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How To Ask A Girl Out – The EASY Way!

Dating tips will help you keep from making mistakes and choking on your words. Never again will you flub up! Here’s how to do it EASILY!

Ask a girl out once and you should be able to do it a million times, right? Although it may seem simple, various aspects of asking a girl out can rattle a guy to his very core. Concepts like approach anxiety are common with a lot of guys.

It doesn’t matter if you’re shy, nervous or you feel like she’s out of your league, it doesn’t have to be a catastrophe when you ask a girl out. At one point or another you’re going to have to step up your game, and be bold. Here are a few dating tips to get you through the process.

How To Approach Her

Approaching a girl that you like is one of the most difficult aspects of dating. As a guy, you’ve been cursed with the expectation to always initiate contact with the girl. For women, approaching a guy is liberating and can show confidence.

However, the threat of rejection is enough to cripple most men. When you are approaching her, make sure that you have a smile on your face. No girl wants to be approached by a guy with a frown. Don’t rush over to her like a hungry dog looking to be fed. Move a little slower than normal so you draw her in with your approach.

Starting A Conversation

There are a lot of dating tips out there that will tell you to use a specific routine. While these might work for some guys, they aren’t recommended. Routines are a “one size fits all” game that rarely works with girls that you’re actually interested in. Most of these routines are made to get girls to have one-night stands with you.

Simply saying “Hello” or “Hey can easily start a conversation with her. Introduce yourself, but don’t offer a handshake. This is a mistake that a lot of guys make when they approach girls. A handshake is not romantic; it’s business oriented. Wait until you can break the touch barrier before you actually touch her. Keep the conversation to questions about what she does and where she went to school. Judging by her body language, you should be able to tell whether or not she’s interested in you.

Breaking The Touch Barrier

The touch barrier is essential when you’re trying to ask a girl out. The touch barrier is basically the first time that you touch her. This doesn’t mean that you’re going to get to second base, it simply means that you touch her on the arm or the hand. If the approach has gone well then you should have her laughing. Breaking the touch barrier is not very difficult if you are good at flirting.

There are a lot of guys that know how to flirt, but don’t know how to approach. If you have her laughing, she might break the touch barrier before you get a chance to. Wait for her to start flirting back with you and then touch her shoulder or arm when she says something teasingly. Breaking the touch barrier is an essential of many dating tips when trying to get a woman to date you.

Ask For The Number

Asking for her number is much easier than asking her out. The best thing about asking for her number is that you aren’t definitely going to call. Although most guys do call when they the number, there is as much doubt in a girl’s mind as there is in a guy’s mind.

If the conversation is going well and she has broken the touch barrier, ask for her number. More than likely she will give it to you. Be ready with your phone when you do so you’re not fumbling with it while she’s trying to give you the number. A girl is more likely to give you her phone number than to agree to a date right then and there.

Prepare Yourself For Rejection

As with any aspect of dating, there is a chance that you could get rejected. When you go to ask a girl out, make sure that you are prepared for rejection. More than likely she will make up a story of a boyfriend or that she’s dating somebody rather than giving you a fake number. If she says that she has a boyfriend, brush it off and move one.

Don’t question her if she tells you that she has a boyfriend or if she’s not interested. You’re not going to change her mind and you’re wasting your time. Rejection is a part of dating and you need to be able to handle rejection in order to grow as a person.

4 Dating FAILS You Need To Avoid!

By bobbybradshaw

Dating doesn’t come without its share of failures, but you want as few of them as possible! Steer clear of these dating mishaps for guaranteed success.

Mistake # 1 – Taking Her Out To A Fancy Dinner

Yes, you read that right. A lot of guys think you need to take a woman out to fancy dinner in order to woo her. But I’ve actually found that it’s a HUGE mistake!

It’s one of those things that SOUNDS good in theory, but if you think it all the way through, it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. First off, women see dinner as a BIG time commitment. A super attractive woman leads a busy life. And it’s hard for her to justify giving up a night she could otherwise spend with her friends.

Because of this she is much more likely to say “No” when asked out to a dinner than she would be if you ask her out to lunch, or to grab a happy hour drink.

Or worse, she might say, “yes,” then flake on you the night of.

Why?

Well not only is it a night away from whatever else she could be doing, it’s also a lot of time to commit to spending with someone she barely knows. You see, since most guys are so LAME, she’s probably had a BAD dinner date in the past.

So when your date with her is coming up, she might remember a bad dinner date she had in the past, get cold feet and decide to flake on YOU! Ask any girl you know and she’ll tell you – this happens ALL THE TIME!

Also, if you offer to take her to a “name” restaurant, you look like you are trying to “lure” her into hanging out with you because of WHERE you are taking her, and not WHO she is going with! And yeah, some girls might say yes just because they want to get a free fancy meal, but is that what you really want?

So save the trendy restaurant for a night out with your friends, and offer to meet her for lunch, or for a quick drink at a cool, eclectic spot. You’ll not only save yourself from looking like you are trying too hard, you’ll also increase the chances of her saying yes, and the chances of her showing up! Not to mention saving some dough!

Mistake # 2 – Being Too Eager To Hang Out

There are few ways to turn a woman off faster than being TOO eager to hang out with her.

We’ve all seen the movie Swingers where the guy calls the girl the same night and leaves her 6 messages in a row (go see it if you haven’t!) but there are other less extreme ways guys do this that turn a woman off just as fast.

A few examples are:

Calling her or having a text conversation with her more than twice a week
Changing your plans around for her
Showing up at places where you know she’ll be (so many guys do this that women are totally on to it!)
Any type of behavior that says you will drop everything to hang out with a woman makes her see you as DESPERATE and turns her off instantly.

Mistake # 3 – Trying Too Hard Impress Her

Another MAJOR mistake men make that sends women running is when they try too hard to impress her.

Any type of bragging about your job, your car, your business, trips you’ve taken, or name-dropping just REEKS of insecurity. In fact, too much bragging can cause even a confident guy to look bad in a woman’s eyes! It makes her think that you don’t feel your personality is enough to attract her… which no matter how confident you are, makes you look absolutely not confident to her.

Not good!

Mistake # 4 – Being Too Friendly And Not Flirty!

We all know about the dreaded “friend zone,” but do you know what makes a woman put a guy there?

Well, it’s usually because he is too friendly and not FLIRTY! So avoiding it is simple – flirt whenever possible! The above example is a good one, and here’s a couple others:

If she asks you how your day is going, say, “Well it would be better if you and I were at a secret make out spot but other than that it’s okay.”
If she asks you what you are doing that night, say, “I’m going to XYZ restaurant – why, are you going to surprise me with flowers there?”

Don’t be afraid to be over-the-top! You’ll be amazed at just how much women love to play along with these flirty conversations – and best of all, you’re letting her know right away that she should see you as more than just a friend.

How To Meet Singles In YOUR Area!

By romymorgan

Singles are becoming more and more resilient and finding love. Going through traditional dating services, online dating services or friends are the primary means of finding a date fast. I

f you don’t feel comfortable with these means of getting a potential date, there are things that you can do in order to meet people in your area without having to reduce yourself to being set up by a friend or website. Here are a few methods of finding single people in your area.

Trivia Nights

Trivia nights are a big draw for singles and couples. Look through your local publications or through local websites in order to find out which bars and restaurants are having trivia nights throughout the week. Trivia nights are basically designed to allow teams to compete against each other through various aspects of trivia questions. Go to the trivia night and look for a friendly group of people that are assembling themselves as a team.

Tell them that your group of friends were not able to make it and that you need a team. More than likely they will welcome you with open arms and you can get to know them. You don’t have to be great at trivia in order to participate in these events. However, knowing different aspects of trivia can help you and your team win throughout the night.

Join A Sports Team

Sports teams tend to have a lot of singles. Whether you played basketball in college, tennis in high school or you were the captain of your intramural kickball team, joining a sports team is one of the best ways to meet other people in your area and find a potential date. Even if there are no single people on your team, everybody has friends and they might be able to set you up with someone nice.

As with trivia, you don’t have to be that great at a sport in order to join the team. Most adult leagues are more interested in having fun than winning. It is recommended to join a sports team where you have a little bit of experience so that you’re not the oddball who doesn’t even know the rules or regulations. You should be able to find sports teams within your area through local websites.

Clubs

Clubs are another great way to meet singles in your area. Do you have a green thumb? Do you know the ins and outs of the hiking trails around your area? Joining a club can easily put you in touch with single people in your area that have the same common interests. Local clubs are also notorious for having monthly or weekly events as well as their meetings. Being a member of a club can take your mind off of being single while also giving you a fun way to spend time with people who share your passion.

Websites like Meetup.com specialize in connecting people with common interests to form groups for events and get-togethers in your area. Remember that clubs might have monthly or yearly dues in order to sustain themselves so you should be financially prepared for this. Talk to the different club members to find out who is seeing somebody and who is not. If you meet somebody that you like, feel free to ask him or her out on a date.

Singles Events

Although this is one of the most obvious choices you can make, an event that is especially designed for single people can take some of the pressures off of knowing whether or people are attached. There are different singles events in your area through speed dating, Internet meet ups or business based promotions. Some businesses that specialize in people, such as bars or restaurants, will have singles nights during certain hours. For instance a bar might run a singles event from 5 PM to 7 PM.

One of the best things about these events is the fact that if you get there and you do not see anybody that you like you can pretend you are not even attending the event. However, meeting some of the people within the group is a great way to make new friends and find a potential date. Events for single people usually render people who have just moved to the area, people that work from home and normal people who may just be a little shy and have trouble finding somebody to date. Choose a couple of single events throughout the month and attend them accordingly. You never know who you might meet until you follow through.

4 Rules For A Relationship With A Stripper (And When To Move On)

By deancortez

A stripper isn’t the typical girl you have a relationship with – it’s a bit more difficult. Here’s what you need to do, and how to know when to move on!

Rules To Follow If You Want A Relationship With A Stripper

1. Have Sex With Her Often

Women literally get addicted to your penis when you’re able to give her orgasms every time you’re with her. And don’t only bang her at night before bedtime. Be unpredictable.

2. Don’t Tolerate Any Crap

If she’s late, you leave. Next time she won’t be. If she gets in a snotty mood about something, punish her by not having sex with her for a week and let her know about it. Spending time with you (and enjoying your cock) is a privilege, not her right. (This is a harsh approach, but it works for many women.)

3. She’s Not Your Life

Have a life that she is a part of. Don’t make her your life.

4. Never Get Jealous

Don’t ask her for details on the guys she did a striptease for tonight, or why she’s got business cards in her purse from a bunch of different dudes. She’s a stripper, remember? This is her job. If you can’t handle it, break up with her and go date a school teacher.

When To Move On

Some strippers—and remember, they’re professional salespeople—regularly give out their phone number to customers because they want to cultivate “regulars.” She might expect you to start showing up a couple of times a week and buying dances.

This is not part of your game plan. Once you’ve got her phone number, you should not return to her strip club until one of two scenarios happens:

Scenario 1

You call her, she tells you she has to work every night this week, and you stop in the club once more to hang with her, buy her a drink, and keep the connection going. But you will not buy dances, and you will not return a third time to see her. The next time you see her will be outside of the club when she’s not working, or not all. (Hey, there are a lot of fish in the sea – and other sexy, more available strippers in your area, I’m sure.)

Scenario 2

You got her number, you’ve tried calling her to arrange a meet, but she’s being evasive. She’s playing games with you. Once you determine this, you are free to return to the club and apply your tactics on different girls. You can expect the stripper who was evasive to give you rude looks when she sees you flirting with other women. So be it. Ignore it. She had her chance. You’ve moved on and she can keep hustling the chumps.

Don’t keep returning to the club, time after time, spending money on buying her drinks (or even worse, lap dances) without getting results.

It must be noted, some dancers have a firm rule about not seeing customers outside of the club. She might be paranoid about being “found out” by the management, and fired. You might cause her to reconsider this rule, but if she holds firm, just respect it and move onto other prospects.

You’re never going to verbally convince a stripper to break her own rules in order to see you. She has to want it. And if you lay the proper groundwork and build a real connection with her, she will.

How To Flirt With A Stripper

By deancortez

A stripper isn’t your typical girl, so using conventional flirting techniques aren’t going to work very well at all. Here’s what to do.

Engage In Flirting By Connecting With Her

Your goal is to use strategic conversation to connect with her on a real level.

You want to avoid buying a striptease from her, because then you’re behaving like a typical customer. (I’m not saying you should never buy dances – you can have some fun doing so, and spin it your advantage. I’ll explain how shortly. But the rule of thumb is, avoid buying dances.)

You do want to keep the flirting momentum moving forwards, towards the “close.” Since you won’t be paying for dances, you can’t expect her to hang out with you all night. Figure that if you buy her a drink or two, you’ve got around 30 minutes to make it happen—which means either getting her number (and laying the groundwork so that she will answer or return your phone calls), or arranging to meet her after her shift.

You don’t want to monopolize her time for too long. Respect the fact that she’s here to make money. And you want to be the one who ends the conversation and excuses yourself. You don’t want her to say she has to go.

Areas To Touch On During While You’re Flirting With A Stripper

Your goal is to give them a break from all of that. Be the guy who injects fun into their evening.

Talk to her about ambitions and goals. Strippers never want to think of themselves as strippers. They usually have all sorts of goals and things they want to pursue. Some are actually working towards their goals.

Let her know you’re not dazzled by beauty. This is an excellent topic to slip into the conversation, because it minimizes her concern that you’re like all the other guys and are only interested in her looks. Also, by establishing that you’re not impressed by beauty, it makes her want to step up her game and show you that she’s an interesting, three-dimensional person.

Let her know that you’re not judgmental. While hot strippers may appear to be supremely confident, they’ve all got insecurities. At the bigger clubs, I’ve never met a stripper who believed she was the hottest girl working there. They always think there are other girls who are younger, prettier, have better bodies, etc. You can play on this, but the main insecurity that all strippers have is that guys are judging them negatively because of what they do for a living.

Let her know you don’t kiss and tell. Why is this important? Because if she’s going to see you outside of the club, she needs to feel comfortable that it’s not going to come back to haunt her. She’ll get in trouble, and lose face with her co-workers, if it gets out that she’s sleeping with a guy she met at work.

Strippers are also naturally concerned about stalkers. She has to know that if she goes on a date with you, you’re not the type of guy who is going to show up at the club tomorrow night and act like some jealous freak if she’s hanging out with other customers.