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5 Tips For Better Lovemaking

Here are five really simple ways to make your lovemaking more hot, steamy and passionate – starting tonight!

Find Your Partner’s “Hidden” Zones

I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention. While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, breasts, inner thighs and genitals, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

Set A Romantic Mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is too “cliché.” Are they kidding?!? Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

Give Them A Sensual Massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner an erotic massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable.

Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place. And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget.

Please Your Partner With More Oral Sex

Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship? Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it’s great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who can’t reach orgasm from only intercourse. In short, it’s an important part of foreplay. Here are some tips for both men and women.

LADIES: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straight away when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

GENTLEMAN: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

Constantly Explore And Try New Things

If I could only give you one piece of advice for better lovemaking, it would be this: become adventurous and creative.

Nothing is stopping you from red-hot passion except your level of creativity. Try new sex positions, do it somewhere new, or spice up your foreplay with a game. Let’s face it, the basic act of lovemaking, no matter how hard you try, is always kiss and thrust, but it’s HOW you do it and the way you make your partner feel that really counts.

By dedicating time to finding new things, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

Q&A: I Want Him To Touch Me More When We Make Out

By loveandsex

When kissing your lover, you may want to move on to some heavy petting but he may not seem ready to – at least, on the surface. Is it because he really doesn’t want to go that far or because he’s afraid he’s going to touch you the wrong way and upset you for going too far? Chances are, it’s the latter. Here’s how to get him to try a little foreplay while you’re making out!

Question: I want my boyfriend to touch me more when we’re making out. Can you help me on how to encourage that?

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Is He Afraid To Make The First Move?

A lot of guys – especially guys who have been in relationships before – have been chastised for doing something wrong or touching a woman in the wrong way while making out or using foreplay. He may be unsure where to touch you or how you like to be touched, so he may just be afraid to make the first move in fear of doing something wrong or touching you in a way that might offend you or turn you off.

If you think he’s afraid to make the first move, try talking to him about it when you’re not making out, such as over lunch or a romantic dinner. Let him know without criticizing him that you love kissing him and making out with him, but you would love it even more if you could feel his hands on your body. Be sure to let him know how far is too far though – if you’re not ready for sex, let him know where you’re going to draw the line. It will only make things worse if you give him the go ahead to touch you while you’re kissing each other but you have to reprimand him as soon as he goes “too far.” Make sure he knows ahead of time what is okay and what makes you uncomfortable.

Gently Guide Him Verbally

When you’re in the moment, it’s super sexy to whisper into your lover’s ear what you’d like him to do next. Guys really love this for two reasons – because your hot breath in his ear turns him on and because your guidance means that he doesn’t have to guess at what to do and when to do it. This will help him to learn what you like and when you like it, because a lot of guys (actually, most guys) aren’t sure when to move forward because they just don’t want to cross that line without the go-ahead from you.

This is also a great time to introduce dirty talk! Guys love dirty talk and it’s a great way to really heat things up while you’re making out. Tell your partner in a sexy way what you want him to do – such as saying, “I love it when you pinch my nipples” or “I’d like you to touch my ____.” Also include descriptive words such as “hard, soft, slow, etc.” that not only lets him know where to make his next move, but also how you’d like it. This gives him confidence to actually make the moves, because he’s not scared he’s going to do something that will upset you or turn you off.

Give Him Positive Reinforcement

When he does something that you really enjoy, make sure you praise him and let him know that you liked it. You definitely want to let him know that you like something while he’s doing it by making noise or showing him with your body language that he hit the right spot, but you also want to follow that up with verbal encouragement as well. Men need to hear what they’re doing right if you want them to keep doing it – chances are, if you don’t give him that positive reinforcement, he’ll assume that he’s doing it wrong and stop, even if you absolutely love what he’s doing. Remember to keep the comments positive too – a negative comment will stick with him for a long time and negate all of the nice things you said. If you must redirect him, don’t tell him he’s doing something wrong – instead, let him know that you liked something else even better.

How To Show Him What You Like

Use chocolate sauce to highlight the areas you want him to lick and suck
Use a feather tickler to trace the path you want his mouth or hands to take around your body
Bring home a book on erotic massage and read it together – try the techniques on him first and then let him try them on you
Use your imagination to give your partner visual aids on where and how you want him to touch you!

7 Ways To Get Laid By Being Just A Friend

By vindicarlo

Think you can’t seduce a woman who’s just a friend, huh? Well that must suck, especially because the movies and TV make it out to be such a big deal. They say if you’re her friend, you’ll never be anything more than friends with her. Well I’m here to tell you that’s not the case.

In fact, it’s a bold faced lie.

And in this article, you’ll discover 7 seduction tips that show how being “just a friend” can HELP you turn your friendship into a sexual relationship. (Maybe you can even date her in the long run)

Be The Nicest Man She’s Ever Met

Boy, just reading that makes you feel like you’re less “sexy,” right? Well, you should know that women love “nice guys” – they just don’t like “weak men.” What’s the difference? Well a nice guy is someone who treats a woman right. Someone who makes her feel special, sexy and important.

And a “weak man” is a man who lets other people walk all over him.

But fear not! Because there are a few, very simple, very easy ways to show her that YOU are a nice guy, not a weak man:

When she says something you don’t agree with, don’t agree with her. This doesn’t mean you have to be a prick. Be nice, just don’t be afraid to say “no” or “I don’t agree with you” every once in awhile.
Tease her, and put her down lightly. You see, nice guys are afraid of ever hurting her feelings. So afraid, they never tease her or make fun of her at all. You should feel free to make fun of her funny mistakes, the same way your friends tease you when you accidentally leave the garage door open, for example. This type of “teasing” is extremely attractive to women. (An example: Oh man, you’re terrible at that. Nope, I’m never letting you do that, ever again.)
You don’t have to return her calls if you’re busy. For example, she calls and you’re playing video games with a friend, feel free to let the call go to voicemail. Don’t be afraid to take your “alone” time, she’ll understand.

Don’t Be Afraid To Be Romantic

Romance is another trait most nice guys have. Yet you may be embarrassed by how romantic you’d like to be with women. For example, you might be thinking, “well what if she doesn’t like it? What if I’m coming on way too strong?”

And sometimes, you’d be right. Most of the time, however, women love a little romance. Even from their friends. So showing your romantic side will win you brownie points – if you follow these three rules:

RULE ONE: The romance should always be for you. Yeah, you buy her flowers to brighten her day. But why did you think about buying flowers in the frist place? Was it because you were in a romantic mood? Or because buying her flowers would make you feel good? As long as your emotional pleasure is the main CAUSE of romance, she’ll pick up on it, and appreciate the gesture. (This is what women’s intuition is for)
RULE TWO: Don’t overdo it. Little gestures are bigger than big gestures. A pair of slippers for her to wear because she’s always cold in your house is a MUCH better surprise than a candle light dinner for two (unless it’s Valentine’s Day, or a special holiday.) Keep your presents small…
RULE THREE: Curb your compliments. When you get the urge to compliment a woman, take a second and stop. Do you want to make her like you? Or do you want to make her feel good? The second is good. The first is “weak man” territory.

Make Her Feel Good

Who do you like to hang around more? A friend who makes you feel bad or a friend who makes you feel good?

Being a nice guy means wanting to make people feel good. Being a weak man means wanting to make people like you. Here’s how you can stay on the “ nice guy” side:

When you’re talking to someone, always ask yourself, “How can I make this person feel good ABOUT HIMSELF?” Most men ask “How can I make this person feel good ABOUT ME?” And it’s a losing, weak man question.
Feel free to become interested in people. You may feel like you get “too” interested in people, and you may feel like they’ll be annoyed you want to know so much about them. Such a thing has NEVER happened! People will talk about themselves for HOURS, as long as you make them feel good about themselves. So ask away.
Finally, always compliment. Never criticize. A great book for dealing with people is “How To Win Friends And Influence People” written by Dale Carnegie. His main principle: Never criticize, condemn or complain. And if you’re trying to get a girlfriend, get laid or even get a one night stand, being positive will get your farther than bitching or whining.

Give Her Respect

You respect her. This means you treat her like a lady. This means you want to take things slow, and not rush into a sexual situation she may regret later. This is fine and OK. Here’s what you NEED to remember, though:

Women are sexual. Just like men are sexual. Just like you are sexual. This doesn’t mean you’re thinking about sex 24/7 (or maybe you are) This means you like sex (and oral sex and anal sex and…you get the picture), and you want sex to be a natural part of your life. So when you respect a woman, don’t forget to respect this part of her personality, as well.
This means no judging, no calling her a slut, but it also means you can feel free to hold her hand, stroke her hair and kiss her, as long as the timing is right.

Once You Get Into Bed With Her….

Being a nice guy, you think sex with this girl is going to be important and special. Well, Skippy, that’s what she wants, too. She wants sex with you to be special and important and romantic and emotional and dirty and kinky and sweaty and FUN.

So use your desire to get sexual with her as a TOOL to treat her nicely:

Make your first time sex special. After a nice date, come back to your place and invite her up to watch a movie. From there, you can gradually make your move, so sex feels like something that “just happened” for her. This is the greatest gift you can give a woman.
Also – during sex – feel free to make her feel special. Do this by telling her how sexy she looks and how good she’s making you feel. You don’t like having sex with a silent woman, do you? You like when she tells you how good she’s feeling. Return the favor – show her how special she makes you feel.

How Being Shy Can Actually Help You

Here’s a ground-breaking thought: Women like shy guys. Women like quiet guys. Why? Because shy, quiet guys are mysteries to be solved. And women can’t get enough of a man who’s a mystery. So why aren’t women beating down your door to date you? Because women are scared of making the first move.

So the one – EXTREMELY EASY – way to use your shy side to date ANY woman is simply to make the first move. To ask her out to coffee. To touch her first. If you do this, and she knows you’re shy, she’ll know how big of a move this was, for you.

And she’ll feel special and flattered by it – exactly the way you want her feel.

Let Her Know That You Like HER…Not Some Random Girl

And this is the most important quality of all! Because you’re her friend and because you’re a nice guy, you like her for her. You don’t want just some random woman’s random sex. You want her. You want her good parts. You want her flaws. And you want her because you think SHE is special.

Don’t underestimate how powerful this urge is. Imagine someone walking up to you and saying, “I’ve traveled the world and I’ve met hundreds of thousands of people. I’ve seen the pyramids in Egypt and I’ve walked along the Great Wall of China. I’ve met every culture, every nationality and seen things I couldn’t have imagined or made up in a thousand years. But you are the most important person in the world to me, and I want to be with you.”

Makes you feel special, doesn’t it? Obviously it’s an exaggerated example, but doesn’t it match up with SO MANY of the romantic fantasies in movies and books? Luckily for you, you actually feel this way about her.

So don’t be afraid to show it. Just make sure you don’t come across like a “weak man” trying to suck up to her, for attention.

How To Turn On Your Girl Without Touching Her

By loveandsex

You’ve read about foreplay and how to sex manuals before and you just haven’t found the right way to make your woman want you like never before. That’s about to change! You can make your partner want to have sex with you right now, if you use these four little know foreplay tips.

In fact, you’ll get her wetter than you ever have before without even laying your hands on her.

Leave Your Scent On Her Pillow

Your scent is what will really drive her crazy and get her more turned on than she’s ever been in her life. Your scent is actually what drew her to you in the first place, even if it was subconsciously. We’re not talking about your favorite cologne here, however, your cologne can actually play a part in how hot your smell makes your lover.

What makes your partner instantly turned on by you are your pheromones – the special hormones that are secreted by you in your sweat and on your skin. Each person’s pheromones are different, so you can be assured that it’s your smell that she’s so crazy about. Add a hint of cologne to your natural “man” smell and she’ll be head over heels in no time – or is that heels over head?

To make her horny before you even lay your hands on her, switch pillows with her for a night or two. Sleep with her pillow and don’t be afraid to put it under your arm and snuggle up with it. Get as much of your scent on her pillow as you can. The next night she sleeps with it, you’re definitely going to get some.

Compliment Her

Every woman loves getting complimented by a man, especially if it’s her man. While telling her that she looks great may seem like a straightforward compliment, it’s not going to get you laid in and of itself. In fact, a compliment like that won’t even make her horny and want to have sex with you. However, if you choose the right compliment, she will want to do it with you without you even having to make a move on her.

Instead of saying something about how she looks or what she’s wearing, say something about how hard she works or how much her skills amaze you. Talk about how great her cooking is or how awesome she is at her job. Compliment something that she’s really worked hard for and you’ll be in the sack with her before you know it.

Master The Smoldering Look

There’s a reason that there are so many movies out there with “brooding” male characters that make every woman swoon. Many sexy actors can pull off the “smoldering” look that will make a woman instantly melt and be absolutely powerless against you and your advances. There’s no better foreplay technique.

However, if you get the smoldering look right, you’ll probably have your woman throwing herself at you before you can even get your pants unzipped. Believe it or not, this tip in and of itself is one of the most powerful ways to get her hot and bothered, even more so than dirty talk or any other sex tip out there!

When you’re by yourself one night, rent a few of the popular movies that all the women are talking about. Check out the way the guys in the movie look at the women – almost like their feelings for the woman are so powerful and overwhelming, they’re almost painful. Stand in front of the mirror and practice the look – once you feel comfortable doing it, give your lovely lady the same look. Watch as she melts right before your eyes!

Do Something “Manly” For Your Girl

Since the women’s rights movement, the amount of “manly things” that men do and women don’t has decreased. Now women are mowing the lawns and men are cooking dinner, as well as doing other role reversed activities. Sure, a woman can fix a toilet or a garbage disposal. She can mow the lawn, put oil in the car and do anything else you can. But does she want to? Not hardly!

You can actually turn her on by stepping up and doing something “manly” for her. Don’t insist that she can’t do it or take the task from her because you can do it “right” or better than she can. This attitude will backfire in your face! Instead, you’re going to beat her to the punch and do something manly for her before she can even think about it needing to be done. Fill her car with gas in the morning before she wakes up to get ready for work, or have the water drip in the bathroom fixed before she comes home.

Bonus points if she comes home to a shirtless man in grease covered jeans with a wrench in his hand. You might just find that the wrench doubles as a sex toy and that your jeans didn’t stay on very long.

2 Secrets To Prime Her For An Incredible Orgasm

By lloydlester

When a man gives his girl sex, he is aware of one fact that most guys don’t know: awesome sex does not always begin in the bedroom! You should have a plan for a steamier sexual experience with your partner. You should do something beforehand to give your girlfriend great sex – and orgasms!

One great way to put your partner in a sexual mood is by giving your partner some kind of an intermission before the actual intimate act. Women cannot be turned on just with physical intimacy. Their minds need to be conditioned prior to the sexual intercourse. This can be done by spicing things up with a twist of romance.

There are two settings that you can use to have great sex with your partner and give a mind blowing orgasm!

Sex Tip #1

You may begin by cooking a special meal while she is not yet home. Cook whatever recipe you know because even if it is not the best food that she will eat, your effort in preparing this will surely be appreciated. And, while she’s stuck in the traffic, make a path of candles and turn off all the lights in your house. Make it a candlelight dinner to add more romance. Put white wine or champagne on your list of what to serve.

Just before the dessert, prepare a nice, warm bubble bath for your partner. Dim the lights and have candles lit around the tub. After dinner, go to the bathroom and undress her. While you give your lover a bath, touch every sensitive part of her body, but do not begin your exploration with breasts. Once she becomes in the mood for sex, you may start caressing the inner thighs.

Right after the bath, dry her up and begin with the most awaited foreplay. Not only will you prepare her physically, you will also put your partner into the feel of having an exhilarating moment with you – guaranteed to prime her for an amazing orgasm later.

Sex Tip #2

If you and your partner have creativity in mind, you may take this passionate plan away from the privacy of your home. You can take your partner to a restaurant for dinner. Once in the restaurant, excuse yourself for some private time in the bathroom. Then call using your cell phone, as she waits for you at the table. Talk about your deepest and most intimate desires while on the line. This will surely please your lover because women are very imaginative about great sex fantasies especially with the person they go to bed with!

You may continue this sexual innuendo after dinner as you ride in the car to a secluded place. Play a sensual music in the background, something that will set the atmosphere for the two of you. Then whisper gently everything that you have planned to do.

Once you hear your partner ask for more, take it! If the car seems uncomfortable for the two of you, you may want to head to the nearest motel in town. And with the intense sexual anticipation already building up, you will certainly give her passionate sex (and the best orgasms) ever!