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How To Give Your Girl A Thigh Quivering Orgasm – In 5 EASY Steps!

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex for women – so here’s how to give your woman one so incredible, her legs shake!

Is it really so hard to give a woman an orgasm? Many say it’s difficult but many men also claim that it’s very easy… IF you know what to do. So the question is, do you?

Any healthy, loving and lasting relationship counts a great sex life as a key ingredient. And if you look around you, it’s probably not hard to tell which couples are truly happy with each other. These are the couples that still look at each other with lust in their eyes! So what’s their secret? It’s probably because they are BOTH sexually satisfied in their relationship.

A lot of people know that women don’t reach an orgasm as easily or as quickly as men. What many don’t realize is that this does nothing but build sexual frustration. And sexual frustration manifests itself in many negative ways in a relationship; until one day, you both wake up and realize that you no longer have passion in each other and in your lives.

The good news is it’s really not hard at all to make a woman reach an orgasm. But you both have to work at it, which, if you think about it, is part of the fun as well!

Step 1

Engage in a lot of foreplay! Foreplay is very important because it helps her relax her mind and make her more focused on the lovemaking at hand. It’s also a great way to bond as many women associate foreplay as a man’s way of taking time and ensuring sex is not just a physical act but about intimacy.

Foreplay can start hours or even days in advance and is really limited only by your sexual imagination. As you keep this ‘sexual tension’ high, you’ll find that it’s actually easier to bring her to an orgasm once you do engage in sex.

Step 2

If foreplay is the ‘primer,’ oral sex is the next big step. Many women actually claim that oral sex is the ONLY way they can reach an orgasm so if you both want it to be that way, then don’t resist.

When you do go down on her, don’t rush it. Show her that you really love her by lavishing her genitals with your undivided attention. Enjoy the journey as much as the destination so to speak.

At the start, just tease and lick softly and lovingly. Once she’s focused on that part of her body, increase the tempo. When you notice that her breathing is getting faster and harder or if her legs are becoming taut, move your attention to her clitoris. Tease it by drawing small circles around it with your tongue and then apply more pressure and lick faster.

If she gives any indication at all that she’s really turned on, remember this: DON’T change anything. Keep the tempo of what you’re doing and she’ll reach her orgasm soon enough.

Step 3

If your tongue doesn’t bring her to an immediate orgasm, don’t despair. Don’t forget that your fingers can be put to good use too! Use your index finger to ‘trace’ the outline of her labia. Be sure to touch her gently. This is guaranteed to electrify her body. After this, place your index and middle finger together and then draw circles around her clitoris.

Pay attention to her body (is it in a pleasured, relaxed state or is it pulled taut like a string?) to gauge just how turned on she is. Don’t forget to pay attention to her moans and groans as well.

You can alternate using your tongue and fingers to stimulate her clitoris and just like what’s advised above, if she indicates something that’s really turning her on, just keep doing it!

Step 4

If clitoral stimulation has not brought on an orgasm yet, then try G-spot stimulation! Assuming that she’s already hot and wet, slowly insert your index and middle finger inside her womanhood, palm up. Once inside, position your fingers to the “11 o’clock.” Slowly try and locate a small bump or swelling (like an engorged clitoris). Once you find this spot, congratulations – you’ve located the elusive G-spot!

Step 5

You can stimulate the G-spot in many ways. You can tap it with your fingers, draw lazy or frenzied circles around it, or flick it wildly like a light switch. If you wish, you can use your thumb to stimulate her clitoris while stimulating her G-spot. This will surely give her an orgasm to be remembered!

Advanced Oral Sex Techniques: How To Tongue Her Vagina

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Oral sex is hot all by itself – almost every girl loves it and regardless of your technique, your partner is going to enjoy the feeling of your warm, wet mouth in her most sensitive spots. While technique isn’t everything when it comes to oral sex, if your woman is going to climax, you’ve got to have at least a few good tricks up your sleeve. If you want to give your lover a leg shaking orgasm – better than she’s ever had before with you – try putting your tongue IN her vagina instead of just licking the clitoris when going down on her! This will make her feel so naughty, she’ll be begging you to eat her out again and again!

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What Is The Big Deal About Tonguing The Vagina?

When giving their partners oral sex, most guys stick to licking the clitoris only. They know that licking the clitoris can produce an intense orgasm, and they definitely don’t want to stray from that. However, tonguing the vagina is a little “taboo” and can really take oral sex to the next level – if you’re feeling kinky or naughty and want your lover to let her hair down and have a really wild orgasm, this is a technique that you want to use.

Since most guys don’t do this, chances are, you’ll be the first one to do this to her – which equals major brownie points for you! Plus, there are tons of sensitive nerve endings at the opening of the vagina that can create incredibly intense waves of pleasure when stimulated – these nerve endings are what those crazy rotating beads on Rabbit vibrators are for.

How To Prepare Her

Just like with most other sex tips, you can’t just jump right in and stick your tongue up her vagina without getting her ready first. Start with lots of deep kissing, soft touching and foreplay to get her excited and aroused. Do anything you would do to get her ready for sex, such as an erotic massage, licking and sucking on her nipples or dirty talk. Get her excited by telling her how much you want to taste her. Wait until she’s really wet and practically grinding against you to engage in oral sex.

How To Do It

Once you’ve started giving your partner oral sex, you still don’t want to go straight to tonguing her vagina. Even if she’s turned on from foreplay, you still want to get her even more turned on before you pull out this naughty trick. Start by licking her clitoris softly with your tongue and gradually work your way down to her vaginal opening. Lick all around her creases, pausing every now and then to continue stimulating her clitoris.

When you sense that she’s turned on enough for you to put your tongue in her vagina, gently begin to probe her vagina with a pointed tongue. You don’t want to have your tongue flat for this – instead, make it firm and pointed so you can insert it with ease. If your partner seems receptive to you gently probing her vagina (such as gasping, moaning or grinding her pelvis against your face), you can begin thrusting your tongue in and out, like you would your penis if you were having intercourse with her.

It Doesn’t Matter How Long Your Tongue Is

You might think that if you have a short tongue that this technique is pretty much useless – but nothing could be further from the truth! Most guys aren’t going to be able to reach a woman’s g-spot with their tongue, and they probably shouldn’t try. The sensitive nerve endings at the opening of the vagina are enough to get her soaking wet and begging for more – and you only need an inch or two for that. Couple tongue thrusting with licking the clitoris and you will make your girl orgasm so hard, she won’t know what hit her!

Tips To Keep In Mind:

  • She is going to feel much more comfortable if she’s showered and trimmed or shaved. Don’t pull this right after she’s gotten home from work – give her a chance to shower and groom herself so she feels more comfortable with your tongue in her more intimate places. Don’t worry, this is better for you too!
  • Go slow and pay attention to her body language. She will let you know (probably without saying a thing) how much she likes or dislikes what you’re doing. Take your cues from her.
  • If she seems to dislike what you’re doing, stop doing it! Just like with any new, taboo technique, she may not be into it. If she seems like she’s not enjoying it, just slide your tongue back up to her clitoris and go from there.
  • Show her that you’re enjoying it. Give her positive feedback. Moan, grab her and pull her into you and act like you really want it. Tell her how delicious she is and how you’ve got to have her! If you’re really into it, it’s more likely that she will be too.

Oral Sex Positions For Tongue Thrusting

Not every oral sex position is going to work for this technique. You definitely want to be in control here – if she’s sitting on your face or in any other position where you’re not in control, you’re going to have a more difficult time executing this well. Missionary with her legs spread or doggy style is the best way to go here. Try different positions and experiment – because most of all, this technique is all about having fun and enjoying yourself! Relax and go with the flow!

Guys, Are Your Oral Sex Skills Up To Snuff? Find Out With This 1 Simple Trick!

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With oral sex, it’s not hard to tell if you’re doing it right – but only if you use this easy technique to see if she LOVES your oral sex (or not). Without this super simple “litmus test” to find out if you’re licking and sucking in the right places and the right way, you could be in the dark about whether or not your girl is actually enjoying what you’re doing. But with this one incredibly easy move, you can know FOR SURE she’s responding to what you’re doing or if she’s waiting for you to get it over with because it just doesn’t feel good – and you don’t have to ask her a thing!

Isn’t ALL Oral Sex Good?

Well, in a way, yes. Women love oral sex. Many girls can’t have an orgasm without it. For a lot of women, oral sex is either the best way to get off or the only way they can (that is, unless they’re masturbating and using a vibrator). Although giving a girl head sounds simple – you just put your mouth down there and lick all around, right? – it’s actually a bit more complicated than that to actually bring a girl to orgasm with your mouth and tongue.

You’ve got to have some skill in this department to keep from hurting your partner or from making her uncomfortable. Yes, you can hurt her with your tongue. If you don’t do things in the right order and the right way, your tongue could actually feel more like sandpaper to your lover than something pleasurable. So first, take some time to go over basic oral sex techniques.

Foreplay Is Important

Oral sex IS foreplay, but you still kind of need a little foreplay before oral sex to make sure your partner is ready for you to go down there. Kiss her deeply, nibble her ear and her neck and make your way down to her breasts. Lick and suck her nipples gently before you head even further south. When you get to her sweet spot, lick and nibble on the inside of her thighs first. Breathe hot air onto her vulva, before you place your tongue gently on her clitoris. You want to get her warmed up enough that she’s craving your tongue before you ever touch her with it – you want her to WANT it – not be surprised when she feels it.

Soft And Slow

The clitoris is extremely sensitive – there are over 8,000 nerve endings in that little thing! Of course it’s sensitive! So licking too hard or forcing your tongue up under the hood of her clitoris can actually feel really uncomfortable or painful for a woman. When giving your girl oral sex, you want to make sure your mouth and tongue are soft (unless you’re flicking her clitoris, then you will need your tongue to be a little more firm and pointed) and you’re going slow. Give her time to feel each lick and each sensation and to become totally consumed by it. Don’t rush through it expecting her to have an orgasm quickly so you can get on with the having sex – because that’s going to really backfire.

How To Tell If You’re Doing It Right

Okay, so you’ve brushed up on your oral sex techniques and you mostly know what you’re doing down there. That’s a start. But even if you have mad skills, not every girl is going to like every technique when it comes to cunnilingus. This is where you want to have a simple trick to tell if the girl you’re eating out is enjoying what you’re doing. When you get her nice and wet (or you can use a few drops of a good, water based flavored lube) slip your finger gently inside her vagina. You’re not doing this to finger her g-spot, although you can if you can do two things at once.

What you want to do is use your finger to feel for muscle pulses in her vagina. When a woman has an orgasm, these pulses come faster and her vagina will clamp down erratically as she moves through the climax. These pulses also come when you do something very pleasurable – but it may only be a short or light pulse, which is why lots of guys miss it.

To tell if you’re using the right moves during oral sex, use your finger to sense those pulses. When you feel her vagina clamp down briefly on your finger with a certain lick, keep doing that! Then, work on figuring out what speed and pressure she likes best by paying attention to what you’re doing when you feel the pulses. This is the easiest way to find out if your girl likes what you’re doing without ever asking her!

Fingering – How To Make Her SQUEAL!

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Fingering your lover’s clitoris can give her orgasms like she’s never had before. Learn how to make her gasp with delight using these awesome techniques.

Everyone likes a good massage. It’s relaxing, and it loosens the muscles. However, did you know that there’s a different kind of massage you can use during sex? It’s the vulva massage. That’s right, you massage her vulva. I’m not talking about that “warm apple pie” nonsense that has misled men for years, I’m talking about taking care of her genitals in a way that makes her responsive to your touch.

Before we continue, let’s do a refresher on what exactly the vulva is. In it a nutshell, it’s the lady bits. The major parts of the vulva include the labia majora, the labia minora, the clitoris and clitoral hood, the vagina, and the perineum. All of these are utilized in a good vulva massage. They all provides sensations superior to vaginal penetration alone. Let me repeat this concept for effect: vaginal penetration alone does not get a woman off! You must learn to utilize all parts of the vulva for optimum satisfaction. Here are just a few of the many techniques that may be applied.

The “Hello” Technique

This is named aptly for two reasons: it mimics a wave, and it’s an excellent technique to use in your approach. With her legs spread, face her sitting between her legs or to one side. Raise your hand as if you’re waving, and cup her entire vagina with it. Move your palm in slow, gentle circles. Whether you do so in clockwise or counterclockwise motions is up to you and your partner. This move gives indirect stimulation to the clitoris, amping up her arousal.

The Labia Glide

This is a two-handed exercise, and can be done with either full palms or just your thumbs. With one had on each of her labia majora (aka the big lips), you want to glide your palms or thumbs up and down along the labia. This can then be broken down into two sub-categories:

  1. Move your hands together. If you stroke up, both hands stroke up. If you stroke down, both stroke down. She will feel your hands rubbing along the sides of her clitoris.
  2. Move your hands in opposition. This provides more indirect stimulation of her clitoris. The labia will rub against it as they rub against each other, making for some very sweet friction.

The Spread And Squeeze

This technique is to balance the Labia Glide. Still concentrating on the labia majora, take them in between your thumb and forefinger and pinch them together. Then use your fingers to spread them apart. Repeat in a slow, rhythmic motion. It is best used if you position this technique directly over her clitoris. If she is super sensitive, this may even make her orgasm!

How To Find The G-Spot And Give Her Sheet Soaking Squirting Orgasms!

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G-spot stimulation has the power to give women incredible squirting orgasms – if done the right way. Lots of guys make the mistake of fingering a woman and never reaching her g-spot, or if they do, they have no idea how to stimulate it to give her an orgasm. First you have to find the g-spot, which is much, much easier if she’s aroused first. Once you find it, you have to stroke her just the right way to bring her to climax. It’s easy to do it too soft or too hard, and you need just the right amount of pressure to really get your lover to squirt. If you want to learn how to make your partner orgasm so fast and so hard you’ll have no choice but to change the sheets afterwards, here’s what you need to do.

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Make Sure She’s Turned On And Well Lubricated

G-spot stimulation can feel extremely pleasurable for a woman if she’s turned on and well lubricated before you insert your finger. The g-spot is actually quite difficult to find if your lover isn’t aroused, so you want to spend plenty of time on foreplay first, before you head down south. When she’s aroused, the g-spot actually engorges with blood and “plumps up” so to speak, so you can feel it much more easily with your fingers. You also want to make sure she’s plenty wet enough to start, because if she’s not, the dry friction can really be uncomfortable or painful for her.

The Key Is Foreplay!

The key to giving your lover incredible squirting orgasms is making sure you’re spending enough time on foreplay before getting started on her g-spot. Women need lots of warm up time, and they need to be mentally, emotionally and physically relaxed and open before a squirting orgasm will ever happen. If you spend enough time on foreplay, by the time you get down to her vagina, she’s going to be begging you for release! Here are some great foreplay ideas:

  • Oral sex. Women love oral sex and you can actually give her one or two orgasms this way before beginning to finger her g-spot. Remember that women have a shorter refractory period than men do, so she’s actually closer to reaching an orgasm with g-spot stimulation if you’ve given her an orgasm with her clitoris first.
  • Deep, passionate kissing. Make her feel like you’ve got to have her. This will begin to stimulate and arouse her mind, which is critical for her to be able to relax and let go.
  • Sex toys. Tease and please her with a vibrator before you begin to finger her g-spot. She will love that you’re not afraid to use sex toys on her and that you want to watch her receive pleasure from them!

How Do You Find The G-Spot?

This is actually one of the most common questions guys ask when it comes to sex and female orgasms. To find the g-spot, of course, you want to have her turned on and aroused before you go looking for it. It’s located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the top wall (the stomach side, not the butt side). You can most easily reach and stimulate the g-spot by inserting one or two fingers about 2 inches into the vagina with your palm facing up. Curl your fingers in towards your body like you’re making a “come hither” motion. You should feel a spongy, textured spot on the top wall that your partner responds to when you rub it or put pressure on it. This is the g-spot!

How To Give Your Lover A Squirting Orgasm

When you find the g-spot, you’ll want to use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Start slowly and softly, and gradually work your way up to faster and firmer pressure as your lover shows that she’s enjoying it. Make sure to pay attention to her body language – if she’s scooting away from you or doesn’t seem to be actively enjoying it, you’re most likely not in the right area and are causing her pain or discomfort.

Encourage her to communicate with you and give you direction. Let her know that you want to know if it’s too hard, too soft or if she wants you to stimulate her in a different way. Be open to her suggestions and do them without taking it personally like you’re doing something wrong! Let her show you where and how to touch her!

The Big “O”

For some women, reaching a g-spot orgasm feels somewhat like she has to pee. This feeling may be very intense, and this is most likely when a girl will have a squirting orgasm. When she does climax, her vagina will contract and clamp down hard on your fingers -but don’t let up! You want to stimulate her all the way through her orgasm with the exact same speed and pressure as you had going when she first reached the big “O.”

While you don’t want to put too much pressure on her g-spot to avoid hurting her, giving her a squirting orgasm may take a little more pressure than you originally think. And it may not happen the first few times – keep practicing. You need to practice your skills and your girl needs to practice letting go. It ca be very difficult for a woman to let go enough to squirt wildly, so encourage her and give her praise if she does!