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How To Choose The Right Sex Positions

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Sex positions can definitely spice up your sex life, but how do you choose the right ones when there are so many different options? Find out now!

Who hasn’t heard of the Kama Sutra? The Perfumed Garden or The Tao? These ancient love texts exhibit the various ways a couple may entangle themselves at play. And no, they are not porn.

Getting into various sexual arrangements can spice up a sleepy erotic existence, in addition to being a good way to discover each other’s hidden talents. Guys will always want to test the limits of a woman’s flexibility, leg power and skull strength.

But do not assume that the more Evil Knievel-ish the poses, for the lady, the hotter the sex is. While experimenting is good, it should be tempered by common sense so nobody ends up in the emergency room in the middle of the night. Getting into acts hazardous to your health is insane, your choice of sexual positions shouldn’t constitute acts of stupidity, as if you’re out to prove anything.

People will have different takes on plow positions, depending on their tastes; one will be preferred over the others. The following are the five things you should factor into choosing your sex positions.

1. Movement

Men will always favor situations that allow for thrusting with reckless abandon. (We will discuss later what these positions are.) Certain arrangements allow for excellent movement and mobility, others, not so much. In fact, some greatly restrain movement it will seem that your partner has you on a body lock.

2. Accessibility

This refers to manual and visual accessibility to a woman. Some thrusting positions free a hand or two, allowing them to wander into other territories. (As you may already know, a great deal of these free hands end up at the breasts.) Others require both arms for balance & stability for the stroke.

Men love to ogle the goodies as they pound away. Bouncing breasts, moaning faces, and of course, tight behinds are winners. But because the body is profiled a certain way, manual and visual access to these may not be available all at the same time. Woman-on-top for example, makes the face and breast visually and manually accessible, but it leaves her buttocks hidden from view. In a way, there’s a Catch-22 going on.

Very notable height discrepancies between couples can make for some uncomfortable sexual positions. A giant and a dwarf, on the same bed, will have issues with alignment and reach. The ideal is for both to be of the same height and weight categories. The good thing though is that significant height and weight discrepancies among couples are not very common.

3. Stress & Strain

During the sexual tumble, muscles and bones do receive reasonable stress. This is again a question of health, conditioning and medical conditions. Your options for positions will greatly depend on what both your bodies can do COMFORTABLY.

Sex can be lethal. If you’re a couple of 120-year olds still getting some action, there will be positions your soon-to-be bereaved family will strongly advise against. You’ll be better off with more relaxed and more subdued sexual maneuvers.

There are positions that overly strain your back, hips, neck or legs.

You will instantly know what these are because your body will be screaming, “Are you kidding me?!” Others are borderline acrobatic and will drain the joy from the act.

Why engage in those non-practical positions anyway? But if you’re young, healthy and able, you have a lot going for you – there’s POWER OF CHOICE in that.

4. Orgasm Potential

Sexual positions have different clitoris and G-spot potential – some target them perfectly, others render them next to useless.

To increase your hit rate, recall the locations of these two: (1) the clit is located OUTSIDE the vagina – safely nestled under a hood ABOVE the vaginal entrance where the Labia minoras meet. It gets off on friction & pressure. The G-spot on the other hand can be excited INSIDE, through the TOP wall of the vagina.

There are choice arrangements that fire up these areas and offer intense pleasure, eventually leading to a cussing climax. We will soon determine what these are, but men who generally consider themselves givers… already know.

5. Emotional & Psychological Effect

It’s interesting to note that the manner in which two bodies are configured has psychological and emotional bearings on the participants. The partner on top for example, will oftentimes experience the sense of power and leadership, by virtue of playing the dominant role. The one at the bottom can express trust and safe-vulnerability by being led and taking on a more tempered role.

There are positions that signal adventurous excitement and creativity, others, raw passion and unfettered intensity. Through tons of friction and closeness for example, certain positions enhance the feeling of intimacy between two naked bodies. Still, there are arrangements that strike a woman she’s merely being treated as a sexual object.

5 Sex Positions For Fingering

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Fingering isn’t just something high school kids do – it can be a legitimate form of hot, steamy foreplay and it can be an incredible addition to penetrative sex. In fact, many girls won’t get off on just penetration alone – they need some extra stimulation to their breasts or clitoris in order to reach orgasm. Using your fingers during sex can be extremely exciting for her! Try these sex positions for the ultimate fingering!

The true fingering aficionado doesn’t need to take a break just to get his hands into the mix. There are several different sexual positions from which you can extend a helping hand and touch your girl’s naughty bits, so get ready to get funky with these legendary moves.

1. Missionary

From the missionary position, you have your choice of easy access points, if you can keep your balance by kneeling or propping yourself up on one arm. Kim Cattrall recommends a pinkie in the pink. Reach around and while you are thrusting slow and shallow, place a well-lubricated pinkie finger against her anus and apply steady pressure. From this position, you can hold her tight and thrust away. Each movement will rock her insides just right!

Try spreading her outer labia as you thrust, or squeezing them gently around your shaft. If you want to get even greater access to her back door from the missionary position, have her bring her legs together up over her head, then bend at the knees to press the soles of her feet against your chest. From this position she has great leverage to lift up her butt, and you can explore some anal play.

2. From Behind

Whether you are kneeling on the mattress or standing up on the floor behind her, this position is not only super sexy in that primal sort of way, but leaves your hands totally free to play and explore with any erogenous zone you can reach!

Reach around and massage her breasts, hold on to her shoulders, run your fingers down her spine. If she is into it, you can get a good grip on her hair and give it a bit of a tug. Make sure you grasp it close to the nape of her neck, and get all of it in your clenched fist at once. Gentle tugs will stimulate her scalp and might just play into some kinky fantasies of hers too!

For an extra stimulating surprise, try angling away from her body a bit on one side, so you can reach your hand, palm down, underneath your penis. In this position, you can enter her with both your penis and one, or maybe two, fingers, crooked toward the mattress so you can hit her g-spot!

If you are coordinated enough and have enough reach, you can even use the other hand to stimulate her clitoris, or to ask her to rub herself while you penetrate. This is also a great position to use your thumbs for exploring her back door, so be sure to have lots of lube handy.

3. She’s On Top

When it comes to intercourse, studies conclusively show that the woman-on-top positions are the best for getting her to orgasm. This gives her the chance to set the pace and depth, but also gives you the complete use of your hands, with which to make her feel good.

Try just spreading her lips as she bounces on your shaft. If she doesn’t move too much, you can also try twiddling your thumbs over the sensitive nub, or massaging her labia. If she turns around to face your feet in this position, you’ll have great access to her rear passage, and if you sit or prop yourself up a bit, you can fondle her clitoris and breasts at the same time!

4. Side By Side

If what you really need is encouragement to slow down and escape from all the high impact thrusting, a luxurious, relaxing, side-by-side position is perfect for keeping things calm. While you are thrusting in this sex position, just about all of the earlier exercises described above in the “looking-at-her-feet” category can be used. Try resting the heel of your hand on her mons, to stimulate her labia and clitoris while you thrust.

5. Standing At Attention

It’s pretty daring, but sex standing up can be absolutely amazing. If you want to be able to use your hands for anything other than holding her up, have her bend over and put her hands on a table or chair to support herself, thereby leaving you free to use any of the “from behind” positions above!

6 Super Naughty Fingering Tips

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Fingering isn’t played out – at least these hotter than fire tips aren’t! Here’s how to engage in fingering with your girl and give her a WET orgasm!

1. Stirring The Pot

Another great all-round stimulator, this little trick allows you to stimulate the circumference of the vaginal wall at just about any depth, and is another type of sensation she may have never before experienced.

With one or two fingers inserted, slowly begin to make clockwise circles around the entire vaginal canal – bottom, left side, top, right side. You can change which direction your finger pads point to mix things up, or switch directions. Try to keep it up while thrusting!

2. Twist & Shout

A very special move using two to three fingers, this one allows you to stimulate her G or A-Spot, her clitoris, her urethra, her inner and outer labia; her entire vulva, in fact. A favorite in our house, this one has just the kind of sensations that are guaranteed to bring me over the edge after some stimulating massage and stretching.

Using your index and possibly your middle finger, penetrate and find the G-Spot, (or A-Spot, depending on how deep it is and how long your fingers are) thereby creating a “C” shape out of your hand, so that your thumb curls around to cover her clitoris. The sensitive inner webbing of your hand will cover her inner labia, and can stimulate her U-Spot here as well.

Once in position, slowly begin to twist your wrist from side to side, keeping your arm stationary. Not only will this rock back and forth inside her, causing her to lubricate and possibly squirt, but the changing pressure on her clit at just the right rhythm is certain to be a show-stopping favorite.

3. Upping The Ante

If you’re feeling extra frisky, you can add a second digit to any of the moves described above, either massaging her perineum and anus or fingering her clitoris. If you can figure out using multiple fingers and your tongue at the same time, you’re golden!

4. Three, Four And More

As she turns on, her vagina will begin to stretch and expand, preparing to accommodate something a bit bigger than a finger or two. As this happens, your wife will probably be interested in more stimulation, which is where these more complex moves come in. If you are still learning to read your wife’s reactions, take your time here to work up to them. She needs to be communicative; not just to ensure her pleasure here, but to avoid any unwanted pain.

5. The Three-Way

You can modify the Twist & Shout position above, with two fingers inserted to hit her G-Spot and A-Spot at the same time, along with her clitoris and possibly her urethra. Doesn’t that sound like the kind of party you want to get in on? As she turns on, her vagina will begin to stretch and expand, preparing to accommodate something a bit bigger than a finger or two.

As this happens, your wife will probably be interested in more stimulation. With your two fingers inserted deeply, trace your middle finger toward you, along the front wall of the vagina, until you find the A-Spot. Keep the finger in place as you crook your index finger closer yet, finding the G-Spot just inside the vaginal opening. Now that you have both spots in hand, you can reach your thumb for her clit.

In this position, you can both twist at the wrist as I mentioned earlier, and thrust very gently with your inserted fingers in the come-hither motion to stimulate all her special spots!

6. The Pubic Press

This movement actually puts a bit of pressure on her uterus and ovaries, giving you an opportunity to stimulate these internal reproductive organs from inside her vagina. Some women may find this a bit uncomfortable, if they aren’t used to it, so go slowly and gently and get lots of feedback. With your fingers inside her, let the heel of your other hand find her pubic bone.

Just above her mons and below her abdomen, you can press down to gently move her internal reproductive system closer to the vaginal canal, and the clitoral tissue that surrounds it. Thrusting in this position can be incredibly pleasurable.

The REAL Truth About The G-Spot (And How To Find It!)

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The g-spot is often considered the holy grail of sex – if you can find her g-spot and get her to orgasm with it, you’re in for a wild ride! Here’s how.

Who Invented The G-Spot?

Nobody! It has always been there, silently awaiting discovery.

In the 1950’s, Dr. Grafenberg (hence the term “G”-spot) discovered the zone. Of course, he was ecstatic to write about it, but like most great finds, his work has to undergo the painful process of gathering dust in the bookshelves. For the next 30 years, nobody paid it much attention. Then came 1982. Dr.’s Whipple, Perry and Ladas did more extensive study on the area, and it was with the publishing of their work on the G-spot that consciousness really caught on.

Where Is It?

The G-spot is located between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix. That means you’re dealing here with the TOP WALL of her vagina.

Unlike the clitoris, the g-spot is stimulated INTERNALLY. Hunting for it is best done when a woman lies on her back, bringing her knees to her chest. Here’s what you do: Palms up, slowly and teasingly insert your middle and index fingers 2-3 inches into the vagina. Then point your fingers up, remember the area is behind the pubic bone. Now, imagine you’re beckoning somebody to come to you. Simulate that “Come Here” finger motion by curling your fingers back towards the wrist.

You’ll know you’ve hit the spot because the texture there is different from the adjacent areas. It feels rough and you may find a raised spot or ridge. On average, it’s the size of a pea. You’ll feel it become firm & engorged when the lady is aroused. She’ll know when you’re there because she’ll feel something different.

While performing all this hunting inside, position your other palm a few inches below her belly button. Gently but firmly press towards your fingers inside. This bearing down helps isolate the G zone and results in more intense sensations.

How To Find & Stimulate The G-Spot

Do not consider the it as merely a pea-sized locale – it’s better to think of it as a zone or region. Begin by fingering her and let your fingers play around and stimulate areas adjacent to the rough spot itself. This indirectly stimulates the g-spot and animates your partner as you go nearer and nearer the post.

You may utilize 1-3 fingers, but more than that, when it comes to curling, you could execute simultaneously or serially. Again, these will seem trivial to you, but these simple variations have profound effects on the woman whose core you’re invading. A woman notices the tiny details men couldn’t care less of.

Do vertical and horizontal firm sweeps of the area. Run circles around the spot. You may also execute a 2-finger squeeze using the forefinger and the middle finger.

But I Still Can’t Find It!

Let’s make this clear, the G-spot is not found inside the vagina, it is accessed through the vagina. And if you would have any chance of finding it, you need to apply FIRMER, DEEPER PRESSURE. Firmer than the ones you use for the clit – do not baby the G-spot.

Simply rubbing the area won’t work, as pressure is needed to get THROUGH the vaginal walls. No matter how many thousand curls you administer, doing it with insufficient pressure won’t result in any heavenly experience. Men who have been stirring the same zone without result suddenly struck gold just by making the wonderful mistake of increasing pressure. They were dead-on all this time, but the pressure just wasn’t enough.

You don’t want weak, tentative fingers curling back and forth. You want well-trained marines to get in and get the job done, troops that are confident and know exactly what they’re doing.

It’s not a cavity exam, but be firm with it.

Unfortunately, for women with very thick vaginal linings, access to the G-spot may not even be possible.

I Swear Man, My Girl Doesn’t Have One!

She has one, they all have one. You just expected her reaction to be “Oh Danny that feels so good. Don’t stop. Please don’t stop!”

All eyes may be for seeing, and ears for hearing, but stimulating the G-spot has DIFFERENT EFFECTS for DIFFERENT WOMEN. Some love it and orgasm only through it, some don’t. Some are very sensitive, others couldn’t care less.

When a guy plays with a woman’s G, she will typically feel the need to pee. Why? Because the area you’re dealing with runs alongside her bladder, that’s why. (Just to be sure, make her pee before proceedings begin). When you continue with the stimulation, that need to urinate will gradually turn into a feeling of pleasure. And that pleasure, nurtured will soon result into a raging, wet and possibly squirting orgasm.

OR, stimulation may get you nothing. A woman may simply feel NOTHING. That’s right, NOTHING. In that case, you stop and watch “Friends” reruns instead.

But that doesn’t mean you’ll go nowhere with her every time. Her sensitivity and your skill will improve as you clock in several sessions. For all you know, she may feel zilch that evening, but on a different night, it’ll be gold. She can have different reactions on different occasions, so don’t give up so easily.

OR, a woman will hate every irritating minute of it. That’s right, it can have a negative effect on her. In that case, stop stimulation, turn on the TV and watch “Seinfeld” reruns instead.

Women can have different G-Spot reactions. When people expect it to work in the same manner, for all women, every time, that’s when the debate on its existence and purpose really heats up.

People have been conditioned to think that G-Spot stimulation will always shoot her through the stratosphere. Truth is, sometimes it’ll work, sometimes it will work against you. Sometimes she’s crazy about it, sometimes not so much. There will even be times when you’ll think her spot has disappeared or will doubt if you’ve actually found the real deal when she’s not as responsive as before!

You may have to awaken and train her G-spot in the first place – over a period of several sessions. Such is the nature of the Grafenberg Spot. So when dealing with it, better check your ego at the counter.

How To Give Any Girl Multiple Orgasms During Sex

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Sex tips are essential for giving your girlfriend or wife multiple orgasms. These orgasms are tricky territory and may be hard just to bring up in conversation, if only because many women don’t even know they are possible!

If she is already struggling to reach orgasm regularly, so might not want the additional pressure of trying to orgasm over and over again.

There are several ways to assist your partner with finding the path to multiples, as all women have the capacity, but only if she is prepared and has opened her mind to the idea. It’s all just a matter of creating the perfect storm.

What To Do After The First Orgasm

Once she has experienced her first orgasm, you want to ensure she remains aroused. Cuddle, coo, snuggle and tell your lover how much you appreciate her, all while slowly and gently stimulating the clitoral head and hood.

If she is too sensitive, pull back to the labia, the mons or even the inner thigh. Basically, whatever pressure, rhythm and position you were in prior to her orgasm, you want to continue along those lines but more gently and with less force.

Focus on the romance for a bit instead of the orgasm, and allow her a bit of a breather. Just don’t stop touching for more than a few seconds at a time, or the cool-off period will begin.

Watch Her Breathing

Once your girl’s breathing starts slowing back to normal (but before it gets all the way there), start with a bit more pressure along the mons pubis. If need be, shift into another position that offers strong symphysis and/or G-Spot stimulation.

If you can, put your hand over the mons pubis and feel around for the clitoral shaft, making sure she is getting the proper angle for lots of rubbing and friction.

Move your body further up hers if you are in a sex position facing her, so that you can help her rise toward climax again. If she pushes you away or says she’s too sensitive, take things back a few notches but don’t stop entirely.

Focus On The Other Parts

Focus on other parts of her body that arouse her until she starts to move of her own accord, rubbing against you in search of more stimulation. When her hips thrust and her breathing quickens, you can start playing with her mons pubis and pressing up against her pubic bone.

Her second orgasm should occur in less time than it took the first, only because her body didn’t regress all the way back to the non-aroused state before beginning her next ascent to climax.