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Foreplay: Building Sexual Tension Through Touch

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Foreplay is what makes having sex absolutely amazing! Without sexual tension, “doing it” can be boring and blah. Here’s how touching your partner can help.

When Lust Enters The Equation

When you first start seeing someone, the lust is uncontrollable. You can barely keep your hands off each other. There is hardly a moment when you’re not physically connected. Then a few years down the road, you hardly touch except to make love. Unbeknownst to you, this can prove to be detrimental to the relationship. Men don’t require much physical attention to feel close to their partners. Being allowed to put it in her warm place on a regular basis is enough to feel a strong bond. However, women react differently. They love to be touched and caressed. If not given enough physical contact outside the bedroom, they can begin to feel objectified and devalued. Men typically don’t understand this because they are not fully appreciative of what it is like to be a woman.

Women spend much of their lives fighting objectification. From the day she got boobs, men of all ages have been leering at her sexually. It’s a life-changing moment the first time a girl catches one of her dad’s best friends looking at her ass. When she is in a relationship, she does not want her partner to make her feel the way she did when she caught “Uncle Larry” checking her out.

It’s not too difficult to avoid coming across as Chester the Molester. You just need to learn to express some physical intimacy when you’re not in the sack. That doesn’t mean fondle her breasts while you’re sitting on the couch. It means employing other forms of touch into your relationship.

Hold Her Hand!

One of the greatest foreplay builders can be simple hand holding. Whether you’re walking down the street or sitting in a movie, grab her hand just to hold it, but not to put it on your crotch. It will make her feel warm and comforted. Don’t be afraid to kiss her fingers or stroke her palm. The sensations will increase her desire to touch you with more body parts.

Hug Her!

Another under-utilized foreplay tool is hugging. Wrapping her in a warm embrace, with no pretenses of poking her with your penis, makes her feel secure. Hold her while you chat about your day. Stroke her back, and give her little kisses on the nose. Gaze into her eyes for a long period of time. Studies have shown that prolonged eye contact is an intimacy builder, and intimacy is what she wants to feel with you.

Kiss Her!

Lastly, kiss her. Kiss her just to kiss her. If you can manage that without humping her leg, the emotional reward she feels with greatly outweigh the physical reward you get from sex – and the sexual tension will be unimaginable! Don’t just kiss her to humor her, really appreciate what she gets out of it. The more you bond physically outside the bedroom, the more she’s going to want to bond in the sack!

Female Orgasm – 2 Secrets That WORK To Prime Her For An Incredible Climax!

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An orgasm doesn’t have to be rocket science – with these two simple tricks, she’ll be well on her way to climax heaven (and begging for more!)

Sex Doesn’t Always Start In The Bedroom!

When a man gives his partner a great sense of sexual pleasure, he is aware of one fact that most guys don’t know: sex does not always begin in the bedroom! You should have a plan for a steamier sexual experience with your partner. You should do something beforehand to give her the best sex – and orgasms!

One great way to put your partner in a sexual mood is by giving her some kind of an intermission before the actual intimate act. Women cannot be turned on just with physical intimacy. Their minds need to be conditioned prior to the sexual intercourse. This can be done by spicing things up with a twist of romance.

There are two settings that you can use to liven up the sexual experience with your partner.

Cook Your Way Into Her Pants

You may begin by cooking a special meal while she is not yet home. Cook whatever recipe you know because even if it is not the best food that she will eat, your effort in preparing this will surely be appreciated. And, while she’s stuck in the traffic, make a path of candles and turn off all the lights in your house. Make it a candlelight dinner if you find it more appealing for your partner. Put white wine or champagne on your list of what to serve.

Just before the dessert, prepare a nice, warm bubble bath for her. Dim the lights and have candles lit around the tub. After dinner, take her to the bathroom and be the one to undress her. While you give her a bath, touch every sensitive part of her body, but do not begin your exploration with her breasts. Once she becomes in the mood for sex, you may start caressing her inner thighs.

Right after the bath, dry her up and begin with the most awaited foreplay. Not only will you prepare her physically, you will also put her into the feel of having an exhilarating moment with you – guaranteed to prime her for an amazing orgasm later.

Sexting Works Like A Charm!

If you and your partner have creativity in mind, you may take this passionate plan away from the privacy of your home. You can take her to a restaurant for dinner. Once in the restaurant, excuse yourself for some private time in the bathroom. Then call her using your cell phone, as she waits for you at the table. Tell her about your deepest and most intimate desires while on the line. This will surely please her because women are very imaginative about sexual fantasies especially with the person they go to bed with!

You may continue this sexual innuendo after dinner as you ride in the car to a secluded place. Play a sensual music in the background, something that will set the atmosphere for the two of you. Then whisper gently into her ears everything that you have planned to do to her.

Once you hear her ask for more, take her! If the car seems uncomfortable for the two of you, you may want to head to the nearest motel in town. And with the intense sexual anticipation already building up, you will certainly give her the best sex (and and climax) ever!

How Erotic Massage Will TRIPLE Your Partner’s Sexual Desire!

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Erotic massage can be exactly what your lover needs if your life has dwindled. Find out how erotic massage can make your girl want it again!

When She Doesn’t “Want It” Anymore

One of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually are one of the most common complaints among men in long-term relationships is their female partner’s lack of sexual desire. And no matter how many different attempts they make to sexually arouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

What a lot of men don’t understand is that a woman’s desire for sex is directly linked to how she feels about her partner and her relationship. If her needs are being met by her partner and she feels happy and emotionally connected to her partner, she will be more receptive to sex.

Sexual desire is part of a man’s chemical makeup. That is not the case for women. A man is almost automatically wired to desire sex. A woman, however, has to have a reason to desire lovemaking. While a man can feel instant arousal by the sight of his female partner showering naked, it usually takes a lot more for a woman to feel aroused. And this is exactly where erotic massage comes into play!

How Erotic Massage Can Help

Erotic massage can be quite rejuvenating both physically and sexually for both partners. This is due to the massage having the ability to influence our brain chemistry through the stimulation of our endocrine glands. During this stimulation, our glands produce more serotonin, DHEA, testosterone, and oxytocin—chemicals responsible for inducing sexual desire.

For women, the effects of an erotic massage are like a natural aphrodisiac. In addition to the stimulation of hormones linked to sexual desire, the massage also increases blood circulation. As the hormones begin to flood into her enhanced blood stream, she becomes sexually aroused and her desire for sex increases. Erotic massage has also been proven to enhance orgasms in women. One scientific study conducted by the University of California San Francisco found that women given a 15-minute Swedish massage experienced increased levels of oxytocin—a hormone that is released during climax. So not only does her desire for sex increase, she’ll also be more likely to have an orgasm.

Erotic massage can also reduce anxiety about sexual performance in both men and women. Preliminary findings of a study at the Touch Research Institute showed that couples that massaged each other had lower levels of sexual performance anxiety. They also reported increased physical intimacy (Hernandez, 2000). With reduced anxiety and increased affection and intimacy, many couples’ sex lives are rejuvenated by introducing sensual and erotic massage into their relationships.ouse their partners, more often than not, they find themselves having to go to bed at night without sex, along with feelings of frustration and rejection.

Sex Tips: The TRUTH About How Women Look At Men Sexually

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Sex tips will get you only so far – understanding the way girls see guys sexually will give you the foundation for a great sex life.

Gorgeous Girls With Ugly Guys?

I’m sure you’ve seen it a million times: the most beautiful woman you’ve seen in years on the arm of the ugliest/nerdiest/oldest man you’ve ever seen. I’m sure your first thought was, “Wow, that guy must be filthy freakin’ rich!” Well, maybe. Maybe not. Either way, that’s probably not the whole story.

The Difference Between Guys And Girls

Men and women become sexually aroused for different reasons. Men are visual, and women are multisensory. While men can get turned on by even a hint of naked flesh, women incorporate all their senses and feelings into arousal. So even if the man isn’t the most visually appealing, he could be brilliant with a wicked sense of humor and smells nice and tastes like chocolate mousse, and, yes, maybe he pays for dinner. One thing you can guarantee, he has admitted to goals outside getting that woman into bed.

When It Comes To Having Sex

Women look at the whole package, or at least aspects of the package you don’t. When men see a beautiful woman, they are physically capable of having sex with her in a matter of seconds, and probably able to finish not long after that. (This is part of the reason Playboy has remained one of the most successful publications in American history, and why Playgirl tanked when gay men got their own porn.) Women, however, need to have other senses satisfied. A good conversation is as erotic to a woman as her low-cut blouse is to you.

Sex And Emotion

This brings us to the next point: to a woman, sex and emotion are not mutually exclusive. A woman has to feel an emotional connection to her partner in order to enjoy the sex. This does not mean that a woman cannot have casual sex. It simply means that there must be an understanding of mutual respect between partners for a woman to be satisfied.

All that requires is for the man to be aware of the fact that there is a living, breathing, responsive human under him. Stated as such, that may be obvious, but it is quite overlooked. While you’re hoping you don’t have premature ejaculation, she is feeling every moment of the process and evaluating it. If you’re ignoring her while you’re inside her, she can sense it, and may see it as a form of rejection. This will not make her want to have sex with you again.

If You Can Make Her Orgasm

So there you go, if the ugly/nerdy/old guy can get a supermodel (and make her orgasm), then by all means you should be able to get the cute girl two cubes down from you. Just appeal to all her senses. And throw on some Barry White. That never hurt anyone.

The Best Erogenous Zones Below The Belt

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Erogenous zones underneath the navel don’t just include the clitoris – there’s a lot more! Check out these erogenous zones you probably didn’t know about.

You probably think this is going to be a guide to the clitoris. Well, you’re wrong. There are other erogenous zones below the belt you can touch her besides between her legs. I will break it down into regions for you so it’ll be easier to comprehend.

The Booty

I’m sure that you go for the booty-grab at every moment you can sneak on in. She leans in for a kiss – grab the booty. She gives you a hug – grab the booty. She’s doing dishes – grab the booty. When you’re in bed, there’s also the booty smack. Before you incorporate this move, be sure she’ll be down for it. I don’t mean you should stop while you’re railing her from behind and say, “Excuse me, miss, would you mind so much if I smacked that booty?” You should be comfortable enough with her to know in advance how she’s going to react.

Then there’s the more sensual approach to touching her booty, and that is the tickle. You can use your fingers, a feather, or anything else lying around. Start with her back. Caress her so lightly that you hardly make contact with her skin. Move down toward her lower back. Hang out there for a while as her body relaxes. Trace the sides of her hips, and finally, right where the thigh and the buttocks meet. Move away, and come back every once and a while. It will send shivers through her whole body. Especially to the spot you want to stimulate.

The Knees

The knees are an often overlooked area when it comes to erogenous zones. You can give fluttery little kisses around the kneecaps, or tiny bites on the sides of the knee. The real pleasure center here, though, is the back of the knees. Now, most women are quite ticklish on the backs of their knees, but if she’s relaxed, it can give exciting sensations similar to when you tickle under her buttocks. Make sure you use only the lightest of touch, but caressing her behind her knees will give her a thrill even she’s not expecting!

The Feet

Never underestimate the power of the foot massage. It’s become a bit of a cliché, but its effectiveness has stood the test of time. Women typically wear all kinds of crazy shoes. If you give even five minutes of a good foot rub, it will ease the tension of the day. Use slow movements to make it a more erotic massage, and add some lotion to your palms to help glide along the foot. She will be so grateful, she’ll want to come up with some way special to thank you!