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How To Lick Her Clitoris And Make Her WET!

Oral sex can be divine for a woman. If you do it just right, she’ll be dripping on the sheets when you’re done.

Men are incredibly penis-centric beings. They love to look at it, touch it, talk about it, and some men even name it! However, women are not as into your penis as you are. In fact, they tend to orgasm significantly more often when it’s not your penis doing the job. The vaginal wall has very little in the way of nerves. It’s the clitoris, which is on the outside, that makes the O-face happen. That is, if you treat it right.

Don’t Go Straight For The Clitoris!

Do not just dive right in. It will only irritate her. I know you’re thinking, “But it feels so awesome every single time someone touches my penis, so how can it not be the same for chicks’ clits?” The clitoris and the penis are extremely similar in shape and function, but there are some differences. Her pleasure organ is largely internal, and not as weathered as your well-beaten member, so it is quite a bit more sensitive.

She Gets Erect Too, You Know

When she is in a neutral state, the head of her clitoris is exposed. The head is the home to over 8,000 nerve endings, which is why it is so much better than your penis is at having orgasms, but also why your fingers feel like cheese graters on her under-stimulated organ.

However, when the woman is aroused, the erectile tissues fill with blood, and the clitoris becomes erect (sound familiar?) In its erect state, the head slides under the clitoral hood where it is protected and coated with sebum produced in her body. Meaning, she gets wet.

Wetter Is Better

The importance of wetness can never be over stated. Without it, you shouldn’t even bother to get an erection, because she’s not going to let you touch her with it. So how can you achieve that desired state? Well, you could immediately run to your trusty water-based, mango flavored lube, dump it in your hand, smear it all over her vulva, and jam your penis in there, or you could do it the way she likes it.

That means foreplay. A sweet kisses, nipple biting, and everything in between is what she really needs. If you can provide her with ample stimulation before you even go near her clitoris, it will significantly cut down on the awkward prodding that takes place when you try to go in cold.

Lick Slowly And Softly

Start out by licking slowly and softly, as though you were enjoying a delicious treat – because you are! You may think that as soon as you put your tongue down there she’s going to explode, but she’s going to need plenty of time to build up an orgasm. So don’t rush it!

Lick her clitoris every few times, in between licking the rest of her vulva as well. Yeah, the clitoris is where it’s at, but her labia and vaginal opening have super sensitive nerves that feel divine when you run your tongue over them. Do all of this and she’ll be dripping by the time you’re done!

Don’t Forget About The Rest Of Her Body Too!

Women are walking erogenous zones. They don’t have just the one sex organ that is the epicenter of awesomness. A woman’s whole body is covered in little spots that get them hot. Where those exact spots varies from woman to woman, and day to day. But figuring out where they are is all part of the fun.

How To Be The KING Of Foreplay!

By isabellastone

Foreplay is crucial, because great sex starts before penetration. Women need foreplay to become fully aroused, because they simply just don’t “turn on” instantly like a lot of guys do. But many men tend to overlook foreplay, because they think that if they pound away harder, his partner will orgasm faster and harder. Hey, it holds true for him, why not for her?

Unfortunately, this is completely untrue, and can actually guarantee that your partner will not get to orgasm at all. Most women don’t climax during actual intercourse and if they do, it’s because there was some heavy foreplay first. In fact, some of the most intense orgasms a woman can have are through foreplay alone. If you don’t engage in foreplay first, it’s likely that your partner isn’t going to want to have sex with you very often! Instead, here are the things you need to know to be the best of the best when it comes to giving your lover the right kind of foreplay.

Learn To Use Your Fingers

After some deep kissing and heavy petting, you want to move on to her vulva. Get her nice and warmed up first, by lightly touching all around the area and kissing it and maybe even licking around a little.

Once she’s warmed up enough, make sure to focus your attention on her clitoris and G -Spot – these should be your first priority. Of course, if she’s not fully aroused first and isn’t craving your touch, you’re not going to get very far. This is part of why foreplay is so important – if you head straight for the clitoris or G-spot and your partner isn’t fully aroused, it could be very uncomfortable for them.

Also, it is very important for you to remember to keep your fingernails clean and trimmed smoothly. Although a workin’ man with very “manly,” callused hands can be a turn on to some women, no girl wants you to start putting your hands down there when they are filthy and grimy.

Talk Dirty To Her

Dirty talk is a great way to get a woman so hot and bothered, that it will become much easier for her to let her body go, and have loads of very powerful orgasms, without even thinking about it. Next time you’re in the sack, whisper a few sexy things in her ear about how much you love what is happening, how good it feels, what you want her to do or what you’re going to do to her next. This works wonders in getting a woman incredibly turned on!

Get Your Grope On

Remember when you were younger, and simply fondling a girl was the most exciting thing to happen all week? Well, don’t be afraid to bring that back! And don’t just grab her breasts and butt! Gently scratch your nails down her back, tug her hair a little, and massage her inner-thighs.

The next time you see your girl minding her own business, don’t be afraid to get your grope on! Just because you’re older now and you’ve had sex, it doesn’t mean that sex should be the primary goal every time you start fooling around. Think back to the old days when it was fun, exciting and a little scary to grope around without knowing what will happen next!

When you can combine groping, dirty talk, and amazing skills with your fingers, thee is no doubt that your lover will go nuts every time you are in the room. So now it’s your duty to go out there, and please her booty!

Oral Sex: Common Objections And How To Conquer Them

By loveandsex

Oral sex is an incredible gift to give to a woman, but if she has some reservations about it, it’s not going to be enjoyable. Here’s how to get over those obstacles.

Sixty-Nine Is Uncomfortable And Awkward

You aren’t alone. Depending on the angle that you two choose to 69 in, it can be pleasurable or a pain. The easiest way to get around this dilemma is to lie down next to each other on your sides, which will help to minimize any issues with height differences or who holds the other person’s weight. But sixty-nine really isn’t the optimal position for oral sex for either partner. Use it as an introduction or during foreplay, but not the main event. It’s just too hard for most women to focus on giving you pleasure and having enough in-their-head time to get to orgasm themselves.

She Says She’s Not in the Mood

It’s pretty common for a woman to feel like she’s being held back from really enjoying herself, especially if she’s being given oral sex by a guy for the first time. To reduce some of the pressure, try turning off the lights or using really low lights (such as candles) to help her feel more sexy and able to let go.

It Takes Her a Long Time To Orgasm So She Chafes

If you know that you’re going to be down there for a long while, avoid the chafing issues (both of her bits and yours) by using some lube. Make it even more pleasurable by trying out different kinds of flavored lubes, but make sure to ask her a few days after if she liked it, because some flavored lubes use so much sugar in them for flavoring that it can affect the delicate balance of her nether regions negatively (meaning: they can give her a yeast infection).

She Won’t Let Me Make Her Orgasm and I’m Getting Frustrated

You want to see this as your partner’s problem, but really, it’s not. This is a communication issue, not one of her not wanting to orgasm under your tender loving care. Think back to what she’s said regarding her orgasms in the past. Does she prefer a certain position, or does she have problems getting to climax with just your tongue? Does she use a vibrator while masturbating on her own? Has anyone ever made her orgasm?

Think about the answers to those questions. If you don’t know, it’s time to ask. Then, it’s time to invest some serious energy into figuring out what the issue is, without pressuring her so much that she’s not interested in being with you anymore.

She Says She’s Never Had an Orgasm With Oral Sex

This is entirely possible. Either she hasn’t been comfortable enough with her other partner(s) to really let go and feel the pleasure they’ve given her, or maybe they just didn’t have the necessary skills to make her climax. Either way, there’s nothing wrong with her. If anything, you want to take her admission as a challenge! Plus, after reading through this entire series and working through all of the steps one by one with your partner, if you really listen to her and her body language, it’s unlikely she’ll ever be able to say again that oral sex doesn’t make her orgasm.

She Doesn’t Want To Wake the Neighbors

There are some women who definitely get loud when they have an orgasm, especially one with g-spot stimulation. If she’s louder than your average gal, or if the walls are especially thin, you have a couple of options:

Put some music on. Not only will it create a bit of ambiance, but it’ll mask some of the louder sounds your gal might make
If your bed is the culprit (i.e. squeaky bedsprings) try another position or location to see if it helps with the sound issue;
Soundproof your room a bit, by either covering the walls with heavy blankets (think of them as mood enhancers), or using old egg cartons covered up by fabric. Both will trap another layer of air and thus, sound leaving you to be louder than normal without too many worries.
Give your partner something to put her in mouth to muffle her screaming, although make sure that you do this when her arms are free so she can remove it if it happens to cover her nose or mouth in the throes of passion.
Change locations. Sometimes, there’s no other way than to find somewhere secluded and out of the way to avoid any issues with noise. Just make sure that you won’t be interrupted, and won’t be upsetting anyone nearby before going for it.

She’s Worried She Doesn’t Taste or Smell Right

There are women who normally have a unique smell or taste to them perhaps because of their diet or medications and then there are women who smell, er, not quite right because they have some sort of infection. If your partner is worried that something’s off about her nether regions, take note. She’s aware of her sexual health more than anyone, so she may be telling you that there’s something wrong without actually coming out and saying it.

Then again, many women are worried about how they smell or taste because someone has put it into their head that there’s something wrong with their body, when really they were merely seeing the normal fluctuations in their body chemistry throughout the month. Or, the person giving them oral sex wasn’t familiar with their natural aroma, and made a not-so-positive comment that stuck with her. As an aside, if you remember from earlier in today’s reading, I fell into the latter category because of my first sexual experience, and it took me many years to get over it. Eventually, I learned that how I smelled was normal great even! – but I was self-conscious about oral sex because of that comment for way too long.

So your first task is to find out, gently, which category your gal falls into. Is she worried about infection, had a bad experience, or is merely cautious? The easiest way to find out is to ask, but if that’s too difficult, then try starting your oral sex escapades with a bath or shower. If she’s still smelling or tasting ‘off’, it may be that her cycle is near, or she may have an infection. If you suspect an infection, suggest the two of you go in, together, to get tested for STD’s. That way, if the doctor finds out it’s just a yeast infection, you can both get treated so that you don’t pass it back and forth without killing it altogether.

If she smells amazing to you however, then you can safely assume she’s being self-conscious. So what can you do in this situation?

Tell your partner how much you love the way they smell, taste, feel even when you aren’t in the bedroom. If it makes her feel better, start oral sex off with a bath or shower, or use a flavored or scented dental dam to alleviate her fears. Slowly, she’ll learn that her body is amazing, self-cleaning, and will regulate itself on its own. And hopefully, she’ll learn to love her taste and smell as much as you do so much so that she doesn’t mind kissing you after you’ve gone down on her. If however after a few months of regular input, and trying out some of the suggestions made in the next section, if she’s still worried about her freshness and you aren’t noticing any issues, there may be deeper seated issues that might be better served by the help of a therapist or doctor to work through.

She’s Lonely When I’m Going Down On Her

There’s an inherent disconnect when giving someone oral sex; it’s challenging to make eye contact while buried deep between her legs, and you really need to concentrate on what you’re doing and how she’s reacting to make it all come together. So although it’s intense by definition, some women find that cunnilingus creates an emotional wedge.

When this is a concern, the easiest way to rectify it is to touch her more. Instead of placing yourself right in between her legs, straddle one instead and use it to rub your penis on she’ll quickly feel just how aroused you going down on her makes you. Touch her with your free hand whenever you can. Make eye contact every few licks to see how she’s doing, or take a tiny breather to tell her how amazing she looks.

What Exactly Is The “Vulva?”

By loveandsex

Sex tips are all about what to do, right? Wrong! You’d be surprised at how many sex tips guys have read and still don’t know what a “vulva” is – do you?

Most Guys Don’t Know What It Is – And Why It’s Different From The Vagina

An unfortunate amount of men are grossly uninformed about the vulva. Everyone knows about the vagina – that’s where the penis goes. When I say the word “clitoris,” there are some of you high five-ing each other going, “Hell, yeah, I know about the clit!” However, upon hearing “vulva,” most are either scratching their heads or answering something like, “It’s, you know, down there.” Well, it’s your lucky day. I’m going to explain what it is, and what exactly is “down there.”

The first thing that may surprise you is that the vulva is not a thing. It’s all the things. Contained in the vulva are the mons veneris, labia majora, the urethra, the clitoris, the vaginal opening, and the perineum. There are some other things in there, but for our purposes we’ll focus on just these.

Mons Veneris

The Mons Veneris is more commonly referred to as the Mound of Venus – the fatty tissue over the pubic bone. It is most easily distinguished by the fact that it is where the bush is. Or, if she is waxed, where the bush would be.

Labia Majora

Labia majora literally means “big lips.” I hope you are able to imagine where I’m going with this. They are the two folds that protect all the good stuff underneath. There is usually hair growing on them. However, again, in this day and age do not be shocked if that area is bare. Plus, it’s easier to see if labia majora are turning red. If they are, it means she’s turned on.

The Urethra

The little hole where the pee comes out. Don’t put your penis in there.

The Clitoris

If you do not know about the clitoris, you are in trouble, pal. This is the one and only place you can stimulate that will virtually guarantee an orgasm. It is covered with a thing called the “clitoral hood,” because it’s a hood – over the clitoris. Right up under there is the epicenter of nerve endings. If you can get your tongue, finger, or head of your penis on that spot, you have struck gold. Your woman will thank you dearly.

Vaginal Opening

Otherwise known to you as “Jackpot!” It is located below the urethra, and this is the place you can put your penis.

Perinium

The Perinium is a little known area of nerve endings. It is located between the vagina and the anus. You call yours a chode. If you lick that spot lightly, she’ll get a pleasant shock.

So, unless you’re referring to her actual vagina (you know, the Jackpot), then when you say “vagina,” you’re really talking about the vulva.

The TRUTH About The Clitoris (What You Never Dared To Ask!)

By lloydlester

The female orgasm doesn’t have to be elusive – just focus your attention on her clitoris and you’ll have her screaming your name over and over again!

Giving a woman the infamous clitoral orgasm has always been a mystery for many men. The breathtaking sexual release that accompanies each orgasm is something that most men never quite fathom. But inducing a clitoral orgasm is something that you should try to achieve in any lovemaking session.

Is It A Woman’s Thing?

Well, some men consider clitoral stimulation to be a woman’s personal task, and should be done by the woman during self-stimulation or masturbation. Personally, this is an unjust observation, because when it comes to a man’s sexual satisfaction, women are always willing to pleasure their partners. So why not fulfill her sexual cravings too? It takes two to make love, and when one partner is not sexually fulfilled, the relationship can easily get stagnated.

Multi-Tasking For Clitoral Ecstasy

When you are having intercourse, you should also explore different ways to give your female partner greater pleasure in bed. For example, when you are penetrating her, you should find ways to arouse her clitoris – that mound of flesh found anterior to the labia minora. This will greatly increase the odds of both of you achieving a simultaneous climax – something that many couples covet, but few actually achieve it.

Why Are Clitoral Orgasms Highly Favored?

Clitoral orgasm is very much favored because of one unique reason: it can be induced in many ways that most men can never imagine. You see, the clitoris is known to have many nerve endings, and thus is highly sensitive to stimulation. The plain, cold, and rusty sexual encounters can be livened up into hot and steamy sessions once the couple becomes inventive in bed.

Many women fancy thrilling sexual explorations through various ways of arousing the clitoris. Some women prefer direct stimulation while others find the ‘direct approach’ a little too sensitive to their liking. If you have the good fortune to observe how your partner stimulates herself, you will be able to tell exactly how she likes to be pleasured. You can then give her that pleasure exactly the way she wants it.

If there is only one thing you learn today, always remember that you should accept the fact that your woman needs stimulation to her clitoris during penetration in order to achieve an orgasm. Give her the clitoral orgasm that she wants (and certainly deserves), and the both of you will surely enjoy a more satisfying sex life to boot!