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Fingering – How To Make Her SQUEAL!

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Fingering your lover’s clitoris can give her orgasms like she’s never had before. Learn how to make her gasp with delight using these awesome techniques.

Everyone likes a good massage. It’s relaxing, and it loosens the muscles. However, did you know that there’s a different kind of massage you can use during sex? It’s the vulva massage. That’s right, you massage her vulva. I’m not talking about that “warm apple pie” nonsense that has misled men for years, I’m talking about taking care of her genitals in a way that makes her responsive to your touch.

Before we continue, let’s do a refresher on what exactly the vulva is. In it a nutshell, it’s the lady bits. The major parts of the vulva include the labia majora, the labia minora, the clitoris and clitoral hood, the vagina, and the perineum. All of these are utilized in a good vulva massage. They all provides sensations superior to vaginal penetration alone. Let me repeat this concept for effect: vaginal penetration alone does not get a woman off! You must learn to utilize all parts of the vulva for optimum satisfaction. Here are just a few of the many techniques that may be applied.

The “Hello” Technique

This is named aptly for two reasons: it mimics a wave, and it’s an excellent technique to use in your approach. With her legs spread, face her sitting between her legs or to one side. Raise your hand as if you’re waving, and cup her entire vagina with it. Move your palm in slow, gentle circles. Whether you do so in clockwise or counterclockwise motions is up to you and your partner. This move gives indirect stimulation to the clitoris, amping up her arousal.

The Labia Glide

This is a two-handed exercise, and can be done with either full palms or just your thumbs. With one had on each of her labia majora (aka the big lips), you want to glide your palms or thumbs up and down along the labia. This can then be broken down into two sub-categories:

  1. Move your hands together. If you stroke up, both hands stroke up. If you stroke down, both stroke down. She will feel your hands rubbing along the sides of her clitoris.
  2. Move your hands in opposition. This provides more indirect stimulation of her clitoris. The labia will rub against it as they rub against each other, making for some very sweet friction.

The Spread And Squeeze

This technique is to balance the Labia Glide. Still concentrating on the labia majora, take them in between your thumb and forefinger and pinch them together. Then use your fingers to spread them apart. Repeat in a slow, rhythmic motion. It is best used if you position this technique directly over her clitoris. If she is super sensitive, this may even make her orgasm!

How To Find The G-Spot And Give Her Sheet Soaking Squirting Orgasms!

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G-spot stimulation has the power to give women incredible squirting orgasms – if done the right way. Lots of guys make the mistake of fingering a woman and never reaching her g-spot, or if they do, they have no idea how to stimulate it to give her an orgasm. First you have to find the g-spot, which is much, much easier if she’s aroused first. Once you find it, you have to stroke her just the right way to bring her to climax. It’s easy to do it too soft or too hard, and you need just the right amount of pressure to really get your lover to squirt. If you want to learn how to make your partner orgasm so fast and so hard you’ll have no choice but to change the sheets afterwards, here’s what you need to do.

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Make Sure She’s Turned On And Well Lubricated

G-spot stimulation can feel extremely pleasurable for a woman if she’s turned on and well lubricated before you insert your finger. The g-spot is actually quite difficult to find if your lover isn’t aroused, so you want to spend plenty of time on foreplay first, before you head down south. When she’s aroused, the g-spot actually engorges with blood and “plumps up” so to speak, so you can feel it much more easily with your fingers. You also want to make sure she’s plenty wet enough to start, because if she’s not, the dry friction can really be uncomfortable or painful for her.

The Key Is Foreplay!

The key to giving your lover incredible squirting orgasms is making sure you’re spending enough time on foreplay before getting started on her g-spot. Women need lots of warm up time, and they need to be mentally, emotionally and physically relaxed and open before a squirting orgasm will ever happen. If you spend enough time on foreplay, by the time you get down to her vagina, she’s going to be begging you for release! Here are some great foreplay ideas:

  • Oral sex. Women love oral sex and you can actually give her one or two orgasms this way before beginning to finger her g-spot. Remember that women have a shorter refractory period than men do, so she’s actually closer to reaching an orgasm with g-spot stimulation if you’ve given her an orgasm with her clitoris first.
  • Deep, passionate kissing. Make her feel like you’ve got to have her. This will begin to stimulate and arouse her mind, which is critical for her to be able to relax and let go.
  • Sex toys. Tease and please her with a vibrator before you begin to finger her g-spot. She will love that you’re not afraid to use sex toys on her and that you want to watch her receive pleasure from them!

How Do You Find The G-Spot?

This is actually one of the most common questions guys ask when it comes to sex and female orgasms. To find the g-spot, of course, you want to have her turned on and aroused before you go looking for it. It’s located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the top wall (the stomach side, not the butt side). You can most easily reach and stimulate the g-spot by inserting one or two fingers about 2 inches into the vagina with your palm facing up. Curl your fingers in towards your body like you’re making a “come hither” motion. You should feel a spongy, textured spot on the top wall that your partner responds to when you rub it or put pressure on it. This is the g-spot!

How To Give Your Lover A Squirting Orgasm

When you find the g-spot, you’ll want to use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Start slowly and softly, and gradually work your way up to faster and firmer pressure as your lover shows that she’s enjoying it. Make sure to pay attention to her body language – if she’s scooting away from you or doesn’t seem to be actively enjoying it, you’re most likely not in the right area and are causing her pain or discomfort.

Encourage her to communicate with you and give you direction. Let her know that you want to know if it’s too hard, too soft or if she wants you to stimulate her in a different way. Be open to her suggestions and do them without taking it personally like you’re doing something wrong! Let her show you where and how to touch her!

The Big “O”

For some women, reaching a g-spot orgasm feels somewhat like she has to pee. This feeling may be very intense, and this is most likely when a girl will have a squirting orgasm. When she does climax, her vagina will contract and clamp down hard on your fingers -but don’t let up! You want to stimulate her all the way through her orgasm with the exact same speed and pressure as you had going when she first reached the big “O.”

While you don’t want to put too much pressure on her g-spot to avoid hurting her, giving her a squirting orgasm may take a little more pressure than you originally think. And it may not happen the first few times – keep practicing. You need to practice your skills and your girl needs to practice letting go. It ca be very difficult for a woman to let go enough to squirt wildly, so encourage her and give her praise if she does!

What Men Can Learn From Lesbian Sex

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Lesbian sex can sometimes be more satisfying for a woman than sex with a guy – why is that and how can you recreate it?

I know what you’re thinking. You’re expecting some “Brianna Loves Jenna” play-by-play involving pillow fights and strap-ons. Well, it’s not happening. That’s your version of lesbian sex, and you’re way off base. Women in lesbian relationships generally report a higher level of sexual satisfaction than their heterosexual counterparts. “Well, yeah,” you’re thinking, “they have the equipment.” Well, yes, but not in the way you’re thinking. The “equipment” you deem necessary for sex is just your penis, which is quite different than what women bring to the bedroom. Kissing, touching, sucking, caressing – these are all parts of a woman’s sexual experience, and you’ve been ignoring them.

Are Men Boring In Bed?

This may come as a shock to most men, but a lot of women think men are boring in the sack. This is because men think that there is a method to sex: get her wet, get inside, and get your rocks off. There is no real explanation for how this sequence of events became the norm, but it’s causing real sexual inhibitions in men.

Sex is not a job. There’s no sequence of tasks that must be performed in order to achieve the end game, i.e. blowing your wad. Concentrating solely on your own orgasm takes the intimacy out of the sexual experience. You may have gotten off, but you haven’t maximized the pleasure of either party. Okay, maybe you went down on her. Were you savoring each sensation? Or were you thinking, “Hurry up and cum so I can get up in there!”

Orgasms & Oral Sex

When two women have sex, they are not working toward one simple goal. An orgasm does not signal the end, and they don’t go in treating it as such. Every look and every touch is part of the experience. The warmth of the other’s lips, the softness of her skin, and how she responds to being touched is shared between partners. It is very much about the two coming together for mutual pleasure and shared intimacy. It is also about fun, and you know what they say about girls just wanted to have fun.

Oral sex is a very large part of lesbian sex, simply because girls recognize it as one of the greatest ways to experience an orgasm. While many girls only couples do take part in fingering each other or using strap-ons or other sex toys to pleasure their lovers, oral sex is almost always a part of true, honest to goodness lesbian sex because it just simply feels divine for the receiving partner! You can tease and please with oral sex, or you can get down and dirty and really give your lover something to squeal about. Many men disregard the importance of oral sex for a woman – because plain ol’ intercourse gets him off, it should get her off too, right? Take a cue from the lezzies and engage in some great foreplay and oral sex with your lover. Make her toes curl!

How NOT To Miss Out

Fear not, pal, there’s good news for you, too. Your heterosexual female partner is responding to your lips and hands in the same way a gay woman responds to her lover. She loves the way your skin smells and the way your breath tastes. It’s how you got her into bed in the first place. When she gives you a blowjob, it’s not because she just loves having a penis in her mouth, it’s because she savors the pleasure it provides you. Making love in this way satisfies all your senses, not just your penis. Don’t miss out on all the pleasure! You’re only cheating yourself.

Advanced Foreplay Techniques: Drive Her Wild With Nipple Play

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Advanced foreplay techniques can really up the ante in your sex life. Sex can get boring or monotonous after some time, especially when you’re with someone for months and even years. You come to expect certain things during sex and you get used to how your partner does things – and while this isn’t always a bad thing (comfortable sex can be really great sometimes) – the fire will wane after a while.

If your sex life is in a rut, you are probably looking for any and all tips and techniques that you can use to spice things up between you and your lover. Nipple play is one of the greatest advanced foreplay techniques in your arsenal. Here’s how to make her toes curl by playing with her nipples!

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Most Men Don’t Know How To Stimulate A Woman’s Nipples The Right Way

The majority of men don’t know how to stimulate a woman’s nipples in a way that will be pleasing to her. Some men forget about massaging or stimulating the breasts completely, while other guys play with them a little bit and then move on completely to other parts of her body, without ever coming back to stimulate the nipples again.

Other guys pinch too hard or manhandle a woman’s breasts, causing pain and discomfort. Very few guys actually touch a girl’s breasts and nipples the way that she likes. Did you know that you can give a woman incredibly powerful orgasms by including her breasts when using advanced foreplay techniques?

Start Slowly And Softly

Just like with anything sexual, you want to start off slowly and softly. You don’t want to grab your lover’s breasts too hard, and you don’t want to start pinching her nipples right away. You want to lead up to more direct and aggressive stimulation only after you’ve sufficiently gotten your partner turned on.

Lift her breasts when you caress them, and touch them softly. Very lightly caress her nipples with your fingers, before ever putting your lips or tongue on them. Kiss and lick all around her nipples, but don’t go for the gold just yet. You want to tease a little bit and get her craving your touch before you give it to her. Don’t forget to take your time, enjoy yourself and have fun!

Licking And Sucking Her Nipples

When using advanced foreplay techniques on your partner’s breasts, you’re going to want to put your mouth on them at some point, after you’ve touched her softly and gotten her turned on. Lick softly and slowly over her nipples with your tongue. Feel free to draw her nipple in your mouth and suck on it or flick it with your tongue for a few seconds, but do not start nursing. That is not arousing!

You can easily incorporate temperature play here by breathing softly on her nipples either with warm or cool air. Take your time, because it takes plenty of time for a woman to get really warmed up and aroused.

Taking It A Step Further

After your lover is aroused, you can start thinking about gently nibbling on her nipples or using a little more suction or pressure. A slightly firmer touch can be very pleasurable for a woman if she’s already aroused. If you start out with intense pinching or firm sucking before she’s fully and completely aroused, you’re very likely going to turn her off. The more aroused she is, the more pressure she can take (and enjoy) when you’re using advanced foreplay techniques.

Alternate Between Oral Sex And Nipple Play

To take your advanced foreplay techniques even further, you can incorporate oral sex into your nipple play. After getting your lover aroused by stimulating her nipples, you can switch to oral sex and lick her clitoris for a few minutes before switching your attention back to her breasts. If you plan to be doing this for any length of time, you definitely want to switch between at least two different areas to stimulate. If you stimulate one area for too long, it’s not going to feel as pleasurable as it did, even if it was incredibly pleasurable for her before. It may even start to hurt if you don’t move around at all!

After just a few minutes of going back and forth between her breasts and oral sex, she’s going to be begging for you to finish her off! If you want to really push her hot buttons – or if you’re looking to give her an orgasm – lightly pinch and rub her nipples at the same time you’re licking her clitoris. Listen to your lover’s moans of pleasure and pay attention to her body language to know what you need to be doing next!

Top 10 Vibrators You HAVE To Try!

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Sex toys are something every girl should have stashed away in her nightstand. Of course, ladies like a buzz, so here are ten “must try” vibrators!

The Wild G

A scary looking purple rabbit-style vibrator that really isn’t so scary once you get to know it. It’s made of soft jelly, slips in easily and has both a rotating shaft and an attachment for clitoral stimulation. Also, the rotating beads just near the base of the shaft feel surprisingly good. The only thing the Wild G doesn’t do is knock on the back door.

How To Use It: At home, by yourself, with the door locked! The Wild G doesn’t get too loud, but if someone decides to interrupt your party, it’s going to be pretty obvious that you weren’t taking a “nap.”

We-Vibe Touch

The We-Vibe Touch is a palm sized sex toy that is molded and grooved to fit both a woman’s hand and her clitoris. With a variety of vibe patterns that require just the touch of a button to activate (yes, 1 button!) this is quite possibly the easiest to use clitoral vibrator out there.

How To Use It: In the shower – this baby is 100% waterproof. It’s smooth, it’s cordless, it’s small and portable. It fits nicely in a shower caddy too. What more could you want for wet and wild masturbation?

G-Gasm Delight

Honestly, it’s the perfect g-spot stimulator. The G-Gasm Delight is made of hard plastic, so it’s well built for hard, squirting g-spot orgasms. It gets loud – especially when you turn it upside down –  so make sure you’re covered as far as privacy goes.

How To Use It: Any way you like! This lovely vibrator also substitutes as a prostate massager, so you can use it on him too. This is probably one of the least likely sex toys out there you would think could be a couples’ toy!

Freestyle W by OhMiBod

Like other g-spot/clitoral vibrators, the Freestyle W by OhMiBod is designed to stimulate both the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time. However, this lovely toy has more to it than meets the eye. This guy is designed to hook up to your music player, and it will vibrate to the beat of the music.

How To Use It: With your iPod of course! Again, privacy is an issue here. If you get caught, you may end up showing off your toys’ cool features when they realize your mp3 player is hooked up to your vibrator.

Hitachi Magic Wand

An oldie but goodie. The Hitachi Magic Wand has been around for about 30 years and is marketed as a back massager. However, women who have used the wand know that there are many more good times to be had when using it as a clitoral vibrator than a back massager. This toy goes up to 6,000 rpm’s!

How To Use It: Alone, or with a partner. This actually makes a great couples’ toy for women who have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. He can finger her or penetrate her while she uses it on her clitoris so she can experience an orgasm with her partner.

We-Vibe II

The We-Vibe II is designed to be a couples’ sex toy. One end of the massager will slip inside the woman and rest against her g-spot, while the other end wraps up and around to the clitoris. While a woman can masturbate with the We-Vibe II, it is really designed to be worn during intercourse. It’s a great way for a woman to experience an orgasm with her partner during penetration if she usually can’t.

How To Use It: With your partner. Try it in a variety of sex positions to experiment with different levels of sensation!

Ogee Twistee G-Vibe

The Ogee Twistee G-Vibe is very like the We-Vibe II in that it can be molded to rest against both the g-spot and clitoris and worn during intercourse. However, unlike the We-Vibe II, this little guy can be twisted into other shapes as well! This is actually a great option for women who have a hard to reach g-spot or a tilted cervix.

How To Use It: With or without a partner. It’s such a versatile sex toy! Experiment with different shapes to find the one you like best. Bend it any way you like, but remember the best shapes because you’ll want to go back to those!

Lelo Mia

If you’re looking for a discreet vibrator, this is it! So tiny, the Lelo Mia looks like a tube of lipstick and fits right into your purse. It also charges via USB port, so you can charge it on the go on your computer or laptop. Just say it’s a jump drive. For busy women who want a clitoral vibe, this is your best bet. Classy and discreet, but with loads of naughty pleasure.

How To Use It: On a plane, in the car, in the bathroom at work – anywhere you want because this thing is quiet. It’s unlikely that unless you make a lot of noise, anyone will know that you’re having an orgasm. Even though it’s small, it’s powerful, so you may have a difficult time keeping your trap shut.

Eve’s Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator

If you’re looking for a more traditional, dildo style vibrator, this is a great choice. It’s pretty, it’s somewhat flexible and the turn dial is super easy to use. A good choice for beginners, because it’s slim – only 1″ wide. It’s also fun for girls who are experienced with sex toys, because it just reaches those hot spots. Not super awesome at clitoral stimulation though.

How To Use It: This is yet another toy that is great to use alone or with your partner. Guys, you can use this during oral sex on her to stimulate her g-spot at the same time and try to give her a blended orgasm. Ladies, if you’re masturbating alone and need more clitoral stimulation than the Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator provides, use it in conjunction with your favorite clitoris massager.

Lelo Elise

These are luxury vibrations at their finest. Like it’s cousin the Mia, the Lelo Elise is very quiet. It’s silky smooth and just feels luxurious in your hands and in your vagina. It’s designed for insertion and curved specifically for g-spot stimulation. It’s just one of those sex toys you have to have in your toy box.

How To Use It: You can use this with a partner, but it’s much more fun to keep this gorgeous vibrator to yourself. It’s like a decadent chocolate bar that you don’t want to share. Let it be your secret.