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How To Tell If She’s Faking Her Orgasm?

An orgasm is something that almost every woman has faked at least once – but how can a guy tell a fake climax from a real one? There are lots of ways to tell the difference – here’s how to find out if she’s actually had a real climax and how you can spot a fake almost instantly.

I really don’t know, or can’t tell if a woman had a real orgasm or a fake one. If a woman had an orgasm and asks me to slow down, sometimes actually asks me to stop kissing her neck or body for a minute, does that mean the orgasm is real?

–YouTube Viewer

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How To Tell The Difference

If you’re in the moment with a woman during your partner’s orgasm and are really feeling your woman and feeling the energy, you can definitely tell if it was real or fake. A lot of guys get stuck on having the right techniques during sex that they forget to simply be aware of what is actually going on and being in the moment. If you’re not feeling any emotions or energy coming back from her during climax, she’s probably not being honest it.

Note Your Partner’s Breathing

Women begin breathing heavier when they get closer and closer to climax. She’ll be gasping for breath when she’s almost there and she may even start holding her breath for periods of time, simply because she’s so into it and what you’re doing that she literally is forgetting to breathe!

Look At The Vagina

If you’re in a position to look at the vagina while she’s nearing the big “O”, such as with oral sex, you can actually tell when she’s getting ready to climax. If it’s the real thing, your partner’s genitals are going to get a little swollen and flushed, looking pinker than before. Sometimes, when they get very engorged with blood, they can even appear dark red or purple and look much larger than normal.

Pay Attention To The Clitoris

When a woman starts to get aroused, the head of the clitoris will come out from underneath the hood. This is so it is easier for a woman to receive clitoral stimulation. However, as she gets closer and closer to orgasm, it will bury itself underneath the hood again. This is because the clitoris gets more and more sensitive as a woman gets more and more aroused, to the point where the sensations can almost be too much.

Vaginal Contractions

When a woman reaches climax, the vagina is going to start to contract and tense up, and then release very rapidly. This spasming can be felt with your fingers or your penis during sex and it is completely involuntary. This movement is actually almost impossible to fake. A woman can contract the vagina on purpose, but real orgasmic contractions are very fast and irregular, almost “fluttery” like.

After A Real Orgasm

If a woman has truly reached climax and is finished, she’s going to be ultra sensitive. The clitoris and nipples will be very sensitive and she may want you to stop everything all together. This is because after a real orgasm, it’s actually so sensitive it becomes painful.

Sweaty Sex Is Good Sex

When your partner gets close to reaching climax, she’s going to start to sweat either from all the activity you guys are doing or from the muscles being so tensed up, or both. If she’s really getting ready to reach climax, all of your partner’s muscles are going to tense up and become rigid. Your lover’s chest will get red and flushed, and the cheeks will get pink. These things won’t be happening if she’s not truly aroused – if she’s not being honest about it, the most you’re going to get is some porn star noises.

How To Spot A Fake

This technique is actually a little mean spirited, so use it wisely and only if you truly think your girl is faking orgasms. When she’s acting like she’s really close to orgasm and she’s almost there, stop everything you’re doing at once. If she was truly almost there, she’s not going to be happy that you ruined the climax. If it wasn’t the real deal, she’s likely not to show extreme upset at the fact that you stopped.

Ladies: Communicate With Your Partner

Ladies, you know that guys are liable at any time to stop what they’re doing and change it up to something completely different – which can be disastrous if you’re almost over the edge. When you’re getting close, make a point to let your partner know that he needs to keep doing whatever he’s doing until you have an orgasm. Let him know that you’re almost there – so he doesn’t stop and do something else and ruin your climax.

4 Tips To Drive Her Wild With Razor Sharp Female Orgasms

By lloydlester

Oral sex is a great way to give your lover a mind blowing orgasm. The fact is, what makes a perfect sexual life is when you give your woman the powerful orgasm she deserves. And the most wonderful way for your partner to experience the ultimate excitement is by making your woman feel you will do anything for her without asking anything in return.

Oral Sex Equals Orgasm!

Cunnilingus, in simple terms, is oral sex for women. Cunnilingus gives a heightened sexual excitation in women. If you don’t know how to do this, then it will turn out to be just another forgettable experience for your partner. But with these 4 tips below, you will certainly triumph in bed and give your lover a truly memorable erotic adventure – complete with powerful orgasms, no less!

Arousal Multiplier

Many men make the mistake of jumping right in and start stimulating their women with their tongue. While oral sex is usually considered as a form of foreplay to intercourse, you still need to get your partner warmed up first. Women are like analogs… you need to slowly turn the dial to heat it up. Take your time to playfully tease your partner; kiss on the neck and nibble on the ear lobes; gently stroke the inner thighs. All these little, sensuous gestures will turn a woman on quickly and get her ready before you start giving oral sex.

Oral Manifesto

The right way to use your tongue can be compared to how a cat or a dog drinks from a bowl of water. Try observing these animals when they drink; you will see how their tongues move in and out of their mouths at a really fast pace. This is exactly what your tongue should do when performing oral sex on a woman and licking the clitoris. Your tongue has one of the most powerful muscles in the human body. Put it to good use!

To bring this intimate mood to the next level, get creative and try out various tongue strokes (hint: circular strokes produce a tantalizing effect on most women). You can also use your tongue to spell different letters of the alphabet and see if she can guess what you are spelling. She will probably be squirming with ecstasy as she tries to figure out what you are going to do next. Go slow, use your tongue and tease your lover.

Pleasure Multiplier

When you are giving your partner oral sex, there is nothing to stop you from leveraging on the magic from your fingers. If you know how to use fingering and your tongue, you will exponentially intensify the pleasure she gets from you. Here’s the trick: when you are kissing the clitoris, use your thumb or index finger to rub it simultaneously. By giving sufficient stimulation to the clitoris, you will set up your partner for a really explosive orgasm, and make it happen in a hurry too.

Rhythmic Consistency

To give your tongue some needed rest in between strokes, and to spice things up a little, try the “humming” technique. Make use of any melody that you can think of and hum it, with the position of your head remaining unchanged. The vibration from the sound you are making will reach the vagina, providing additional stimulation to the clitoris.

When you sense your lover’s orgasm approaching (e.g. when breathing quickens; and hands start gripping the sheets), keep a steady tempo as you continue to stimulate the clitoris. Refrain from changing what you are doing, as that might cut your partner out from the orgasm she’s yearning for. Once you find a rhythm that gets your lover going, stick with it… and keep at it until you bring your partner over the edge!

Your lips and tongue are your best “tools” to bring your lover to an orgasm. Science has proven it. Experience has confirmed it. More than intercourse, oral sex is craved by many women, but delivered by very FEW men. So give your partner the pleasure she deserves, and in return you will get more sex than you could probably handle!

The A-Spot: What Is It And How To Find It

By loveandsex

An orgasm can occur a variety of ways, each providing different sensations from the other. You can give an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris or the G-spot. But have you heard about the A-spot? What is it, how do you find it and what do you do to give your girl an orgasm with it? Here’s the down low on the A-spot and how you can stimulate it to give your sex life a fresh new twist.

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What Is The A-Spot?

The A-spot is scientifically known as the “anterior fornix erogenous zone” but has also been called the AFE zone, AFE, A-spot, epicenter, deep spot or second G-spot when referring to it. The A-spot is an erogenous area inside the vagina that when touched firmly can lead to possible squirting, extra lubrication and intense arousal. This can sometimes happen even when there has been no other sexual stimulation at all. When the A-spot is continually stimulated, a woman can experience an incredibly intense, squirting orgasm.

Where Is It Located?

The A-spot is located behind the G-spot, right in front of the woman’s cervix. If you imagine that the G-spot is about two inches inside the vagina on the top wall, the A-spot is simply just a little further than that. It too is on the top wall of the vagina, but to stimulate it, you definitely need to go really, really deep. It may feel very rough or textured, and you’ll be able to tell once you’ve found it based on your partner’s level of pleasure at the time.

Once you reach the right area, she may have an instant orgasm, or she may just let you know that it feels really, really good. Communicate with your partner about what hurts and what doesn’t, because this technique can cause pain if not done properly or your partner doesn’t let you know what feels good and what hurts.

What Does It Do?

The A-spot is designed to re-direct vaginal fluids (these can be considered ejaculatory fluids) that are produced during a G-spot orgasm into vaginal lubrication. For this reason, when stimulating the A-spot, the vagina will lubricate quickly and a lot of the time, excessively. Some women report that an A-spot orgasm is much more intense than a G-spot orgasm, while other women report that they don’t feel that different at all.

How To Stimulate The A-Spot

Stimulating the A-spot isn’t that much different from doing so with the G-spot. Since they’re both located on the top wall of the vagina, you’re going to insert your fingers (one or two, depending on what your lady likes during fingering) palm side up. Curl your fingers up slightly, in a “come hither” motion.

Doing so will cause the tips of your fingers to press and rub against the A-spot. You can use the G-spot as a sort of “landmark” – if you know where it is, you can think about just going a little further. If you don’t know where it is, don’t try the A-spot technique because it’s more advanced. Start with learning more about the G-spot and how to stimulate it first.

Using Sex Toys

You can also use sex toys to stimulate the A-spot, if you have trouble doing so with your fingers. Many of the vibrators and dildos that are specifically made for G-spot stimulation can also work well for the A-spot. In fact, many sex toys that are designed for this are actually better than using your fingers, because they’re longer and many of them are designed with a special bend in the neck of the toy to reach the intended area. However, you’ll probably want to find the A-spot with your fingers first, before using sex toys, so you know where it is and where you want to put the toy.

Communication And A Safe Word

Communicating with your partner about how this technique feels and whether it hurts or not is extremely important for this to work, especially considering how deep you’re going. You can easily cause pain! Make sure your partner knows that she needs to be honest with you about how she’s feeling, and encourage her to use a safe word if it hurts and she’d like the activity to stop. She can say “stop,” unless that doesn’t really mean “stop.” A safe word is better because you’ll both know exactly what she means (that she’s in pain) and that she for sure wants to stop.

My Libido Is Too High! What Do I Do?

By dicksinthecity

My libido is extreme! I’m a girl and when I’m in a committed relationship, I really like sex. A lot. I have a more prominent libido than any girl I know. My past boyfriends couldn’t handle it. I’m kind of insecure about my sexual needs. My current man says he’s okay with it. How much sex drive is normal for a girl?

What She Said:

How much you want is what’s right for you – there isn’t anything as “too much,” though some may argue there can be too little! It honestly sounds like you’ve got the perfect situation – you enjoy having a lot of sex with someone you love, you’re in love and your partner is happy to help you fulfill the frequency. I wish I could expand on this, but I don’t see a problem.

The misconception that a woman’s sex drive is lower than a man’s is just that – a misconception. Many women have a higher libido than their man, especially as they get older. A man comes into his sexual peak in his early twenties, while a woman doesn’t come into her sexual peak until her thirties and even forties!

It sounds like you know what you like and how much you like it, all while satiating your needs in a healthy and safe way. You may have had boyfriends in the past that judged you (perhaps because they couldn’t keep up), but now you’re with someone who’s a better match for you sexually, and hopefully emotionally. I’ll say to you what you probably say to your lucky boyfriend, “Keep it up!”

If you and your current beau break up and you end up with a guy who can’t fulfill your sexual needs (and you really like him and aren’t interested in finding someone else who can meet your sexual needs), you can consider incorporating sex toys into your routine. If your man just isn’t in the mood, light some candles, take a hot, relaxing bath and have fun masturbating by yourself! There’s nothing wrong with a woman getting it on with herself, even when she’s in a relationship. Lots of men and women enjoy masturbation in addition to a healthy, happy sex life.

What He Said:

You’re not banging random guys on the street corner, are you? (If so, call me and tell me which corner) So there’s nothing wrong with screwing your man’s brains out. I’ve often said that a football stadium full of teenage boys on Viagra couldn’t keep up with an uninhibited woman’s libido.

Guys are notorious for getting caught choking the chicken when they’re in a relationship, because so many women expect that a man must solely be satisfied with sex with his partner alone. However, men usually enjoy a combination of getting busy with their woman (a blowjob is by far better than masturbation) as well as satisfying themselves when their girl isn’t available. There’s no reason it can’t be the same for a woman – if your guy just isn’t up to it and you’re rearing and ready to go, hop in bed for a little solo session. Your man just might walk in on you and want to join the fun!

Can your man keep up with you? No, but he will have fun trying. Relax and enjoy it and for God’s sake get him a truck load of those little blue pills!

7 Titillating Tips To Unleash The Sexual Desires In Her

By lloydlester

Even the best sex advice in the world doesn’t shine a candle to this amazing suggestions on how to get a “good girl” to shed her own inhibitions and become a wild, sexy and sex-obsessed woman in bed. This is something that probably every guy would love an answer to. The simple truth is that most women have this dual “good girl/bad girl” characteristic in them.

You see, a normal woman, even one who appears prim, proper and pristine, will experience moments in her life when she is more or less sexually expressive. The truth is that you hold the amazing power to quickly shift a woman’s feelings and emotions about her own sexuality and sexual ability. You can make her suddenly feel a sexual connection with you and become wild and sexually adventurous. The key lies in YOU achieving a balance with your own sexuality and sexual desires.

Don’t Be Afraid To Reveal Your Own Desires To Her

By the law of reciprocity, your willingness to open up to her holds the key to bring out the more adventurous and wild streak in her. For example, if she’s a little apprehensive, try revealing your own sexual fantasies first. Tease her out of her sexual shell and heighten her anticipation of what’s to come next.

When You Are Making Love To Her, Touch Her With Confidence

Increase her desire by exercising self-restraint. For instance, refrain from heading straight for her clitoris during sex. Instead, tease her playfully. Kiss her gently, allowing your tongue to work its magic on all her sensual spots, from her ears, to her neck, down her navel (skip her vagina) and traverse down her inner thighs to her toes.

Revel In Her Sexuality

Learning to genuinely appreciate her body is extremely powerful in getting her to totally relax and be ready for your advances. Most women feel insecure about their bodies and how they look, so compliment parts of her body and make her feel hot and sensuous about herself. Women respond very well to positive reinforcement. So let her know that you appreciate her body for all its splendor and how you enjoy the things that she does to you in bed.

Know What You Are Doing In Bed

Understand the facts about female sexuality and how to give her an orgasm. Sex is not just about using tricks, tips and techniques, although these are important aspects of sensational lovemaking. It is also equally important to pay attention how you can connect with her emotionally before and during sex.

Give Her The Right Kind Of Foreplay

Talking about foreplay, you should know that women need to be adequately aroused and stimulated from sufficient amounts of pre-intercourse stimulation before they are ready. Contrary to what most men believe, touching and caressing her private parts and engaging in oral sex are not really considered proper foreplay. These are really sexual acts on their own, and not the sexual prelude that woman generally needs. Foreplay should involve mental activities that will heighten her arousal (such as talking dirty) as well as physical acts that target her non-sexual erogenous areas (e.g. massaging her back).

Address Any Performance Issues Immediately

If there are issues that hamper your performance or ability in bed, address these as soon as possible. For instance, if you find yourself ejaculating prematurely during sex or if you have problems with erectile dysfunction, make sure you get the right help and deal with these without delay. There are many effective self-help programs that improves a man’s performance and their overall sexual confidence.

Never Force Yourself On Her

Don’t pressure her to have sex when she is not in the mood. You can still connect with her in a different manner – give her a sensuous massage or cuddle together in front of the fireplace, for instance. If you get her in the right frame of mind before sex, making her climax suddenly becomes ten times easier for you. A woman’s mind is her most powerful sex organ… it is THE focal point of her orgasm. If you can make her feel completely comfortable in your presence and make out with you with total abandon, giving her a powerful climax is in most cases, just a clitoral rub away!

Believe it or not, by simply demonstrating these characteristics, you will bring about powerful and lasting changes in the way your woman views her ability to indulge in wild, adventurous and wanton sex!