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2 Ways To Make Foreplay Hotter

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Foreplay is incredibly important if you want a great sex session. Here are two easy ways to make foreplay even hotter, and you can use them tonight!

More Isn’t Better

How do you know the foreplay is enough and that it’s a perfect time to ride?

The answer is you don’t, even a woman doesn’t really know. This isn’t a simple inquiry about time or quantity. With foreplay, more is not necessarily better. If it’s a long and lame one, then it’s a long and lame foreplay. You’re merely prolonging the agony of what could have been short anguish. It’s unnecessary and worse than no foreplay at all!

But even amazing foreplay will eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. Stay too long with it and it ceases to be great – that’s reality and you have to forge ahead before it gets stale. (But something tells me that stalling the foreplay isn’t the biggest issue with most guys. I have yet to hear a woman complain that her man gives too much.)

But Is Less More?

On the other hand, less is more doesn’t hold. It may be true for things like make-up or dancing, but sex is a different ballgame altogether. Sometimes less is just that less. You have to let things heat up, and when it’s hot, make it even hotter and allow a woman to really get the hang of things.

So where do balance and the optimum point lie? The fact that women are not a homogenous group, doesn’t make it any easier. So what can you do?

Look at your lover, read her. She will tell you stuff she doesn’t even have the audacity to verbalize – open your eyes and witness what she’s screaming without words. Only then would you see the glaring window to transition from foreplay to play. Only then would you know the most opportune time for it. (Do you see how calibration works at the advantage of long term partners over one-night stands?)

To help you decide whether or not she’s ready for your penis, check on two things you should have achieved:

An Extended Make Out And Foreplay Session

This includes all the works – kissing, caressing, hugging, even dirty talking and sex games – all those things men tag as preliminaries to the real thing. Add 5-15 extra minutes  to your usual. This way, you’re giving her plenty of time to catch up and really rev up her engines.

Give Her An Orgasm Or Two

Follow the “ladies first” rule. A lot of seasoned guys make it a rule to never ride unless she cums once or twice via manual/oral work. They let the lady have hers first, before they mount away. Stimulate her all the way to orgasm and don’t leave her hanging, hoping that penetration will finish the job. Penetration is one of the most ineffective ways of making women orgasm.

Don’t Miss These Erogenous Zones During Sex

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Sex doesn’t have to be all about the genitals. Check out these other erogneous zones the next time you have sex and she’ll go wild!

1. Legs

Play with them, raise them to the high heavens, spread them far & wide, run your hands up and down their lengths – they are yours to be enjoyed.

And did I just hear foot fetish?

If you have a thing for feet, then help yourself to multiple servings of oven fresh toes. Offer them a combo of sucking, licking and biting. The warmth of your sucks, tickle of your licks and the pleasant pressure of those bites are a feast to a woman’s senses.

As your mouth busies with this lascivious labor, give your lover reassuring looks. Women feel self-conscious stuffing feet into other people’s mouths, worrying they’ll turn you off with them bunions. Show her a face that says you love giving oral treatment to her limbs.

And who can forget the clichéd foot massage.

Her feet – those poor dears, wearied from hunting for that perfect evening gown, will benefit from a firm foot stroke. If you’re up for it, extend massage courtesy to the entire leg. Give those legs a sensual indulgence before bringing them into acrobatic sexual positions. A much needed squeezin’ & pressin’ will take both of you a long way.

With you facing her, position your thumbs at her sole. Place the other 4 fingers on the opposite, bonier side. Knead her sole in a fanning motion. Move your thumb higher and higher for each repetition. Repeat as desired. Give her toes a firm tug & squeeze at the end. On the bonier side where the 4 fingers are planted, execute finger trains by gliding them towards the tips. Repeat as desired.

Then proceed to the legs. Slide your fingers under her calf. Slide up and down. The upward stroke is a gentle caress, the downward slide is the squeezing and pressing. Repeat this by going higher and higher ’til you reach her inner thighs.

Let me ask you: Have you LICKED her legs lately? I don’t mean just your tongue. I mean everything else you can run through those limbs. We’re talking about feathers, silk, ice, ice cream, warm sponge. Anything! Each object feels unique, it’ll be a banquet of sensations that’ll surely drive her bananas!

2. Butt & Anus

Chancing upon a stranger’s tight behind is enough visual to jumpstart a man’s erotic juices. While nobody knows what’s with those curves that get men going, we definitely know that we love not only looking at it but also getting busy with it. If you’re an ass-man, then this is home.

A bad girl needs to be spanked. This is one of those areas where you can go both strong and hard (but not that strong & hard!) Spanking her bottom is of course a classic move usually pre-empted by the lines, “Oh, you’ve been bad girl really naughty really, really bad.”

Lots of girls, even the non-S&M types, love getting spanked as long as it is done tastefully. How hard or heavy you hit, and how red her behind should be, is case for calibration – some women can take more than others. A little playful-pain wouldn’t hurt. Plant soft, gentle kisses on the area. She’ll feel so accepted and adored. Go make her backside tingle – lick it. If so desired, spread some whipped cream or honey, and have dessert off her buns. It would be one of the safest erotic thing you can do.

You can even bite that thing! Playfully bite it, let her know there’s more than one way of punishing a naughty girl.

OK, let’s get anal.

This is where it could get tricky, so let’s make this crystal clear. If you don’t wish to go there, don’t. If she doesn’t want you to, don’t. If she begs for it, and you don’t want to, no chance in hell. If it’s your thing, and the lady doesn’t mind, or in fact loves it, then have a ball!

A lot of women would rather have the backdoor left alone, although some try for the sake of experience and a good story. If she doesn’t feel comfortable receiving licks up there, then what are the chances she’ll appreciate anal sex?

But, sex after all, is about preference, and there is definitely no shortage of women who love anal action. With a relatively high concentration of nerve endings, it is still an erogenous zone. Men love anal-izing because of the distinct tightness it offers, plus the fact that it’s not “supposed” to be done, serves as a turn-on.

If you don’t have hang ups about it, you could start off the whole process by giving a few licks on the area. Analingus will tickle her in a strange way, but she’ll get used to it. After this, slather the lubrication. Use your pinky to run circles on the outer anus. Then slowly insert just the tip of your pinky, giving her anal muscles a chance to get used to the idea of things coming from the opposite direction. When inside, rotate your finger, then release.

How To Touch Her During Foreplay The Right Way

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Foreplay includes lots of touching and caressing, but it’s not always easy to figure out where she wants to be touched. Here’s how to do it the right way.

Foreplay skills and techniques can get complicated, but the basic premise remains the same. Most women are very touchoriented and need some kind of good touch every day to remain connected and compassionate. This does not mean sex. A palm on the small of the back, hugs, kisses and holding hands in public are all important ways to keep an intimate connection in those brief moments when you don’t have time to get naked. On the other hand, touching during foreplay will bring a whole new element to your sexual escapades.

The Rules Of Good Touching During Foreplay

Rule #1 – There Are No Hard And Fast Rules

No one, not even me, can tell you exactly how to touch your wife so she will get off effortlessly every time. What I can do is give you all the skills and practices you need to approach her, adventure with her and discover a whole new sexual landscape! You are probably pretty dejected right now, but chin up love. All will soon become clear as sunny blue skies.

The next two rules for foreplay are only guidelines. Sometimes a quickie is preferable to a long night of exploring; now and again you will want to try a new technique and might not know exactly what you’re doing before you’re doing it. Don’t fret. Accept that this is a journey of discovery and enjoy the experience. It has to be better than what you’re doing right now, or you wouldn’t be here, right?

Rule #2 – Take Your Time

Yes, sometimes we want it quick and dirty. Really. But we also need you need to be precise, calm and able to go with the flow. Don’t rush us. Don’t come to bed with a set list in your hand and don’t expect a stellar opening-night performance if we haven’t had a few dress rehearsals first. Smart men go slowly.

The only way you are ever going to be able to tell if your wife is enjoying your new moves is if you pay attention, and you can’t pay attention if you are busy ripping clothes off and throwing sheets aside and jumping on top of her. This kind of sex has its place, but now is not the time to try something new and get experimental. Save the new stuff for the days when you have a half hour or more set aside to really take a deep breath and get into each other.

Rule #3 – Know Your Stuff

Self-explanatory, right? You and I both know that learning how to do anything is more difficult than just reading it on a page (or a screen, as the case may be). Practice makes perfect!

The Magic Touch

In The Multi-Orgasmic Couple, two pairs of lifetime partners (Mantak and Maneewan Chia, experts in Taoist sexuality, along with sexperts Douglas and Dr. Rachel Carleton Abrams) describe a journey of sexual exploration through expanding the use of touch and the experience of pleasure during foreplay. Recognizing that male sexual desire is fast and furious, they say that magic touch comes from the ability of a man to keep his fires burning low and under control. A relaxed smile and a slow patience is required to ignite a woman’s passion, like the gentle breath and patient coaxing required to enflame any ember into a roaring fire.

Take turns, or watch each other while self touching during foreplay. Explore your own body and leave your penis for last. Let her see how turned on you get from watching her.

Meditating on magic touch can help to cultivate love. The process is simple and laid back, taking both of you through the process of experiencing touch fully. After spending some time gazing into each other’s eyes, touch yourself. Take turns, or watch each other while self-touching.

We humans are wonderful in that we can both resonate (amplify) and reflect (reciprocate) sexual energy from other humans. As you each get more turned on, you both get more turned on, and as you both get more turned on, you each are able to turn the other on more.

Pay close attention as she is touching herself during foreplay – where do her hands go? How much time do they spend in each location and how are her hands moving? Smile as you watch your wife – don’t let your focus turn into a frustrated look on your face. Try and keep your attention open not just to what she is doing, but how it makes her feel, how her vital stats respond, and how your own body receives, resonates and returns that energy to her with more power than she can muster on her own.

The Best Sex Tip For Men

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Sex doesn’t come naturally to every guy. In fact, many guys struggle with it. Have better sex by employing this #1 tip for guys.

It is without a doubt the single most powerful way to drive any woman completely wild in bed. But first, why would you want to be amazing in bed? Is it to flame your own ego? Is it to impress her with the most incredible romp she’s ever had? Or are you concerned about her straying away if you don’t perform to par in bed? It’s none of these. The ability to give the woman you love the kind of sex that makes her go crazy will make you feel just incredible. It will bond the both of you in a very deep and profound manner.

The best sex tip in the world will bestow upon you a sexual power and create a level of intimacy you might be mentally unprepared for. There is a certain level of responsibility that comes along with it.

The Best Sex Tip Is…

To pay attention to HER. Focus on HER body. Learn what is working for HER.

This technique is incredibly powerful, because:

Every Woman Is Different

What works on one woman may utterly fail on another. Some women may prefer clitoris stimulation while others may prefer penetrative sex. One may like things fast and furious while another is into slow and anticipatory lovemaking. One may love lots of foreplay, yet another may want to make love right out of the bolt. There is no universal lovemaking technique that works for all women. That is why paying attention to what your woman wants in bed is critically important

You Convey Sexual Confidence

A sexually confident man is a huge turn-on for any woman. Women simply adore men who know what exactly they want in bed and who feel assured about their own sexuality. And paying attention to her conveys exactly that image of you! When she feels complete involvement from you during sex, she can feel the total sexual confidence in you. And for you, because you are so focused in her, you will naturally forget about all your own insecurities and inadequacies in bed!

It Builds Intimacy And A Great Emotional Bond

The reason is simple. A woman’s ultimate sex organ is not in her genitals (sorry, guys!). Her head and her throbbing heart are. You see, when a woman is completely connected and comfortable with you, she will allow herself to totally surrender to you. All her inhibitions will melt away. Know what this means? When she achieves an orgasm with you, it will be far more powerful and intense than anything she has ever experienced.

This is the stuff that women’s sexual fantasies are made of. This is the stuff that the best sex tip is made of. You will create an amazing bond, trust, intimacy and delirious sexual pleasure. Use it well, and use it responsibly!

How To Teach Her To Give An Amazing Handjob

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A handjob can be exquisite if your lady does it the right way. Here’s how to teach her to stroke you to an incredible orgasm!

A Hot Handjob

If you aren’t already fluent in the language of your own anatomy, it’s time to take a bit of a lesson. Take a good look at what’s going on down there the next time you are masturbating and see if you can describe your movements in language someone else can understand. Next time, try it in front of her!

Give her a thorough demo of how you really like to be touched, taking the time to describe your use of pressure, grip and movement. If you are circumcised, be sure to use lube to mimic the gliding movement of foreskin. You can use lube if you have foreskin, too, but it’s less necessary for her to be able to get a handle on you during a handjob. If she is unsure with her grip, try holding your hand over hers so she has an idea of how hard to hold you.

A lot of women are unaware how much stimulation the penis is capable of enjoying, so make sure she knows exactly what you like during a handjob before she lets go. Give her lots of encouraging words when she does something that you like. If she goes too far and it hurts, or if you just want her to change, suggest what she can do instead, rather than jumping on her with criticism.

The P-Spot

If what you really want her to do with her hands is explore your back door in conjunction with a handjob, you should have a little conversation with her about it. Why not take her on a little sex toy shopping spree at my store, looking for fun toys to try with her? When you “happen” to “stumble” on the prostate massager category, casual bring up how curious you are about trying something like that. See how she responds to the idea of putting something other than her fingers inside you.

Next time you try out any anal moves on her, try describing what you’re doing in detail. The method for feeling up her G-Spot from her rear cavity is exactly the same as her method will be for finding your prostate gland. If she is just too grossed out by your back door, tell her to rub your perineum by pressing down from just behind your testicles toward your anus. Stroking this repetitively with the pad of her thumb with firm pressure should stimulate your P-Spot externally for an explosive orgasm.

If you don’t particularly enjoy anything around (or in!) your anus, feel free to skip this when getting your handjob. Most girls aren’t going to be terribly disappointed by this, especially if they can give you a great orgasm without going back there.