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How To Get Him Off With The Handjob Of His Life

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A handjob is probably going to take you back to the days of middle school behind the bleachers or in your parent’s basement. While a handjob is not the most erotic act that you can perform on your guy, it can easily keep them interested in your sex life. This sex act is nostalgic and can be a great form of foreplay right before sex.

If you have never been that great at giving this kind of pleasure, there a few things that you can do in order to increase his amount of pleasure. Here are a few ways that you can easily give your guy the best handjob of his life.

Find The Best Position

Finding the best position for the handjob is essential. You need to determine what hand you are going to use during the deed. Are you right-handed or are you left-handed? Some women find that giving it with their left hand, while actually being right-handed, gives their guy more pleasure. Determining the hand that you are going to use for the job will give you a better perspective on the kind of position you want to be in. This sex act can be used in a variety of positions.

You don’t necessarily have to be on top of him in order to give him a great manual orgasm. Try having him stand in front of you while you sit at the edge of your bed. You can also have him get on top of you and straddle your stomach. If he gets on top of you, he will be able to finger you at the same time.

Use The Right Lube

Lube is going to be essential for all handjobs. When you were first learning about jerking a guy off you probably did not use things such as lubrication or lotion. Using your hands on his penis can easily make foreplay even more erotic for the both of you. Even if you are just going to use your hands to give him an orgasm, the less resistance that you have on your palms and fingers is going to make it feel better for him.

Using lube can also lead to more pleasurable sex if the occasion arises. Don’t just focus on applying lube to the shaft or head of his penis. Make sure that you are also using lube on his balls. This will give him extra sensation.

Grip The Penis The Right Way

While guys love a tight vagina, handjobs are going to be a little different. Your hand is much more firm than the inside of your vagina. When you’re giving him manual stimulation the last thing that you want to do is cut off the circulation to his penis. It doesn’t matter how much lube you use, gripping him too tightly is not going to be comfortable for either of you. A lot of women complain that their hands and their wrists get tired.

Keeping a looser grip will not only increase his amount of pleasure it will also keep your hand from dying out. Grip his penis like you would a cup. You would not hold the cup so tight that you start to bend it and you shouldn’t do this with his penis either.

Invert Your Hand

Invert your hand the next time that you are performing this act on him. Pretend that you are holding a cup of water in your hand and pour it into the sink. Your hand should now be inverted. Use this grip style on his penis right before he starts to orgasm. This is one of the best techniques to giving your guy a multiple orgasm during a handjob. While it may not work the first, second or third time, at some point you will be able to give your guy a multiple orgasm through this technique.

Find The Best Speed

The speed at which you go during the handjob is essential. Some guys like their handjobs fast while other guys like them really slow. In order to gauge his response mix it up during the experience. It’s always recommended to start off slow and work your way up to a gradual speed. Some guys like the motion to be fast right before they have an orgasm while other guys like slow and steady motions throughout the entire act.

Ask him what he likes in the moment and use a little dirty talk. He should tell you exactly what he wants. Asking him what he like during the act is another way to get real feedback of what he wants and how you can improve.

Why You Can’t Ignore His Balls When Giving Him A Blowjob (Or A Handjob)

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A blowjob should involve your man’s entire genital area – including his scrotum. You don’t want to just stick to the head and shaft of his penis – there’s lots more down there that has sensitive nerve endings that can create waves of intense pleasure. Here’s why you shouldn’t skip over his boys during a blowjob.

You Knew They Were Sensitive, Right?

It’s no secret that a man’s testicles are incredibly sensitive. You’ve heard how painful it is for a man to get “kicked in the junk” or to take any kind of hit to his testicles. This is because they’re extremely sensitive to pain – but this also means that they’re incredibly sensitive to pleasure as well.

There are lots of pleasure inducing nerves in the skin of his scrotal sac, but there are also nerve endings inside that can send waves of pleasure up and down his body when his balls are jiggled, sucked or fondled. So basically, that’s like 2 different sensations at once! Couple that with stroking the shaft of his penis while you pay attention to his boys and you’ve got a recipe for INTENSE orgasms!

Fondling The Scrotum With Your Hands

This is easiest to do during a blowjob, but can be done during a handjob also. When you’re giving him head, reach down and gently cup his testicles with the palm of your hand. Roll them around in your hand gently, and don’t be afraid to give them a gentle squeeze also. You don’t want to be too rough with this though, so pay attention to your guy’s body language when you do it.

If he seems to be shrinking away or is acting like he’d rather you be doing something else, then that’s probably the case and you’re making him uncomfortable. Play with your technique until you get him moaning, groaning and grinding his pelvis into you.

Licking And Sucking His Scrotum

This can feel absolutely divine during fellatio, but a lot of girls don’t like it because men are usually pretty hairy down there. Also, his scrotum is where most of his “manly” odor tends to hang out (due to the hair), so most girls tend to steer clear.

Encourage your man to shave and stay clean so you can tongue his balls. When he hears that you’re interested in doing it, he’ll most likely be more than happy to make the necessary arrangements for you to be comfortable down there.

While cupping his scrotum, bathe the skin with your tongue. Stretch your tongue out wide to cover as much area as possible. Gently suck each testicle into your mouth, but make sure you don’t graze him with your teeth or suck too hard. Again, make sure you’re paying attention to his body language so you can tell what gives him pleasure and what doesn’t.

Getting Down N’ Dirty

Remember that enthusiasm is almost 90% of a blowjob. If you’re going to be putting your mouth on his scrotum anyways, don’t be afraid to get a little down and dirty. Let things get WET! If your mouth is dry, use some flavored lube. Let it get sloppy and let your man enjoy watching and hearing you go to town on his entire “down there” area.

Spread his legs wide and make him feel exposed as you suck his penis and lick his balls. You can even lick up and down his perineum (the patch of skin below his scrotum but before his anus) if you’ve got enough guts to do it. If you do, make sure you use as firm a tongue as you can manage to indirectly stimulate his prostate gland.

Lick him from bottom to top over and over, and watch his eyes pop out of his head! Start at the perineum and lick all the way up, over his balls, over his shaft and all the way up to the head of his penis. Suck on the head of his penis some before you travel all the way back down his shaft with your tongue. Repeat this a few times before you really get going and he’ll be as hard as a rock and begging you to take him all the way into your mouth.

When it comes to stimulating his scrotum during oral sex, use your imagination. Do what comes to mind, see if he likes it, and if he does make a mental note to try it again later. If he doesn’t, scrap that idea and try something else. It’s all about having fun and giving your man incredible orgasms!

Oral Sex: How To Handle Semen During A Blowjob

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Oral sex for a guy will hopefully end in ejaculation – but when it does, what the heck are you supposed to do with his semen?

Communicate With Your Partner

This may single-handedly be THE biggest reason for communication! We all know that men ejaculate when they experience an orgasm and if they experience an orgasm during fellatio, then it is likely that the ejaculate will end up in your mouth. Depending on your preferences, this may or may not be a turn on for you, you may be indifferent to it, or the very idea may repulse you and send you running for the porcelain throne.

Swallowing

The easiest way to dispose of semen during oral sex is to swallow it. But if the idea just doesn’t do anything for you (or if it makes your stomach turn) read on for some different ways to handle his semen – and still make it sexy.

Spitting In A Towel

So you’re okay with it in your mouth, but actually getting it down? Not happening. Keep a towel nearby and when he’s done, discreetly spit his semen in it. You can also keep a glass of water or another drink nearby to swish out your mouth. This also works well if he likes to kiss you afterwards but doesn’t like the taste of his own spunk.

Finish Him Off With A Handjob Instead

This technique may sound less passionate or devoting than swallowing your partner’s ejaculate, but it doesn’t have to be. Enthusiasm makes all the difference in the world and as long as you continue to let him know that you are enjoying his orgasm (even though his orgasm is being finished with a hand instead of a mouth) and he may very well be so wrapped up in the pleasure that he doesn’t notice the difference.

Sound making or some dirty talk is of utmost importance here! You don’t have to get loud or wild but making some noises lets him know that you are getting off on him getting off and that will definitely enhance his orgasm! Verbally telling him how much it turns you on to see him cum might be just what he needs to hear to get him to finish strong as you watch.

Bad First Experiences With Oral Sex

A large number of women have had “BAD” first experiences with the first blowjob they ever gave, because they were either young and didn’t know what to expect, or some guy decided to not tell them when they were going to orgasm and they found themselves unexpectedly with a surprise mouth full of semen and that unpleasant first experience left them unwilling to ever try again.

Again, this is why communication and assurance are key factors to getting over an objectionable first experience and not letting it keep you from a very special and wonderful experience with your trusted partner.

Let Him Go “In” You

Guess where “else” is outside of your mouth?” You guessed it! Your warm, wet and waiting vagina. You can give your man the most wonderful blowjob (up to the climactic eruption) and when he says “NOW,” quickly remove your mouth and stick his penis deep into you, while letting your vagina provide that last few pumps to finish him off and capture every drop of his semen.

In the end, it really doesn’t matter where the semen goes during oral sex as long as both partners communicate before the fellatio session and are in agreement and as long as both partners stick to that agreement!

Mutual Masturbation – How To Get Your Partner To Try It

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Mutual masturbation can be something fun and exciting to add to your sex  life. Masturbation doesn’t have to be something you hide from your significant other, or that you do in the dark in secret. You can enjoy masturbating with your lover, while watching them do it too. Sound like fun? Here’s how to get your lover into it!

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What Is Mutual Masturbation?

To put it simply, it’s when you masturbate yourself in front of your lover and they masturbate themselves in front of you. It can be at the same time, but it doesn’t have to be. You can also take turns putting on a great show for each other – but most people who do this usually end up getting so turned on that they start touching themselves anyway.

Most couples are too shy to try this – in fact, most people are too shy to talk about masturbation in general – but it can be a great way to bond sexually with your partner. You can bond emotionally by watching each other give themselves pleasure, and you can also pick up some great tips on where they like to be touched and how they like to be stroked.

Get Comfortable With The Topic

First of all, if you’re uncomfortable with the topic of self love in general, it’s time to pony up and get comfortable with it. Rest assured, everyone does it – men and women alike. Although our society places taboos on masturbation (heck, some people even say that it makes you go blind or makes hair grow on the palms of your hands), there’s really nothing wrong with it and it’s a perfectly normal and healthy thing for both men and women to do. Educate yourself about masturbation and get over your preconceived notions that it’s “bad” or “wrong.”

Encourage Your Partner To Do It

Before you jump right in to mutual masturbation, you have to get your partner comfortable with it too. Too often, couples masturbate in secret without ever talking about it with each other. It doesn’t have to be that way! It’s not something to be jealous of, so encourage your partner to masturbate in addition to a healthy sex life with you. Get them a sex toy to enjoy on their own – there are tons of great sex toys for both girls and guys! Don’t think that the sex toy world is limited to vibrators for women. There is so much more out there! Explore some online sex toy stores – if you get the right ones, your lover may find them intriguing enough to try!

Make sure you give them plenty of privacy and time alone to enjoy their masturbation. Honor their privacy and don’t ever bust in on them if you know or suspect they’re masturbating. If the door is closed, knock!

Talk About It With Your Significant Other

If you and your significant other have never had the “masturbation” talk, go ahead and have it! Share stories with each other about your first time doing it or if you ever got caught doing it. Talk about how it’s normal and natural, and let your lover know that you’re not going to judge them at all for their masturbation habits or what they enjoy. Share with your lover what you enjoy and what your fantasies are – take that leap and tell them what you like when you get it on with yourself and they may be more encouraged to share what they like with you!

Your First Time With Mutual Masturbation

You’ve gotten past the “masturbation conversation” and you and your lover are both comfortable talking about it and doing it. You feel ready to take the next step and try doing it in front of each other. For your first time, consider blindfolding your lover. This can be fun, but it also serves a purpose – your lover is going to feel more comfortable masturbating in front of you for the first time if they can’t see you’re there. You can watch them, but they can’t see you! Alternatively, you may feel more comfortable wearing a blindfold for the first time masturbating in front of your lover.

Another great idea is to turn the lights down very low, or use candles. The dim lighting makes it more comfortable for both of you, but still allows you both to see what is going on, which can be incredibly erotic.

Make Your Significant Other Feel Good About It

Don’t be shy when your lover is putting on the show – let them know how much you like it and how much it turns you on! This can be in the form of just vocalizing your pleasure or even dirty talk, which can make it even more erotic for them. Touch yourself while they’re masturbating, so they can see just how turned on you are at the sight of them masturbating. If you want to get your lover to do it more often, you’ve got to give them positive feedback. Don’t be the freak that just sits in the corner staring – get into it! Let your lover know that you’re into it! Enjoy it and have fun with it.

Getting Into A Groove

You’ve tried mutual masturbation for the first time and you really like it – so how do you take it a step further? Try different sex positions when you do – sitting in front of each other is nice, but you can also try lying down, or with one of you lying in the bed and the other sitting in a chair. Use your imagination and consider different possibilities and different ways to try it.

Mutual Masturbation: How To Get Your Man To Try It

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Mutual masturbation can be super fun, but it can be difficult to get a guy into it. Of course, guys love watching a woman masturbate, but a surprising amount of guys are actually too shy to do the same in front of their girl. If you want to try mutual masturbation, here’s how you can get him interested.

Why Isn’t He Jumping At The Chance?

You’d think that the majority of guys would actually be jumping at the chance to not only watch their girl masturbate, but to masturbate with her. While some guys are confident enough to be able to do this, many of them aren’t. Why?

He’s Afraid Of You Seeing His Porn

A lot of guys are too shy to try mutual masturbation because they think they need porn to masturbate – and they’re afraid of you seeing it. Many men watch porn that they would never in a million years want their partners to see. Whether it’s fetish porn that he thinks his partner would be appalled by, or he just doesn’t want to hurt her feelings (because in most guys’ experiences, women are bothered by their men looking at porn). Either way, he may be too shy to try mutual masturbation simply because he doesn’t want to turn on his porn in front of you.

He’s Been Busted Too Many Times For Masturbation

Unfortunately, there are lots of women that think that if a guy is sexually satisfied in his relationship, that he won’t need to masturbate. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! It’s normal and healthy for a man to masturbate – and even watch porn – if he’s in a sexually satisfying relationship. In fact, it’s healthy for women too.

He may also feel shame over masturbation, especially if he grew up being taught that masturbation was wrong or sinful. Not that he doesn’t do it – he does. But he may do it quickly to “get it over with” and may not see it as something pleasurable or even enjoyable, just something that “has to be done.”

Make Him Feel Comfortable With It In General

If the idea of mutual masturbation seems to make him uncomfortable, it could be due to harbored feelings about masturbation. Encourage him to enjoy his self-love. Get him a masturbation sleeve as a gift, and make sure it’s in an easy to get to place with a bottle of lube. Leave him alone in the house for long enough periods of time that he can do it without fear of being interrupted. If you catch him, politely excuse yourself and allow him to continue if he wants.

Also, talk to him about it. Let him know that you do it, and don’t be afraid to let him catch you getting your self love on too. Don’t act ashamed about it and over time, he will learn not to be ashamed as well.

Try Watching Porn With Mutual Masturbation

While just watching you do yourself may be enough visual stimulation to get him off, watching a porn flick with him while you do might help him get even more into it. However, don’t suggest that he pick it out or that he use any of the videos or pictures that he does when he’s alone. Instead, choose a naughty film together. Select one neither of you have ever seen before, or select one and surprise him with it. Ask him if he’d like to watch it, or just put it on loud enough for him to hear it and see what happens!

Let Him Watch You First

Start by letting him watch you first, before you ask him to engage in mutual masturbation. Go slow at first, and give him time to ogle you and really get turned on. Let him watch you touch your clitoris, or use a sex toy on yourself to stimulate your g-spot. Show no inhibitions – spread your legs wide and let him see every bit of what you’re doing. Chances are, with a combination of sexy moves and confidence, he won’t be able to help but touch himself!

Give Him A Great Handjob And Encourage Him To Take Over

You can also nudge him towards mutual masturbation by giving him a great handjob. Make sure you have your sex toy nearby too, and settle in to give him a great handjob. Use lube and start slow, building speed until he’s incredibly turned on. When he’s closer to orgasm (but not too close), replace your hand with his and whisper to him that you’d like to see him do it himself. He’ll most likely happily oblige.

However, you can also get him close to orgasm and then stop, proceeding to touch yourself or use your sex toy. Chances are, he’s not going to be able to stop himself from masturbating while watching you!