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How To EASILY Give Her An Earth Shattering Orgasm During Intercourse

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A female orgasm is completely dependent on a solid understanding of your partner’s body, climactic response, and what makes her feel good both physically and emotionally. You feel confident about your knowledge and skills, what to look for when you’re in the heat of the moment, and can tell when your partner is aroused or not.

Even if you’ve ticked all the boxes, maybe making her come with your hands and your mouth just aren’t enough! When you both are eager to experience intercourse orgasms, it’s during these situations that you can try nudging your partner in the right direction using natural rhythms and biology. Now, not all of these options will work for everyone. Let your woman be the judge as to what works and what doesn’t, but here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Ask Your Partner To Tense Up

When your partner is already aroused, ask her to tense up different parts of her body. Things like pointing her toes, making a fist, or clenching her legs together creates tension in her body – something that is crucial for her to achieve orgasm. Try stroking different parts of her body while you are inside of her, suggesting she tighten those muscles as much as possible before moving onto the next erogenous zone. Spend extra time around her inner thighs and pelvis and feel them quiver under your gentle touch.

Ask Her To Use Kegel Exercises

Ask her to clench her vagina around your penis during intercourse. The squeezing and releasing in a rhythmic manner, called a Kegel exercise, often excites a woman and allows her to feel more of you inside of her, helping her to focus her attention and yours directly on her genitalia.

Choose Your Sex Positions Carefully

Choose positions that are more challenging than normal for your partner to hold, angled so that her head lies below her torso.  These sex positions work great because extra blood flow to the head creates tension in the body and quickens breathing. For positions that aren’t already primed for this technique, scoot her to the side of the bed or couch and get her to lie her head back over the edge with her shoulders still flat and supported.

Make Sure That She Is Comfortable

Encourage your partner to really let go of her anxieties and inhibitions. If she’s comfortable, get her to use sexy language to encourage her own orgasm – for example, ask her to tell you how close she is to climax, how badly she wants to come with you inside of her. Why not try role-playing with her? Suggest she move her hips as if she were a belly dancer, stripper, or another sexual creature that she feels kinship with.

When she shows signs of arousal, move away from stimulating her directly and start teasing different parts of her body instead. Why? You’re building more tension in her body indirectly, allowing her climax to sneak up instead of focusing on it entirely.

Maybe she’d like to watch the two of you while having sex. Ask if it’s okay to grab a mirror, or have sex in the bathroom, so you can both get a better look at the incredibly hot positions you’re about to try. If she really likes the view, maybe she’ll let you hook up the video camera to the TV and get it on to your very own homemade porno!

Find Out Her Favorite Sexual Fantasy

Ask her what her favorite sexual fantasy is, and suggest you act it out. If she can’t think of anything, grab one of her favorite books of erotica and read through it together. When you find something that turns her on, try acting out whatever it is that appeals to her most.

Or if she’s still to shy to talk, try reading some erotica out loud to her during foreplay, then tell her to close her eyes and think about her fantasy while you’re having sex. Hearing you use words she might still be too nervous to say out loud might help encourage her to blurt something out in the heat of the moment!

How Touching Can Affect Her Orgasm – Learn This For Better Sex NOW!

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A female orgasm is not just about how deep your strokes are or big your penis is. The human hand is an intricate masterpiece capable of great works of art or science; yet if asked to name your most “handy tool” in the bedroom, your fingers might be the last thing on your mind! Intimately linked with touching and capable of more dexterity than any other body part, your fingers hold the power to tease, tantalize and transform your everyday sexual experience into something truly satisfying.

Do Not Rush Foreplay

Despite all the amazing things your hands can do, you have probably not given them a good workout during sex in quite some time. Why the neglect? While women often look at foreplay as a great chance to spend some quality time playing with their partner, men tend to think of it as the work they need to get out of the way before the main event.

Talk On An Honest Level

Maybe you are so eager by the time she’s turned on that you can’t wait to be inside her. Perhaps you just don’t feel confident that you know what’s going on down there and need some clear, concise instructions on how to handle her intimate bits. TALK TO HER! Connect with her on an honest level to find out what she likes and how you can improve your sex life together.

Be Enthusiastic About Your Sex Life

Hot sex deserves your very best effort, and this is the kind of effort worth giving. Don’t spend another night wondering if you’ll be able to hold out long enough to make her come with you. If your wife has anything in common with the 43% of American women in the National Health and Social Life Survey who claimed to have sexual problems related primarily to lack of interest, difficulty reaching orgasm and the inability to experience sexual pleasure, then it’s time to find out what is going on.

Be enthusiastic about your sex life. If you are not positive then she could feel ashamed or embarrassed to the point that you stop having sex all together. Don’t let your sex life spin out of control because you’re not enthusiastic enough about getting it back on track.

Read Her Reactions When You Touch

Molly Triffin, a recent DuPauw University study revealed some interesting news about our responses to touch. “Touch allows you to tune in to feelings that lie below the surface,” psychology professor and lead author Matthew Hertenstein says. Many intimate details of your relationship can be understood in a mere five seconds. You may notice that your wife often tenses up, pulls away or avoids eye contact during sex. While Triffin suggests that the most common reasons for this reaction involve lies or secrets, it is in fact more likely a feeling of self-consciousness and body shame.

How To Last Longer In Bed Starting TONIGHT (This is Embarrassingly Easy!)

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Premature ejaculation is a problem for a lot of guys. Learn how to last longer AND give your woman amazing orgasms for bedroom success right now. But is this possible? If you’re anything like most men reading this, sex is probably a quick-fire affair for you, lasting just an embarrassing couple of minutes.

Improve Your Endurance Easily

What most men do not know is that improving sexual endurance takes just a simple tweak to the way they have intercourse. You see, most men simply go “thrusting right out the gate” when intercourse begins. The truth is, quick and relentless penetration creates a lot of friction and stimulation to the penis glans.

This is a surefire way to climax quickly, and because women typically take FAR longer to reach a climax, it can leave them totally unsatisfied. Focus on her emotional “hot buttons” first to make it easier for them to reach a powerful orgasm.

Pay Attention To Her Body

Men skilled in female pleasure know that women take significantly longer to warm up before you make love. Thus a great way to make sure she is adequately aroused is to first pay attention to the sensuous areas on her body. Most women get incredibly turned on just by being touched and stroked on their arms, neck, lower back and inner thighs.

Start Slow!

By starting slow, you are actually helping to speed up her climax during intercourse. The way you thrust also affects how long you last. Once you get her aroused, vary your thrusts during intercourse. Start with slow, shallow strokes, entering just the first three inches of the vagina, and then progress into deeper penetrations. The shallow part of the vagina will stimulate her the most as this area contains thousands of sensitive nerve endings.

Vary Your Strokes

On the other hand, the vagina opens up the deeper you go and creates less stimulation on your penis. Thus varying between shallow and deep penetrations will help you last longer. At the same time, move your hips in a circular fashion. This causes your pubic mound to rub and further stimulate her clitoris – the nerve center of the female orgasm.

Use Positions To Your Advantage

There are many more ways that can help boost your sexual endurance, including the positions you use during sex, as well as adopting the correct breathing and relaxation techniques. For a start, focus on heightening female arousal and tweaking your thrusting movements and you should last significantly longer that you used to!

4 Fingering Methods That Will Get Your Girl Off Every Time

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Fingering your girlfriend will probably take you back to high school. However, fingering can be one of the most erotic ways to give your girlfriend or wife an orgasm. Sometimes using your fingers can make your girl orgasm even harder than using your penis or your mouth. If you have never been the best at fingering a girl, there are a few things that you can do to put a smile back on her face.

Knowing the right amount of tempo, speed and the amount of fingers to use while you are performing this act is essential to pleasure. While there are a lot of techniques that you can use there are five that are almost guaranteed to bring your girl to orgasm.

1. The Clitoral Rub

The clitoris is the main point of stimulation for every woman. The clitoris is located on the outside of the vagina at the upper part of the lips. The clitoris looks like a small bean and you may have to push back her lips in order to find it.  One of the biggest mistakes that guys make is giving her a dry rub.

Have you ever had a girl give you a dry hand job? How did it feel? More than likely you were begging the girl to stop within a couple of seconds. The same goes for women. Before you start to rub her clitoris, make sure that you wet your fingers. If she is already wet, you can use her natural lube. If not, use a little bit of your own spit. Rub it slowly to begin with and then work your way up to a quicker motion. Gauge her response and you will be in the clear.

2. The Standard

Fingering is typically two fingers inside of her vagina going in and out. While this isn’t the most creative way to get her off, this is a standard for a reason. Use your index and pointer fingers to enter her. Make sure that your fingers are wet and use lube if needed. Spit works well too, but lube is a great way to speed up the process of getting her wet, especially if you think that you’re going to have sex after you finger her.

Don’t shove your fingers all the way inside her. Make sure you are working your way inside and touching the top of her vagina. Curl your fingers inside her so that you are kind of scraping the top of her vagina. Do this about 3 inches in and you will be touching her G-spot. The G-spot is known to give women some of the deepest orgasms of their life. If you have never found the G-spot, it’s a fleshy patch of skin about 3 inches inside and on the top of her vagina. You will know when you start to touch it.

3. Two Hands

Using both of your hands to finger her is another method that works extremely well. This is basically the standard method while rubbing her clitoris with your other finger. This is going to take some practice. Knowing how to use both hands together is not something that you are going to get right off the bat.

It’s best to start out with the clitoral rub and then work your way up to the standard method of fingering her. You want to be careful when you are using this method. Some women will find that they love this amount of stimulation, however, other women will not like having this much stimulation to the vagina. Everyone is different and they like different things. Starting out slow will give you the ability to gauge how much stimulation your girlfriend actually likes.

The Two-Hand Alternative

The two-hand alternative can come in handy with women that feel too much stimulation from both hands being used on their vagina and the clitoris. The basic method of fingering with the two-hand alternative is to use your tongue on her clitoris. While this might be seem like oral sex, using your fingers on her vagina while licking her clitoris is still a method of fingering. Most women can reach orgasm through oral stimulation or vaginal stimulation alone.

However, some women need both to reach their orgasm. By giving them both of these methods you should have no problem getting your girlfriend off. The reason that you’re going to use your tongue instead of your hands for clitoral stimulation is that the tongue has a different texture and is not as hard as your finger.

Your tongue can easily feel much better to her without the hardness of your index finger. Lick the clitoris in circles while you make the “come here” sign with your fingers inside her gently brushing up against her G-spot.

5 Female Orgasm Myths Men Believe That AREN’T True!

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Female orgasm myths are said time and time again. Some men think that there are women that simply can’t have one. Others believe that their penis size is the root cause. Here are 5 myths that simply aren’t true.

1. A Woman Can Reach Orgasm More Easily If Her Partner Has A Big Penis

If you think your penis size has something to do with a woman’s ability to climax, you need to think again. The truth is that size really doesn’t matter all that much. Look at it this way: just as large breasts may be fun to play with and look at, they really don’t have anything to do with whether or not you climax.

Just as they say “more than a mouthful is a waste,” the same holds true for penises, except our saying goes “more than a vagina full is a waste (and sometimes painful).” Since only the first two inches of a woman’s vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from a woman’s physical perspective.

2. A Woman Doesn’t Enjoy Sex Unless She Has An Orgasm

Listen up: NOTHING COULD BE MORE WRONG!!!! Although a majority of men believe that the only way a woman enjoys sex is if she orgasms, nothing could be farther from the truth.

For many couples, sex is generally a physical and emotional expression of love, intimacy, and trust. Because women thoroughly enjoy being close to their partners, many enjoy the physical aspect of feeling their partner’s naked body against theirs during sex, even when it is not accompanied by climax.

The physical touch of her partner helps satisfy a woman’s need for affection, so sex can be very satisfying both physically and emotionally even if she doesn’t climax. An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman.

3. There’s Nothing Wrong With Faking An Orgasm

A lot of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is that there’s A LOT wrong with a fake orgasm. Although faking an orgasm may benefit the woman in one way or another, it does absolutely nothing for her partner. Faking an orgasm is nothing more than a lie.

It doesn’t matter if her reason for doing so is to spare your feelings or to get the act of sex done and over with. Allowing you to believe something that isn’t true is lying. While faking an orgasm may help a man feel good about himself in terms of his ability to satisfy his partner, the truth of the matter is that he is not satisfying his partner.

4. Some Women Just Can’t Have An Orgasm

While there are a percentage of women who have never had one, there is no evidence to suggest that some women are physically incapable of climaxing. One of the reasons some women have never had the pleasure of experiencing an orgasm is because they just don’t know how.

While men have a lot of practice pleasing themselves through masturbation, many women lack the same experience. As a result, they don’t understand what the big deal is about sex and give up trying to learn how to reach climax. The main reason behind this failure to achieve an orgasm is improper genital stimulation.

Contrary to popular belief, a woman requires clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, not vaginal stimulation. Without proper stimulation of the clitoris, orgasm is unlikely for most women.

5. Women Take Longer To Orgasm Than Men

This is another common myth, which has not been supported by research. The reason many men and women believe this to be true is because of their lack of understanding sexual arousal.  A woman’s pattern of sexual arousal is much different than a man’s.

As a result, it takes women longer to “want” to have sex than it does men. Once a woman is fully aroused, she can have an orgasm just as fast, if not faster, than her male partner. But should she fail to reach that optimum level of sexual arousal, it can appear to take her longer to have an orgasm than a man.

The key is to learn how to get your partner hot and horny first. Because men often don’t know how to sexually arouse their partners, they often engage in sex sooner than their partner is ready for. As a result, achieving orgasm can be difficult for the woman, if not impossible. Not only will that help her to climax faster, it will also help her to climax more often.