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Hot New Twists On Classic Sex Games!

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Sex games that have been done over and over can be boring. But you can try these sexy new ways to do old sex games and have tons of fun!

Food Games

Every once in a while, choose culinary delights to accompany your intimate enterprise. In the field of food alone, there’s of myriad things to do – so long as the couple is not afraid of getting messy. Practically anything set on a table and served on a plate can be eaten off the human body. Practically anything a hand can hold can be fed to your lady.

But don’t feast ‘til the tank’s full, that’ll only make you sleepy, you might as well forego the sex. In this context, food exists to tease the senses – not just the tongue, but also the skin, eyes and nose. Work your appetite with torrid sex, then eat to your heart’s content during the Afterplay dates.

Food can get messy, especially if you have food fight in the agenda. I suggest you buy a special mattress exclusively for sex play, something that doesn’t absorb liquid or stain. You can use the ones they have in gyms, lay it on the floor and you’re good to go – you won’t have to worry about going to the cleaners in the morning.

Besides ice, mints, candy, wine, strawberries and whipped cream, here are other food ideas:

  1. Chinese food – Work the grease on each other. This may not be your idea of romance, but who knows, it might be your idea of fun. It will feel odd initially, but then you’ll remember how wonderful it was to be in a sandbox. Play and eat, be a child once again. Finish the messy affair by lathering each other in the shower. Get ready for some serious action after.
  2. Sauces – See how adorable she looks with some sauce on her face. (Don’t use too much, licking it all off can be nauseating.) Liquids are mainstays during foreplay, when penetration is not the main issue. Getting foreign liquids into the vagina may disturb the pH balance inside, so be careful not to drip anything in. Finally, cleaning up is as important as getting messy, make sure you still approach it with childish fun.
  3. Fruits – There are messy fruits, there are easy fruits – take your pick. Consider the issue of seeds, pulp and flow of juices.

Role Playing

Pepper your encounters with role playing and themes by putting on your best acting pants and pretend you are making love like different couples.

A very big warning though: WHEN THE GAME STOPS, WHEN IT’S ALL OVER, YOU HAVE TO STOP PLAYING THE PART – don’t get carried away. Moreover, never hurt, abuse or threaten your partner – I don’t care what the role you’re playing is. Keep it light, playful and flirtatious.

  • Doctor & Nurse
  • Dentist & Assistant
  • Judge & Lawyer
  • Boss & Secretary
  • Rockstar & Groupie
  • Superstar Athlete & Reporter
  • Business Tycoon & French maid

Of course, it can also go the other way and women can play the dominant role:

  • Hot Teacher & Naïve Student
  • Amazon Boss & “Let’s see if you’re really gay” Assistant
  • Horny Mistress & Pizza Boy
  • Beauty Queen & Pool Boy
  • Horny Heiress & Hunky Gardener

Mix & match, and make your own. Try Astronaut and Alien!

Sex Toys

There’s a legion of sex toys available in the market today – some of them will work for you, others are better off as home decors. But you will find that those that rub you the right way are really heaven sent.

Toys don’t get tired or think that the kitty tastes awful. They simply do their job and allow both of you to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Vibrators and butt plugs don’t compete with you, they aid in your pleasure and are on your team. Many get threatened with sex gadgets. It’s the “Why, am I not enough?” feeling that nips on the egos of men.

But there’s really nothing to be insecure about. You are definitely better than any toy – more delightful than any battery-operated device. Toys might bring her orgasms, but they are only physical implements devoid of psychological warmth.

You’re different – you’re a fumbling, sometimes clueless, ball of fun! So don’t think twice of employing toys, it’s not cheating. It’s simply admitting to being human. Face it, you can’t vibrate your tongue or fingers as rhythmically and tirelessly as any garden-variety vibrator. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

To spice up sex toys, try masturbating in public, in a discreet way. Bring a quiet vibrator to a movie theater, or masturbate in your car on a long drive. Wear a pair of quiet, vibrating panties to a business meeting and try your hardest to keep a straight face! When it comes to sex toys, use your imagination to bring life to old, played out toys.

5 Places Never To Miss When Giving A Handjob

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A handjob is an incredible way to give your lover an orgasm without getting anything but – well, your hands – involved. Here’s how to give a great handjob!

First, let’s explore some of the places on a man’s genitals that are great for a massage. The more you know your man between his legs, the better your handjob will be.

1. His Scrotum

The scrotum (the sac where his balls are held) is a great place to hold, tug lightly and massage lightly. Cupping his scrotum with one hand can give your partner excellent sensations while you do the dirty work with your other hand! Just be careful not to massage your partner’s scrotum too hard – this is a very sensitive area and a rough approach just won’t work here. Think of his testicles as eyeballs.

You can actually massage your eyeballs, but if you poke or press too hard it hurts. The same with his balls. Try pumping up and down on his shaft, then giving a light squeeze every third or fourth stroke release. A feather to the balls is also very, very delightful.

2. The Perineum

This is probably the area that gives you the most advantage during a genital massage. Why, you ask? When pressure is put on the perineum, it stimulates a man’s sensitive prostate gland. Men love having their prostate gland stimulated (it is like a man’s G-spot) but not all of them know they do. That’s because other than the perineum, the only other way to gain access to the prostate gland is through the anus and there are more men that don’t like going that route than there are that do.

Pressing or rubbing on the perineum (the spot between his scrotum and his anus) during a genital massage can give your partner the thrill of a lifetime. Just make sure that your partner is comfortable with your hand in that spot and make sure he lets you know how low is too low if he is uncomfortable with your hand near his anus. And don’t be afraid to throw some lube down there first! Things will slide right along!

3. His Inner Thighs And Lower Abs

These areas are secondary to the others during a genital massage and you may want to use them just to help warm your partner up – but if he really likes it, feel free to use these areas during the handjob to give your partner more of an “all over” feeling. These spots can take a little more of a rough touch, so they are great to squeeze, press and manipulate when you are really ravaging your partner during a genital massage. Be careful not to do this too hard, your partner is not Play-Doh! If you prefer to go the softer route, these places are very responsive to light touching (such as running your fingers up and down them) or to tickling. Light touches in these areas are best for teasing.

Let your hair caress his thighs while your face is close to his penis and you are fondling and rubbing his erection.

4. The Anus

Obviously this area can be a big no-no spot for men. But the anus has a lot of pleasure points. Some men are fine with you massaging the outside of the anus and that is it. Others have discovered the incredible pleasure of having their prostate massaged via the anus. Insert your pointer or middle finger (after he has been well lubed of course) and find a spongy area the size of a walnut maybe 3 or 4 inches in and begin to stroke it. Do this when you think he is close to coming and it will most likely give him the explosion of his lifetime.

Here is how one of my readers described it:

“She would lube up her middle finger insert it in my ass and massage my prostate. Well you orgasm very quick and when she is massaging the walnut you darn near levitate!! Very powerful!”

And another one of my reader’s says this about the anus:

“Most guys will not admit it but a man’s anal area adds great sensations.”

5. His Penis

Well, of course the penis is the main area on your partner’s body that you want to pay attention to when giving a genital massage. None of the other areas have the capacity to bring your partner to orgasm – but it is important to note that concentrating on massaging the penis only during a genital massage can make it slow work for you. Accessing and utilizing massage techniques on the other areas of your partner’s groin area can make things go more quickly and actually, it will make the genital massage more exciting, pleasurable and satisfying to him.

6 Hot New Sex Tips To Try Tonight!

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Sex tips are a great way to keep your sex life inspired. Whether you’re getting tired of the same old missionary style, or you’re looking to expand your already amazing sex life, sex tips can take you over the hump. If you and your partner are looking for a way to increase the amount of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship, these sex tips can easily help you out. Here are 5 hot new sex tips to try tonight.

1. Roleplay With Your Partner

Role play isn’t for everybody. There are of men and women that get embarrassed over putting on a costume or having to improv sexy talk. If you and your partner are comfortable with it, role playing can be a great way to put some new kink into your sex life. Some of the most common forms of roleplay involve one partner being dominant and the other being submissive.

Before you start to role play, you should always determine who is going to be dominant and who is going to be submissive. If you want to switch it up in the middle of the role playing then this is fine too. The key is to find a healthy balance so the both of you are satisfied in the end.

2. Set Up Barriers

This is something that is commonly found in the pick up artist community, but it works well with couples also. Barriers are basically used to increase sexual tension. Pick up artists use this to increase sexual tension in an environment that cannot be used for sex. For instance, talking dirty to a girl in a restaurant or getting a her turned on in a nightclub.

You can’t have sex in a nightclub or in a restaurant, so the girl feels safe and more likely to respond in a positive manner. Go out to dinner with your partner and use the barriers to your advantage. Get the sexual tension so high that you can’t wait to get home.

3. Switch Up The Dominance

There are a lot of guys and girls that love to be either dominant or submissive in the bedroom. One of the best ways that you can get out of your comfort zone and experience something different is to switch up the dominance. Instead of always having your boyfriend or girlfriend being the dominant one, take control.

If you’re the one who always takes control, be submissive. In the middle of sex, switch roles so that you are either dominant or submissive. This will not only increase the sexual tension and create a really fun environment for experimentation, it can also expose you to new and creative ways of taking or letting go of control.

4. Use Sex Toys

There are too many couples who rely on their bodies for sexual pleasure. If you haven’t tried sex toys yet, do it. Take a trip to the adult store together and pick out a small vibrator or dildo for your girlfriend. You also might want to try out a cock ring or a vibrating condom. Sex toys are there to enhance your sex life, not replace it.

So many couples think that sex toys are a form of “cheating” or “copping out.” Just because you have a really intense orgasm with a vibrator doesn’t mean that your guy isn’t a good lover. Try out some sex toys to get things rolling or to take your orgasms to the next level.

5. Remove Anxieties

With kids, work, housework or whatever else you have in your life, the last thing that you or your partner wants to do is have sex. Sex is about having fun and it can be an escape from life, however, there are things that your sexual urges can’t overcome. Remove the anxieties from life so you can focus on your sex life. Try to help your partner out on a daily basis so you both have less stress and anxiety in your lives. This will go a long way with your sex life.

6. Double Down On Foreplay

Foreplay is essential for having great sex. While this is not secret, so many men and women tend to forget it when they are in a long-term relationship. It’s way to easy to get to the big show immediately. Take the time that you normally spend on foreplay and double it. If you normally spend about 5 minutes on foreplay, extend it to 10 minutes.

Mix up what you normally do so your partner is surprised. Going from kissing to oral sex is a staple. Mix it up so you are kissing and then giving oral sex and then back to kissing or just fingering. This will make a big difference in the way that your partner gets turned on.

8 Sizzling Foreplay Techniques

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Foreplay is a must for incredible sex, but it’s important to mix it up. Check out these super hot foreplay suggestions for a night of amazing passion!

1. Cup Her Vulva

Using the heel of your palm as your guide, place it on her mons so that the upper palm (the inside of your lowest finger knuckles) is directly over her clitoris, and your fingers curl down over her lips. Just this light pressure should feel very good for her and the warmth from your hand may be enough to begin to arouse her.

You can take it one big step further from here with a light massaging motion. First, press with the heel of your hand, then the palm, then the fingers. This stimulates her mound, clitoris and labia in a continuous wave. Explore different pressures and speeds to gauge her reaction.

2. Beat Of The Drum

From the same position as described above, raise your palm up and slide the heel of your hand back just a bit so that it rests on her pubic bone. With your fingers curled, drum your fingertips gently along the mound without touching the clit or labia directly.

The vibrations from your light tapping will stimulate her entire vulva and wake up her skin, sending a signal to her clitoris to prepare for the more intense vibrations to come. Hopefully, this elicits some sighs or moans from her, but if not be sure to keep an eye out for signs of swelling, redness and lubrication to indicate her arousal.

3. Rumble In The Jungle

This impressive move could literally convince her you’ve brought a vibrator to bed, especially if she’s blindfolded – and is likely to be a favorite for getting her close to her first Big O. You might even be able to take her right over the edge with this, so if she is multi-orgasmic (or wants to be) you should try this one on for size.

Based on the last two moves, this is an extra intense technique that you may not be able to do for very long at one time, so make sure she’s already turned on before you whip this out.

Once you are in the cupping position described above, you are going to keep light pressure throughout your whole hand and wriggle it back and forth. You can start slow, but you want to warm up to a good speed. Don’t move your arm at all. Your hand should move very little and if you aren’t used to the muscle movements, you may tire out quickly. To avoid cramping up, practice your moves beforehand so you have an idea of what muscle groups you are going to be working out and how long you can keep it up.

4. Her Easy Button

Turn around to face her. From between her thighs, you have full access to her genitals and can bring her to orgasm with a great view! This first move might not be enough to bring her to a clitoral orgasm, but it will stimulate the shaft buried deep inside and help open her up for penetration. If you want to try for a vaginal or combo orgasm, this is a great way to get started.

Without opening her lips, reach your thumb between them and find the clitoral hood, at the top of the cleft of her inner labia. With your thumb above the clitoral hood you should be able to feel her clitoris through its protective covering.

If she is very turned on, it might swell or pulse under your touch. Briefly, but firmly, press the pad of your digit directly on top of the clitoris, for no more than four seconds or until she starts to squirm or squeal. Release and give her some time to recover.

The building pressure under your thumb stimulates the internal stem of the clitoris.

5. The Metronome

Playing some sexy beats in the background can be a big help during sex, especially for techniques like those I’ve already mentioned. It works particularly well for this one as well. Regular rhythms allow her to tune in to the resonant frequency of your movement and ride it all the way to orgasm, so when you are tapping, drumming, pressing or pumping at regular intervals, use some tunes to keep rhythm, so she can really get into your groove.

This particular tip involves tapping on the clitoris with the index or middle finger, rather than pressing with the thumb.

6. Wax On, Wax Off

A great way to ease into parting the vaginal lips, so as to get a closer look at the clit, is with labia massage. Curl your hands and rest the backs of your fingers against the cleft of her inner thighs. Turning your hands slightly, slowly stroke the entire length of the outer labia, back and forth,using the pads of your thumbs along.

As she becomes lubricated, you can blow lightly on her vulva, cooling the wet areas with shocking pleasure. If she doesn’t get lubricated enough to wet her inner lips and clit, use your tongue to get her nice and slick, before giving her a puff of intense air to send a shiver down her spine.

7. Ring Around The Rosie

You can try this vulva massage technique using your thumbs, or your index and middle finger together like a little wand. Massage in an oval around the top of her mons, which will stimulate her clit, then down one side of her outer labia, across her perineum (don’t penetrate her just yet) and back up the other side of the labia.

The second time around, imagine her vulva is differentiated like the face of a clock, and at each “number” along the way, pause and make three small circles. Try again with more circles and see if you can determine where – say 2 and 10 o’clock – she really responds to stimulation. This is the perfect way to find her hottest spots for touching later, with fingers or tongue.

8. U-Turn

The U-Spot can be an incredibly sensitive spot, so you don’t want to go touching it with your bare fingers until she is well lubricated. Make sure you have some lube on hand if you want to try this technique.

Spread her outer lips apart from above while facing her directly. Use your other hand to gently separate her inner labia and look for her urethra, the small spot between her vagina and her clitoris. If you can’t see it immediately, lick her with just the tip of your tongue over this location, without touching her clit or penetrating her. When stimulated, this little spot may become erect, but if not you will be able to tell when you hit it by her squeals of delight!

4 Erotic Places To Make Out

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Kissing can be a super hot prelude to sex, but you can’t make out on your couch all the time and expect it to be good. Move the party to one of these sexy places!

Making out on the bed is a top choice for most couples. It is convenient, offers plenty of privacy and makes cleaning up easy if the bathroom is just a few steps away. But if you want to enjoy truly mind-blowing, uninhibited sex, there is no better way than to let your imagination and creativity take over. If you need a little help, these are 4 of the best places to have sex – outside of your own home, no less! Push your boundaries and give your girl the most wondrous, passionate sex she has ever imagined!

1. In The Car

The back seat of the car isn’t the most comfortable place to make out. But it is nonetheless an ultra hot place for an afternoon (or night) of romp, simply because it gives a glimpse of the great outdoors while still offering a little privacy of sorts. Did I also mention car sex is one of the most sought-after sexual fantasies of women? Enough said.

Bonus Tip: The drive-in makes for a perfect excuse to get away for the night and have a good time right in your car. And you have plenty of time before the end credits start rolling, for sure!

2. The Great Outdoors

There is something about having sex outdoors that turns women on. It is the added thrill that someone else may just swing by and catch both of you in the act. Just make sure you are in a relatively secluded spot, where you can enjoy nature and the cool night sky in their splendor.

3. In The Pool

If you have a private swimming pool, great! Sex and water goes really well together. Water offers total freedom of movement and the added buoyancy can make kissing and sex a truly exhilarating and extremely sexy experience for her. And well, when both of you are in the pool, most of your clothes are already off!

4. A Date With The Movies

If you are a couple in a stable relationship, why not add some spice to your sex life by going out on a movie date and making out? Of course you should get into a theater that is NOT showing the latest blockbuster. You want some privacy, so choose one that is not crowded and find a place right at the back of the theater. And when the lights go dim, the action will start. Yours… not the movie.