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3 Raunchy Secrets To Explosive Sex!

Sex can be mediocre, or it can be INCREDIBLE! Here are three nasty, naughty secrets that will make sex better than ever! She will LOVE this!

The idea of knowing your woman is enjoying genuine sexual pleasure and shouting your name with orgasmic glee is simply unsurpassed. If you want to be one of the lucky men who have their women’s happiness (and faithfulness) at their fingertips, read on to discover 3 tips on making you her only man – in bed and out of it!

1. Memorize Her Body

If you want to master anything, you have got to start by learning it. Memorize the location of her G-spot. Many chaps likewise fail to touch the clitoris in the proper manner. The only way you could satisfy her is by familiarizing yourself with her body. Touch her as often as possible and enjoy and appreciate how she reacts to your every move.

You might be surprised with the simple things that turn her on. More importantly, learn to enjoy lovemaking. It is not a race or a competition. So don’t hurry! Most women love a slow, sensuous build up in sex. Believe me, once you get her in the right mood, she will achieve an orgasms faster than you would probably imagine!

2. Drop The Same Ol’ Habit

If you are sick with the same old routine at your work, how more sick could your girl be with the same sex patterns? Test various positions and watch carefully for the slightest reactions from her. Women all have their adventurous side, so you better change your moves.

Try out various sex positions and see which one produces the best effect on your lady. Your woman would like your guts and be more adventurous herself! The more things you try out, the more you’ll get closer to a happier and satisfied relationship.

3. Stimulate Her MIND!

If you think arousal is only a matter of the body, you are wrong. Arousal involves the mind as well. Sexual intercourse would be more passionate if your minds and hearts connect as well as the body. What’s lovemaking without words of love? Words, as with many other aspects of life, are powerful. In fact, there are times when all it takes is a single word to make her go from lukewarm to burning hot.

It is truly a skill to know how to bring your woman to an orgasm using your words, so start learning how to do so! If you learn to seduce her mind before and during sex, it will amp up the level of enjoyment for the both of you!

How To Have Romantic Sex On Valentine’s Day

By serenapaige

Valentine’s Day is all about romance, and it should extend past dinner and a movie and into the bedroom. Here’s how to have romantic sex on the 14th!

Sex can go a lot of ways. There are women out there that like their sex to be really dirty and there are women out there who love romantic sex. There is a time and a place for everything. Having romantic sex can bring you closer to your girlfriend or wife and really keep the relationship fresh. It’s also a great way to have sex on Valentine’s Day! This is much different than breaking out the sex swing or an arsenal of silicone toys on February 14th. If your girlfriend or wife is stressing the need for more romantic sex, here is a short guide to help you out.

Leave The Sex Toys At The Door

Romantic sex is all about the two of you, not the vibrating piece of jelly in the drawer. When you’re having romantic sex you want to incorporate your body as much as possible. Vibrators, dildos, cock rings and anything else that you purchased from a sex shop should be left out of the equation. Protection and lubricant are the only exceptions to this rule. A toy can easily take away from your ability to please her. She can always whip out the vibrator when she’s in a jam, but she can’t always have you there. Having romantic sex means that YOU satisfy her needs.

Set The Mood

Setting the mood is one of the biggest things with having sex. You don’t have to have music, but it helps. Choose something with a slower beat if you are going to use music. Pick up around the bedroom before you start in. Having dirty clothes, old cups or anything else that could detract from the deed is best when you want to set the mood. Close the curtains and light a candle or two if you have them. Decorate with Valentine’s Day stuff like balloons, confetti and champagne and strawberries if you have the funds. You want to make the room as calm as possible when you’re having romantic sex. This will put you and her at ease.

Take Her Clothes Off For Her

When you’re just looking for a quickie, you probably rip your clothes off and jump into bed. Instead of getting right down to it, take her clothes off for her and do it slowly. Start with her shirt. If she has a button down on then this can be even better. Unbutton each button slowly as you kiss her. Work your way down to her pants and take them off slowly. Take off her pants and her shirt before you go for the bra and panties. As you take one article of clothing off of her, she should be taking one off of you. This slows the process down and leads to very romantic sex.

Engage In Foreplay

Foreplay is very romantic, especially on Valentine’s Day. Not only will this give the event a quick shot of romance, it will give her time to warm up. When you’re in the foreplay stage make sure that you focus on her lips and neck. Run your hands up and down her body slowly to get her turned on. Remember that women are not like men. They don’t from soft to hard in a matter of seconds. You have to slow things down to bring them to the edge. A lot of foreplay will lead to some of the most romantic sex you have ever had.

No Crazy Sex Positions

Romantic sex should not involve crazy sex positions. The activity is about being close to each other, especially when you’re doing it on Valentine’s Day. If she has legs akimbo and a strain on her neck she’s not going to feel very romantic. Use positions that are fairly common, but focus on eye contact and intimacy. Missionary, girl on top and spooning are some of the best positions for romantic sex. Make sure that you’re staying as close to her as possible when you’re having sex so she feels connected to you. Hold her close as the two of you orgasm to make it even more romantic.

Romantic sex can be one of the best remedies for any relationship, and it’s exactly the right kind of sex to have on Valentine’s Day. Having the physical compatibility in the bedroom can translate to other aspects of your partnership. It’s important to remember that romantic sex should not involve toys or anything that you saw in a porno.

You want this to be an intimate affair between the two of you. Setting the mood can set a precedent for the type of sex that you’re going to have. When you use a lot of foreplay you can get bring her to the edge making it easier for her to orgasm. Following these simple rules will have you and your partner happy with the intimacy you’ve gained throughout your experience.

How To Tease Your Girl Into An Orgasmic FRENZY!

By loveandsex

Foreplay is essential every time you have sex! You want to tease and play with your lover as much as possible before getting down to business – here’s how!

Ever since she experienced it from the boys on the playground, a woman relishes the thought of being teased. That tension between bad boy and innocent girl was challenging and it was exciting! And, although she may not readily admit it, it was kind of fun. Looking back, she realizes that she loved it.

What took place at the playground must also unfold in the bedroom – the adult playground.

Thwarting Her Power Over You

Women, especially the desirable ones, often find that they can easily manipulate guys into doing anything, absolutely anything they want. What she wants, she gets – immediately and without question. – without her working for it. If she wants a kiss, boy-toy here would only be too happy to comply. Why would he wait, he’s only been waiting for that moment for like 2 months! Guess who’s the doggy and who’s the master in this dynamic?

It’s very important that you not only learn what women want, but HOW NOT TO GIVE IT TO THEM IMMEDIATELY!

That’s teasing!

Teasing During Oral Sex

In oral sex for example, don’t immediately dive and spar with her clitoris. That’s what most guys do during foreplay, but you’re not most guys. Start with her inner thighs, before moving to the general area of the vulva, accidentally touching the clitoris a few times. Eventually, zero in on the clitoris. During the build-up phase, you can even STEP BACK and leave it for a while and get busy with something else. Then later, come back. It’s a back & forth, push-pull technique.

The same thing happens with stuff like kissing, massages, penetration etc. Don’t jump to the good stuff, delay the good stuff. The sensual man doesn’t see this as delayed gratification – it is prolonged pleasure.

But why do we tease in the first place?

Why It’s Important To Do It EVERY TIME

Let me make this very clear. We do not tease because we can, we tease because we should. It’s not an ego-tripping power play used to punish a girl. We employ it for effect. If you want incredible sex, you cannot afford to miss on teasing.

We make women wait so they will come to appreciate what we give, when we give it. And this thing goes beyond sex, by the way. For example, how do you make house guests appreciate the dinner you serve? You make them sit & sit & wait so long ‘til they get so hungry they’ll literally harvest what you set on the table.

Teasing raises the value of what you offer, by setting it temporarily & slightly out of reach, you increase wanting. People don’t desire what comes easily. Anything that comes effortlessly is easily taken for granted. People want what they can’t have – this is the basic law of human nature.

When It Goes Overboard

But here’s a warning: Extended foreplay is great, up to a point. There’s a calibrated point where it ceases to become motivational and instead becomes punitive. It needs to be operated on an optimum level, going beyond that simply decreases effectiveness and produces a negative result. One has to strike balance to the art.

There comes a point when she knows, for her ego’s sake, the begging has to stop and she won’t play the game anymore. You’ve proven to be so much work, and you ain’t worth it. You’ve gone overboard, little fella. Use push and pull properly. If the lady sees she’s going to be denied everything anyway, she will stop asking.

Be Good At What You Do

The counterpoint for teasing is the PLEASING. You have to give her MORE than she bargained for, especially if she has proven herself to you. If you love foreplay, and are quite effective at it, you better be great with the actual pleasing part.

You can’t have her hang in there waiting for a kiss, only to get the sloppiest smooch ever! When you make her wait, you better make sure you’re worth it. Otherwise she’d think, “What?! That’s it?!”

You master the PLEASING by continually learning. Keep learning about your woman and make your game tight by understanding her preferences. I guarantee that you’ll be making tons of mistakes. Who cares?! Soon enough, you’ll be so good she’ll do anything just to be with you. Perhaps initially, like with a new partner, you won’t have much leverage with teasing. That’s normal, she is not yet aware of what you’re made of. But over time, when she sees your mettle, she’ll move heaven and earth just to experience you. I’m serious, please prepare for this eventuality.

When To Do What She Asks

One last thing, when she’s barking instructions like “Faster! Faster!”“Harder! Harder!”or “a little bit to the left” – it’s better to simply heed the request. There’s no point in delaying these kind of things. This usually happens during clitoral stimulation, penetration or when she’s about to have an orgasm.

For example, if she asks you for a massage, you may playfully give her a hard time initially. But when you’re already 15 minutes into it and she asks you to go “lower baby”, there’s no point in making her whine for this. You simply proceed.

The man who knows how to tease and please? Well, he becomes the go-to-guy.

3 Things NOT To Do After Sex

By rochellestavi

Sex is fun, but what do you do when you’re done getting it on? Roll over and go to sleep? Talk? Cuddle? Run for the hills? Here’s what NOT to do after nookie!

Don’t Make Him Lose His Orgasm Buzz

Everything that you do in bed, before, during and after intercourse, all matter and contribute to whether or not your man enjoyed himself to his fullest potential. If you even do something that turns him off in the slightest bit, chances are that is the only thing he is going to focus on. There could be a million positive things that you were able to achieve in the bedroom with him – like crazy awesome sex positions – but if you do one thing that rubs him the wrong way, that is going to be the one thing he remembers.

Why Acting Right When You’re Done Is CRUCIAL!

The turn offs that affect him the most usually come on after sex. After nookie is when women start winding down and maybe saying or doing stuff that they don’t mean. This is not a time to shut off the charm and shut down in the bedroom. What you do afterwards is important and affects your man tremendously. You don’t want to ruin the moment by doing something stupid do you? You don’t want to ruin his buzz by doing something that you are later going to regret do you? This is why you need to learn how to behave in the sexiest way possible to keep that orgasm buzz alive and well.

There is so much sexy stuff to do after getting it on that will help him to marinate in that moment and relish in it for just a little longer but that is not what we are focused on. You know what is sexy after sex but what you don’t know is what ISN’T. There are 3 rules for how NOT to behave after sex that all women must learn and you are going to get that insight right now.

1. Don’t Ask Him Questions

Right now, your man’s body and mind are starting to shut down. An orgasm takes a lot out of a man and leaves him feeling very weak. He is tired and starting to fall asleep. The last thing he wants or needs is you sitting beside him asking him a million questions. NEVER ask your man right after sex how it was for him or if he liked it. If he is lying beside you, breathing heavily and sweating then let that image speak for itself. Learn to garner some confidence within yourself and trust in your abilities to please your man. Trust in the fact that he did love it and don’t bother asking for reaffirmation. You know how annoying that is when he does it and how much of a buzz kill that is. Don’t do the same and follow suit. Instead, look over at your man in his sweaty glory and know that is all because of you.

2. Don’t Cuddle Immediately

Of course, it is natural for women to want to cuddle after sex and to feel that close bond intensified. However, men don’t feel the same way. Right now, his body temperature is off the charts and all he wants is to cool down. He doesn’t want your warm body on his warm body right way. He is going to need a minute to collect, maybe use the washroom, grab a drink and then he might want to cuddle, but it is okay if he doesn’t. Don’t take this personally if your man doesn’t want to cuddle after intercourse. You wouldn’t want someone as equally hot and sweaty to roll over on top of you if you were feeling light headed and out of breath, right? So, be a strong woman and don’t cuddle up to him right away. Stroke his thigh, or his chest and leave it at that until he makes the move to cuddle up to you.

3. Don’t Critique Him!

This is the biggest rule of them all that women need to learn in regards to behaving after sex. The last thing you want to do to your man is completely shatter his buzz. If he did something during sex that you didn’t like or that didn’t feel good, now is not the time to give him the rundown on what he did wrong. Leave this talk until the next time you both get intimate or sometime over the course of the following day.

Drop it for tonight and deal with it later. You don’t want to roll over when your man is in his glory, happy that he had an incredible orgasm and that you did too, and tell him everything he did wrong. Wouldn’t it make you feel terrible if he did that to you? Something’s are just better left unsaid at least for a little while. Granted, if he did something that made you feel really uncomfortable or went against a rule that you two had in the bedroom, you should bring it up. However, if it is something small and you are holding onto some sort of a grudge, leave it.

Learn to enjoy your man’s company in the moment of after sex and forget all of the little stuff. A lot can be said with a look or a kiss after sex so keep it simple and don’t carry baggage into the moment. Remember, how you act after sex is just as important as how you act during. Don’t be a buzz kill.

Do You Measure Up When It Comes To Sex?

By loveandsex

Sex is what some men are good at and some aren’t – but how do YOU stack up against the best lover your girl has ever had sex with? Can you hold a candle to him?

Women Love Making Comparisons

They compare things like diamond sizes, or this year’s sales with last season’s – wishing to see who’s got the biggest stone, or the more elegant product line. (I told you they’re into details.) Most of all, women love weighing guys against each other when it comes to sex. Some are blunt about it, others are more sophisticated and subtle, but when they compare, boy, do they compare! They’ll weigh a man with just about anybody & anything.

Through comparisons, a girl fishes out who she considers the “best.”

What She’s Looking At

She’ll measure you against her ideal man – that perfect gentleman she’s been fantasizing about since she was 14. She’ll compare how you move, with how he moves. How you do her, and how Mr. Perfect supposedly does it. She’ll note every aspect of you and weigh it against her ideal. This of course, includes your penis size as well. Very easily, you will lose – you are bound to lose. (But don’t worry, if she cares enough, she’ll turn you into a project and begin changing every detail of your soul so you approximate her dream guy. Good luck on that one.) She’ll compare you with all the guys she’s ever had sex with – well, at least those she remembers.

So What About Sex?

There’s a hierarchy of guys in her head and if she’s been around the block more than once, she remembers the losers, the one-night stands and yes, even the breast masher. She’ll even compare her orgasms with you and those she gets via self-service – heck, she’ll even compare you with her sex toys. She won’t readily own up to these superficialities, she may not even notice she’s doing them.

But this does happen, and in this game of comparisons, it pays to be unique. The female brain is always on the prowl for something new, something different. The moment she realizes you’re just like the rest, she will brush you off. A girl can’t attend to every insignificant person that comes her way.

Her Emotions Are Involved Too (Of Course)

Her emotions will certainly command a big share of how she sees you as a bedmate. Everybody may see you as a pitiful excuse for a human being, and therefore a waste of skin, but if you’ve hostaged a woman’s emotions, everything and everybody else don’t matter. You may really lose all comparisons, but if she’s that into you, she’ll let you win! If she’s flushed with EMOTIONS, if she’s sooo head-over-heels, you could ooze with sexual lameness and she’ll still be adoring you.

Letting It Go And Being Confident

By the way, none of these comparisons and emotions thing is objective. They are never objective. Remember, people, especially women, are not logical creatures, although they’d like to think they are. You’re dealing here with judgments that can be muddled by her perceptions, expectations and preferences. (Come to think of it, who in this world is completely objective?)

Many guys ask me: Is it possible that one woman will judge you great in bed while another count you as average?

Of course! Knowing the nature of humans and sex, expect that. Nobody bats a perfect thousand. Accept that, have confidence in bed anyways and you’re golden.