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Not Having Sex? You NEED To Watch This!

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Sex is something just about everyone wants – but not everyone always gets it. Some single guys get a lot of sex and other guys hardly get any at all – and dating isn’t as fun when you’re in the latter category. If you’re not getting any, you’re probably wondering what the difference is between you and the guys who are getting laid every weekend – or more. If you’re not getting any, here’s how to fix it and start getting more sex!

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If You’re Single And Not Getting Sex

If you’re single and you’re not getting any, these three steps will help you get laid more often. However, if you’re married and looking to get more sex, these techniques are definitely not for you! If you follow these steps while you’re married, it will likely cause more trouble than it’s worth, considering that these techniques are all about how to score with lots of different women.

Step One: Approach One Girl A Day And Ask For Her Phone Number

Make a committment to approach one new woman a day and ask her for her phone number (bonus points if flirting is involved). This simultaneously achieves two things. First, you will inherently become much more comfortable talking to women. When you’re constantly going up to women and making conversation with them, you become more and more aware of what to say and when to say it.

Second, it increases your chances of getting a girl to actually say “yes” simply because after talking to so many women, one of them is bound to. By asking tons of women out, you’re actually improving your odds at getting a date – learn to focus on the number of women that say “yes” instead of the number of women that don’t. Even if you ask fifty women for their phone number and only get two responses, that’s still two women that are interested in dating you and possibly sleeping with you!

Step Two: Design A Date With Multiple Activities – Ending At Your Place

You’re much more likely to have sex on the first date if you design it so that it ends up at your place. Plan a date where you’re moving around a lot and doing multiple activities. Dinner and a movie is cliche, and afterwards, there can be an awkward moment when you’re figuring out what to do next, especially if you’ve hit it off and want to continue spending time with each other.

Here are a few ways you can convince her to go to your place, after you’ve taken her to a few other places first.

Make or purchase a really yummy dessert. Then, let her know that you “made” her something really delicious and she just has to come over and try it. This sounds cheesy, but it actually does work!

Use the things around you to your advantage. For example, do you have a great view from your balcony or your backyard? Do you have a pool or some really exquisite fine art? Perhaps you have a crazy roommate that your date just has to come meet. Look at the things around you and decide what could possibly be interesting to a woman and use that to your advantage when trying to get her to come back to your place.

Step Three: Acquire Sexual Skills

You can get different women back to your place with the above steps, but if you’re not wanting to bomb out and never have sex again with this same girl, you’re going to need to acquire some great sexual skills. This is the true secret to getting a lot of sex all the time. Most guys that get sex have a few girls that they have sex with all the time, rather than doing it with someone new every time. This is because a guy that is really good in bed will have the women he sleeps with coming back for more!

Take some time to research on how to give a woman a really great orgasm. Learn how to please a woman with incredible oral sex, and then learn how to stimulate the g-spot or the a-spot and give her types of orgasms she’s never had before. If you learn what a woman likes in bed, you’re really only going to have to date a few women – because if you blow their minds during sex, they’e going to want to go back to your place again and again.

Dating Tips: How To Keep A Group Date From Becoming A Total Disaster

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While dating is typically only about you and your significant other, there are times when you’ll end up heading out with other couples. Group dates can be highly enjoyable, especially when you’re with a group of mutual friends and have fun plans. They can also go horribly awry—the more people involved, the higher the chance that someone’s not having a good time. Before you and your S.O. accept an invitation to a group date, make sure to think over a few important points.

Who To Invite

First and foremost, you need to consider who all is going to be heading out together on the date. How well do you know everyone? Is there a person whom you or your partner find particularly difficult to spend time with? If you learn that someone you really don’t enjoy being around will be there, you may want to skip this particular group date. If you don’t know one or two of the people who are coming along, you should try to find out more about them from your other friends.

It’s best to go into a group date situation knowing at least a little about everyone involved. It will make conversations easier and rule out the element of the unknown. It’s important to avoid group dates with another couple that’s volatile—you don’t want someone else’s fighting to cause drama in your own relationship. Plus, even if their fighting doesn’t spread to you, they’ll make your whole date a downer. It’s also important to consider how many couples should go out together on the date.

The more people you add to the mix, the higher the odds of someone having a bad time and bringing the rest of the group down. You may have a lot more fun having dinner with one other couple that you both like than two or three other couples you don’t know very well.

What To Do

Once you know that you’ve got a fun group lined up to hang out, you’ll need to consider what kind of activity works well for a group date. Sporty activities like bowling, a game of softball, or a round of mini golf can be fun with a group. However, if one or two of your friends is hyper-competitive, or you know a few people really don’t like sports, it’s worth planning something else.

It’s key to make sure that you find something everyone will enjoy, otherwise you might find one or two people in the group are moping around. If not everyone in the group already knows each other, you might want to do something that will provide you with a talking point. Go to a movie or show and then have drinks afterward, that way you’ll all have something to discuss. That also lets everyone relax for the first part of the night, since you can’t really talk during a film or performance.

Group dates can also be a good way for you to introduce your significant other to your friends, or vice versa. If everyone’s having a great time, your friends will probably appreciate your new boyfriend or girlfriend even more. That’s part of why it’s important to pick out an activity that will be fun for everyone involved.

Why Group Dates Can Be Fun

While you should still spend most of your dating time one-on-one with your significant other, having a group date every now and again is a great idea. It helps you connect with your friends and your boyfriend or girlfriend at the same time, and it adds some variety to your dating plans. It can be a really good way to get out of a rut. Even if a group date goes horribly wrong, you might still get something good out of it. Sometimes just seeing another couple have a meltdown can make you realize just how good you’ve got it in your own relationship!

How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Going All The Way?

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When you have sex with someone for the first time, it can be a wonderful new experience. It can also be a bit of a disaster, especially if you rush into things without thinking. Sometimes it can be hard to decide when the timing is right to become physically intimate.

In addition to the pressure you feel from within yourself, you may also be feeling pressure from your new love interest, along with the pressures of societal norms. So how can you tell when to make that next move? A little introspection, a discussion or two with your partner, and the ability to go with your gut can all help.

When Is The Right Time To Have Sex?

There is a lot of conventional wisdom out there about when to have sex. Some people think you should hold off until marriage, and others think you should just hold off until the third date. Tempting as it can be to take an established rule as your own, the truth is that you’ll only really be happy if you go for it when you feel that you’re ready.

That means that you need to do some serious thinking. Review your past sexual experiences. Do you feel that you’ve jumped into having sex too quickly before, to the detriment of your past relationships? Or has your experience shown you that there’s no need to put things off? Of course, if you have no past experience because this is your first time ever, you’ll have to turn to other methods of determining your readiness.

Deciding What Is Right For YOU

Whether you’re experienced or not, you’re going to want to further check in with yourself. As far as introspection goes, you should do a little pros and cons analysis. What are all of the good things that you’ll get from sleeping together at this particular point in time, and what are the possible negative consequences? If the negatives outweigh the positives, you should probably hold off a bit longer.

You also need to acknowledge that, once you’ve finally had sex, it may not be as spectacular as you’d hoped it would be. If it goes poorly, that could be the end of things. If you’re not ready to run that risk, you may not be ready for sex with this person, either. Some people are into casual sex, and others feel they need to be in love before they can engage in it.

It’s important for you to truthfully acknowledge which side of the line you fall on. Trying to go against your true feelings is a mistake, particularly if you’re someone that needs to be in love. You may feel regret after the fact, which will sully the experience for you.

How Does Your Partner Feel About When To Have Sex?

Once you’ve established how you feel about it and decide that you’re ready, you need to have that conversation with your S.O. Tell them you’re hoping to take things to the next level, but want to know how they feel about it. Plus, as non-romantic as it may be, you should discuss birth control and STD prevention with them.

If one of you isn’t prepared to take the appropriate measures, that person also isn’t ready to be having sex. Once the two of you are on common ground, let things happen as they may. When the mood is right, you’ll both know it. Don’t let yourself worry about what anyone other than you and your partner think, whether you sleep together on your first date or your wedding night. Clear up all of your worries in advance, and you’ll have that much more energy to focus on enjoying your first time.

How To Get A First Date

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Asking someone out on a first date can be highly nerve-wracking. In fact, fear of rejection can cause people to put off, or even give up on, asking someone out. That’s very unfortunate. Risky though it may be, asking for a first date can be highly rewarding. Though you can never be one hundred percent certain you’ll get the “yes” you’re looking for, you can up your odds. A little planning and skillful flirting can go a long way.

Reading The Body Language

So you’ve met someone that you’re interested in, and you’ve decided to ask them out. What now? Before you set a plan in motion, think over the interaction you’ve had with this person so far. You want to be sure they’ll be at least somewhat receptive to your advances. How did they act when you spoke with them in person? Were they upbeat, laughing at your jokes, and smiling a lot? What was their body language like? Did he or she lean in close when you were talking? Did they ever rest their hand on your arm or shoulder, or even give you a hug at the end of the night? All of these actions are indicators that they’re attracted to you.

If they acted in the opposite manner—closed off, somber, etc.—they probably aren’t interested. Don’t waste your time asking someone out, unless the evidence points to them liking you.

Coming Up With The Right Material For A First Date

If the person you’d like to be dating is a friend of a friend, there’s no shame in doing some reconnaissance work. Ask your friend for a little background on your new love interest. This will allow you to come up with a plan for a date that will be that much more enticing. Besides, your mutual friend may mention your interest to the guy or gal you’re pursuing, which will allow your friend to further gauge their interest in you.

If you don’t have a friend in common, try to recall anything that might have come up during your previous conversations with your intended. Did they mention a favorite band or sports team that you could get tickets to see? Maybe they brought up a movie or show they have been hoping to check out. If your date idea references something they mentioned when talking to you, that will show him or her that you’re very attentive and thoughtful.

Making The Phone Call

Now that you’ve got a date plan in mind and have decided that this individual is definitely interested in you, it’s time to call them up. Never invite someone on a date using email or a text message. In an ideal world, you’d be able to ask them in person, but if you’re not going to see each other soon, phone flirting is your best bet. Be simple and straightforward in your speech, without being forceful or over the top.

Say hello and ask how he or she has been doing, then get right to the point. Tell them how you enjoyed talking to them the last time you saw them. Then ask them if they’d be interested in going out with you to whatever event you’ve decided on. Tell them you’d really like to get to know them better in a one-on-one setting, just to make sure they don’t think you’re asking them to a group hang. Thanks to your advance planning and clear, simple wording, odds are very good you’ll get the yes you’re hoping to hear.

Top 10 First Date Ideas – Where To Go & What To Do

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Coming up with original first date ideas isn’t easy. You’re looking for something that isn’t cliche, something sweet and fun with just a hint of romance and sexual tension. You want everything to be perfect! Dinner and a movie is played out, so here are some amazing and unique first date ideas that you can use to “wow” your date and get a second date before the first one is even over!

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Take A Ride At The Amusement Park

Who doesn’t love the nostalgic feeling of eating cotton candy and riding the rides at an amusement park? This is an excellent opportunity for flirting like you’re both teenagers again. Bonus points if you win her a stuffed animal from one of the carnival games.

Have A Lunch Date

Dinner is cliche, but having a lunch date isn’t! It’s a casual way to get to know someone, without the pressures that an intimate, romantic dinner on a first date can bring. If there’s chemistry there, you can take a longer lunch or extend the date – but if there’s none, a quick lunch is a great excuse to keep it short and sweet.

Learning Something New Together

Taking a class with someone you’re interested in is a great first date idea. Learning something new together is a great way to bond emotionally and to discover the chemistry between you two.

The Beach Or Lake

A romantic walk on a moonlit beach is every girl’s fantasy, but make sure to keep your eyes on her and not on the other eye candy that might be strolling around on the sand. This is a great way to turn a simple date into something much, much more.

Pool, Golf, Or Game Of Your Choice

A little friendly, flirty competition may be exactly what you need to secure a second date. Don’t forget to make a wager – loser takes the winner out for dinner next time.

Wine Tasting

Going wine tasting gives you a legitimate reason to have a few drinks to help your first date nerves! It’s also a great way to experience and taste new wines and cheeses and is a great date for two people who truly enjoy wine. Bonus points for finding a special new wine that becomes “our wine.”

Take Her Bowling

Bowling is great way to check out just how competitive he is! Whether you are any good at it or not, it is a laid back activity that gives you a chance to have a laugh together and relax. It’s great for a bit of flirting and he can use his manly skills to show you just how it’s done.

Head Out For A Bike Ride

Free, fun activities are great first date ideas in the credit crunch and enjoying the outdoors is one of the best. Unlike going for a long walk, a bike ride means you don’t have the pressure of having to find constant conversation. Take a picnic and stop for some nice leisurely breaks together when you want to talk and get to know each other.

Go For Dessert

When money is tight, there should always still be room for dessert, so why not make it the highlight of the night? It is a bit more fun and quirky than going for dinner, it makes for a cheap first date, and there is less pressure to find enough conversation to fill three courses. It’s also super romantic and sexy because you can feed each other small bites of the most decadent pies and cakes!

Roller Skating Or Ice Skating

Roller skating or ice skating makes for an excellent first date, especially if one of you is better than the other at the activity. “Teach” your partner how to roller or ice skate, or let them teach you! This is a romantic way to bond and you’ll probably end up in each other’s arms (and on the ground) more than once!

Go Scuba Diving Or Snorkeling

Scuba diving or snorkeling is a completely unique first date idea. If you live nearby an ocean or beach, explore the fish, coral reefs and marine life together. You won’t have the pressure of making a ton of conversation (because you’ll be underwater most of the time), but there will be plenty of time to connect with each other before the swim and after. You’ll also get to check out each other in your bathing suits! Bring a picnic lunch or dinner just in case everything goes well – besides, you’ll both be hungry after the swim!