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5 Easy Blowjob Techniques To Start With

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While a blowjob might sound pretty simple, just putting your mouth on your man’s penis doesn’t mean that you’ll actually be able to do it well. To give great head, you’ve got to experiment with different techniques and moves to find the ones that absolutely set your man on fire! Every guy is going to be different – one guy might really get off on you licking his scrotum while you grasp his penis tightly in your hands, while another guy might love it when you suck firmly on the head of his penis.

It’s important to pay attention to a man’s body language when going down on him and if one technique doesn’t work, it’s time to move on to another. Just make sure you give your guy enough time to decide whether he likes the technique you’re using or not. Don’t move too quickly between techniques without giving him enough time to get used to what you’re doing.

1. Licking The Lollipop

While licking alone doesn’t necessarily feel awesome for your guy, it’s a great warm up technique because it gives him an excellent show! You don’t want to use a licking maneuver halfway into a blowjob, because it’s not enough stimulation to work him towards an orgasm. However, it’s an excellent way to get him turned on and wanting more!

How To Do It

Grasp the base of your lover’s penis with your hand, holding it in place. If you grasp firmly (but not too tight), you’ll keep the blood inside the penis, engorging the head and making it more sensitive to your maneuvers.

Stick your tongue way out and lick all over your lover’s penis while looking deep into his eyes and smiling now and then. You want to look like you’re really enjoying it! Enthusiasm is key with this technique.

Experiement with a soft, wet tongue or a pointed hard tongue. Make a mental note of which areas he seems to like stimulated best and when he moans and groans the loudest. Jot these down on your “mental map” of his body and what he likes best so you can focus on those areas more next time – and avoid the areas that don’t seem to do anything for him.

2. Licking The Scrotum

Again, this is definitely more of a warm up technique than it is a main move, but it can be very effective at getting men hot and bothered. Most women tend to ignore a man’s balls when going down on him, either because they’re hairy, they smell or it just seems like concentrating on the penis is a better idea. However, if you can give your lover’s scrotum some sexy attention, he’ll love feeling like he’s getting licked from top to bottom.

How To Do It

This is an excellent maneuver to move into and back and forth from when you’re doing the licking technique we just mentioned. You’ll continue to grasp your lover’s penis at the base, but this time instead of holding it in place for you to lick it all over, you’ll move it up and out of your way, exposing his scrotum and pulling up on it at the same time. As his scrotum is exposed, lick from the bottom of it all the way to the top, and all around. The most effective tongue stroke here is with a wide, soft tongue. Make sure you’re using plenty of saliva or have dabbed on a generous amount of flavored lube. This is a technique much better done warm and wet!

3. Sloooooowww It Down

Part of the incredible experience of fellatio is feeling each and every sensation your tongue, mouth and lips create. Don’t rush it – go super slow for the first several minutes of the blowjob. Hold out for as long as you can, and if you’re really into pleasing him and hearing him squeal with delight, you’ll surprise yourself with how long you can keep this up. No matter what technique you’re using, go sllllooooowww.

Let him concentrate on every movement on every inch of his penis. This will allow him to become super absorbed in the act, forgetting time and space completely. When you finally bring him to climax, he’ll be much more sensitive and his orgasm will be that much more powerful.

4. Tongue Twister

This move feels so incredible when compared to the standard “up and down” or “in and out” moves that a regular ol’ blowjob consists of. It can be hard on the neck, so don’t expect yourself to be able to keep it up for very long. However, when used at the right time – past the foreplay or warm up mode but before you get into the rhythm mode where you’re building his orgasm – it can feel so good it makes his legs shake! He’ll want to be lying down for this one, or his knees just might give out on him!

How To Do It

Get your lover’s penis as far as you can into your mouth and as you’re coming back up, twist your head to the right and left so your tongue and mouth twists over the shaft and head of his penis. Don’t concentrate on how your twisting your mouth – just point the top of your head to the left and then to the right as you slide your mouth up his penis. Don’t do this on the downward stroke – it’s not as effective as you twist while you’re sliding his shaft out of your mouth.

5. Orgasm Grip

As your lover is getting closer and closer to ejaculation, he’s heating up and you’re getting ready to finish him off. Whether you’re getting tired of being in between his legs, your neck has got a cramp and you’re ready for it to be over with, or you’re just excited about giving him a mind bending orgasm, there comes a time when you want to finish things up. This technique is perfect for building his climax even further and bringing him over the edge of an amazing orgasm.

How To Do It

This is a technique best used while your lover is in a sitting position, because you really need to have a lot of leverage here. If he’s lying down and you’re holding yourself up with your hands, you’re not going to be able to do this well, if at all. Grasp the base of his penis again with your dominant hand and move it up and down as though you were giving him a handjob. You only want to go about halfway up the shaft though – you’re going to work your mouth over the head of his penis and your lips should meet your hand.

Move your hand and your lips in sync – both going down and up at the same time. Count in your head to keep your rhythm, or listen to music. You don’t want to break the rhythm, because it will cause him to have to “start over.” Continue to do this faster and faster until you’re really working on him! It won’t be long before he’s ready to shoot his load!

These five techniques are easy to do and will take you from the beginning of a blowjob to the very end. There is, of course, many more techniques you can use, but who doesn’t want to get started right away? Stop reading right now and go treat your man to some intense new blowjob techniques that will make him say, “Wow! Where the **** did you learn that?!?”

When You Actually Need To SKIP Foreplay!

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Foreplay is something that is essential for every sex session, right? Or can you forgo it and get busy right away?

DEFINITELY NOT!

Acts of foreplay don’t have to come before anything as they can be enjoyed in and of themselves. And so, there will be times when F can be the worst thing.

In these situations, it’s best to simply tear her clothes, pin her against the wall and do her right then and there. Don’t delay – do her immediately. Ravage her at will because she definitely wants you to.

When is that feasible? When is teasing not even funny?

Know When There’s Urgency

It is during the week-long honeymoon when couples are rabid hot. Passion takes the form of intense, fanatic longing and the moment the lovers’ shadows meet, they commence sexually harassing each other. The slow, gentle, “Take your time” nature of foreplay doesn’t work in situations where passion is in the form of “Take me, right here, right now” – there’s just no time for that, not enough brain cells even to light scented-candles. No chance for slow dancing in this case.

That’s ok, the couple is on the same page and they know what they want.

Such couples get to enjoy acts associated with foreplay, only after some serious sex. It’s that calm after the storm as lovers bask in the ambiance of their orgasms – the only real opportunity to luxuriate and slow things down.

Another time to definitely skip foreplay-smorplay is during quickies. There’s just no time. No time to heat the oil, or find that R&B CD. No time to gloat over your partner’s hot body, or engage in any talk. Just get those orgasms, put your clothes back on, fix your hair… then go back to work!

Part of the turn-on is the boldness of simply doing it without thought for feelings. There’s something so animalistic and intense about it – such rawness that finds its way in many of women’s fantasies.

These situations still make for great sex as foreplay becomes unnecessary delay, both partners don’t want it.

When NOT To Engage In Quickies

First, make sure it doesn’t become a pattern. Quickies are exciting, but they lose punch when it’s quickies all the time. Pretty much the same thing gets old pretty fast.

Second, make sure both of you are on the same page. You wish to do her now? She wants you to do her now? Fine, run like the wind. Of course, the situation’s a lot different when the other just wants to lie there gazing at the stars. Then you’ll probably have to take full advantage of foreplay’s side-effects to jump-start things.

Are You Making These 5 Critical Sex Mistakes?

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Sex tips can take you from an out of touch lover to a virtuoso with just a few reading. While you’re not going to be able to literally hypnotize women, sex tips can put you in a place where you will have the ability to gauge what makes your girlfriend, wife or one nightstand reach orgasm every time.

However, there are some very critical sex mistakes that you could be making without even knowing it. Depending on how open and honest your partner is, they might be too afraid to tell you what you’re doing wrong. If you are committing these mistakes, stop yourself immediately.

1. The Foreplay Is Too Short

Yes, there are times when you are both so hot that you can’t wait to get to the main event. However, most of the time, foreplay is going to be essential. If you are spending less than 5 minutes on foreplay, you’re definitely not giving the girl enough time to warm up before penetration. There should be a lot of kissing, sucking and touching before you ever try to have intercourse with a girl.

Think of it like a car in the winter. How long does it take for the engine to heat up your vehicle in the dead of December? At least 10 minutes? Try to incorporate more foreplay for longer and you will see immense results.

2. No Oral Sex For Her

Oral sex is essential for a girl to get warmed up for sex. If you are not going down on her before sex, you’re committing a very big sex mistake. There isn’t a girl on this planet that doesn’t like when a guy gives them oral sex, especially if he’s good at it. Work your way down her body from her lips to her breasts and then down to her stomach.

Don’t immediately go for her vagina, as this is an amateur move. Lick on her inner thigh before you start to suck and lick on the clitoris. You will start to see her convulse a little in her legs when she wants you to give her oral sex.

3. You Talk Too Much

Being vocal during sex is great. While there are girls out there who like a guy to talk dirty to them, there are times when you can go overboard. Calling them names or being derogatory is fine if that’s what she’s into. However, not every woman is going to want you to call them a whore or a slut during sex.

Asking a ton of questions about whether or not she is enjoying herself or if you are doing things right is not going to turn her on. She will immediately get annoyed and probably tell you to shut up. Don’t talk too much unless she is initiating it.

4. You’re Silent

While no girl wants you to talk their ear off during sex, they don’t really want you to be silent either. There is nothing weirder than a guy that has sex in complete silence. Steady breathing without any vocals can certainly ruin the mood. When you’re having sex, reaffirm her by telling her she’s beautiful or that you like what she’s doing.

This can also get her talking and open up the lines of communication for dirty talk. Being silent during sex will make her wonder if she’s doing it right or if you’re even enjoying it. Talk to her a little during sex so that she knows she is on the right track. If she does something that you really like, make sure that she knows about it. You can also ask her what she wants.

5. You’re WAY Too Kinky

Sure, you like a little kink in your sex. Things can get very boring if it’s the same every time. But the last thing that you want to do is bring the sex shop home with you. Girls like a little kink and she might even want to incorporate sex toys into the bedroom. But you’re with a girl that isn’t into the scene, you might be intimidating her with your overactive fantasy life. Refrain from pulling out all the stops with vibrators, dildos, straps and whips until you know what she’s into.

Unless you met your girl on a sex site, you could easily scare her away within a few minutes. Ease her into your fantasies and you will start to see her open up much more. If you jump in too quickly you’re going to send her to the hills.

4 Ways You’re Touching Her Wrong

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Foreplay is something you never, ever want to skip before sex but what if you’re doing it wrong? Could you be wasting your time when it comes to foreplay?

Your partner can tell a lot by your touch, including exactly how you feel about touching her. Whether you’re nervous, unskilled, aggressive or ignorant, your bad touch will speak louder than any words. Here are 4 ways you’re messing up the foreplay.

1. The “Nervous Nelly”

This kind of hesitant, unsure touch paired with “Is this good? How does that feel? What about this? Should I do a bit more of this? Or maybe that other thing!” will drive any woman mad, and not with pleasure. What does a nervous touch tell a woman?

That you don’t know what you’re doing and are too busy worrying about what she thinks of you to focus on making her feel good! You’re not between her legs to craft some dissertation on the poetry of her beauty. You’re there to be the best sex toy she’ll ever enjoy. Get over yourself and get to work.

2. The “Man-Handler”

Unfortunately, confidence isn’t enough. If you barge on ahead but are so caught up in enjoying yourself that you forget that the breasts in your hands are attached to a warm body, you are probably manhandling your girl. I can guarantee that’s not enjoyable for anyone.

Man-handling simply tells her that you don’t have the experience to touch her like you know what you’re doing, or the knowledge to notice that you aren’t hitting the right buttons. Don’t let it dissuade you unnecessarily; she already knows that you are a man and didn’t grow up with the same body she already knows. Calm down, take a few deep breaths and try to pay attention to her reactions when you touch her. Tease, tantalize – this is art, not construction.

Discover the answer to the question, “What new way can I touch her that makes her feel even better than I’ve ever made her before?” Do it by asking her to show you with her own hands. If you’ve never watched her body speak before, why would she expect you to already be fluent in her language? Take the time to learn by not being scared about using the wrong word. If you make a mistake, she’ll tell you.

3. The “Rough-And-Tumbler”

Feel like you have something to prove? Maybe you think you’re being aggressive or dominant, strong or sturdy, but getting rough without the clear go-ahead can be scary and can put the person you love in a pretty awkward position.

This kind of attitude tells her that you don’t respect her body or her boundaries. If you tend to “grab-on-tight and don’t-let-go,” it’s time to loosen up and enjoy the If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal, listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath.

4. “The Hokey Pokey”

Your lover is not a pot roast, you don’t get to “stick a fork in her” to see if she’s done. Poking and prodding, whether trying to elicit a reaction, or determine arousal levels, can only lead to deflated desire. Poking the girls to make them cry stopped being an effective courting technique when you were eight.

Time to give up that juvenile attitude towards your body’s ability to speak the female sex language. A little dance like this sends the clear message that you can’t read her responses and that you are impatient to “get to the point.” If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal and pay attention to her body language. listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath. Feel the heat of her skin and listen to her voice. If you must ask, just don’t spend more time asking how she’s doing than you do listening to what she’s saying.

3 Things To Do With Her Clothes During Sex

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Sex tips will definitely spice things up in the bedroom – check out these three simple but super hot ways you can play with your lover’s skivvies during sex!

1. Involve Her Clothes In The Sex

Don’t immediately dismiss them to the floor. It’s not just about the beauty that awaits to be unveiled, it’s also about the beauty of unveiling it. Get the drift?

Run your hands on her clothes, barely touching them. You’re not touching her body, but her apparel. This in itself brings pleasure as you grope through the varied textures & cuts of a woman’s couture. In a way, it’s a good thing she spends half her day choosing the perfect outfit. Sensitize your palms to the feel of cotton, linen, silk and other fabrics. And even when she’s wearing the plainest top and those classic denim jeans, run your hands through. Feel the friction. Doesn’t that feel nice?

Imagine what it will be like for her. She’ll be in a limbo with this hovering hand technique. It feels like you’re touching her, but then again she can’t really be sure. It’s like you’re touching her aura. It’s exciting, but not too intense. (Watch as her breathing gradually quickens.)

After hovering around, gradually apply more pressure and touch her body THROUGH her clothes. Now she can really feel you, she now knows what it means to be held and touched by a man. You’ve set her up so she’ll appreciate and welcome the warmth of your touch.

2.  Spice It Up! Work It!

Being a dull mouse and simply going through the motions of getting your girl naked is a waste of erotic potential.

Add carnal appeal to the proceedings and combine everything you’ve learned so far into a potent & powerful sexual tool. Talk dirty, unleash those naughty looks as you slowly release her body from the restrictions that are her garments. Don’t act all mundane. You might have seen her naked a million times, and it might actually be no big deal, but it doesn’t mean you should take it for granted. Make her feel wanted by lightly kissing the patches of skin you uncover.

And as you strip yourself – put some feeling into it! Nobody cares what ridiculous blob lies beneath your “I’m with Stupid” T-shirt, take it off with erotic appeal – there’s absolutely nothing sexier than confidence.

3. Pause Every Now And Then

Cease your hostilities with fabric and get busy with simpler stuff like kissing. Sometimes it’s good to back-off for a moment, leave her half-naked and recognize that she’s sexiest when she’s ALMOST BARE. There’s that tension again of being naked, but not quite. Of almost being there, but not yet.

Dig up all the sexy calendars you’ve collected over the years. Most ladies in there are not totally naked, they are almost naked, or perhaps covering chest and crotch with their oh-so-lucky palms. Feel the tension this creates. She lets you see the rest of her, but the parts you want the most, she leaves to your imagination. She doesn’t give it all away, always making you want more.

Perfect sexual tension. It’s not always about censorship.

Pause every now and then. Get an eyeful, (but without looking overly impressed.) Notice how incredibly sexy a woman with bare breasts in denim jeans can be. Leave those on and do something else. Caress her face or play with her hair. Don’t worry, those jeans will unzip themselves later.