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How To Seduce Her With A Leg, Butt And Lower Back Massage

Erotic massage will make your woman melt if you use touch the right way. Here’s where to focus when you do the butt, lower back and legs.

How To Get Started

When beginning foreplay, start with your lover still lying on her front side with her back exposed. The natural progression will be to continue massaging down to her buttocks, legs and feet. To do this, make a nice transitional move by starting at the top of her shoulders with the palms of both of your hands facing flat down, and in a long slow smooth stroke, work your way down to her lower back, buttocks, upper legs, calf muscles, and feet, and finally to her toes.

Important Note! Because you will be including her buttocks in this portion of the massage, you will want to remove the covering you placed over the area at the start of the massage.

Now, reverse this move by continuing up from her feet all the way up to her upper back again and then repeat these same moves up and down again a few times more. You don’t have to follow the same path strictly every time, so make sure to vary it using your own creativity. You can try running your hands all the way up and down the sides of her body from just below her armpits or breasts to her feet, or try a combination of both described methods on top of her body and the sides.

Switch around a few times and see what works well for you and her. The main point in this transition is to make long stroking movements all the way from one end of her body to the other, with your last transitional stroke leaving you at her legs and buttocks so that you can begin teasing new areas.

Beginning The Leg Massage

When you are ready to begin massage her legs, you will want to start at her ankles. Focusing on one leg at a time, lightly grasp her on the calf with both hands just above the ankles and begin moving it upwards towards her buttocks as shown in the photo below.

Continue moving up and down her leg a few times in this way. You can also add a kneading motion by grasping in and out with your hands as if squeezing a soft foam rubber ball. Your thumbs can come in handy too. As you are running your hands up towards the top of her leg, use your thumb on the inside of her thigh while adding a firm pressure. It’s very relaxing and also very sensual for her to have your thumb getting in the proximity of her vagina. So don’t be afraid to tease her a bit.

The next maneuver is something that will feel delightfully sensual to your partner while massaging her upper legs. Just as you wedged your hand underneath her upper torso (in between her body and the surface she is laying on), do the same with her legs. This time, however, wedge your upturned palm underneath her leg and in between the surface it is laying on. Start at the upper portion of her leg near her hip, and then glide your hand all the way down the front of her leg to just above her kneecap. Next, with your hand completely wedged between her leg and the surface, glide your hand back up until you reach close to where her legs meet her hip. This will get your hands very close to her vagina, but remember to not yet directly touch her vagina, as you want to create a bit of anticipation and playful sexual tension first.

The Calf Massage

Proceeding down to her calf muscle, you will now be moving your hands back to the top of her leg again. When massaging the calf muscle area, be very gentle as this muscle can be quite sensitive to pressure on some people. Light to medium pressure works best.

To start, take your hand and lightly grasp her calf just below the knee fold area. Now run your hand down her calf until you reach her ankle, and then slide back up again. You can add a “kneading” motion as well to this as you travel up and down for an extra soothing feel.

Important Note! When working solely on her legs, place the cover over your partner’s buttocks. Not only will ensure her comfort, it will help to increase her anticipation for more sensual pleasure. With her buttocks covered once again, she will wonder when she will get to experience the delight of being completely exposed and having more intimate areas included in the massage.

With one hand now supporting her raised foot, take your free hand and run it up and down her calf a few times while applying a firm pressure. You can also add a light kneading motion to this as well for and extra soothing experience.

What You Need To Know To End Premature Ejaculation Forever!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation can totally ruin your sex life if you let it. Here’s what you should know to get rid of it for good.

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual dysfunction that affects men. Most guys, at one point or another, will wish for the ability to last longer in bed. While actual figures may vary, as many as 4 in 10 men face the embarrassment of finishing too soon during sex. “Too soon” often means 2 minutes or less. And it does not help that the vast majority of women require more than 10 minutes to properly get aroused and achieve an orgasm.

What Does It Matter If Men Don’t Last Long Enough

In most cases it does. For men, it can be downright embarrassing to fall short when it comes to their endurance in bed. It can take away the confidence of most guys who are suffering from premature ejaculation. For women, nothing is worse than a sexual relationship that repeatedly fails to deliver the pleasure that she deserves. And for guys who ejaculate even before intercourse (yes, some men have it that bad), it can put a tremendous strain on the relationship especially if the women wishes to get pregnant.

What Exactly Causes Premature Ejaculation?

Varied factors are at play here. Early conditioning is one major contributor to ejaculation problems. For most men, their sexual experiences (including masturbation) are often a rushed affair to avoid detection. Naturally, over time this conditions a man to climax in rapid fire turnaround time. On the other hand, anxiety and “nerves” are known to contribute to premature ejaculation as well. In other words, if you are nervous or anxious about your performance in bed, you are more likely to shoot off quickly. Some guys claim that consuming small amounts of alcohol help “calm their nerves” and enable them to last longer. But it certainly is not a recommended approach for treating premature ejaculation permanently.

Treatments For Premature Ejaculation

If you have early ejaculation problems, there are various treatments or cures available, depending on the severity of the problem. For mild cases – for example, you are already lasting 5 minutes and wish to last longer – there is no need to make an embarrassing trip to the doctor. Simple distraction techniques can help improve your sexual endurance. Thinking about something non-sexual can help reduce your sexual arousal and enhance your staying power. Alternatively, some form of local anesthetic gel or lotion can be useful. This is applied directly onto your penis before sexual intercourse to dull the sensations during sex. But this solution has its downsides, including less pleasurable sex and possible allergic reactions for both the guy and his partner.

For more severe cases of premature ejaculation (if you are lasting 2 minutes or less), there are natural techniques and exercises that will help alleviate the problem. The Masters-Johnson method, which employs a specialized penis grip to reduce the desire to climax, is one well-known anti-ejaculation technique. Another popular and highly effective solution is to focus on cognitive behavior treatment such as the stop-start technique, which basically aims to alter a man’s sexual response to gain greater control over his ejaculation.

3 Key Elements of Artful Teasing

By loveandsex

Foreplay can be just as amazing as the sex itself if you do it right. Here are three tips you don’t want to miss out on if you want foreplay to be HOT!

How A Great Lover Seduces A Woman

This is how a great lover ensnares a woman: He dangles a PRIZE and tempts her with it. He tempts her and shows her how desirable the thing is. She mentally agrees. He then ups the ante and tempts her some more, showing more virtues for the prize. Now her lust is awakened. Now, she wants it. In fact, she may want it more than she’s willing to admit.

So she starts reaching for the now coveted prize, but at the perfect moment, her lover purposely hides it or brings it slightly out of reach. She almost got what she wanted, but not quite. Now, she lusts for it even more. She’s intrigued by her inability to get what she wanted, because from her experience, this doesn’t happen very often.

Then, the great lover stirs more desire by enticing her with the prize once again. And once again she pursues – and the game is really just beginning….

Artful teasing has 3 key elements:

The Prize
The Strategic Back-Off
The Payoff

The Prize

That’s you! It includes everything you do with your mouth, hands, penis and the rest of your body. Get this: You have sexual value. You have things to offer that no one in this entire universe, except you, can give.

You may not have a stunning bod or those gorgeous pecs, but there are wonderful, mind blowing things that only you can do to her. It’s your exclusive and personal brand of sex, the specific way your hand or tongue moves or the distinctive strength of your thrusts. Whether you already know it or not, you do have the goods to deliver, and she’s damn lucky to have you with her on any given night – I want you to get that.

It is really, really important that you don’t go inside that bedroom feeling the luckiest guy in the world – I don’t care how hot she is. Because the truth is, with the stuff you’re now learning, I’m thinking she’s the one who’ll be screaming “Ding! Ding! Ding!”

And as the prize, YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT.

The Strategic Back-Off

This is the “Pull” element. The game of teasing isn’t played in a linear, straightforward fashion – there are breaks, pauses and reverses along the way. True, one needs to move forward, but just as important are times when one backs-off.

THOSE MOMENTS, WHEN YOU REVERSE OR PAUSE (and seemingly do nothing), ARE AS VITAL AS WHEN YOU’RE BUSY PROGRESSING TOWARDS SOMETHING.

For example, if you’re unzipping her dress, you might stop halfway and continue kissing. Or you can simply zip it up again. When she’s all naked and seems to think you’re heading down south, camp around the belly area, or even go back up. These add exciting unpredictability to your repertoire.

Learn the concept of Near-the-Spot teasing maneuvers. Play AROUND her happy areas, not ON them. Make her think you’re going somewhere on her body, but back-off at the last instant. She’ll soon salivate and whine for you to hit her moan zones.

The “Strategic Back-Off” not only buys you time to fuel a woman’s lust, it’s the explosive fuel that makes things interesting. You actually need to perform strategic back-offs even when she’s giving you all green lights. Because no matter how great your moves are, if you do them in predictable straight-line fashion, you rob them of their punch.

However, don’t be all over the place and become totally unpredictable to the point of being strange.

The Payoff

The teasing game works because a woman assumes there will be a big payoff in the end. This is what makes delayed gratification worth it. Great rewards are up ahead, as long as she doesn’t take shortcuts or drown the process. This may be in the form of an orgasm, a kiss, a sucking of her breasts, penetration etc. In the end, you’ve ALWAYS got to let her have it.

Best Sex Places Of 2011

By loveandsex

Sex tips give you the “how,” but rarely the “where.” You can learn all sorts of ways to please yourself and your partner when learning about sex, but many sex tips resources leave out one of the most fun things off all – having sex in all kinds of different areas! THESE sex tips will teach you lots of new areas to get it on in & your sex life will be hotter than ever!

This year, we’re going to look at some specific areas that you might have overlooked – and how you can make it even hotter.

On The Kitchen Counter/Breakfast Bar/Table/Floor. You get the idea here. The kitchen is one of the best areas in the house to get it on. The kitchen isn’t the only cool place in your home – check out more of the best places to have sex around the house!
In The Stairwell Of An Apartment Building. These are usually pretty deserted, and are a great place to hike your skirt up and have a quickie. Don’t miss more great places to have a quickie!
While Hiking In The Woods. You may think this one is cliche, but don’t knock it until you try it. If the woods aren’t your thing, there are plenty of other places to have sex and feel one with nature.
Road Head. Enough said. Of course, you don’t have to do it while driving. Check out more ways to have sex in the car.
In The Dressing Room At A Lingerie Store. Model some sexy lingerie for your lover and then get it on before you ever leave the dressing room. Don’t miss more ways to have sex while shopping to make your money spending excursions more fun!
Under The Table At A Restaurant. This works best if the tables have long tablecloths. Your partner can slip underneath and give you oral sex – just tell the waiter your date had to use the restroom. Get your exhibitionist on with these hot places to have sex in public.
On The Ledge Of A Billboard. Follow the sex tips of others who have gone before you and pick a darker one and wear dark clothes (or go at night) to avoid being seen. Don’t miss out on these truly unique places to get it on.

Premature Ejaculation Treatment – The 100% Natural Approach

By jackgrave

Premature ejaculation is treated a variety of ways. However, not all of them are good for your body. Check out this all natural premature ejaculation cure.

It’s a very common misconception to believe that as a man there’s nothing you can do to stop premature ejaculation without the use of medication, creams, special condoms or things like cock-rings.

Misconceptions About PE

And this all comes down to the fact that premature ejaculation is totally misunderstood. You see, it doesn’t happen because of a bad set of genes, your penis size or what your woman does during sex.

Premature ejaculation is caused by BAD SEXUAL HABITS.

90% of men actually cause it to happen because of things they do during sex UNCONSCIOUSLY and without even realizing it. For example, while having sex do you ever take the time to manage your pleasure or stimulation levels?

The truth is that VERY few men do. Most men have sex without a CLUE as to what their arousal levels are. And when it suddenly becomes obvious that orgasm is about to happen, it’s too late and there’s nothing they can do about it.

But if on the other hand you get into the HABIT of paying attention to your pleasure levels and get to know the signs of when you’re approaching orgasm it’s a whole different ball game. If you know way in advance that you’re getting close to orgasm you can take corrective action before it’s too late.

And a corrective action can be as simple as just slowing down sex and thrusting slower.

The 2 Simple Moves That Will Stop PE Naturally!

Thrusting Slower

By thrusting slower you’d give your body a chance to recover from the intense levels of stimulation you were probably just experiencing during sex. And this recovery would mean that in no time you’d be able to go back to thrusting fast without the fear or early orgasm.

Know Your Arousal Levels

Alternatively, if you know your arousal levels well enough to tell that you need more recovery than just going slow can give you, then instead you could pull out and give her oral sex for a bit. Doing this would give you a big break in stimulation and pleasure and allow you to recover plenty of stamina.

Now these two examples of corrective actions you could take when close to orgasm may seem like obvious things to do, but only when you start paying attention to your arousal levels.

If you don’t pay attention to your arousal levels and instead just keep having sex like you normally do, you’d never even think of doing something like taking corrective action to last longer. How this all relates to premature ejaculation treatment is that it proves that there are 100% natural approaches to lasting longer in bed that are worth considering.

How All Natural Treatments Really Work

They all work from understanding the TRUTH about premature ejaculation and how the male orgasm works.

And by tapping into the nature of the male orgasm and figuring out what really causes it it is possible to prevent it from happening prematurely. So premature ejaculation treatment isn’t so much a case of “which pharmaceutical product do I need?” but more a case of “what techniques can I use to last longer?”