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3 Foreplay Strategies That Will Leave Her Breathless

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Foreplay is the #1 thing that women need to have great sex. Learn these three foreplay techniques that will make her putty in your hands.

Women seem to have an amount of sexual self control that men just can’t wrap their minds around. They can tease and play to the point where you are sporting some serious blue balls, and she hasn’t even gotten wet. Guess what, you can beat her at her own game. You just need a good game plan. Here’s a quick guideline to driving her mad for you.

The Prize

Guess what, buddy, you are the prize, and you probably never hear that. Women’s magazines are inundated with advice about how to love yourself. It’s practically all Oprah talks about. However, men don’t often get the same encouragement. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t hear it. You have something to offer. Sex with you is unlike sex she has had or will have with anyone else. Keep this in your mind on the way to the bedroom. There is nothing more arousing than confidence. If you’re unsure or apologetic, she will sense it, and it will make everyone uncomfortable.

The Strategic Back-Off

So you are at the point where you are definitely going to have sex. A man’s first instinct is to get in there, and get the job done. Yes, this is fun. For you. For around three and a half minutes. However, you can make it better. For the both of you. Instead of ripping her clothes off and diving in penis first, ease into it. Pull the straps of her dress down, and kiss her shoulders. Then push her straps back up, and kiss her mouth. If you’re about to head downstairs, pause to nibble around her belly and inner thighs. A woman’s sexual experience is multi-sensory. Every touch, caress, and kiss sends shocks through her body. You can drive her to near insanity.  Isn’t it more fun for her to beg for sex?

The Payoff

The Payoff is really, really good sex. It’s not just good sex for her, but for you, as well. When you tease her, you are teasing yourself. You may want to lick her lips or suck her breast more than anything, but if you wait until the point where you just can’t hold off anymore, the taste of her mouth and her breasts is even sweeter. If you’re running your lips across her inner thigh, savoring her flesh before you pleasure her, then your own sexual energy builds and builds. The more it builds, the more it releases, giving you a more intense, satisfying orgasm.

3 Mind Blowing Sex Techniques

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Sex can drive her wild – IF you know how to do it the right way. A lot of guys don’t know their way around a girl’s anatomy, let alone actually use tried and true sex techniques to bring her to orgasm. Here are three ways to make a girl go crazy with sexual pleasure!

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The Art Of Teasing During Foreplay

A lot of guys rush in during sex, anxious to get to the main event. Intercourse feels so great for a guy, he automatically assumes that it feels that excellent for a girl without really thinking it through. However, skipping the foreplay stage can really lower the pleasure factor for a woman – even completely. So take your time with foreplay and tease your partner. Get her to really want and crave your touch! Here’s how:

Kiss Lightly Up Her Legs

Start at her feet and kiss and lick lightly all the way up her legs, as though you were going to give her oral sex – but don’t! Get your mouth close to her vagina, nibble or kiss a little on the inside of her thighs, and then make your way back down her legs again all the way to her toes. Do this a few times and she’ll be begging you to put your mouth on her!

You can even take the teasing up a notch by giving her a little oral sex but then backing off for a few minutes while you caress your partner’s legs. If you tease too much without any stimulation, she may get bored with it. However, with the right combination of teasing and actual touching, you can really drive your lover wild!

Take Your Lover By Surprise

Every woman gets tired of the same old same old when it comes to seduction. What worked before isn’t always going to work, so you have to keep looking for new ways to get your partner’s attention and get her turned on. Even things that seemingly worked like magic just a few months ago aren’t necessarily going to work again, so you always want to stay on top of your game with new ways to seduce and tease your lover. Here’s how to surprise your partner with an extra bold kiss:

The Door Slam

Grab your lover and slam them up against the door or a wall and start kissing her aggressively. The idea here is not to hurt her – so you don’t want to do this too hard or be too aggressive with your kissing – but to her by surprise. Slamming her against a wall when done the right way won’t hurt at all – it will be surprising and a little disconcerting, especially since it usually makes a loud noise. This will take her breath away, and then she will melt right into the kiss.

Making Eye Contact

Eyes are called the windows to the soul for a reason – great eye contact can help you bond emotionally with a woman in a way that nothing else can. Eye contact works great during flirting, but you can also take it up a notch and work eye contact into sex. A lot of people look away from each other during sex, or look somewhere else on their partner’s face instead of looking directly into their eyes. Eye contact during sex can be such a powerful way to intensify your lover’s orgasm. Here’s how:

Eye Contact During Orgasm

When your partner is about to reach orgasm, have her look directly into your eyes. If she tries to look away, stop stimulating her and doing whatever it is that you’re doing that is bringing her closer to the brink of climax. This forces her to look into your eyes, and you’re “rewarding” her with pleasure when she does.

At some point, she’s going to go off the edge and slip into the abyss of orgasm while holding eye contact with you. It can be an incredible experience for your partner to look into your eyes as you give her intense pleasure, and watching your partner so deeply while their body is wracked with spasms can be amazing for you too.

This may not happen exactly right on the first try, and it may take a little while to build your partner up to the point where she can look you in the eyes throughout the entire climax. However, the process of learning how to do it can be just as much fun as actually doing it!

How To Kiss: French Kissing Tips

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French kissing can make a woman melt! Even more so than sex, great kissing can lead to enhanced emotional and physical intimacy between you and your lover. Learn how to kiss and make a girl weak in the knees with just your mouth today!

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Get Comfortable With It

French kissing is much easier when you’re relaxed and comfortable. You don’t want to put too much pressure on yourself worrying about whether you’re doing it right or not, and you don’t want to be so stressed out that she can immediately tell you’re a ball of nerves as soon as the two of you touch lips. Instead, focus on relaxing and being comfortable with it. Take a few deep, calming breaths before you start and just pay attention to what you’re doing and what feels good.

Hold Her Softly Yet Firmly

You may be asking, “How the heck do I hold her softly AND firmly? That doesn’t make sense!” However, there is a way that you can be firm with her and exude your strength and confidence when you kiss her, while also showing her your softer, more sensitive side. You want to hold her in such a way that says, “I really like this and you’re not going anywhere” but that also says, “I’m going to make you feel amazing right now.” If that’s what you’re thinking and feeling, it’s going to come out in the way you touch and caress your lover.

Take Your Time

French kissing isn’t something you want to rush into. You want to savor it – and so does she! So spend some time looking into her eyes and making that deep, soulful eye contact with her. Caress her slowly and work your way up to the good stuff. You don’t want to just jump in feet first and shove your tongue down her throat, because she’s not going to like being taken by surprise like that one bit.

Instead, lick your lips when you make eye contact with her. Start by kissing her lips gently, without tongue. When she parts her lips, you can slowly start to kiss her more deeply, adding light tongue into the mix. You can also take her lead and let her show you where she wants to go with it. However, do keep in mind that part of seducing a woman is showing her that YOU can be in the lead and make her feel incredible.

Gently Wrestle Your Tongue With Hers

Once you’ve led up to the actual french kissing and you two are going at it pretty good, you want to gently wrestle your tongue with hers. You can also nibble her bottom lip a little, or gently suck on her tongue as it makes its way into your mouth. Trace the outline of her lips with your tongue – this will send shivers down her spine! Be creative and use different kissing techniques, but remember you’re still wanting to do this slowly and gently. It’s not a race – you really want to get into it and enjoy it, because she’ll be enjoying it too.

Is She Reciprocating?

Pay attention to your partner’s body language. While you are leading, you don’t want to ignore the subtle cues she’s going to give you that will help you understand more of what she likes and doesn’t like. Is she pulling away? If she is, you’re going at it too hard and giving her too much. She’s overwhelmed. So pull back a little bit yourself and then go in again, softly and slowly to see how she responds.

Is she getting more aggressive with you? Is she leaning towards you and seeming like she’s really into it? She is! Keep going! Even if your partner isn’t using words to describe whether she likes what you’re doing or not, her body language WILL tell you – that is, if you pay attention!

Finding The Right Balance

Just like with holding her firmly yet softly at the same time, you also want to make sure that your mouth movements follow that same “balance.” You definitely don’t want to be too aggressive when kissing her, but you also don’t want to be too loose about it either and have a limp tongue. If you pay attention to her body language and do what feels good, it’s likely you’ll strike the right balance between too soft and too hard.

Making Out Can Be Awesome!

While great french kissing can lead to sex, it doesn’t have to. In fact, great french kissing can be amazing all by itself! If you’re doing it right, it’s not one big, long kiss. It’s a series of smaller kisses that are connected with things like licking her lips or yours, sucking and nibbling her neck or ear or even heavy petting.

Don’t think that just because you’re french kissing a girl that you have to get in her pants, because you don’t. Make out with her and enjoy the journey. Don’t rush through it because you think you’re going to get some sex out of it, because if you do, you’ll ruin it entirely and you might not get any sex anyways!

6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax!

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According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!

A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.

There are many reasons why women don’t reach orgasm. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too!

Foreplay? What Foreplay?

Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.

She’s Thinking About Too Much!

Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.)

She’s Full Of Insecurities

Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: “Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?”

If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good, especially down there.” or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”

ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!

She Doesn’t Know Her Own Body

There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of masturbation when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?

The best thing is that it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest! However, here are some clues to save you a few steps:

You’re Not Paying Attention!

True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms.’ As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!

To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!” while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”

You’re Changing Techniques Too Fast

Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.

So keep this in mind – when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location – it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.

Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too!

Why Foreplay Is Critical!

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Foreplay is a critical first step for women, and men often overlook it. Men tend to approach sex in the wrong way. They think that the harder they penetrate, the harder she’ll orgasm. Unfortunately for women, this doesn’t work. Did you know the best way to make a woman orgasm is to not even put your penis inside her?

That’s right, good old third base is a home run for the ladies. The vagina has very few nerve endings past the opening, and hitting the g-spot through penetration is more about lucking out than mastering technique.

Fingering Her To A Frenzy

The male species often thinks that third base is a means to prepare her for his throbbing member, which is why the women they’re with tend not to respond with the screaming orgasm of which they are capable. If you re-program yourself to thinking about fingering as part of “having sex,” then you’ll be able to satisfy her on new levels. She will certainly thank you for it!

Mental Foreplay First

Before you make the journey into the bush, you have to start with foreplay first. Women don’t have the ability to dive right into sex the way men do. She needs a bit of a build up. This starts from the moment you hope to have sex with her later. Every small touch, glance, and kiss throughout the night draws her closer to you. It will be very difficult to get her started if you’ve been acting like she’s a stranger for the past several hours. She doesn’t have to feel completely in love with you, but she does need to feel some sort of connection.

Making Out

When you’re finally alone, never underestimate the power of a good make out session. Remember when you were a teenager and making out was so much fun? It’s because you didn’t really know what was going to come next. You hadn’t gotten to home base yet, or even third base, so the excitement of possibly getting to see her breasts or touch her vagina was almost too much to bear. Re-create that feeling all over again by not rushing a great make out session. Take your time and make her feel like you’ve got nothing else better to do than kiss her all night long.

Eventually, the make out session will lead to more than just kissing – but don’t try to force it.  Start with gentle kisses that escalate into tongue tangling passion, and her nether regions will be begging for some attention once you get there. Do to her mouth what you plan on doing to her clitoris during oral sex – she’ll get the hint and it will turn her on even more to get a “preview” of what your tongue can do for her.

Fondling Her

In the midst of your good old fashioned make-out, put your hands other places, and I don’t mean breasts alone. You should stroke her back, her sides, her hair, and her breasts. Touch her softly and don’t rush it. Don’t manhandle her or grab her! You should be using your fingers to stroke her in sensitive places like her neck or the crease of her elbow, and you shouldn’t be touching any harder than you would touch the track pad on your laptop.

Once you’ve gotten her turned on enough, play with her nipples for a while, and then move elsewhere. Go back, move away, and repeat. Once you feel her breath quicken and her grip tighten, and you’re sure that she’s ready for you to make the next move, don’t leave her hanging! Get down there and touch away.

Don’t Assault Her

It is best to not go into full on assault mode. If you start fingering her right away before she’s really good and wet, it will hurt. Some women may get wet just from the kissing and touching, but some won’t. Don’t be afraid to have a good lube on hand. A dab of lube or more can make all the difference between pleasure and pain!

Start by massaging the outer parts of her vulva, and her inner thighs. If you just graze the clitoris now and again, it will send shock waves through her body. When it’s time, zero in on the sweet spot, and don’t move until she has had at least one mind-blowing climax. You can also give her oral sex – it’s probably a woman’s favorite way to get off and makes her more prone to having multiple orgasms!