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Massage Her G-Spot During Oral Sex And Make Her EXPLODE!

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The g-spot isn’t some “mystical place” inside her vagina that may or may not exist – it DOES! Massage it during oral sex and you’ll have her orgasming in seconds.

Most folks who have been having sex a while have heard of the G-Spot; a fleshy, spongy bit of tissue about half way up a woman’s vagina, facing her belly button. You may have even heard about the amazing orgasms G-Spot manipulation can provide your partner, even squirting, but we’ll get more into what the G-Spot can and can’t do tomorrow. For now, let’s learn how to massage it and make the G-Spot a part of your oral sex vocabulary.

Using The “Come Here” Stroke

Use your index finger and curl it toward your palm as it you were saying, “Come here.” When you do that motion repeatedly, you’re using what’s called the “Come Here” stroke.

Now put your hand inside your partner, palm facing up, or toward her belly button. Once your finger and not much else is comfortably inside of her, curl your finger again using the Come Here stroke. You should feel a patch of tissue that feels different than the rest; spongy, soft, yielding. It will swell the more aroused she gets, so it shouldn’t be too hard to locate right now.

Take the hand that isn’t inside of her, and push down on the top of her vulva so you can feel the hand inside of her as well. You’re essentially ‘sandwiching’ her G-Spot between your two hands, and added pressure, especially when she’s really aroused, is fantastic.

It’s time to change your hand positioning now. Keeping it in the Come Here stroke position, move your hand so that your palm is facing down. If you perform the same stroke, you’ll be massaging her Perineum from inside a very sensitive area that, if you add your thumb to the outside, can be squeezed and teased at length by both.

Now you can move your hand from left to right as well, and feel the sides of her vaginal walls. You’ll find that the closer your finger is to her vagina, the more she’ll feel and the more pleasure you’ll give.

Don’t Leave Your Tongue Out!

·Don’t forget about using your tongue during this exploration too. At first, it’ll be easier to use the basic up-and-down motion while your hand wanders, but eventually you’ll be able to perform other moves in tandem with your hand manipulations. Also, if at first tonguing her clitoris, playing with her using your hands, and listening/feeling for her arousal state proves too challenging, just use the flat, still tongue on her clitoris so you can focus appropriately for now.

Adding More Fingers

Once you’ve used one digit to get things moving, it’s time to add another one specifically your middle, or ring digit. When you’ve got two fingers working together inside of her, you want them to act as one.

When you put both fingers inside of her, leave your hands as motionless as possible. Feel her muscles clench around your hand, and how much tighter everything feels with the two fingers inside of her.

Continue what you did earlier, using the Come Here stroke and massaging all four walls of her vagina. See how everything feels slightly different with another finger in place, and note her reactions accordingly.

Put your free hand on top of her vulva (above the clitoris, where her pubic hair is), and use the two fingers inside of her to push up against her G-Spot. Use both hands in tandem to massage her G-Spot from these two angles.

Don’t stop playing with her clitoris while you perform this move, either using short up and down tongue strokes, even smaller side to side ones, or the flat tongued move if you want to concentrate. She needs you to keep the pressure on her clitoris here, no matter what, even if it’s no movement at all.

Taking A Break

If she’s willing, this is an excellent time to take a short break while you focus on other parts of her anatomy. While using the Come Here stroke with your index finger inside of her, move up so that you can pivot yourself around her body, without losing contact internally. Kiss her, touch her, nibble her, whisper in her ear, all while playfully tickling her along the G-Spot.

Just be sure to ask her before kissing her, as some woman (like some men) are squeamish when it comes to mouth-to-mouth contact after oral sex. If this is an issue, grab one of the towels that you have handy to dab at your face, and maybe her inner legs too if things are really getting hot and heavy down below.

How To Finger A Girl To Orgasm – While You Go Down On Her!

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Oral sex can be incredible for a woman – if you do it right. Here’s how to work your fingers into the game and give her a MIND BLOWING orgasm with oral sex!

Up until now, your tongue has done most of the work here, but now it’s time for your hands and fingers to get involved too. If you can, think of these three parts of your body as a band, with each one filling a sound part that requires different movement at different times. As well, each instrument has to meet the others halfway, while still working together to finish the song.

Starting Out

Let’s begin by using just one finger, your index finger, and then we’ll move on to a few more challenging routines that will incorporate several fingers, some of which will have to work independently of the rest. But for now, try using your index finger in the following ways:

  • Lightly touch your finger to her labia. Gently pinch and massage any skin that you can. Pretend that your finger is trying to read Braille from her vagina, and you want to feel every single bump to understand its meaning. Really explore this area.
  • Tease the front commisure (the part just above the clitoris) and see how she responds.
  • Pat her frenulum (between her clitoris and vagina) rhythmically.
  • Gently massage her vagina
  • As your finger moves, try to keep it steady and with the same pressure throughout its explorations. Keep on licking her clitoris throughout.

Once she’s aroused and you can feel a bit of moisture accumulating between her legs, gently push your index finger into her. It shouldn’t take much, and if it does, hold back and wait until she’s got enough natural lubrication for it to go in easily. If after fifteen minutes she’s still not wet enough, add some lubricant and try again.

Once your finger is inside of her, just hold it there. Feel her pelvic muscles strain against you, and continue with the tongue licks. You want to tease her at this stage, not push for anything more, because her body needs to grasp for something to push against so she can get to the next level of arousal.

Once she’s accustomed to your finger inside of her, move it in a come-here motion to stimulate her g-spot while you lick her clitoris. As she gets more and more aroused, feel free to add more fingers if she’s willing.

Using Your Thumb

Your thumb is an excellent tool when you want to add something with a bit more width to the equation, or if you need something with a bit more power than just any old finger. It also works well when you’re trying to stimulate her vulva, as it offers a bit more resistance and that area can handle some pressure.

Try adding your thumb into the mix (but only when you’re ready). While your index finger is still inside of her, move your hand so that your thumb can brush up against her perineum (just under her vagina but before her anus). Or, turn your hand the other way and have your thumb tease her frenulum (right below the clitoris).

Best Cunnilingus Tips Of 2011

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Cunnilingus is a great sexual gift for a girl, & you can really use it to your advantage to make her WILD! Girls love oral sex, but are often too afraid to ask for it. Many guys just don’t consider it a necessary part of foreplay, and usually just get on down to business.

Don’t be that guy!

Spend some time on her, focusing on her pleasure and licking her to a complete orgasmic frenzy. You’ll be glad you did when your girl is completely satisfied. In fact, if you’re in a relationship, don’t be surprised if you notice less nagging, arguing and overall discontentment from your girl after you start giving her incredible oral sex. If she’s content and satisfied sexually, she will be more content and satisfied in the partnership. So without further adieu, here are our best cunnilingus articles of the year!

If you really want to get good at cunnilingus (and make your girl never, ever want to leave you), then you definitely don’t want to miss our best cunnilingus articles of all time!

Also, don’t forget to check out the resources we found this year on how to eat a girl out and have her absolutely writhing with pleasure! If you do it right, she’ll want to have sex with you more often than you ever thought possible!

3 Key Elements of Artful Teasing

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Foreplay can be just as amazing as the sex itself if you do it right. Here are three tips you don’t want to miss out on if you want foreplay to be HOT!

How A Great Lover Seduces A Woman

This is how a great lover ensnares a woman: He dangles a PRIZE and tempts her with it. He tempts her and shows her how desirable the thing is. She mentally agrees. He then ups the ante and tempts her some more, showing more virtues for the prize. Now her lust is awakened. Now, she wants it. In fact, she may want it more than she’s willing to admit.

So she starts reaching for the now coveted prize, but at the perfect moment, her lover purposely hides it or brings it slightly out of reach. She almost got what she wanted, but not quite. Now, she lusts for it even more. She’s intrigued by her inability to get what she wanted, because from her experience, this doesn’t happen very often.

Then, the great lover stirs more desire by enticing her with the prize once again. And once again she pursues – and the game is really just beginning….

Artful teasing has 3 key elements:

  1. The Prize
  2. The Strategic Back-Off
  3. The Payoff

The Prize

That’s you! It includes everything you do with your mouth, hands, penis and the rest of your body. Get this: You have sexual value. You have things to offer that no one in this entire universe, except you, can give.

You may not have a stunning bod or those gorgeous pecs, but there are wonderful, mind blowing things that only you can do to her. It’s your exclusive and personal brand of sex, the specific way your hand or tongue moves or the distinctive strength of your thrusts. Whether you already know it or not, you do have the goods to deliver, and she’s damn lucky to have you with her on any given night – I want you to get that.

It is really, really important that you don’t go inside that bedroom feeling the luckiest guy in the world – I don’t care how hot she is. Because the truth is, with the stuff you’re now learning, I’m thinking she’s the one who’ll be screaming “Ding! Ding! Ding!”

And as the prize, YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT.

The Strategic Back-Off

This is the “Pull” element. The game of teasing isn’t played in a linear, straightforward fashion – there are breaks, pauses and reverses along the way. True, one needs to move forward, but just as important are times when one backs-off.

THOSE MOMENTS, WHEN YOU REVERSE OR PAUSE (and seemingly do nothing), ARE AS VITAL AS WHEN YOU’RE BUSY PROGRESSING TOWARDS SOMETHING.

For example, if you’re unzipping her dress, you might stop halfway and continue kissing. Or you can simply zip it up again. When she’s all naked and seems to think you’re heading down south, camp around the belly area, or even go back up. These add exciting unpredictability to your repertoire.

Learn the concept of Near-the-Spot teasing maneuvers. Play AROUND her happy areas, not ON them. Make her think you’re going somewhere on her body, but back-off at the last instant. She’ll soon salivate and whine for you to hit her moan zones.

The “Strategic Back-Off” not only buys you time to fuel a woman’s lust, it’s the explosive fuel that makes things interesting. You actually need to perform strategic back-offs even when she’s giving you all green lights. Because no matter how great your moves are, if you do them in predictable straight-line fashion, you rob them of their punch.

However, don’t be all over the place and become totally unpredictable to the point of being strange.

The Payoff

The teasing game works because a woman assumes there will be a big payoff in the end. This is what makes delayed gratification worth it. Great rewards are up ahead, as long as she doesn’t take shortcuts or drown the process. This may be in the form of an orgasm, a kiss, a sucking of her breasts, penetration etc. In the end, you’ve ALWAYS got to let her have it.

How To Establish A Rhythm During Oral Sex & Drive Your Girl CRAZY!

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Oral sex isn’t a “lick twice” affair and you won’t ever make a girl climax if you mix up your moves too much. Find out how slow and steady wins the race.

However you’ve started your oral sex escapade, you’ll want to leave her begging for more after that first touch. This is where you want to slow things down even further, focusing on your rhythm and building pressure and tension, rather than trying to run to the finish line in an all-out sprint.

Before starting, make a point of having each of your tongue strokes stand on their own, meaning, they should be a wave in and of themselves that don’t crash or run into the others before or after them. Later on, as she gets more excited, the tongue strokes will run into one another, but for now, they need to be distinguishable from each other.

Get Into A Groove

Find a rhythm that alternates between a flat tongue with licks that encompass her entire vulva, and a flat tongue that just focuses on one place. Repeat each of these licks, combined into one ‘set’ for several minutes, or until she starts pushing her groin into your hand. To make it easier for you to tell, keep one of your hands on the upper part of her vulva (above the clitoris) and pull back gently each time you lick the length of her vulva.

Now Tease Her

When she starts reacting to your tongue strokes, it’s time to tease her a little bit. Avoid the clitoris completely, and start licking with shorter, more pointed tongue strokes that tickle more than they do cover her labia. See how much of her labia you can explore with just your tongue, keeping it light and flirty without a lot of pressure.

During this time, although you’re avoiding her clitoris, you’re still watching to see what it’s up to. When you start the shorter, pointy licks, the clitoris should still be covered and hiding, but as you continue playing with her labia, it should peek out slightly. When you can see it, it’s time to move to the next rhythm.

Then Cover Her Head

When her clitoris peeks out to see what’s going on, and if it can finally get a bit of attention from your tongue, indulge it and give it a soft, tender lick. If you’re using a dental dam, make sure she’s got enough lube before you do this, and if you’re not, engulf her clitoris with your saliva or lubricant, and feel her whole body react to you as you do it.

As an aside, try using all of these techniques while she has her legs on your shoulders. Not only will it allow you some extra room to really get your tongue into new places, but it will give her the leverage she needs to get to orgasm.

Numbers Routine

Continue on again with the half licks, with five of these that are punctuated with one of the soft, wet placements on her clitoris. Then do six half licks with one soft wet placement, then seven and one, and so on until you reach a ratio of ten to one. If you think she’s predicting what you’ll do next, change up the numbers a bit, but allow for the same amount of licking time for her clitoris  to get used to your ministrations.

Repeat this whole series, starting from five and moving up to ten, but this time add some rhythm to your licks. See if you can match the music that is playing, or if there isn’t any, have some in your head that you can lick along with to create even more sexual tension between her legs.