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How To Make Her Fantasize About You In 3 Easy Steps

Sex of all kinds is fun, but it takes some fantasizing to really get into truly great, awesome sex. To have the kind of sex that will make your toes curl and your knees go weak (for both you and your partner), you have to get your girl to start thinking about you sexually. Instead of fantasizing about guys that aren’t you, you need to get your girl to create a fantasy with you in it by being your woman’s ultimate dream guy. Here’s how.

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Fantasy Is Crucial To Great Sex

The physical aspect of sex certainly feels fantastic, but that’s not all there is when it comes to getting busy with your lover. Fantasies are incredibly important to sex that is out of this world, especially from a woman’s perspective. A guy can simply have intercourse and completely enjoy it for what it is, while a woman’s mind must be involved for your partner to even become sexually aroused in the first place.

By getting your lover to start having fantasies with you as the main subject, you’re getting the mind and imagination working. Stimulating your lover’s imagination is crucial to getting your partner to enjoy sex (and to really let go of inhibitions so YOU can enjoy it too) and it’s extremely difficult to get a woman turned on without getting the imagination involved first. If she’s using you to fuel sex fantasies, she’s halfway turned on before you ever hit the sheets.

Foreplay Isn’t Just Physical

Foreplay isn’t just about giving your partner oral sex or kissing them passionately. A huge part of foreplay before sex is the anticipation, the excitement and the fantasies about what is going to happen. That’s actually what makes having sex with someone new so awesome – you’re excited about it and the anticipation is sometimes better than the actual sex itself.

Step 1: Become Your Partner’s Fantasy

Start by finding out what kind of guy really trips your lover’s trigger. Does she love the idea of a police officer, who can assert his authority? Or does she like the idea of a different kind of man in uniform, such as a mechanic or a handyman? Find out whatever your girl’s fantasy is and develop a separate sexual persona that involves some kind of role play with the type of man that really gets your partner off.

Doing this will make it much easier for your girl to think of you sexually if she can see you in the role that she’s already attracted to. Essentially, you are becoming the man of your woman’s fantasies.

Step 2: Get A Great Body

A lot of people may think that focusing too much on physical appearance is shallow, but having a great body is actually incredibly important if you want your girl to think about having sex with you. The reality is, you care about how you look, she cares about how she looks and you both care about how you look to each other.

Having a great body will also make you feel much more confident about the way you look. You’ll be able to let go of your inhibitions more easily, and feel more confident when your partner looks at you in all of your naked glory. Being in great physical shape also gives you more energy and stamina to last longer in bed! Feeling great about the way you look and feeling strong and healthy on the inside will make sex that much more pleasurable and it’s simply just a better quality of life.

Step 3: Master The Skill Of Dirty Talk

Understanding how to get your partner aroused is an important part of getting her to think of you. Since a woman gets aroused with the mind first, work on mastering the skill of dirty talk. Dirty talk is like an “on” switch to the part of your woman’s brain that processes sex and even a few simple phrases such as, “I can’t wait until you get home tonight” or “You’ll never guess what I’m going to do to you as soon as I get my hands on you.”

What you’re doing here is turning the switch on and then leaving your partner to imagine what you’re going to do until you actually get to do it. You’ll also want to master the skill of emotional talk, such as telling your lover how she steals your breath when she walks into the room or how much you love the fact that she’s yours and only yours…to do with what you please. Be creative and come up with phrases that will really get your girl thinking – of YOU!

Top Erogenous Zones For Men And Women

By loveandsex

Most sex tips cover instructions on how to stimulate areas on both men and women that are well known to create pleasure, but there are actually lots of pleasure points that many sex tips and advice manuals don’t cover. Here’s a list of spots on a woman’s body (and a man’s) that when touched, licked or tickled will drive them absolutely wild!

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Best Pleasure Points For Women

Lips, Neck And Ears

Women love the soft, sensual feeling of kissing, so their lips are a huge pleasure point. Her neck and ears also contain lots of pleasure receptors, and you can use them to your advantage when kissing your girl. Kiss her softly on the lips, letting your tongue slide ever so slightly across her mouth. Then, kiss and lick softly down her chin, up her neck and behind her ears. Draw her earlobe into your mouth for a light suck and she’ll melt.

Breasts And Nipples

The breasts and nipples are obvious pleasure points on a woman (they’re mentioned in almost every sex tips manual), but few mean really know how to use them to get a girl warmed up before sex. A lot of men will tweak or pinch a woman’s nipples expecting her to become turned on, when in reality, she craves a soft and gentle touch at first. Spend time caressing your lover’s breasts with your hands and kissing softly and rubbing your lips across her nipples. Use your breath to blow warm or cool air on your partner’s wet nipples to send shivers down her spine.

Inner Thighs, Behind The Knees, Crease Of The Elbow

These pleasure spots aren’t ones that you normally hear about, but they’re powerful ones nonetheless. When you’re kissing and licking up and down your partner’s body during foreplay, don’t skip her inner thighs, the back of her knees and the crease of her elbow. These spots are packed with nerve endings and pleasure receptors and when these spots are caressed, it will drive her wild.

Clitoris And G-Spot

These are obvious hot points and you definitely don’t want to skip over them when getting your partner turned on! When licking her inner thighs, let your tongue brush lightly over her clitoris to tease her and bring her closer to orgasm. When you’ve had enough foreplay and are ready to get the main event started, start giving her oral sex. Slip one or two fingers gently inside her vagina (make sure that she’s either wet enough or you have a generous amount of lube on hand) and find her g-spot.

Best Pleasure Points For Men

Neck And Ears

Both men and women enjoy having their neck and ears stimulated. When making out with your lover, kiss him softly on the lips and then move your way to his neck and right behind his ear. When licking and sucking this sensitive skin, breathe heavily and make sure he can hear the delicious sounds you’re making as you savor his skin.

The “Happy Trail” And His “Cut Lines”

The “happy trail” is the area between the navel and the start of a man’s groin. The “cut lines” are areas on either side of the groin where the legs come meet the abdomen. Both of these areas are very sensitive and you can use them to your advantage as you’re licking and sucking all over your partner’s body.

The Head Of The Penis

When you feel like you’ve had plenty of foreplay and are ready to take things to the next level, begin giving your lover a blowjob – but don’t put your lips all the way down his shaft! Instead, you’re going to focus all of your licking and sucking on the head of your partner’s penis while you hold his shaft in place with your hand. This area is extremely sensitive (the most sensitive part of his penis) and he may not be able to tolerate a lot right away, so start slow. This is definitely one of those sex tips that will get him squirming!

Perineum And Prostate Gland

A man’s “g-spot” is considered to be his prostate gland and when stimulating it, you can give him some of the most amazing orgasms he’s ever had. If your man is anal shy, try rubbing firmly or pressing a vibrator against his perineum (the area between his scrotum and anus). This creates indirect stimulation to the prostate gland. If your guy digs anal play, lube up and slip your fingers (or a prostate massager) in about two inches and make the “come hither” motion. He’ll love it!

7 Titillating Tips To Unleash The Sexual Desires In Her

By lloydlester

Even the best sex advice in the world doesn’t shine a candle to this amazing suggestions on how to get a “good girl” to shed her own inhibitions and become a wild, sexy and sex-obsessed woman in bed. This is something that probably every guy would love an answer to. The simple truth is that most women have this dual “good girl/bad girl” characteristic in them.

You see, a normal woman, even one who appears prim, proper and pristine, will experience moments in her life when she is more or less sexually expressive. The truth is that you hold the amazing power to quickly shift a woman’s feelings and emotions about her own sexuality and sexual ability. You can make her suddenly feel a sexual connection with you and become wild and sexually adventurous. The key lies in YOU achieving a balance with your own sexuality and sexual desires.

Don’t Be Afraid To Reveal Your Own Desires To Her

By the law of reciprocity, your willingness to open up to her holds the key to bring out the more adventurous and wild streak in her. For example, if she’s a little apprehensive, try revealing your own sexual fantasies first. Tease her out of her sexual shell and heighten her anticipation of what’s to come next.

When You Are Making Love To Her, Touch Her With Confidence

Increase her desire by exercising self-restraint. For instance, refrain from heading straight for her clitoris during sex. Instead, tease her playfully. Kiss her gently, allowing your tongue to work its magic on all her sensual spots, from her ears, to her neck, down her navel (skip her vagina) and traverse down her inner thighs to her toes.

Revel In Her Sexuality

Learning to genuinely appreciate her body is extremely powerful in getting her to totally relax and be ready for your advances. Most women feel insecure about their bodies and how they look, so compliment parts of her body and make her feel hot and sensuous about herself. Women respond very well to positive reinforcement. So let her know that you appreciate her body for all its splendor and how you enjoy the things that she does to you in bed.

Know What You Are Doing In Bed

Understand the facts about female sexuality and how to give her an orgasm. Sex is not just about using tricks, tips and techniques, although these are important aspects of sensational lovemaking. It is also equally important to pay attention how you can connect with her emotionally before and during sex.

Give Her The Right Kind Of Foreplay

Talking about foreplay, you should know that women need to be adequately aroused and stimulated from sufficient amounts of pre-intercourse stimulation before they are ready. Contrary to what most men believe, touching and caressing her private parts and engaging in oral sex are not really considered proper foreplay. These are really sexual acts on their own, and not the sexual prelude that woman generally needs. Foreplay should involve mental activities that will heighten her arousal (such as talking dirty) as well as physical acts that target her non-sexual erogenous areas (e.g. massaging her back).

Address Any Performance Issues Immediately

If there are issues that hamper your performance or ability in bed, address these as soon as possible. For instance, if you find yourself ejaculating prematurely during sex or if you have problems with erectile dysfunction, make sure you get the right help and deal with these without delay. There are many effective self-help programs that improves a man’s performance and their overall sexual confidence.

Never Force Yourself On Her

Don’t pressure her to have sex when she is not in the mood. You can still connect with her in a different manner – give her a sensuous massage or cuddle together in front of the fireplace, for instance. If you get her in the right frame of mind before sex, making her climax suddenly becomes ten times easier for you. A woman’s mind is her most powerful sex organ… it is THE focal point of her orgasm. If you can make her feel completely comfortable in your presence and make out with you with total abandon, giving her a powerful climax is in most cases, just a clitoral rub away!

Believe it or not, by simply demonstrating these characteristics, you will bring about powerful and lasting changes in the way your woman views her ability to indulge in wild, adventurous and wanton sex!

How To Make A Woman Enjoy An EXPLOSIVE Orgasm!

By lloydlester

An orgasm is something every guy wants to learn how to give their partners. If you are anything like the other men reading this article, you probably yearn to be the best lover your woman has ever had, right? But if you have been reading any of the gossip columns in women’s magazines, or been checking out any of the sex surveys in recent years, you would be WELL aware that the vast majority of women are NOT satisfied in bed!

So how do you give your woman a phenomenal time in bed? Simple! Read on and learn about these 5 sexy strategies to light up her orgasmic passions tonight!

Deep Connection Dynamics

By focusing all your attention entirely on her, you can give her what she wants. If you are thinking of other things while you are making love to her or performing oral sex on her, she will sense it. Put all of your attention on her as if she is the most beautiful and desirable woman in the world. She will bask in this type of attention and begin to glow. Once you connect with her emotionally in this manner, you will set the stage for her to respond in a way you would have never imagined!

Play The Voyeur

Many women never reach orgasm with their partners because they are too shy to tell them what they want. Yet the vast majority of women can achieve an orgasm through masturbation. So, encourage her to pleasure herself and OBSERVE the moves she make so that you can do the same to her.

Every woman has specific areas on her body that she loves to be touched. Learn where these “hot spots” are, and give them you undivided attention. Many women can come to an orgasm within ten minutes of sensuous foreplay from their partners, making this an easy way for you to please her without too much effort (or time)!

Practice “Tongue Gymnastics”

Kissing. It is the one thing that makes or breaks a man’s ability to be a great, sensuous lover. Make sure that you do not hold back on the kissing. It is one of the most important aspects of your lovemaking, if not the most important. Start with her mouth and then move to other parts of her body. Her bodily reactions and breathing patterns tell you and show you the sensitive parts of her body. Work on them, slowly tantalizing her senses and turning on the faucet to her orgasmic potential.

Exert Oral Influence

Most women cannot get enough of oral sex, simply because it is a very POWERFUL (and deceptively easy) way for them to reach an orgasm. Use your fingers and tongue to stimulate her clitoris. One great way to give AND receive oral sex simultaneously is in the “69” position, giving you the best of both worlds! Oral sex alone can potentially bring a woman to multiple, mind-tingling orgasms that will only intensify when you proceed to intercourse.

If you need a little more “help” to maximize her pleasure, why not bring along something that can help you in bed, like a sex toy? I would recommend choosing a toy that is intended for anal stimulation. This is one of the most pleasurable sexual acts if done in a proper manner. Anal stimulation, together with clitoral stimulation with your tongue, can provide a deadly “combo” and trigger an intense female orgasm.

Movement Modulation

Instead of just starting intercourse and pumping away, enter her slowly. Modulate your movements and pay attention to her reactions. For instance, start off with shallow penetration, pull out and then tease her a bit, rubbing your manhood against her clitoris. Then enter her again. Gradually build up your thrusts so that it heightens her sexual anticipation and primes her for powerful orgasms when she is ready.

7 Lovemaking Mistakes That Couples Make And How To Avoid Them

By loveandsex

Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It’s true. Over the years, I’ve seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I’d like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.

Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?

Mistake #1: Feeling Scared Or Embarrassed About Trying New Things

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are.

And you don’t need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring kink and variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

Mistake #2: Trying To Convince Your Partner To Have Sex

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the energy for lovemaking. So here’s how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they’re tired.

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him a blowjob or a handjob between 9 and 10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like that.

Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest ‘turn-ons’ for women. Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too. And give some attention to her neck – it will drive her wild. But don’t rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

MISTAKE #3: Neglecting Foreplay To Enjoy Intercourse Sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy lovemaking sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.

So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.) If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

Mistake #4: Using Sex Toys Or Porn To Make Your Lovemaking Better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly takes things through the roof. Wrong! While sex toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don’t want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

Mistake #5: Trying To Make A Woman Orgasm With Penetration Only

Men often feel “unmanly” if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

Mistake #6: Trying To Orgasm At The Same Time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman’s needs first. Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

Mistake #7: Sticking To A “Set Routine”

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar? No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship.

The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal. That’s the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm to make love and even do it more often.