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10 Reasons You’re A Bad Kisser

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Kiss someone the right way, and it is one of the most erotic actions that you can take with someone. A kiss can be something as little as a peck or as big as a make out session. But how do you know if you’re a bad kisser? Being a bad kisser is something that a lot of girls are, but few know. If you’re a bad kisser, you can recover with a little practice. Knowing a generalization of what your partner will like can help you on your way back to the light. Bad kissing can be just as awful as bad sex, so keep on your toes and apply the following information to your regiment.

1. You’re A Robot

Guys want sex. I don’t think this a huge revelation, but some women tend to forgo kissing and go straight for the ”you know what.” When you take your time and let emotion out, the guy can anticipate what is coming next. Being a robot and just going through the motions is never good. Do your part and put a little effort into your kissing. Passion can be just as important as your technique.

2. You’re A Too Much Tongue Gal

Your tongue can be a huge turn on when kissing, but if you use it too much he might feel like you’re mining for coal. Use your tongue to play with his but don’t give him a root canal. If you feel him closing his mouth and using his lips more, you know that you’re using too much tongue. Lay off the tongue and use it about half as much.

3. You’re Too Handsy

Your hands can wander while you are kissing, but kissing should more of a symphony than a bomb. You want to build up to the main event, not give it away instantly. If you do not use your hands to escalate the situation, you could be seen as frigid or a prude.

4. You’re A Stabber

Have you ever seen those discovery channel movies where the cobra snaps at a rat? This is not the motion that you want to do with your tongue. If you are essentially stabbing your victim with your tongue, you need to cut it out. This can be annoying and most likely he’s closed his mouth while you are trying to invade him. Go slowly and you will see much better results.

5. You’re A St. Bernard

Remember in Beethoven when that dog shook his slobber all over the walls? If your guy is lying in bed with raingear and galoshes, you can be sure that you use too much spit when you kiss. Salivating is a natural occurrence when you are kissing, but too much of it can be disgusting. Hold back and take a half second to swallow before you move back in. You and your guy will happy that you did.

6. You’re Gross

Yes, you might be gross. Do you take the necessary steps to ensure that you have soft lips and good breath? If not, you’re mouth is probably the last thing on his mind. Carry mints and dental floss with you in your handbag to ensure that you have good breath and nothing in your teeth before you start kissing.

7. You’re A Windmill

When you kiss, you should always be aware of too much circular motion that you’re giving. Save this for oral sex. When you are kissing, you should never act like a windmill. In all honesty, there is no counter attack for this move. The guy will not know what to do and he could easily freeze up.

8. You’re A Woodpecker

A peck on the lips or the cheek is great if you’re kissing your uncle, but you shouldn’t be doing this with a significant other. Pecking during a make out session can easily turn the guy off. There is nothing passionate or sexual about continuously pecking at his face.

9. You’re A Sucker

Do you like to suck on the guy’s tongue or lips? Some guys are really into this, while others are not. If you are sucking on a guys tongue lips, ease into it. No guy wants to be completely mauled right off the bat even if they are into it. Gauge his interest by easing into and see how it goes.

10. You’re A Biter

Biting a the lip is a great way to spice things up, but if you do it too hard you might draw a little blood. Biting a little can be really hot, but you should do it intermittently. Don’t make biting a something that you do all the time. Do it every 10-15 seconds to keep him wanting more.

Best Cunnilingus Tips Of 2011

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Cunnilingus is a great sexual gift for a girl, & you can really use it to your advantage to make her WILD! Girls love oral sex, but are often too afraid to ask for it. Many guys just don’t consider it a necessary part of foreplay, and usually just get on down to business.

Don’t be that guy!

Spend some time on her, focusing on her pleasure and licking her to a complete orgasmic frenzy. You’ll be glad you did when your girl is completely satisfied. In fact, if you’re in a relationship, don’t be surprised if you notice less nagging, arguing and overall discontentment from your girl after you start giving her incredible oral sex. If she’s content and satisfied sexually, she will be more content and satisfied in the partnership. So without further adieu, here are our best cunnilingus articles of the year!

If you really want to get good at cunnilingus (and make your girl never, ever want to leave you), then you definitely don’t want to miss our best cunnilingus articles of all time!

Also, don’t forget to check out the resources we found this year on how to eat a girl out and have her absolutely writhing with pleasure! If you do it right, she’ll want to have sex with you more often than you ever thought possible!

How To Seduce Her With A Leg, Butt And Lower Back Massage

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Erotic massage will make your woman melt if you use touch the right way. Here’s where to focus when you do the butt, lower back and legs.

How To Get Started

When beginning foreplay, start with your lover still lying on her front side with her back exposed. The natural progression will be to continue massaging down to her buttocks, legs and feet. To do this, make a nice transitional move by starting at the top of her shoulders with the palms of both of your hands facing flat down, and in a long slow smooth stroke, work your way down to her lower back, buttocks, upper legs, calf muscles, and feet, and finally to her toes.

Important Note! Because you will be including her buttocks in this portion of the massage, you will want to remove the covering you placed over the area at the start of the massage.

Now, reverse this move by continuing up from her feet all the way up to her upper back again and then repeat these same moves up and down again a few times more. You don’t have to follow the same path strictly every time, so make sure to vary it using your own creativity. You can try running your hands all the way up and down the sides of her body from just below her armpits or breasts to her feet, or try a combination of both described methods on top of her body and the sides.

Switch around a few times and see what works well for you and her. The main point in this transition is to make long stroking movements all the way from one end of her body to the other, with your last transitional stroke leaving you at her legs and buttocks so that you can begin teasing new areas.

Beginning The Leg Massage

When you are ready to begin massage her legs, you will want to start at her ankles. Focusing on one leg at a time, lightly grasp her on the calf with both hands just above the ankles and begin moving it upwards towards her buttocks as shown in the photo below.

Continue moving up and down her leg a few times in this way. You can also add a kneading motion by grasping in and out with your hands as if squeezing a soft foam rubber ball. Your thumbs can come in handy too. As you are running your hands up towards the top of her leg, use your thumb on the inside of her thigh while adding a firm pressure. It’s very relaxing and also very sensual for her to have your thumb getting in the proximity of her vagina. So don’t be afraid to tease her a bit.

The next maneuver is something that will feel delightfully sensual to your partner while massaging her upper legs. Just as you wedged your hand underneath her upper torso (in between her body and the surface she is laying on), do the same with her legs. This time, however, wedge your upturned palm underneath her leg and in between the surface it is laying on. Start at the upper portion of her leg near her hip, and then glide your hand all the way down the front of her leg to just above her kneecap. Next, with your hand completely wedged between her leg and the surface, glide your hand back up until you reach close to where her legs meet her hip. This will get your hands very close to her vagina, but remember to not yet directly touch her vagina, as you want to create a bit of anticipation and playful sexual tension first.

The Calf Massage

Proceeding down to her calf muscle, you will now be moving your hands back to the top of her leg again. When massaging the calf muscle area, be very gentle as this muscle can be quite sensitive to pressure on some people. Light to medium pressure works best.

To start, take your hand and lightly grasp her calf just below the knee fold area. Now run your hand down her calf until you reach her ankle, and then slide back up again. You can add a “kneading” motion as well to this as you travel up and down for an extra soothing feel.

Important Note! When working solely on her legs, place the cover over your partner’s buttocks. Not only will ensure her comfort, it will help to increase her anticipation for more sensual pleasure. With her buttocks covered once again, she will wonder when she will get to experience the delight of being completely exposed and having more intimate areas included in the massage.

With one hand now supporting her raised foot, take your free hand and run it up and down her calf a few times while applying a firm pressure. You can also add a light kneading motion to this as well for and extra soothing experience.

3 Key Elements of Artful Teasing

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Foreplay can be just as amazing as the sex itself if you do it right. Here are three tips you don’t want to miss out on if you want foreplay to be HOT!

How A Great Lover Seduces A Woman

This is how a great lover ensnares a woman: He dangles a PRIZE and tempts her with it. He tempts her and shows her how desirable the thing is. She mentally agrees. He then ups the ante and tempts her some more, showing more virtues for the prize. Now her lust is awakened. Now, she wants it. In fact, she may want it more than she’s willing to admit.

So she starts reaching for the now coveted prize, but at the perfect moment, her lover purposely hides it or brings it slightly out of reach. She almost got what she wanted, but not quite. Now, she lusts for it even more. She’s intrigued by her inability to get what she wanted, because from her experience, this doesn’t happen very often.

Then, the great lover stirs more desire by enticing her with the prize once again. And once again she pursues – and the game is really just beginning….

Artful teasing has 3 key elements:

  1. The Prize
  2. The Strategic Back-Off
  3. The Payoff

The Prize

That’s you! It includes everything you do with your mouth, hands, penis and the rest of your body. Get this: You have sexual value. You have things to offer that no one in this entire universe, except you, can give.

You may not have a stunning bod or those gorgeous pecs, but there are wonderful, mind blowing things that only you can do to her. It’s your exclusive and personal brand of sex, the specific way your hand or tongue moves or the distinctive strength of your thrusts. Whether you already know it or not, you do have the goods to deliver, and she’s damn lucky to have you with her on any given night – I want you to get that.

It is really, really important that you don’t go inside that bedroom feeling the luckiest guy in the world – I don’t care how hot she is. Because the truth is, with the stuff you’re now learning, I’m thinking she’s the one who’ll be screaming “Ding! Ding! Ding!”

And as the prize, YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT.

The Strategic Back-Off

This is the “Pull” element. The game of teasing isn’t played in a linear, straightforward fashion – there are breaks, pauses and reverses along the way. True, one needs to move forward, but just as important are times when one backs-off.

THOSE MOMENTS, WHEN YOU REVERSE OR PAUSE (and seemingly do nothing), ARE AS VITAL AS WHEN YOU’RE BUSY PROGRESSING TOWARDS SOMETHING.

For example, if you’re unzipping her dress, you might stop halfway and continue kissing. Or you can simply zip it up again. When she’s all naked and seems to think you’re heading down south, camp around the belly area, or even go back up. These add exciting unpredictability to your repertoire.

Learn the concept of Near-the-Spot teasing maneuvers. Play AROUND her happy areas, not ON them. Make her think you’re going somewhere on her body, but back-off at the last instant. She’ll soon salivate and whine for you to hit her moan zones.

The “Strategic Back-Off” not only buys you time to fuel a woman’s lust, it’s the explosive fuel that makes things interesting. You actually need to perform strategic back-offs even when she’s giving you all green lights. Because no matter how great your moves are, if you do them in predictable straight-line fashion, you rob them of their punch.

However, don’t be all over the place and become totally unpredictable to the point of being strange.

The Payoff

The teasing game works because a woman assumes there will be a big payoff in the end. This is what makes delayed gratification worth it. Great rewards are up ahead, as long as she doesn’t take shortcuts or drown the process. This may be in the form of an orgasm, a kiss, a sucking of her breasts, penetration etc. In the end, you’ve ALWAYS got to let her have it.

Your Man’s Top 3 Secret Erogenous Zones REVEALED!

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Foreplay is just as important for a guy as it is a girl. Here are your guy’s three most hidden – yet powerful – hot spots! Don’t miss THESE during foreplay!

The Usual Erogenous Zones

We are all familiar with the usual erogenous zones that men have: lips, nipples, and penis. When you give your man a juicy kiss, you start to get his heart racing and his blood pumping. When you lick his nipples and suck on them, you start to get him hard and he begins wanting you more and more. When you stroke and rub his penis, that’s how you get him to climax and how you put a cherry on top of the evening. Even though these 3 spots on his body feel good when you touch them, they aren’t the only spots on his body that he wants stimulated.

Men are more in depth than we give them credit for and there are three top secret erogenous zones on his body that you probably have never explored before. You are missing out on giving your man some amazing foreplay, anticipation, and pleasure. If you don’t want to miss out on this for another moment, it’s time you learned just where to touch him and when to touch him.

His Back

Probably the biggest hot spot on his body that gets left untouched, a man’s back is jam packed with so many nerve endings that it is just begging to be touched. The beauty of this hot spot is that it is so versatile. You can both be rough with him and scratch his back or you can get a little gentler and give him soft kisses. His back can be stimulated via a massage and used as a tool in foreplay to get him aroused or you can dig your claws into his back when he is on top of you during sex.

No matter what form of stimulation you choose to use on him, just make sure that you are doing something to his back and touching it all over. Don’t just focus on his shoulders too. Make sure that you rub him all over and that you especially hit the most sensitive spot, that being the small of his back. You know how good it feels when your man’s lips trace along the small of your back so why not give him the same satisfaction as well? Of course it may feel a little less intense for him but it will be a touch and a feeling that lingers for a while to come.

His Thighs

This is one hot spot on his body that you do not want to miss but chances are you are always overlooking it. When we think about pleasing a man, we think about giving him rough stimulation and manhandling him. Naturally, men are built tough so when we do give them stimulation, it is usually a little rougher than usual. However, this mindset shouldn’t always be the case. There are spots on his body that he wants to be touched just like how you want to be touched there. His thighs are one of those spots that regularly gets ignored and that is because thighs have a feminine association. When we think of thighs being stimulated, we think of how men lick and bite a woman’s thighs before he goes down on her. Thighs are often thought of being only pleasurable when stimulated for women but you’d be surprised.

The next time you and your man are getting down and dirty, trace your nails down his thighs or better yet, dig your claws right into them. Since his thighs are very sensitive, you have to be a little rough with them or else you are going to make him laugh rather than get him hard. This may be a ticklish spot on his body but with your hands so close to his penis but yet so far away, he is going to love the anticipation that comes with you rubbing his thighs and teasing him.

His Buttocks

Now, let’s not get ahead of ourselves here. There is a big difference between his buttocks and his anus. We are not talking about rimming or fingering him or anything invasive. That is a whole different realm of stimulation and one that takes some serious conversation. Rather, when talking about his buttocks as being an erogenous zone, we are only focusing on the cheeks. Spanking a man, scratching his cheeks or even rubbing them are all forms of stimulation that really get him hot.

Most men don’t like it when women get too close to their behinds but if you do it in the right way, it is a massive erogenous zone that he probably never even knew he had. The best way to touch his buttocks to get him hot and heavy is to spank him during sex. While he is on top of you, this is a prime opportunity for you to really give it to him. You can even place your hands on his buttocks and drive him into you even more. This will really turn his crank. You can scratch at his buttocks and spank him to really up the ante.

There are plenty of other erogenous zones on your man’s body that are craving some stimulation so open your mind and your eyes and really get down to exploring all of the possibilities you never even knew existed.