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How NOT To Be Boring In Bed!

By loveandsex

Sex tips are something you want to have in your “tool belt” if you don’t want to make your girl yawn instead of orgasm. Use these sex tips to keep things fresh.

Don’t Be A Bore In Bed

Most men seem to think that there is a method to sex – it’s called the Foreplay-Penetration-Ejaculation (FPE) Sequence. There are two major things wrong with this misconception: 1) It’s boring, and 2) It’s all about your pleasure. I will elaborate by addressing the issues one at a time.

Why It’s Lame

The bore factor of FPE may be obvious to some, but let me explain further as to why. Let’s say you really like a certain kind of bratwurst, so you have two a day for dinner. After a while, it no longer becomes a special treat. It still tastes delicious, but it ceases to be interesting. You may end up losing your taste for it all together.

She will react the same way to boring sex. Maybe you go down on her every day, fulfilling the foreplay obligation of the FPE sequence. How long until you’re down there for hours, tongue exhausted, while she’s filing her nails? The best lover is the one who understands variety. I’m not talking about whips and chains and three-ways, just a willingness to vary the process from time to time.

Communication Is Key!

Couples are sometimes embarrassed to talk openly about sex and what happens in the bedroom, but for different reasons. Women are generally socialized to not criticize. Men will take suggestions as a blow to their egos. However, direction is not criticism. You are not a mind reader, nor should she expect you to be. Encourage open dialogue, even in the middle of the act. If she is telling you, “to the left, to the left,” this is not criticism of your technique; she’s just helping you figure out what feels good to her. Now onto the next problem.

It Shouldn’t Be All About YOU

I have some bad news. Your partner does not think that your penis is God’s gift to the world. She is not in bed with you so she can look at your penis, stroke your penis, or smother your penis with undying adoration. You’re the only one in the room who is that blatantly fond of your member. She is in bed with you because of you. She likes you enough to allow you to enter her body. Don’t give her a reason to reconsider.

How SHE Gets Pleasure

The semantics of FPE explains the issue. She neither penetrates you (unless you’re into that kind of thing) nor does she ejaculate (well, some women do). The part that is most pleasurable to her is relegated to the opening third of the act. There is no law that says sex has to happen in that exact sequence, nor is it necessary to see sex as merely penetration.

The act of being intimate is sex to her. Touching, kissing, sucking, and caressing are all part of it. Readjust your thinking for her sake, and don’t make your member the primary factor in the situation. Remember, there are two people in that bed, and only one penis.

Filed Under: Sex Tips & Advice Tagged With: ejaculation, foreplay, penetration, sex tips

How To Give An Erotic Massage In The Bathtub

By loveandsex

An erotic massage will make a woman so relaxed, she’ll want to do anything with you! Here’s how to give her a great rub down in the tub.

One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really give her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide.

How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her

No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.

First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what type of aromatherapy or scented oil you used.

So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.

Also, don’t scrimp on the candles okay? The more, the merrier!

Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.

Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the erotic massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.

Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the erotic massage.

Sexual Massage Moves In The Bath

For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.

Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.

You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.

Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of an erotic massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.

Get In The Bathtub Too

Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part – massaging her front.

Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!) You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!

Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her clitoris.

Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.

As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot.’ Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her orgasm but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: erotic massage, fingering, foreplay, have better sex, sex tips

How To Be A Pro At Cunnilingus

By loveandsex

Oral sex is an incredible gift to give to a woman – but not so much if you don’t know your way around down there. Here’s how to get good at cunnilingus.

Cunnilingus: The Pro vs. The Joe

Cunnilingus – it can be a daunting task for an amateur. So how can you go from being Average Joe to an oral Pro? Learn what separates the two.

What “Joe” Does

First, Joe makes a bee line for the clitoris. He either just learned what it is and can’t wait to try it out, or he is trying to get her going as fast as he can so he can get up in there. It may get her off, but there’s no real wow factor.

However, Joe takes some risks if he tries to impress. He has heard that teasing a woman makes her orgasm harder, but that’s as well versed as he is in the female orgasm. Level 2 Joe makes the worst mistake a man can make – he quits right as she is on the brink of getting off. This does not make her cum harder; this makes her stop cumming all together. It takes a lot of work for a woman to reach orgasm, so if you send her back to Go without letting her collect the proverbial $200, it’s doghouse-city for you, buddy.

What The “Pro” Does

The Pro takes his time, making it about the sensual experience in its entirety, not just the cunnilingus. He spends time with her breasts, licking and sucking her nipples. Women have varying degrees of sensitivity in their nipples. Some have next to none, while others have reported orgasms simply through breast feeding. For the most part, stimulation of the nipples is like a direct line to the clitoris.

Next the Pro will move to the belly, kissing around her navel. He moves to the inner thighs, brushing his lips across the highly sensitive skin. If the nipples were properly stimulated before, the breath near that area, or the accidental brush with his nose, can get her almost overwhelmingly hot before his tongue even grazes the clitoris.

The Pro not only knows where the clitoris is located, but he knows how to work it. It is important to move the vaginal lips aside in order to properly access the clitoris. The clitoris is oblong and smooth, and it looks like it sort of opens up into the vulva. The part where it opens up is the money spot. More specifically, the upper left-hand part of this money spot is the jackpot spot. There is a highly concentrated grouping of nerve endings that, when properly stimulated will send her to orgasm land in under two minutes.

The most important thing the Pro knows is when to tease and when to please. He knows his partner well enough to know at which point he needs to stop beating around the bush, so to speak, and just finish her off. Until you master this – and it varies with each woman, so it requires getting to know her specifically – don’t stray from the clitoris once you’re there. Otherwise, you better hope she’s not wearing stilettos when she kicks you in the kidney.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: clitoris, cunnilingus, foreplay, oral sex, sex tips

5 Porn Star Blowjob Secrets EXPOSED!

By loveandsex

A blowjob is an amazing gift you can give to your partner – even better than sex. Every guy loves getting head – there’s nothing that compares to the feeling of a hot, wet mouth on his penis. However, there are far too many girls that don’t know how to give a good blowjob, leaving their men to watch porn and wish their girlfriends and wives could suck them like that. Make his fantasies come true by learning a blowjob like a porn star! Here are five porn star blowjob secrets that turn boring, run of the mill oral sex into something incredible!

Play With It First

All good porn stars know that you can’t just put your mouth on a guy’s cock and expect fireworks to happen. Guys need a little warm up time too, although they need far less than girls. So warm your guy up by playing with his penis a little first, before you start sucking on it. Rub it lightly over his underwear or over the sheet while you’re lying in bed. Rub it against your cheek, your lips and your face. Give yourself a little smack with it! Your enthusiasm and obvious love for his member will turn him on more than anything else.

Make Eye Contact & Smile

A guy really wants to see that you’re enjoying giving him head. You can let him know that you love what you’re doing by looking him in the eye and smiling when you’re going down on him. If you ask almost any man what his favorite thing about his partner is, he will likely either say her eyes or her smile – or both. When you make deep, soulful eye contact with your lover and smile while giving him a blowjob, you’ll not only make his knees weak with pleasure but you’ll also get him involved emotionally.

Deep Throat

Deep throating is hard work. It’s easy to gag and in some cases, women have vomited because their lover’s penis aggravated their gag reflex so much. (It wasn’t their fault). Men love to have women deep throat them though – in fact, many guys feel like it’s the “holy grail” of getting oral sex. Fortunately, you can still deep throat – without vomiting – even if you have a strong gag reflex. It’s a learned skill that takes practice (and breathing through your nose). Practice deep throating each time you give your lover a blowjob, and you’ll get better and better at it.

Don’t Be Afraid To Swallow

Most porn stars aren’t afraid to swallow their partner’s semen. Some seem to really, really love it! Sure, it’s an acquired taste and all, but the truth is, if you can learn to stomach it (or learn to love it), your man will LOVE his blowjob. There’s just something super sexy – and ultra naughty – about a woman who swallows her man’s spunk like it’s the most delicious thing she’s ever tasted. If you can’t manage to bring yourself to swallow, have a towel nearby that you can discreetly spit his semen in when he’s finished. If you’re acting like you can’t get enough, he’s not going to notice or care if you spit in a towel while he’s not looking.

Bring The Variety

Some girls get in a “rut” when it comes to giving a blowjob. They find a few techniques that work well and use them over and over again. Worse yet are the women that thing simply moving their mouth up and down their lover’s penis is a good blowjob. If you want to give head like a porn star and make your guy get down on his knees and beg for more, you want to learn several great techniques that you can mix and match when going down on him.

When going down on your lover, take note of his reactions each time you use a new technique. Play with it a little – this is part of the fun of giving excellent head! Try a technique and judge his reaction. Does he love it? Does he moan, grunt or thrust his pelvis towards your face? Or does he just kind of sit back, waiting for you to do something else? When you pay attention to his cues and body language, you’ll learn what he likes and doesn’t like. Then, take a mental note of what works (forget about what doesn’t) and use the best techniques in a different order and at different times to keep things fresh.

Filed Under: Oral Sex Tagged With: blowjob, fellatio, foreplay, oral sex, sex tips

How To Feel Her Breasts – The RIGHT Way

By loveandsex

Foreplay leads to great orgasms – and you definitely don’t want to neglect the breasts when it comes to foreplay. Here’s how to touch her the way she wants.

Whether you’re a leg man or an ass man, every man is a breast man. Breasts have more nicknames than anything else on the planet. Gossip blogs are constantly reporting on celebrity “nipple slips.” The mere hint of Janet Jackson’s bear breast during the Super Bowl Half-Time Show caused one of the largest controversies in media history. So what is this crazy obsession we have with breasts? Is it just because men don’t have them? Is it some Oedipal reaction to having been breast-fed? Whatever it is, men like breasts, and they like them a lot.

Self Control Is Key

One of the most common complaints women have about their partners is that he won’t stop touching her boobs. Everything they do together, he must somehow incorporate the titty-grab. When he’s watching TV, he’s playing with her nipples. While she’s doing the dishes, he’s massaging her mammories.

I know, I know, they’re there, they’re awesome, and you just gotta touch them. In the long run, this could end up hindering your rack rights. So unless you’re up for a booby-free existence, let’s go for quality over quantity when it comes to funbag fondling. If you’re willing to practice a little self control, she will actually love to have you all over her chest.

Don’t Pull Down

The cardinal rule of breast handling is never pull down! Women spend billions of dollars every year on bras that lift them up and surgeries to add perk. If you’re yanking downward on them, it feels like you’re undoing all that work. She will actually get the heebie-jeebies, which is not the sensation you’re going for if you’re trying to warm her up for sex. Concentrate instead on upward motions. Stroke, cup, and fondle, but never in a downward motion.

How To Tease Her

So now you know in which direction to touch her, but now you need to know how. Do not just nose dive for the nipples. Yes, nipple stimulation works, but it’s much more effective to tease around them first. Grab one and give it soft bites along the underside. Repeat on the opposite breast. If you give one attention, don’t forget to give the other one the same amount.

Just like you don’t want her to play favorites with your testicles, she doesn’t like it if you over-indulge one of her boobs. You can kiss, suck, lick, and caress your way up to the nipple. Once you get there, she will be so riled up that the feeling of her nipple between your teeth will bring her to near orgasm.

There you have it. With proper attention paid to both breasts and avoidance of the nipple until prime time; you’ll go from simply being a breast man to becoming a breast master.

Filed Under: Foreplay Tagged With: female orgasm, foreplay, kissing, orgasm, seduction, sex tips

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