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Q&A: Sexually Unsatisfied – How To Tell Him?

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Every woman deserves sexual satisfaction but unfortunately, there are many women that remain sexually unsatisfied in their relationships and don’t know how to change it. Here’s how to tell your partner that you’re not getting what you need in the bedroom – even if they don’t seem to care.

Question: My boyfriend thinks women who are sexually unsatisfied are selfish if they go out and end up cheating because they’re unsatisfied. As well, if the man isn’t giving her orgasms she shouldn’t fake it or not tell him but just sit there and deal with it! I know it’s not right to cheat, or even fake it for that matter, but what’s a woman to do if she’s not happy? What should I say to him to make him realize the world isn’t working in his favor?

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Be Patient And Encouraging

If your partner isn’t giving you sexual satisfaction, it’s important to stay patient with them and be encouraging. When they do something that you like, let them know how much it turned you on or satisfied you. Encourage them to do what you really enjoy, without telling your partner what they’re doing wrong. Men are actually very sensitive when it comes to their bedroom techniques and can sometimes be put off if you criticize them. Instead, just make sure to let him know when he does something that you really like, and ask him to keep doing it. Remember, he can’t read your mind. You have to let him know when he does something right! Be patient and give him time to start doing the things you enjoy in the bedroom.

Talk To Your Partner

If encouraging your partner to do the things you like isn’t working, it might be time to have an honest, open discussion with them about how you’re not feeling satisfied sexually. Again, this is not a conversation where you want to be critical or talk down to down to your partner. When discussing your sexual needs with your partner, make it all about you. Don’t accuse your partner of not satisfying you – instead, tell your partner that you’re having trouble reaching orgasm and suggest some new things you want to try in the bedroom. If you make the conversation about him and what he’s doing wrong, he won’t hear a word you say.

Is It Time To Move On?

If your partner isn’t into trying to satisfy you sexually, especially if you’ve made your needs very clear in the nicest way possible, it might be time for you to sit down and think about whether you’re with the right person or not. You deserve to be happy and sexually satisfied in any relationship you’re in, and even if you’re single! You don’t have to stay with your partner out of guilt, and if he’s not making you happy sexually, you have to think about how important that is in your life. Are you willing to go without any kind of sexual satisfaction just to keep this relationship? Chances are, no. If he won’t make an effort to make sex as good for you as it is for him, it might be time to find someone who will.

Q&A: Frustrated Girl Unable To Orgasm

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Many women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. While some women are able to give themselves multiple orgasms or different kinds of orgasms, other women struggle to reach climax. If you’re having a hard time having an orgasm – through sex or masturbation – you’re not alone. Here’s how to overcome it.

Question: I am a healthy female & I love sex. However, I cannot pleasure myself! How can I tell my boyfriend what to do when I don’t know for myself? I have a vibrator which feels good but I can’t seem to give myself an orgasm with that, or without. I get to a point where I am right there, but then I suddenly get too sensitive to the point where it uncomfortable and I get turned off.

I have had about 5 orgasms in my life, two being with my boyfriend because he can reach my G-spot where as I can’t. The other three were long ago. How can I get my body to stop being dumb and let me have an orgasm? Please help!

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Experiment With Pleasure

There are lots of different ways to stimulate yourself and lots of different ways for your partner to stimulate you. Experiment with different rhythms, pressures and positions to find what you like best. If your vibrator isn’t doing it for you, try looking for another one. Try a vibrator that allows for both clitoral, vaginal and g-spot stimulation or try one that you can use with your partner. Try different sex positions with your partner, including doggy style and woman on top. The important thing when you’re experimenting with pleasure is not to get obsessed with not being able to have an orgasm. Just relax and have fun. Enjoy yourself and let whatever happens happen.

Physical Simulation vs. Emotional Stimulation

For many women who can’t have an orgasm, it’s not purely about the type of physical stimulation that she’s receiving. For a great orgasm, a woman needs emotional stimulation as well. While this is not always the case – because many women are able to have great casual sex and reach orgasm that way successfully – a lot of women in relationships have a hard time reaching orgasm because they’re just not as emotionally connected to their partner as they need to be. Try talking to your partner. Have a good, open conversation about anything. Share opinions with each other and work towards being emotionally closer together. You’ll be surprised at how much better sex can be when you’re on the same mental and emotional page as your partner!

Don’t Give Up!

Women who struggle with reaching orgasm through sex or masturbation don’t have to suffer alone. Many women go through this and there’s help out there! Grab a few books or a DVD that teaches women the best tips for masturbation, or watch a few sex instruction videos with your partner to get a few new ideas. If you continue to have difficulty with sexual pleasure, visit your doctor. He or she can rule out any medical reasons why you aren’t able to reach orgasm during sex. You can also visit a sex therapist, who will dig a little deeper and try to discover the root of the problem to help you reach a solution. Just don’t give up! Every women is able to have an orgasm – her body was built for it.

Q&A: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Like When I Touch Her G-Spot

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Finding a woman’s g-spot and learning how to give her pleasure can make your sex life hotter, but what if your partner doesn’t like g-spot stimulation? Does it mean that you are doing something wrong, or that your partner just doesn’t like having her g-spot stimulated? Here’s what you can do if your partner doesn’t dig g-spot pleasure.

Question: My girlfriend says it’s uncomfortable when I touch her g-spot and she feels like she needs to pee. Any tips on making it more pleasurable for her?

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Feeling The Need To Pee

It is actually very common for women to feel like they have to pee during sex. Does this translate into the true need to urinate? Not usually – although it is possible. Many of the nerve endings near a woman’s vagina and clitoris are tied together, including the nerve endings to the bladder. It is not at all out of the ordinary for a woman to feel like she has to pee when she is being stimulated one way or another. Although it is common, it doesn’t mean that it is comfortable for your partner. It can distract her from feeling pleasure because she’s afraid she’ll urinate during sex. Sex will be more pleasurable for your partner if she’s not worried about being embarrassed in front of you.

What You Can Do

There are a few things you can do to help your partner alleviate the feeling of needing to urinate during sex. Have your partner go to the bathroom right before sex. This way, she knows she doesn’t have to actually urinate and can simply attribute these feelings to other nerve endings being stimulated. Your partner can actually stop taking liquids an hour or two before sex also, if this makes her feel better. Remember that iced tea and coffee are both diuretics, meaning that these may make her feel like she has to urinate more often than usual. If your partner is also on a medication that causes her to feel the need to pee often, talk to your doctor about a change in medication if possible.

Changing Your Techinques

You may be stimulating her g-spot too hard or too quickly if she’s still finding it uncomfortable to be stimulated there. Make sure you allow your partner plenty of warm up time before trying to stimulate her g-spot, and you can go one step further by ensuring she has an orgasm before you even head for the g-spot. Often, a woman will find vaginal stimulation uncomfortable or even painful if she hasn’t been allowed enough time for foreplay. Foreplay allows the vagina to moisten and relax and sends signals to the brain to get ready for sex. Make sure she is wet or use plenty of lube to avoid any discomfort caused by friction. Communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t and ask for her suggestions. Ladies, take this opportunity to purchase a great sex toy and try stimulating your g-spot on your own. When you find out what feels good, let your partner know and show him how to do what you like.

The Key To Giving Women Multiple Orgasms

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A lot of men wish they could give their women multiple orgasms, and many women wish their partners could too! Giving your woman more than one orgasm might seem impossible, but it’s not! There is 1 simple key to giving your partner multiple orgasms during sex, and most men are simply missing it! It’s so easy you’ll be able to do it every time you have sex. Here’s how:

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The Biggest Mistake Men Make During Sex

The biggest mistake that almost all men make during sex is not giving their partner an orgasm before intercourse. A lot of men simply jump the gun. He may give her a little bit of foreplay before penetration, but because pentration is the focus for him, he assumes it’s the focus for his partner too. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Many women can’t have an orgasm through intercourse alone, but they often will have an orgasm with intercourse if they’ve had an orgasm previously through manual or oral stimulation.

How A Woman Can Have Multiple Orgasms

Women are more easily able to have multiple orgasms during sex than men. The idea behind this is that while men come down quickly after an orgasm, women actually stay on the verge of climax after they’ve had an orgasm – they don’t come down right away. The first orgasm sends blood and hormones to her most sensitive spots, such as her G-spot and her clitoris. A man, however, is just the opposite. His body sends blood and hormones to his penis during stimulation and after orgasm, the blood returns to the rest of his body and his penis becomes slack. A woman’s body is primed for another orgasm after the first one, whereas after his orgasm, a man’s body is primed for rest and recovery. By giving her an orgasm by going down on her or via manual stimulation, you will allow her to be closer to climax during penetration.

Giving Her An Orgasm Before Intercourse

In order to give your partner multiple orgasms, you need to focus on her primarily during foreplay. Make foreplay all about her, and either give her manual or oral stimulation. Learn how to go down on her if you don’t already know how – oral sex is your most powerful ally if you want to give her multiple orgasms during intercourse. Combine oral and manual stimulation for a combination G-spot and clitoral orgasm. You can also use toys or vibrators – whatever your partner likes. The objective during this stage of sex is to give her a powerful orgasm through any means possible. Remember to listen to both her vocal feedback and her body language to find out how she likes to be touched and encourage her to communicate with you what she likes best. By giving her the first orgasm before you and her even get started with intercourse ensures she’s going to have a great time, no matter what.

Q&A: How Many Sex Foreplay Options Can We List In 30 Seconds?

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Foreplay, for many couples, is the cornerstone of their sexual experiences. However, many couples just don’t engage in enough foreplay! For most of them, a lack of good, fresh ideas is what keeps them from really exploring foreplay with their partner. What are some new foreplay ideas that you can share with your partner?

Foreplay (Wikipedia) – is a set of intimate psychological and physical acts between two or more people meant to create and increase sexual arousal, in anticipation of sexual intercourse.

Can be anything from flirting to playful teasing, to physical stimulation and beyond.

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Physical Stimulation

Many foreplay options include physical stimulation. This is the most direct route to get your partner turned on before sexual intercourse. Touching your partner all over their body, especially in their erogenous zones, can heat things up in the bedroom pretty quickly. Physical stimulation during foreplay can include anything and everything from oral sex, kissing, genital massage and much, much more. Sometimes, just physical stimulation isn’t enough when it comes to foreplay. Oral sex and hand jobs can only go so far time and time again. Although these things are pleasurable, our bodies and minds desire something fresh and new in the bedroom every once in awhile. Get creative with sex toys and come up with new ways to turn each other on physically before sexual intercourse.

Psychological Stimulation

A big part of foreplay, especially for women, is the psychological factor. A person’s mindset plays an important role in the quality of sex, and for many people, being sufficiently turned on mentally is a huge prerequisite for great sex. You can have psychological or mental foreplay with your partner all day if you want. Send sexy text messages to each other, make a naughy phone call or simply give your partner those bedroom eyes to let them know you are turned on and you want it at the soonest possible moment. You can turn your partner on this way well before you even get to the bedroom! One great way to turn your partner on psychologically is to watch pornography with them, or read a steamy novel or erotic book together. All you have to do is use your imagination a little bit and you can come up with dozens of ways to turn your partner on without laying a finger on them.

Making Foreplay A Bigger Part Of Your Sexual Routine

No sex life that doesn’t incorporate at least some degree of foreplay is a good one. While quickies are certainly satisfying sometimes, nothing can take the place of some good old fashioned creative foreplay in the bedroom. Both men and women enjoy foreplay and most of them report wanting more of it – so why isn’t everyone doing it? Foreplay takes time and these days, we’re lucky to have a few moments to ourselves to use the restroom in between work and kids. So foreplay often gets crossed off the list of “Things We Wish We Had More Time For.” Here’s the thing – you’re going to need to make time for more foreplay. The quality of sex with your partner will greatly improve because of it!