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Female Orgasm Tip #2 – How To Build Sexual Excitement With Anticipation

There’s nothing like teasing to get your partner going…and when we say teasing, we really, really mean it! Learn the importance of building anticipation before sex and how it can play a role in both your partner’s ability to have a great orgasm and her overall sexual satisfaction.

Now that she’s relaxed, it time to build her sexual excitement with ‘anticipation’. Watch this video to see exactly what we mean…

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Getting Her More Aroused

Your partner is relaxed and ready for sex. Do you just “stick it in?” Of course not! What a great way to spoil all of your hard work in getting her to relax! Now is the perfect time to build her anticipation for sex and get her completely aroused. Don’t just “go for the gold” and go straight down on her either – this is the part where you want to tease her and get her to absolutely beg for sexual release! Getting your partner properly aroused is essential to not only her pleasure, but yours! When a woman is aroused, she secrets vaginal lubrication, making sex more pleasurable for both you and her.

The Art Of Teasing

Going for the gold without getting her aroused is a great way to turn your partner off. Not only is it a mental and emotional turnoff for a woman (especially if you’ve spent all that time relaxing her and showering with her only for the actual sex to be over so quickly) but it can also be a physical turnoff. If her clitoris isn’t properly aroused and her vagina isn’t properly lubricated, direct clitoral stimulation can actually become painful.

To tease your partner, touch her on every area of her body but her clitoris. Of course you don’t want to ignore it completely, so give it a good lick or gentle rub every minute or so. However, it is better to spend most of this time massaging her breasts, licking her nipples, kissing her mouth and neck deeply, licking her thighs and letting your tongue rove in and out of her vaginal folds. Take your time during this part and your woman will become incredibly, inconsolably turned on – so much so that it would take a great deal to turn her off!

Make Your Move

Once you’ve gotten her completely aroused, feel free to proceed with sex as you please. Finish going down on her until she has a mind blowing orgasm, or have penetrating sex where you reach her g-spot. Either way, once your partner is not only relaxed, but sufficiently aroused and warmed up, your partner will be closer to an incredible orgasm than you or her could possibly imagine.

While the occasional quickie is something that shouldn’t be forgotton, use this sexy technique any time you want your partner to be totally, 100% involved in sex and thinking of nothing else. This is a technique you can use all the time – women rarely get tired of having a man focus totally on them and their arousal and pleasure!

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Female Orgasm Tip #1 – Why Relaxation Is Crucial

By loveandsex

Giving your partner the ultimate orgasm seems like it’s too good to be true, right? Wrong! You can absolutely become a sex god and give your woman the orgasm she craves – how? We’ll outline everything you need to know in our Female Orgasm Tips series. Read on!

Relaxation is crucial before sex for a woman to have orgasm. Fact is, almost all men overlook this CRITICAL step. If she is not relaxed before sex, there’s very little hope that she’ll ever reach orgasm. How can you get her relaxed?

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Physical And Mental Relaxation

Most women spend the day thinking about their to-do lists. You might be surprised at how often money, her job, your job, washing the dishes, making dinner and even children can crop up in her mind during the day. Unfortunately, these thoughts don’t instantly leave her mind as soon as she steps through the bedroom door. If she’s not relaxed mentally (and physically), your partner will still be thinking about doing the laundry while you and her are doing the dirty. How can you make her relax?

To give her a great orgasm, it’s your job to help her to forget the daily stresses in her life and help her feel only sexual tension. Here’s a step by step guide to getting her warmed up:

1. Setting the stage – Help your partner get into a sexy frame of mind by setting the stage for her. Dim the bedroom lights, light some candles, burn some incense and even scatter some rose petals across the bed and floor. Sure, it might sound romance-movie cliche, but it works. Your partner will walk in knowing what is in store for her tonight and begin the process of relaxation.

2. Get cleaned up – take a bath or shower together. Women love baths and showers, and this is a great way to get her to relax. Taking a bath or shower helps your partner transition mentally from a crazy, overwhelming day to an evening where she can relax and it’s all about sexual pleasure and living in the moment. Don’t underestimate the power of cleanliness either. A woman feels her best when she is clean and presentable – trying to go down on her after she’s just gotten out of the hot car after a day of exhausting work is not going to turn her on. In fact, it will probably do the opposite. You might not mind her natural smell, but in her mind, it makes her feel incredibly self conscious and she won’t be able to relax. Let her shower – you can even give her a deliciously scented bottle of new body wash as a sweet gift, and lather her up to get her physically in the mood for sex.

3. Physical relaxation – your partner may be mentally ready for sex now, but she’s probably not physically ready. Women take a long time to get warmed up – they don’t turn on like a light switch. Give your partner a sensual massage to help get her body turned on for sex. Massage her thighs, her breasts and buttocks, while kissing and licking her ears and lips. Remember, this is a sensual massage – not a “put her to sleep massage.”

Now that you know how to get your partner nice and relaxed before sex, you can increase the chances that your partner will not only have an orgasm, but have an incredible one that she won’t forget!

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How To Get Her To Love Anal Sex

By loveandsex

You like anal sex – but your partner doesn’t, or maybe she just hasn’t tried it before. If you want anal sex to become a larger part of you and your partner’s sex life, you need a good approach to convince your partner that anal sex can be something you both enjoy. How can you get her to love anal sex?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My girlfriend doesn’t like anal sex but I do. I mean, I really do! It’s something I want to experience with her – how can I get her to do it with me?

–Jason, MO

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Give Her A Hint

If you want your partner to really get into anal sex, the best method of approach isn’t a blunt one. Hint at anal sex during regular sex by caressing your partner’s buttocks during sex, tickle her anus with a feather or your fingers and perhaps even get her involved with playing around your anus. Don’t do anything drastic at this point – if she’ll let you, a little hot finger play around her anus is all you want to go for right now. Start hinting around in this manner with your partner a month or two before you really want to take the plunge into anal sex. She’ll really need a mental warm up before she’s ready.

Get Her Emotionally Ready

Believe it or not, anal sex is a huge emotional step for a woman. It’s a “taboo” and very submissive act. She’ll need time to get mentally prepared for anal sex, so a couple weeks after you start introducing the light finger play, talk to her about anal sex. You don’t necessarily have to have a “sit down” talk with her about it – that might actually intimidate her. Try watching a pornography together that features anal sex and talk to your partner about how much it turns you on. Watch your language though – make sure she gets the idea that it would turn you on to have her do that with you and not that you simply think anal sex is hot.

If She’s Interested

If you’ve gotten your partner to accept the idea of having anal sex with you, congrats! It’s not over yet though. If you want to have anal sex with your partner more than once, it’s important to make sure that you make this experience a positive one for her. First, get a good, solid bottle of water based lubricant. Don’t be shy with it either! Make sure you use plenty of lubricant. The anus is not self lubricating, so use as much lubricant as you like – you definitely can’t use too much! Start slow and be gentle – the anus is not a place to have rough sex. It’s not made to accommodate something go in, so it can tear quite easily. Give your partner a lot of warm up time, and give yourself time to enjoy it!

Extra Tips

Always wash your penis after anal sex. Bacteria can spread, especially to the vagina. Never insert your penis into the vagina after anal sex unless you’ve thoroughly washed it, because your partner can get some pretty nasty infections that way. If you’re not in a faithful, monogamous relationship with someone who is STD and STI free, wear a condom during anal sex. Anal sex actually has a higher rate of STD and STI transmission than traditional intercourse! If you just want to be safe, wear a condom anyway. After having anal sex with your partner, make sure you tell her you love her and that you still respect her!

What Women Want

By chickinheels

I recently read an article about what women want, and your average woman commented on what ‘touched’ her most when it came to men. Some women wanted help around the house, some women wanted sex in a certain manner, some women wanted appreciation. It got me to thinking about what women REALLY want in a relationship. It will be interesting to see if the women out there agree with me, I tend to think more like a guy (or so I’m told lol!!).

Playful Passion

Number one for me is that I want to feel passionate with my man. I want to feel like there is always a fire burnin’ for one another. I want to keep the spice alive!! I love it when my guy and I are flirty together and keep that ‘secret connection’ in the forefront, like stealing those mini make out sessions whenever the opportunity presents itself. It’s vital to a relationship to take advantage of those times – those moments when you can still be playful together. The key however, is having the desire and mindset to be actively flirty and fun with your partner. It’s easy to let life distract you. Bills, chores, work, kids – the lazy route is to have these things interfere. The participative route (which is a whole lot more fun and rewarding) is to WANT to keep the special moments going. Women crave this kind of connection from their men. The guy who will slide up behind her while she’s working in the kitchen – even a passing ‘goose’ to say “how YOU doin??”

Foreplay First

For the women out there who want sex (and who doesn’t!?!) the consensus seems to be that they want some good quality foreplay. Guys who show they CARE about how you respond to their actions. Guys who take their time and WANT to turn their woman on (on a side note, guys should expect the same in return – a girl who merely ‘gives it up’ doesn’t cut it for a guy’s excitement level either). Some guys can get lost in the ultimate goal of ‘getting her off’ and lose sight of the passion in attaining that outcome. Sex shouldn’t be a chore between a couple in any way, both people should equally enjoy the physical involvement. Sex is the one thing that bonds you above and beyond all other relationships – make it feel that way – make it a priority. Women want to feel sexy, loved and that you care about what excites them in the bedroom.

Cunning Compliments

Along with that point is that women want to feel like their man is attracted to them. They want to feel beautiful. Most women have an inner conversation that pin points their flaws and physical insecurities. I’d be hard pressed to find a woman who doesn’t mentally criticize her cellulite or weight or breast size…you name it, we self scrutinize it! Men are not always aware of the internal self doubt that a lot of women have. We count on our men to remind us of how beautiful we are. Every woman desires to hear that. A woman wants to feel like no matter where she is, the man she is with looks at her as the most beautiful woman in the room. Men may be surprised at the realization that the odd compliment can boost us so high. I’m guilty for looking to my man for approval, always wanting to look my best for him – I’m not one to take his attraction for granted. A woman who feels good, also feels good to be around fellas!

Love and Loyalty

An important factor to a lot of women (and men) is commitment and loyalty. Anyone in a good relationship values the commitment of their partner. Feeling safe and secure in their bond and not having to question their partner’s actions. Knowing that their partner chooses to be with them and is devoted to the relationship. I believe that the commitment level that you are willing to give should be equal to that of what your partner is willing to give as well. Feeling like your man would do anything for you and has completely given of himself to you, and vice versa. A woman desires for her man to show he is proud to be with her and has no problem indicating his belief in the commitment he has to her. A woman longs to be her man’s one and only.

Ultimately both sexes want to be with a partner who ‘betters’ their life. Who is supportive through the rough times and helps to create the good times. Someone you can laugh with, someone you enjoy spending time with. The one person above all others you would choose to be around no matter what it is that you are doing. The person in your life who you want by your side. If you really think about what you want – I am certain the qualities I have mentioned here will be the ones that count the most, even above any physical or social attributes. Passion, supportiveness, devotion and commitment, the person you’d be missing if they weren’t in your life. Someone who puts your feelings above all else. Someone who makes you happy.

What Is The REAL Truth About Anal Sex?

By paulcarlson

Anal sex is definitely a touchy subject – is it safe or is it dangerous? If you enjoy having anal sex, how can you make it as safe as possible? Just like any type of sex, there is so much information about related sexually transmitted diseases, anatomy and tips and techniques that it truly can be mind boggling. Here’s what you want to know about anal sex – and more!

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Is anal sex really safe? Is it okay to have anal sex? What precautions can you take so you can still enjoy anal sex but do so safely?

–Tom, NJ

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No Sex Is Safe

You might be surprised to learn that no sex – oral, anal or vaginal – is technically considered safe. There is always the risk of pregnancy with vaginal sex no matter how much protection you use (although the proper protection such as condoms and birth control greatly reduce that risk) and there’s always the risk of contracting sexually transmitted with any type of sex, no matter how small. So it makes sense that anal sex is never considered “safe” either, and anal sex even has its own risks associated with it. With that in mind, if you choose to have anal sex, definitely take care to make it as safe as you possibly can!

Cleanliness

One risk associated with anal sex that generally isn’t true of other types of sex is the abundance of bacteria in the anal cavity that can spread. If you’re using toys, make sure your toys are clean before and after use, and never, ever use a toy or even a real penis for vaginal sex after anal sex if it hasn’t been cleaned properly first. There are a lot of great toy cleansers on the market today, and if you’re short on cash, hot water and soap work just as well. As an added note, having a bowel movement or even taking a gentle laxative before having anal sex will ensure that while bacteria still remain, solid matter is at a minimum.

Be Reasonable!

Remember that the anal cavity is not self lubricating like the vagina. Use plenty of water based lubricant (oil based lubricants break down latex and if you’re using a condom during anal sex – which is highly recommended whether you’re with a monogamous partner or not – oil based lube will reduce the condom’s effectiveness or even cause it to break) and add more lubricant as needed. Be reasonable with size as well – if you’re partner’s penis is unusually well endowed, you might want to try using a smaller toy or fingers for anal sex play. If you only use toys for anal sex, keep your toys at a reasonable size and opt for ones that have a wide base at the bottom to keep it from slipping in your anal cavity and getting lost – because yes, that can happen!

The Anal Cavity Is Not The Place For Rough Sex

Remember that the anal cavity and anus is not designed for sex the way a vagina is. That doesn’t mean that it’s not possible, just that sex is not this area’s primary purpose. If you like rough sex, the anus is not the place for it. Anal tissues are very delicate and can tear, and overly stretching your anus and anal cavity can lead to the necessity for adult diapers later on. If you choose to have anal sex, be safe, smart and educated and take care of yourself and your partner. It may give you great pleasure, but tearing or stretching your anal cavity can make you unable to have any type of anal sex in the future, in addition to the other problems that come along with that.