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Fun Sex Games You’ve Never Tried

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Sex games can really spice up your sex life. Try these super hot ones to spice up your sex life – we guarantee you’ve never done THESE sex games!

There’s a time in all relationships when the sex can get mundane. Knowing exactly how long the foreplay is, what positions you’re going to do and how long it’s going to take the other person to have an orgasm becomes all to familiar. To combat this monotony, couples should branch out. Trying new things in the bedroom will not only improve your sex life, it can bring you closer together. If you’re looking for some fun sex games that you’ve never tried before, here are a few to get you started.

Timer

Timer is a great sex game to bring you closer with your partner. The concept is fairly easy to understand. Get a timer and set it for a specific amount of time. The amount of time that you set on the timer is going to determine how long you use foreplay before there is penetration. This could be 5 minutes, 10 minutes or even 20 minutes. You and your partner decide on how long you want the time to be. If you’re used to a lot of foreplay before sex, set the timer low. If you’re used to no foreplay before sex, set the time to a little longer. Foreplay tends to be a forgotten piece of the puzzle and this can bring the sizzle back into your sex lives.

Lover’s Lane

Lover’s Lane used to be a staple of high school students in the 50s and 60s. The basic concept is that you and your partner will find a place around your town where you can park and not be bothered. One of you pretends that they are a virgin and have no idea how to please the other. After you have parked, your partner will tell you and show in explicit detail how to please them. What ends up happening is your partner will tell you exactly how they like it. This can help couples that are struggling with their sex lives, but it might be a sex game that’s a little too kinky for some.

Timed Domination

A variation on the Timer game, domination puts both of you into the driver’s seat. Get a timer that has intervals on it. There are a lot of stopwatches that will signal you when a certain amount of time is up. So the basic concept is that you set the timer for an interval. During that interval either you or your partner is going to take control. When the interval is up, you switch. This is great because a lot of men and women love to be submissive, but also like to take control. This sex game is a little less kinky, but will get the job done just the same.

The List

The list is a fun sex game that can spice up any relationship no matter how monotonous the sex life has become. The basic concept relies on making a list of all the places you want to have sex in the next 3 months to a 1 year. This could be rooms in your house, movie theaters, the beach, a log cabin; whatever you can think of. If you’re shooting for a month, you and your partner should decide on about 5 a piece. If you are looking at a year, try to pick 10-15 a piece. Whenever you’ve had a hard week or you just need to blow off some steam, go to the list!

Truth Or Dare

This one’s a throwback that should take you to your best friend’s 8th grade birthday party. Truth Or Dare is a fun sex game that can bring you closer to your partner and help you get some perspective on what they love in the bedroom. If they pick truth, you can ask them about certain positions or the way that you perform certain acts. If they pick dare, you can dare them to do something that they haven’t done before. It’s probably best to set ground rules from the get go. Former relationships should be considered off limits during this game, as they can really ruin the experience.

Sex games are fun and they can breath new life into boring sex. If you really love your partner then you should try to improve your sex life. The best part about sex games is that you can find out a lot about your partner without having to prod them for information. Use these sex games in your relationship and you’re sure to see a remarkable improvement in closeness and communication in and out of the bedroom.

How To Keep Having Sex Even After You Ejaculate

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Foreplay is usually before sex, right? It doesn’t have to be! Use foreplay to give your partner an orgasm if you ejaculate too early.

Women don’t care if you’ve ejaculated or not, but THEY DO CARE IF YOU STOP THE FUN. They’re pissed with guys who don’t understand a most basic sexual principle: Just because you’re relieved doesn’t mean I am. The issue with premature ejaculators is not the white liquid – it’s that after they shoot, fast guns stop everything and act like the woman is also done.

Who Decides When Sex Is Over?

The man? The woman?

For most, it’s neither. It’s an orgasm. Semen is an oracle declaring to men, “That’s all folks!” Feeling relieved, they believe this and retire like car salesmen without any after-sales service.

But here’s the thing: Semen really is just semen. It means you climaxed, good for you! The juice represents the procreative aspect of things, but sex isn’t solely for procreation, is it?

AN ORGASM DOESN’T SAY OR MEAN ANYTHING unless you want it to. You can treat it as if nothing happened.

Men stray after they spray when they make their orgasm the sole goal.

When that’s the case, then there’s really no difference between masturbation and intercourse – the hot girl is irrelevant. (Be careful when setting goals, they’re double edged. They set your focus, but they also define your blind spots.)

Yeah, the penis-inside-the-vagina bit may be over, but not the fun. For there’s no stopping a couple from doing other stuff. Penetration isn’t the only thing on the menu. Thrusting may be over for now, but not the sex.

Doesn’t it makes more sense to wrap up when both partners are satisfied, whether this is attended by one orgasm or not, than wrap things up simply because one sees white liquid?

Treat Your Orgasm As If Nothing Happened

This doesn’t mean that you continue with the poking. No! What can you do with limp equipment, really? Forget your thing. After reaching orgasm, you experience a virtual absence in arousal, a refractory period of 5-15 minutes. Since you already got into her pants, you can easily dress up & leave or doze off, and there’s absolutely nothing she can do about it. Now this is where most men blow it big time.

Invest in the refractory period and distance yourself from the other guys.

MAKE THE NEXT SEVERAL MINUTES ABOUT HER!

Notice how easy it is to tease and please when you’re done? You really don’t need much after you’ve sprayed, do you? You can actually think straight, can you?

Forget your temporarily dilapidated tool and unleash your most prized possessions – your tongue and hands.

Give her oral sex and get busy. Explore her body as if the first time. Kiss her ears, neck and back. Stroke her hair. Pull it lightly. Caress her shoulders, gently sweep her inner thighs. Get busy with her nipples and stroke her breasts. (Are you sensing more foreplay coming?)

In a few minutes, you will feel another surge of the urge. In an instant, you will become a man again. It’s like being reborn, only better. It’s your second chance at bat, an opportunity the average guy rarely finds.

The loss of arousal and erection are not final. Barring medical conditions, arousal and erection should return. You may be calmed and satisfied after one blow, but just you wait a few minutes and you’ll be begging to ride her again.

Simply knowing this brings you on a different footing from the inexperienced boy who retires after one shot and anxiously wait for next week’s booty call. He never gets to meet his 2nd and 3rd winds!

This is the real issue with premature ejaculation, it’s how you treat her when you’re done.

How To Be A Great Kisser

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The kiss is an art form that a lot of couples assume isn’t necessary – but it is for amazing sex! Learn how to give the best lip service your partner’s ever had.

A kiss tends to be an oversight for some men. We want to get to the main event and rush the foreplay. The problem with this is that women like kissing just as much as sex. When you’re a bad kisser, women instantly shut down. If you’re wondering why you’re not going on more second and third dates, it could be because you’re a bad kisser. Being great at kissing can get you second and third dates based on this fact alone. So if you’re tired of getting the run-around from women and you’re willing to put a little practice into kissing, you can start out with these suggestions.

Lips

Obliviously it goes without saying that your lips are the most important part of kissing. However, a lot of guys forgo taking care of them before they go on a date. During the fall and winter months, lips can be bombarded by colder weather. Chapped and cracked lips are not sexy. Always carry lip balm with you to cut down on having chapped and cracked lips. Nobody wants to start kissing you when your lip could split and start bleeding. Applying lip balm to your lips once every hour will have them repaired in about a day.

Mirroring

Have you ever watched a couple kissing each other? When you watch a couple kiss, they are usually mirroring each other’s actions. When a guy puts his arms around the girl’s waist, she puts her arms around his waist. When the guy turns to the left to kiss his girlfriend, she turns to the left. Mirroring is compliance. This only occurs when the girl is comfortable with the guy. If she is not comfortable while kissing you, you should be able to feel it.

Escalation

Have you ever seen a guy go in for that kiss with too much momentum? This can be one of the most cringe-worth moments in a guy’s life. Kissing should be able escalation. You want to start slow. Barely touch her lips with you own and then escalate the situation further by kissing a little stronger every 5-6 seconds. When you start out too fast, you ruin the moment. Starting out slow is essential for getting her in the right mood.

Don’t Be Too Stiff

If you’re too stiff while you’re kissing, she will probably not be into it. Locked knees, hands gripping her waist like Stallone in Cliffhanger and a stiff neck are not what you want. Be loose, but firm. Hold her while you’re kissing, but don’t pull her into you so she can’t breath. You want to have mobility to distribute your weight while kissing. Moving your head and rocking back and forth are staples of good kissing. If you’re too stiff she won’t be able to mirror your movements. Remember that you’re leading during the kiss and she is supposed to be mirroring you. It shouldn’t be the other way around.

The Tongue

The tongue is another part of kissing that can be confusing. Yes, using your tongue is a lot of fun, but you shouldn’t be Reptile from Mortal Kombat. Keep that thing in your mouth until it’s time to use it. Don’t immediately shove your tongue into her mouth. This goes back to escalation. You want to ease into using your tongue. When implementing the tongue into kissing you want to gauge the situation based on her reciprocation. If you’re using your tongue and she’s not using it back, you might want to hold off until she feels more comfortable.

Hands

Your hands are a good way to pull the girl in closer and turn it on fairly quickly. If you’re hands are roaming around her body or her breasts, she could get uncomfortable. This also comes back to mirroring. When you start kissing, feel free to move your hands around her back and bring them up to her neck or cheeks. If she starts to pull back or she stops you from moving your hands around her, stop moving them immediately. She might be comfortable kissing her, but not comfortable with mauling her with your hands.

Finishing

Eventually the kissing will stop. When you are stopping you don’t want it to come to a grinding halt. Taper off from the kissing to tease her and leave her wanting more. If you stop immediately you will ruin the whole kiss. Pull your lips away slowly and take a second or two to allow the air to clear. You won’t want to pull away and then just start talking or walk away. Finish strong!

Why Your Guy Thinks You’re Sexy

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Foreplay often means undressing in front of your fella – which can be nerve wracking! But he’s not looking at your cellulite. Here’s why he thinks you’re HOT!

Your Breasts

Breasts are often served up first during foreplay, much to every single guy’s excitement. Some men are really super into breasts while others just “like” them, but there are very, very few guys (if any) that don’t like breasts at all. The thing is, a lot of women think that men only like certain kinds of breasts. For example, a man might only think a pair of breasts are sexy if they’re the right size and if they’re perky.

This isn’t true at all – it’s simply the result of social conditioning by lingerie companies. Men actually love all breasts. Any size, shape, color – it doesn’t matter. A woman with very large breasts might be unhappy that her breasts sag when she’s not wearing a bra, but her man is most likely just enjoying burying his face in them and making motorboat sounds. A woman with small breasts might want them to be bigger, but her guy is most likely just enjoying tickling and playing with her perky nipples. Men love breasts and they love every kind.

Your Butt

Your fella loves your butt. No matter what your butt looks like – whether it’s big and smackable, or a tiny little thing that looks good in a tight pair of jeans. Guys love to look at butts when they have sex, they like to grab them, smack them and sometimes even bite them. They like to watch you parade around in your underwear around the house and give you a little smack here and there. He especially likes to see it jiggle a little bit – or a lot, depending on his preferences.

Very few men have looked at a woman and said, “Wow, that ass just looks terrible. Just terrible.” In fact, what usually goes through a guy’s mind when he sees a butt that he particularly likes is how great it would look served up to him doggie style. So even if you have stretch marks or cellulite, you can bet that your guy loves your butt. Period.

Your Skin

Good foreplay involves lots of touching of your skin. Your guy loves your skin – he enjoys it so much because women’s skin is almost always softer than a man’s. It always smells good, is usually hairless in the important places and just feels great to rub, stroke, touch and grab. He’s not going to notice your stretch marks. He’s not going to be scrutinizing the quality of your skin, trying to figure out whether it’s dry and ashy and if you need to use more moisturizer or what kind you should use. He’s just enjoying touching and feeling the skin all over your body. So let him and don’t worry about it!

Your Lips

Most guys aren’t into fake lips. Ones injected with fillers, or those with lipliner drawn on so scarily that they really do look almost like a clown. Nope. He loves your soft, natural, wet lips. He especially enjoys them when you’re kissing him, or when he can feel them wrapped around his penis during a blowjob. He doesn’t like it when you put on gobs of lipstick or lipgloss – he may enjoy the way that looks in a photo or something, but he doesn’t want to come away with red or pink lips when he kisses you. And it just frustrates him if you’re wearing a lot of lip color, because then he can’t kiss you. He likes to kiss you whenever he wants!

Brush your lips with your toothbrush when you brush your teeth to remove dead skin and make them super soft. Dab on some good, organic balm and you’re perfectly kissable. He’ll love it.

Your Enthusiasm

If you are INTO sex, he’s going to be INTO you. Period. It doesn’t matter if you have rolls, cellulite, acne, droopy breasts. Doesn’t matter at all. If you are enthusiastic, excited about having sex with him and genuinely into it, he’s not going to notice all those things that you spend hours in the mirror picking apart. He’s just going to be so excited about how excited you are to be doing it with him. So next time you go to get it on with your beau, strip your clothes off, let him feel your skin, kiss him all over, rub your breasts in his face and act like you’re having the best time in the world. He won’t know what hit him.


Best Sexting & Dirty Talk Tips Of 2011

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Sexting and dirty talk will heat up your sex life like you never imagined! You’d be surprised at just how much this stuff can take a dull and boring sex life and turn it around into sex so hot, you’ll think you and your partner just met! Check out our favorite naughty articles of the year!

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our best sexting and dirty talking articles – these suggestions will get your sex life so hot, you won’t be able to contain it to the bedroom!

Also, we’ve worked very hard this year to find you the best resources to help you improve your sex life with sexting and titillating talk in the bedroom. Check out the ones we thought were the best and why, and see what you can learn to make your sex life hotter than ever before!

  • Text Your Wife Into Bed (This is THE resource on sexting – these suggestions are so hot, she’ll be ripping your pants off before you’ve sent the third text message!)
  • Dirty Talk Secrets (a great guide on how to introduce dirty talk into your sex life, with plenty of examples for those who aren’t quite sure what exactly to say)