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Female Orgasm – 2 Secrets That WORK To Prime Her For An Incredible Climax!

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An orgasm doesn’t have to be rocket science – with these two simple tricks, she’ll be well on her way to climax heaven (and begging for more!)

Sex Doesn’t Always Start In The Bedroom!

When a man gives his partner a great sense of sexual pleasure, he is aware of one fact that most guys don’t know: sex does not always begin in the bedroom! You should have a plan for a steamier sexual experience with your partner. You should do something beforehand to give her the best sex – and orgasms!

One great way to put your partner in a sexual mood is by giving her some kind of an intermission before the actual intimate act. Women cannot be turned on just with physical intimacy. Their minds need to be conditioned prior to the sexual intercourse. This can be done by spicing things up with a twist of romance.

There are two settings that you can use to liven up the sexual experience with your partner.

Cook Your Way Into Her Pants

You may begin by cooking a special meal while she is not yet home. Cook whatever recipe you know because even if it is not the best food that she will eat, your effort in preparing this will surely be appreciated. And, while she’s stuck in the traffic, make a path of candles and turn off all the lights in your house. Make it a candlelight dinner if you find it more appealing for your partner. Put white wine or champagne on your list of what to serve.

Just before the dessert, prepare a nice, warm bubble bath for her. Dim the lights and have candles lit around the tub. After dinner, take her to the bathroom and be the one to undress her. While you give her a bath, touch every sensitive part of her body, but do not begin your exploration with her breasts. Once she becomes in the mood for sex, you may start caressing her inner thighs.

Right after the bath, dry her up and begin with the most awaited foreplay. Not only will you prepare her physically, you will also put her into the feel of having an exhilarating moment with you – guaranteed to prime her for an amazing orgasm later.

Sexting Works Like A Charm!

If you and your partner have creativity in mind, you may take this passionate plan away from the privacy of your home. You can take her to a restaurant for dinner. Once in the restaurant, excuse yourself for some private time in the bathroom. Then call her using your cell phone, as she waits for you at the table. Tell her about your deepest and most intimate desires while on the line. This will surely please her because women are very imaginative about sexual fantasies especially with the person they go to bed with!

You may continue this sexual innuendo after dinner as you ride in the car to a secluded place. Play a sensual music in the background, something that will set the atmosphere for the two of you. Then whisper gently into her ears everything that you have planned to do to her.

Once you hear her ask for more, take her! If the car seems uncomfortable for the two of you, you may want to head to the nearest motel in town. And with the intense sexual anticipation already building up, you will certainly give her the best sex (and and climax) ever!

How Erotic Massage Will TRIPLE Your Partner’s Sexual Desire!

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Erotic massage can be exactly what your lover needs if your life has dwindled. Find out how erotic massage can make your girl want it again!

When She Doesn’t “Want It” Anymore

One of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually are one of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually arouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

What a lot of men don’t understand is that a woman’s desire for sex is directly linked to how she feels about her partner and her relationship. If her needs are being met by her partner and she feels happy and emotionally connected to her partner, she will be more receptive to sex.

Sexual desire is part of a man’s chemical makeup. That is not the case for women. A man is almost automatically wired to desire sex. A woman, however, has to have a reason to desire lovemaking. While a man can feel instant arousal by the sight of his female partner showering naked, it usually takes a lot more for a woman to feel aroused. And this is exactly where erotic massage comes into play!

How Erotic Massage Can Help

Erotic massage can be quite rejuvenating both physically and sexually for both partners. This is due to the massage having the ability to influence our brain chemistry through the stimulation of our endocrine glands. During this stimulation, our glands produce more serotonin, DHEA, testosterone, and oxytocin—chemicals responsible for inducing sexual desire.

For women, the effects of an erotic massage are like a natural aphrodisiac. In addition to the stimulation of hormones linked to sexual desire, the massage also increases blood circulation. As the hormones begin to flood into her enhanced blood stream, she becomes sexually aroused and her desire for sex increases. Erotic massage has also been proven to enhance orgasms in women. One scientific study conducted by the University of California San Francisco found that women given a 15-minute Swedish massage experienced increased levels of oxytocin—a hormone that is released during climax. So not only does her desire for sex increase, she’ll also be more likely to have an orgasm.

Erotic massage can also reduce anxiety about sexual performance in both men and women. Preliminary findings of a study at the Touch Research Institute showed that couples that massaged each other had lower levels of sexual performance anxiety. They also reported increased physical intimacy (Hernandez, 2000). With reduced anxiety and increased affection and intimacy, many couples’ sex lives are rejuvenated by introducing sensual and erotic massage into their relationships.ouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

How To Tell If YOU Need A New Sex Toy!

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Sex toys can burn out over time, or you can get tired of them. Sometimes, you just want something you’ve never tried before! From time to time, you’re going to have to replace your sex toys or buy new ones, but it can be hard to part with a favorite. Here are five things to look for to tell if you need to chuck your current vibrator and go shopping for sex toys!

It Runs On Batteries

There are a lot of great sex toys that run on batteries, but there are far, far better ones that are rechargeable! They cost a little more, but in the long run, you’re paying for that in batteries anyways. Rabbit style vibrators use a LOT of juice, and if you own one, you’re probably at the store buying batteries every other week.

If your favorite sex toy runs on batteries, consider replacing it with a version that is rechargeable. If you’re looking for a Rabbit style vibrator, try the LELO Ina. Smaller bullet style vibrators also come rechargeable.

It Contains Phthalates

While jelly sex toys look really pretty, they can contain dangerous chemicals called phthalates that have been linked to cancer. If your sex toy contains phthalates, you could be unknowingly increasing your risk for developing cervical cancer. Ditch the cheap jelly materials and get something made from body safe silicone, wood or hard plastic. If you absolutely have to have sex toys made from jelly material or any material containing phthalates, protect yourself by slipping a condom over it before insertion.

The Vibrations Aren’t As Strong As They Used To Be

When you first got your vibrator, it was perfect. The vibrations were exquisite and catapulted you to orgasm land in no time flat. But a few months later, you notice that it takes a little longer to reach orgasm, and you have to press a little harder each time to feel the vibrations. Are the vibrations getting weaker? Probably. Sex toys aren’t made to last forever. If yours constantly sounds like it’s running out of power (even if you just put fresh batteries in), it may be time for an upgrade.

It Looks Dingy Or Has An Odor

Unfortunately, not all sex toys are non-porous. When shopping for one, try to get a body safe toy that IS non-porous (like glass), but you may not have known that going into purchasing your current one. If any of the sex toys you’re currently using don’t look as clear or shiny as they used to, or they’ve picked up an odor, it’s time to throw them away. Sex toys made from porous materials like jelly can pick up bacteria during use, and body fluids can begin to soak in. When you really think about it, you don’t want that hanging around in your nightstand!

You Want A New One

Every girl should have her own sex toy – or more than one! Couples should also have plenty of sex toys to play with! If you simply want a brand spanking new toy (whether it is an exact replica of your very favorite or something you’ve never tried before), you have every right to get yourself what you want! Even if you just bought one and you’re not happy with it or want something to accompany it, go out and get another one! Get whatever you want, provided you’ve got the funds.

Get A Good One!

You also have the right to invest in a good sex toy. Go for quality materials from a reputable manufacturer. Be choosy. Consider where you want to use it and what you want it to do. Do you want to travel with it, or do you want one that is ultra discreet? Try the LELO Mia – it’s rechargeable via USB port and looks like a tube of lipstick. Do you want a clitoral vibrator that is completely waterproof and you can use in the tub or shower? Get the We-Vibe Touch.

Look for the sex toys that meet both your needs and your desires. If you really would benefit from having a vibrator that you can take with you anywhere (for example, if you travel a lot for work), or the only peace and quiet you get in a crazy household is in the shower, then spending the extra money on a vibrator that meets your needs and gives you what you want is well worth it.

How To Train Yourself To Have Multiple Orgasms

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Multiple orgasms are incredible – or so you’ve heard. If you’ve never had more than one big O during a sex or masturbation session, you’re seriously missing out. The way a woman’s orgasm works leaves her halfway to her next orgasm after she’s had the first – so every girl is capable of reaching a second, third or fourth peak. But can you actually “train” your body to have multiple orgasms?

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It’s Easier For Women Than Men

Everyone is “capable” of having multiple orgasms, however, it’s a lot more difficult for a man to reach climax more than once during a sex or masturbation session than it is for women. This is because men tend to put a lot of focus on their orgasm being tied to ejaculation, when in fact, it isn’t. Women, however, are designed a little differently. Once they reach climax once, they only come back down about halfway, instead of returning to their normal, unaroused status right away like a guy does.

Learn Your Body

Many women have not fully explored their body and all of their sensitive spots – namely because female masturbation has been labeled “taboo” for so long. Many girls have never even had one orgasm, let alone multiple orgasms! If this happens to be the category you fall into, take some time to learn your body and explore what feels good and what doesn’t.

Try Masturbation By Yourself First

If you try to experiment with multiple orgasms for the first time with your partner, it’s likely not going to happen right away or at all. There’s a lot of pressure trying something for the first time, and you’re going to feel pressure to perform and your partner is going to feel pressure to give you a climax. Instead, experiment with your body during masturbation alone. There’s going to be less pressure, and you’re going to be able to really find what you like and what you don’t like without worrying about anyone else but yourself and your own pleasure.

Use Whatever You Need To

While there are tons of sex toys and vibrators out there for women, a lot of girls are too nervous or scared to buy their own and use it. A lot of girls also avoid erotica and pornography, simply because “watching porn” is how men masturbate. But don’t be afraid to use whatever you need to get yourself turned on enough to make it possible for you to want to continue having multiple orgasms!

This is also another reason why it is essential that you try by yourself for the first few times. If you’re really turned on by watching a certain porn or reading erotic and you know that’s what will take you over the top again and again, you may be nervous doing it around your partner. So if you’re alone, you don’t have to worry about getting caught or watching or reading what you want. If you only need a tiny clitoris vibrator, go for it. If you need a larger Rabbit style vibrator, use that. Do whatever you need to give yourself that intense pleasure.

Allow Yourself To Come Back Down First

If you experience the first climax, allow yourself to come back down a little bit to the halfway point. If you try for multiple orgasms right away, your clitoris is going to be too sensitive and you’re not going to want to continue. Allow yourself a few minutes to breathe and enjoy the afterglow before you get back to it.

Also, you can try stimulating different areas – for example, if you’ve just had a clitoral orgasm, try stimulating your g-spot. This can help you get over the top again in a different way.

Relax, Have Fun And Keep Trying

You may not experience multiple orgasms the first time you try, or even the first few times. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to perform. Remember that this is about your pleasure, so just do what feels good! Relax and have fun! Continue to try if it doesn’t happen, but release any negative feelings you have about not having multiple orgasms right away. If you have negative feelings about not being able to “get there” instead of just enjoying the ride, you never will “get there.”

As you continue to try new things, different sex toys and different masturbation techniques, you’re going to become more in tune with your body and you’ll be able to figure out what you need to do to bring yourself to that multiple orgasm phase.

Sex Tips: The TRUTH About How Women Look At Men Sexually

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Sex tips will get you only so far – understanding the way girls see guys sexually will give you the foundation for a great sex life.

Gorgeous Girls With Ugly Guys?

I’m sure you’ve seen it a million times: the most beautiful woman you’ve seen in years on the arm of the ugliest/nerdiest/oldest man you’ve ever seen. I’m sure your first thought was, “Wow, that guy must be filthy freakin’ rich!” Well, maybe. Maybe not. Either way, that’s probably not the whole story.

The Difference Between Guys And Girls

Men and women become sexually aroused for different reasons. Men are visual, and women are multisensory. While men can get turned on by even a hint of naked flesh, women incorporate all their senses and feelings into arousal. So even if the man isn’t the most visually appealing, he could be brilliant with a wicked sense of humor and smells nice and tastes like chocolate mousse, and, yes, maybe he pays for dinner. One thing you can guarantee, he has admitted to goals outside getting that woman into bed.

When It Comes To Having Sex

Women look at the whole package, or at least aspects of the package you don’t. When men see a beautiful woman, they are physically capable of having sex with her in a matter of seconds, and probably able to finish not long after that. (This is part of the reason Playboy has remained one of the most successful publications in American history, and why Playgirl tanked when gay men got their own porn.) Women, however, need to have other senses satisfied. A good conversation is as erotic to a woman as her low-cut blouse is to you.

Sex And Emotion

This brings us to the next point: to a woman, sex and emotion are not mutually exclusive. A woman has to feel an emotional connection to her partner in order to enjoy the sex. This does not mean that a woman cannot have casual sex. It simply means that there must be an understanding of mutual respect between partners for a woman to be satisfied.

All that requires is for the man to be aware of the fact that there is a living, breathing, responsive human under him. Stated as such, that may be obvious, but it is quite overlooked. While you’re hoping you don’t have premature ejaculation, she is feeling every moment of the process and evaluating it. If you’re ignoring her while you’re inside her, she can sense it, and may see it as a form of rejection. This will not make her want to have sex with you again.

If You Can Make Her Orgasm

So there you go, if the ugly/nerdy/old guy can get a supermodel (and make her orgasm), then by all means you should be able to get the cute girl two cubes down from you. Just appeal to all her senses. And throw on some Barry White. That never hurt anyone.