lover!

4. Foreplay Can Happen Anywhere!

It can begin anywhere. Another misconception about foreplay is that it must begin in the location where sex is going to happen. For example, if you are going to have sex in the bedroom, then foreplay starts when you get into the bedroom. WRONG!

Dirty Tips For Great Sex!

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Foreplay is the cornerstone of creating an intense sexual experience for a woman. Use these foreplay suggestions for incredible sex!

Have you ever wondered how you could become a better lover in bed? Not the kind who seeks to pleasure himself, but one who goes out of his way to make sure his lover gets her sexual fulfillment first. So what are the secrets to becoming a sex stud that possesses this inherent, natural ability to pleasure any woman at will?

Emotions Are The Lifeline Of A Woman’s Sexual Fulfillment

Emotions play a vital role in ensuring that a woman is sexually fulfilled. So how do you leverage on her emotional repository and give her the most tantalizing sexual experience? The secret lies in building anticipation. This is where women are fundamentally different from men. Guys are ready to mount and thrust right away during sex and get off at a moment’s notice. Women are different. They prefer a slow build-up to sex. This is how they are biologically wired. And it is not their fault that most women take at least 10 to 15 minutes to reach an orgasm (compared to just 4 minutes or less for most guys).

So don’t jump the gun when it comes to sex. It is probably the worst thing you can do during lovemaking.

The Art Of Teasing Women Into Erotic Anticipation

Women loved to be teased. If you want to become a masterful lover in bed, you have to learn how to tease. Make her curious about what you are going to do to her next. Keep her guessing. This will keep her on her toes and bring her sexual emotions to an erotic boil. This makes sex far more exciting, titillating and challenging for the both of you.

Okay, Teasing Is Easy – Or So You Think!

The art of sexual teasing is based on the “push and pull” concept. What do I mean? This means you bring her to a state of heightened anticipation, and then pull away or strategically back off from what she would expect you to do next. For example, if you are undressing her, stop halfway and then proceed to kiss her. When she is expecting you to perform oral sex on her after some heavy foreplay, turn your attention to her breasts instead. Tenderly move AROUND her hot buttons, not ON them.

This sensual art of unpredictability will add plenty of sizzle and excitement in the bedroom. A slow sensuous build-up of sexual anticipation will soon turn into a frenzied sexual craving for you to perform the actual deed on her.

Guys, if you want her to have a genuine screaming orgasm during sex, this is the secret behind it! Your bedroom will never be the same again once you learn this.