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How To Choose The Right Dildo For You

Sex toys are great fun, but there are so many to select from, it’s hard to pick! Use these tips to find the perfect one to meet your needs – and desires!

A dildo is one of the most implemented sex toys in the lives of couples and singles around the world. If you are ready to buy your first dildo there are few things you must know beforehand. Choosing the wrong one could be a waste of money. Buying one that is too small or too big for you is not going to give you the satisfaction that you’re the looking for. Choosing the right kind is essential to staying happy in your sex life. If you are unsure about the kind that you need, do not fret. Here is a very quick guide to get you started.

Consider Size

The size of your dildo is going to determine the kind of model that you want. Do you want a 7-inch or a 10-inch length? Do you want a double-dong or are you going more for a model that has a lot of girth? All of these issues will come into play when you are searching for the right one. Are you really tight? What was the size of the best penis that you’ve ever had? The best dildos are going to be slightly bigger than the best penis you have ever had. Most of the one on the market are going to measure from about 4 inches or more. You can even find them up to a foot and a half.

Consider Shape

The shape is extremely important. They come in a wide variety of shapes and can accommodate any woman. You can choose from a shape that is a replica of a real man’s penis, or you can go for something with a more manufactured look. The main thing they need to remember whenever you were buying a dildo is that it is going to be inside of you. They can come curved or straight. Curved dildos are typically used to hit the g-spot on track.

Consider The Materials

The material that your sex toy is made out of is another issue. Typically, dildos are made out of silicone; however, they can also be made out of different materials. Jelly is another material that you can find in the markets. Jelly looks a lot like silicone, however, jelly is more porous and will have to be cleaned on a regular basis. If you are going to be sharing yours with a partner, it’s best to stay away from jelly.

Pyrex glass is a very popular choice because it is extremely hard and can be cleaned very easily. Glass dildos can be heated or cooled with water to give you even more excitement. These tend to be more expensive. If you want to ride it, you might want to go with silicone. If you’re looking for something to use more like a vibrator for continuous hand propelled penetration, you can go with glass.

Vibrating Dildos

So you want to kill two birds with one stone? A vibrating one is the perfect solution for you if you want a vibrator and a dildo all in one. These work the same way as a vibrator and you’re going to get the same experience as you would from any other once it’s turned off. Some come with a suction cup on the bottom so you can ride it. These need batteries so be sure that you have some around. These typically take AAA or AA’s. The problem with these is that they usually don’t come with a clitoris massager. You will only be able to use it for vaginal insertion or you will have to pull it out to use it on your clitoris.

The Cost

The cost can vary depending on the materials, the size and the quality. When you’re looking, always buy a product that is going to last you a long time. This is one of the reasons that so many people buy silicone and glass. They are typically more durable than jelly or the new “cyberskin” models. They can cost anywhere from $5-120 depending on what you’re looking at. It’s better to spend a good amount of money right now and have it for years than to have to replace the dildo in a couple of months because the material is being worn out. Your dildo should come with cleaning suggestions. Follow these, as they will help you keep the materials clean and long-lasting.

6 Beginner’s Oral Sex Techniques

By loveandsex

Oral sex is so much fun to learn! Check out these easy to do oral sex tips for men that haven’t had a lot of experience in the art of cunnilingus.

Start with the most basic of tongue manipulations, and keep any extra combinations to a minimum so as to examine her sexual response and learn more about what she likes, and how to do it repeatedly.

1. The First Touch

This should take no more than a minute.

Tongue: One flat-tongued, soft lick from the bottom of her vagina to the top above her clitoris.

Hands: Both underneath her body, softly yet firmly holding onto her bum. Her legs should be parted only enough to allow you access.

Finger: Nothing at this time.

2. Build A Rhythm

This should take between two and five minutes.

Tongue: Start with about five soft-tongued licks that only cover half of her vulva, and then follow with three to five long tongue laps. Gear your attention primarily to her labia and frenulum; only the long tongue laps should reach her clitoris.

Hands: Take one hand away from her bottom to place a finger inside of her. With the other hand, grasp both of her butt cheeks firmly but not painfully you want to give her the tension she needs for what’s coming up, but you don’t want her to be self-conscious about what you’re doing, either.

Fingers: Take your index finger and put it only partially inside the entrance to her vagina.

3. Build Tension

This can take anywhere from five to ten minutes.

Tongue: Establish a rhythm where you lick her from bottom to top without actually touching the clitoris – five times – then lick her clitoris once horizontally.

Hands: Keep supporting her buttocks.

Fingers: Leave your finger where it was before and use it to feel where she’s at along her arousal process. Is she clenching? Is she lubricated? Allow your other fingers to gently touch other nearby areas, such as her perineum or anal area.

4. Intensify Your Moves

This can take anywhere from five to ten minutes.

Tongue: Continue with the vertical and horizontal tongue stroke rhythm. Occasionally do a “tongue press,” where you take your tongue, hold it flat and firm, and push it up against her clitoris for five seconds.

Hands: Continue holding her buttocks, and see if you can gently play a bit with her perineum using your thumb.

Fingers: Put another finger inside her vagina. Push both fingers up toward her g-spot, and feel around for it.

5. Moving Into The Pre-Orgasm Phase

This usually lasts between three to five minutes.

Tongue: Use the tongue press on her clitoris. Make sure the pressure is firm, and slow things down even more than before. Let her push back against you to show you what she likes and works for her.

Hands: Make sure that the hand beneath her has the right angle and that you have her firmly in your grasp. The arm leading to the fingers inside of her should feel her inner thigh muscles pushing against them, as if she wants to close her legs.

Fingers: Keep your fingers partially inside of her with your palm facing up, and use your thumb to push against her frenulum. The pressure needs to stay constant inside of her along the g-spot, but right now your focus should be on the frenulum thumb touch.

6. Give Her The Big Orgasm!

This usually lasts around one minute or less.

Tongue: Stay in contact with her clitoris using the firm tongue press. She’ll push against you and try to close your legs, but hold on and keep doing what you’re doing. When the contractions are finished (you’ll feel them with the fingers inside of her) lick her clitoris only once, and very, very gently. She should pull back when you do, which means she’s had an orgasm and now needs a bit of time to recoup.

Hands: Her pelvic muscles should clench your fingers. Feel them so you know where she’s at, and keep the pressure on her frenulum the entire time.

Fingers: Use the hand underneath her to keep yourself in close contact with her; as she orgasms it may prove difficult, so firm pressure is needed.

Keep a close eye as to where she’s at along the orgasmic process, and cater your movements accordingly. Start lightly and offer more firm support with your tongue as you go along. If need be, get a vibrator to help with the g-spot so you can concentrate on the licking.

How To Give A Woman An Orgasm With A Small Penis

By lloydlester

Penis size isn’t the only thing responsible for female orgasms – you CAN please a woman with a small penis! Here’s how to make your penis size COUNT!

Is your penis size important in sex and in giving her powerful orgasms? In other words, is a bigger penis better for sex? That seems to be the proverbial question that men have been asking since the dawn of civilization. Well, what if I told you that your penis size is not a big deal after all? In fact, it is the lousiest among all “tools” you can bring to the bed! Why is that so?

The Truth About Penis Size And Sex

Ask any woman who loves great sex and have experienced great sex. She will tell you that the size of one’s manhood does not feature much in how she enjoys the experience. So put aside that penis extender or male enhancement pills you have been popping all day! A big penis is a great asset to have, but the skills you bring to bed will be your defining moment during sex. Besides pumping in and out, what else can your penis do?

Do Casanovas And Don Juans Have Great Assets In Between Their Thighs?

The secret is out. No they don’t! Even if a guy is small like a mosquito, he can still outperform any clueless lad with a much bigger “asset”! As long as you know how to please, pleasure and caress any woman properly, you can bring great sex to the bedroom, anytime anywhere! And believe me when I say that those Casonovas and Don Juans in the world are only average as far as their penis size goes.

The Myth About Penetration And Orgasm

Penetration is just about the only thing that happens during intercourse. Well, that is just what most guys think. When in the throes of pleasure, most men would focus only on themselves and pump away until they reach the inevitable goal – their own orgasm. But is your woman enjoying a great time too? Well, most probably not! You see, women are incredibly different from guys. Women don’t just live for the moment of orgasm. They relish the way they are brought to a climax.

The simple truth is this: The vast majority of women are not able to reach an orgasm though penetration alone simply because her clitoris – the nerve center of a woman’s orgasm – is not properly stimulated via penetration. So your penis, big or small, does not figure much in triggering those incredible waves of pleasure in her.

So How Do I Give Her An Orgasm?

Simple! Just observe what SHE does when she stimulates herself (a great majority of women can reach a orgasm through masturbation alone!). Mimic the motions, the angles, the intensity she use on herself. Then use them on her!

Anal Sex Orgasm: Myth Or Fact?

By loveandsex

Anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable for some women. Others don’t like it at all. However, you might have seen or heard of girls that can climax from anal stimulation. But is it really possible to have an orgasm from anal sex alone?

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Is It True?

Can you have anal orgasm? Yes, you can. “Can” being the operative word here.

Theoretically, all people can have anal orgasms. Some think it’s from the excitement of anal sex, and while there are people who can orgasm from anal sex only, most people will require additional genital stimulation to get off.

Anal Play For Guys

For men, anal orgasms typically are achieved through prostate massage or stimulation. Ladies, that entails you giving him the finger while blowing him. If you don’t feel comfortable with that for safety or other reasons, you can use sex toys specifically designed for that.

Ladies, be gentle. Some men may be tough, some men may like it rough, but nobody likes a finger (or toy) jammed up their bum without some warning first. Everyone loves surprises, unless it’s a finger up the butt. So people, please, talk about this before hand. Use ample amounts of communication and lube before you put your finger up there.

Anal Play For Girls

If you want your girl to have an anal orgasm, try slipping your finger in her anus while giving her oral sex. Sneak it in – sort of. You don’t want to sneak it in, literally, but you need to gradually introduce it while giving oral sex, especially if it’s the first time you’ve done it in the relationship. You can’t just ram a finger in there and expect the magic to happen. This isn’t porn. Or Vegas. This is real sex in real life.

A great technique for anal stimulation for women is placing one finger in the vagina and one finger in the anus, and you manually stimulate her that way.

Getting Off On Anal Sex Only

How do you get that point where you get off on anal by itself? Well, you’ll need to start with equal parts anal and genital stimulation in the beginning, and gradually decrease the genital stimulation while increasing the anal stimulation. By this point, your partner will (hopefully) be very used to getting off this way, and then they will have a postive mental pattern associated with anal play. This is super important.

Why? Because despite what porn or sex tips magazines may have you believe, sex begins and ends in the mind. If you think it’s impossible or difficult to have an anal orgasm, you’re right. But if getting off solely by anal play is a common, regular, every day occurrence in your world, guess what? You’re right too. That’s why it’s super important to create that positive mental connection first.

Other Things To Keep In Mind

What else can you do to create anal orgasm? Eat lots of fiber, so you can clean your pipes on a regular basis. Who wants to talk about this? Nobody. Despite the fact that Oprah did an entire episode on poo, the subject still leaves a nasty taste in people’s mouths. An enema is also a good option to keep things clean down there.

Also, do NOT forget to use lube and LOTS of it. There is no other option. Go slow. Rushing can cause discomfort, pain, or damage.

Using sex toys with big bases are critical so you don’t get anything lost up there. Plenty emergency rooms are filled people who lost toys up there. Yes, we are serious. No it wasn’t us. But trust us, this happens a lot. Friends don’t let friends lose anal toys in someone’s butt, so make sure you and anyone else you know is using the right ones.

Above all, don’t force anything. Forcing sex in any way is always bad, but with anal sex it’s super duper bad. Worst case scenario, someone gets injured or has to go to the hospital. Best case scenario if you force anal? Your partner feels used or angry or hurt. None of which are good and you might as well count yourself out of doing whatever you did ever, ever again. So talk about it first! Agree on everything first! Go slow, use a safe word, and again, lots of lube.

5 Sex Positions He Will Love

By serenapaige

Sex positions can really spice up lovemaking for a guy. Here are five sex positions we KNOW your man will go crazy over!

There are about four sex positions that all couples tend to use. Missionary, doggy style, girl on top and spooning are perfect for achieving different angles for sex. However, if you’re tired of the same old sex positions with your guy and you’re willing to branch out, there are a myriad of options to choose from. Different sex positions can offer different intimacy levels and different angles in which the penis enters you. If you’re looking to obliterate the humdrum positions in your sex life, here are a few that will keep your man’s toes curled.

1. Coital Alignment Technique

If you’re a big fan of missionary then you’re going to love the coital alignment technique. This sex position gives you all the comfort and eye contact of the missionary position while adding clitoral stimulation. As stated before, this is very similar to the missionary position. The basic concept is to lie on your back while your guy gets into missionary position. Instead of having your faces meet, have him push up a little further on you. His chest should be more at your shoulders than on your chest. Bend your legs at about a 45-degree angle and then tilt your hips up. Have your guy grind up and down to give you deep penetration while massaging your clitoris.

2. The Spork

This is a variation on the spoon and can add a different angle for your guy. This sex position can give you a natural lead in to other positions because it’s very universal. You can go from The Spork to other sex positions like missionary, girl on top or even a regular spoon. Basically, you will be on your back. You want to raise your right leg up and then have your guy position himself on your right side. He can hold onto your right leg as he enters you. Now place your left leg between his legs or spread your legs wide open. You can do this sex position facing him or turned away from him. This provides a nice angle for your guy and can make you feel very tight.

The Ribbon

The ribbon is a sex position that will give you increased intimacy and a very deep penetration. Both you and your guy should lie on your sides facing each other. Now you will bend your legs and angle your vagina toward him. He will come up and go between your legs. Wrap your legs and arms around his torso as he enters you. He can kiss your neck as he thrusts deep inside you. You should be wrapped around him like a ribbon on a Christmas gift. Thrust back and massage your clitoris against his lower abdomen for added stimulation.

The X

The X is a sex position that is great for your guy. This involves slow thrusts that will massage the tip of his penis. Lay down on the bed from head to toe. Your head should be at his toes and his should be at yours. Now have him come between your legs. Have him put your right leg between his. Now you should have a leg on either side of his legs. Have him go inside you and hold onto his feet as he thrusts forward. This is great because it is a controlled thrust. The position doesn’t allow for heavy movements so you get a very slow experience. The angle that he will go inside you should be around 80-90 degrees. This forces his penis to stay down and will feel great for him. At this angle, the penis will start to hit the g-spot so it’s added pleasure for you. This is also known as the Crisscross.

The Spider

The Spider is a sex position that more designed for you, but he’s going to love it Because of the angle that his penis will go inside you, the g-spot is going to be hit a lot. This makes you orgasm faster and will make him feel more like a man. This will also feel good for him because the sex position allows you to grind on his penis with minimal effort. Have him sit down and lean back on his hands. You come up facing him and put our feet up on his shoulders. Lean back let him start to thrust at you. You should start to feel the head of his penis hitting your g-spot immediately. Thrust back and forth in a controlled motion if you want to take control.